Posts by ShaulaEvans@zirk.us
(DIR) Post #AxEC4M2UrEEbjTk4KO by ShaulaEvans@zirk.us
2025-08-16T09:30:26Z
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This incident wasn't especially egregious as these things go (and they go on all time time), and I'm not saying "poor me". When we talk about these things, men are always shocked, so apparently we don't talk about them enough. Thus here I am, doing my small part.Guys, please don't be creepy. Please treat women with respect. Please get your head on straight. We ask for so little, the bar is so low, just stop rolling under it, please. (And call in each other: it helps.) 2/3
(DIR) Post #AxEC4UyDeVA1QooHPU by ShaulaEvans@zirk.us
2025-08-16T09:33:42Z
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Back to the new acquaintance:I explained why the conduct wasn't acceptable, laid out my standards and expectations. Affirmed some of the positive things in our very new friendship. I was kind, gracious, let him save face. Made a suggestion for when and how we might talk next, that gives him some time to cool off and reset (and me, too).Note: All of this is work. Skilled work.It's a friendship I'd like to salvage (for other reasons). But that's going to be up to him. 3/n
(DIR) Post #AxEC4ctYBkBC0egfFA by ShaulaEvans@zirk.us
2025-08-16T09:36:16Z
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There is a point where the ROI for the (emotional) labour in any given relationship (of any kind) doesn't add up. Early days. We'll see. It's a good idea to take a good look from time to time at your relationships and connections, and consider who does the work of making it work -- especially if you are in a dominant social group relative to the other person or have more social privilege. (I.e., it's not about gender, it's so often about kyriarchy.) 4/n
(DIR) Post #AxF81c72R5283VGQIi by ShaulaEvans@zirk.us
2025-08-16T23:39:17Z
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If you are going door to door in any context, please wear a mask. To protect yourself from others, to protect others from you, and to model responsible behaviour for your community.Please don't be a one-man superspreader. Please.#CovidIsNotOver #PandemicIsNotOver
(DIR) Post #Ay1SU8m7ukrc8VRHyS by ShaulaEvans@zirk.us
2025-09-09T07:00:21Z
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I have been researching options for a U-shaped (maternity) pillow to sleep with, as a strategy to combat isolation and skin hunger. (I'm in year six of this, I need to raise my game.)I have found two plausible candidates: one is stuffed with kapok, the other with latex (but there are issues with the outer case).I've never owned a kapok pillow of any kind. If you have one, how do you find it? Espec. for allergies.@LonelinessCorps#BodyPillow #Kapok #AskFedi #SkinHunger
(DIR) Post #AymlERwuq2ECArJZ8C by ShaulaEvans@zirk.us
2025-10-02T03:04:05Z
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@tomasino A thousand times yes to this!Embracing a spirit of play and doing things for the joy of it are keys to a great life.
(DIR) Post #AzPQHhoRnJRgMzVBFQ by ShaulaEvans@zirk.us
2025-10-19T11:24:09Z
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Five and a half years of living in pandemic isolation:I hit an isolation challenge tonight and realized I no longer know anyone who is also living in full solo isolation without human touch. (Your 3 week solo writer's retreat or "pandemic isolation" with a partner, a dog, and backyard parties is not comparable; do not test me on this or I will block you.)There are are many different, specific types of loneliness & this is one.@LonelinessCorps #PandemicIsNotOver #CovidIsNotOver
(DIR) Post #AzPQHigKYyXz46iDEe by ShaulaEvans@zirk.us
2025-10-19T11:25:45Z
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*You may be an affluent, high status white guy in tech but if by some reason you stumble across this thread and feel compelled to be gaslighty, mansplaining, trolly, or otherwise a jerk to me, for once in your life have an iota of compassion or self-awareness and for the love of all that's holy just don't. Truly don't.
(DIR) Post #AzPb2QaCfem25JkzYm by ShaulaEvans@zirk.us
2025-10-20T20:10:18Z
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@racs Blocked and reported.Please do not engage in my mentions with this obvious and boring troll. Thanks, all.
