Posts by KittyTantrum@poa.st
(DIR) Post #AwfIqfw9yq7CXLbZnE by KittyTantrum@poa.st
2025-07-30T16:58:57.400694Z
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Women shouldn't drive. Women shouldn't drive. Women shouldn't drive. Rules will always have their exceptions, but WOMEN SHOULDN'T DRIVE.My older boys (and two of my nephews) were in a car accident yesterday. BFF/ex-SIL's little sister was driving. They are okay.Based on the damage to the car, the other driver was most likely speeding, which isn't cool, sure. BUT.1. You have to expect other drivers will be speeding.2. I'm pretty sure, because I know how she is (very typical distractable timid early 20's girl), she probably pulled up to her stop sign (cross-traffic had no stop sign), looked left (clear), looked right (clear), HESITATED, then proceeded to *crawl* forward into the intersection. Failed to check her left side again and didn't GO when it was actually clear. That's why the truck that mangled the front end of the car "came out of nowhere."It could have been so much worse. They'll all be a little sore, but hopefully that's the extent of it.This is hard for me because I ALREADY had reservations about anyone other than a tiny handful of people driving my kids around. I didn't even know she was driving them until she called home and my husband came and told me the kids had been in an accident and he was going to go pick them up. BFF's husband (honorary BIL) was supposed to be driving them to an activity, but I guess he was tired. That kind of goes along with my judgy-judgy feelings about how they raise their kids. They didn't exactly raise her, but they *kind of did* and actually they adopted her when ex-MIL died (she was 15-16). They've been the ones overseeing her driver's education, licensing, etc. She's a very new driver. She's kinda scared of driving. I never would have handed her that responsibility. I also wouldn't put a distractable 10 year old boy in charge of supervising a naughty 3 year old outdoors because I was busy with something else. But that's how things go here. It's convenient to hand their responsibilities off to the kids, so they do. No proof of competence needed. And "it will be fine" - UNTIL IT ISN'T. :acat:
(DIR) Post #AwfJTNoLJ3trc6PDoO by KittyTantrum@poa.st
2025-07-30T17:05:58.062294Z
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In other news, my oldest who was in the front passenger seat, took an airbag to the face, and got to watch the front-end get wrecked, came home telling me kinda wants to be a demolition derby driver. lmao(I suspect he will be a good driver)
(DIR) Post #Axs9M2vw6Sm49LoaeW by KittyTantrum@poa.st
2025-09-04T19:33:54.260883Z
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I was at Winco a few weeks ago and they have the tiny Snickers bars with the single letter on them (so you can spell out "snickers" if you get the right ones) in the bulk bins so I carefully picked out a handful and brought them home and arranged them on my eldest son's desk to spell "N I C C E R"He laughed so hard. Middle son came over to see what the commotion was about and also doubled over laughing.Good kids.
(DIR) Post #AxsBRmuInl4U5gurtQ by KittyTantrum@poa.st
2025-09-04T19:12:04.732762Z
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Watching my BFF and her husband do the parenting thing where they phrase commands as questions to their young children and it's just killing me lmaoEvery single time it's like they earnestly believe that if they ask the question in a tone that sounds excited or enticing enough their kid will say yes and it will be easier than just telling him how it's going to be. "Do you want to ______ ?? 😀 😀 😀 "EVERY SINGLE TIME, he says no. And so every single time they try to convince him to say yes. That never works. So then they have to just tell him what to do/how it's going to be, and the kid probably gets more upset and defiant than if they had never made it sound like he had a choice in the first place.Watching other people parent is crazy. It's rapidly becoming more and more apparent why my kids have always just been generally well behaved and respectful. IDK I feel like this stuff is so simple.
(DIR) Post #AxsBVEJrL94jydVmng by KittyTantrum@poa.st
2025-09-04T19:57:51.410712Z
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@Largo It's wild, they do it at mealtimes too."Do you want a sandwich? 😀""NO. I want (something else)!""You're going to have a sandwich. I'm making you a sandwich."*cue meltdown that probably would never have happened if they just put a sandwich in front of the child in the first place*They have FIVE CHILDREN (oldest is 14) and haven't figured out that this approach never makes anything easier or better.
(DIR) Post #AxsJ3SIAayqGpzzLXc by KittyTantrum@poa.st
2025-09-04T20:15:54.283600Z
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@BarelyEagle My husband has learned to generally not ask me that. I'm happy to eat whatever he feels like eating/making if he's offering to take me out or if he's cooking. I'm not happy about making decisions. :acat:
(DIR) Post #Axsqrf2wkIarMTPoye by KittyTantrum@poa.st
2025-09-05T03:35:03.439301Z
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@mushroom_soup uhhhhhhhhhhh that looks like a BARGAIN tbh
(DIR) Post #AxtvGKB44F4MqrBkLw by KittyTantrum@poa.st
2025-09-05T16:07:09.122729Z
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Lemme take a break from complaining though to TELL YOU ABOUT MY BABY 👶 :heartss: He's 7 months old now and he's basically perfect. He's not quite crawling yet but scooting around proficiently enough that he cannot be trusted. :acat: He has learned to point at things he wants and it's super adorable.He eats everything in sight. My other kids weren't very interested in food until like ~9 months, but this little guy has been demanding some of everything we eat since about 4 months old. We mushed up and pureed things for him for a few weeks but now he just gets tiny bites.Everyone else is his favorite person because I'm the default and therefore boring until he wants to nurse/nap. lmaoHe gets so excited when my husband comes home from work, and it makes my husband so happy and it's basically the best thing in the whole world.:heartss:
(DIR) Post #AxuElDOjDpZVvn1TxQ by KittyTantrum@poa.st
2025-09-05T15:55:50.285066Z
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People always want to talk to me like I'm the head of my household. I guess my husband is intimidating maybe? And because I am a small(ish even though I'm still kinda fat rn) woman they think talking to me will be easier or more comfortable or yield better outcomes?So I'm like "this is a conversation for husband, not me."And they're like "but I don't want to talk to husband I want to talk to you."AND ISN'T THAT COMPLETELY DISRESPECTFUL???And like I literally cannot have a conversation with you about big household decisions in lieu of my husband because I (deliberately very much on purpose) do not have any of the necessary information?But like, also, between myself and my husband I am 100% the bigger asshole and he is actually relatively courteous and I feel like everyone who knows us should have picked up on this by now? So?? ???Ffffffffffffffffffff.:acat:
(DIR) Post #AygQNCl7Q9gLgON20m by KittyTantrum@poa.st
2025-09-29T01:41:57.346233Z
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Imagine taking a big thick value size package of huge frozen solid chicken breasts out of the freezer on the same day you intend to use them. They're still partly frozen when it's time to start cooking. You hack them into chunks and crowd them into a too-small pan, packed about three inches deep with a little oil and a tiny sprinkle of salt and "stir fry" them - except actually you're boiling/steaming them until the proteins seize and squeeze all of the moisture from the chicken out into the bottom of the pan.You scoop your chunks of hard, dry, pale, wet chicken out of the steaming puddle they cooked in with a slotted spoon, add them to a