(DIR) Post #Azj68XVyhFrn29ZFFg by ShaulaEvans@zirk.us
2025-10-30T06:02:22Z
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I haven't followed conversations about #Zoom and AI because it hasn't been in my sphere, but it looks like we're going to start using it at work. Outside the day job, I am a voice artist / audiobook narrator. I cannot let corporations record my voice and use it for AI training or I lose my side job. (I also object on multiple grounds.)Answered! Thanks to @james for the answer (good news!), in the replies! (1/n)Thank you. 1/n
(DIR) Post #Azj68fOpNittUIHeDY by ShaulaEvans@zirk.us
2025-10-30T06:04:04Z
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I am asking about this precisely because I don't know what I don't know, and this is a topic I haven't needed to stay current on in the past.I don't need my feelings managed and I don't need lectures, I just need accurate, current information about what Zoom does with user voices and what my security/privacy options are.Thank you for understanding the assignment, and thanks very much to anyone who can help! 2/n
(DIR) Post #Azj68nAaUYGNaRgO8G by ShaulaEvans@zirk.us
2025-10-30T06:09:50Z
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"The current terms would not allow the company to tap user-generated content like video and chat for AI training without a customer opting in. However, once a meeting host agrees, other participants would have to leave if they don’t want to consent."1. I found this article about Zoom from 2023. Is it still valid?2. If yes, how does a host opt out?3. How can I *verify* as a participant that a host has opted out?https://apnews.com/article/fact-check-zoom-ai-privacy-terms-of-service-06ff47e47439c2173390a4ca1389f652#Zoom
(DIR) Post #B0b3DPllBbV9t721Vw by ShaulaEvans@zirk.us
2025-11-25T04:37:51Z
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@mcnado Or the Tulip Bubble for that matter.
(DIR) Post #B18rNQKZMQPMRvxP9M by ShaulaEvans@zirk.us
2025-12-11T05:01:26Z
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@leechindustries I've been living in isolation without human touch for coming up on six years. I'm increasingly isolated from people who find my existence uncomfortable so they drop me from their lives. The logistics of living like this are tough. I have a wobble every now & then.If science comes through & makes a bigger life possible, I'd be thrilled, but I can't bank on it.I'm braced to live like this until I die alone.It's brutal. It's still better than Covid.
(DIR) Post #B18rNYnZsSMiiDagTY by ShaulaEvans@zirk.us
2025-12-11T05:04:41Z
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@leechindustries I'm focused on surviving, a surprisingly all-consuming task, at least in a world that pretends the pandemic doesn't exist.After that, I'm focused on supporting people I know & care about who are struggling (a tight Venn diagram). And outward from there.I don't have too many feelings about this stage of the never-ending pandemic, because I can't afford them in my no-touch, unsupported state. I consider feelings to be a luxury for people who have stable lives.I'm exhausted.
(DIR) Post #B1VCG05NBHfA0Y1XxQ by ShaulaEvans@zirk.us
2025-12-22T03:52:16Z
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@AndrewRadev @ericgoldman Yup. That stood out to me, too.
(DIR) Post #B26NnnGsIVlLVXYNyy by ShaulaEvans@zirk.us
2026-01-09T06:42:20Z
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RE: https://mastodon.social/@404mediaco/115860317697127984You know how everyone has posted photos of themselves for years, and their children, and people around them?Stop normalizing this.Respect privacy: don't post photos of others or snitch tag them.Don't put photos of kids online.The toothpaste may be out of the tube for you but don't model bad behaviour, do model and reinforce good behaviour, protect kids and do better.
(DIR) Post #B2ctSigxGVJKYG11BQ by ShaulaEvans@zirk.us
2026-01-24T23:44:44Z
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Whether or not you use CW and how you use them if you do reveals a lot about how you really feel about consent.
(DIR) Post #B2feecZ6fd5iVJzFiq by ShaulaEvans@zirk.us
2026-01-26T06:45:36Z
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Hey, Fedi. I have a favour to ask you. Help me help a friend. (Not financial!)I have a friend who is all about cool bug facts. They're going through an intense patch in their life, so I would like to send them some bug facts to cheer them up. But this is really their thing, so basic search engine results aren't going to new to them.If there's a cool bug fact that you genuinely love, could you tell me? I'll save them to share with my friend over time. 1/n#Bugs #CoolBugFacts #Insects
(DIR) Post #B2feel4b2R28tImVuq by ShaulaEvans@zirk.us
2026-01-26T07:56:41Z
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Thank you for these cool replies -- I'm so glad I asked! I'm trying to get to bed so I will reply properly tomorrow.And my friend is okay -- not in distress, just a full plate at the moment. No cause for alarm. I didn't mean to worry you all! xo 2/n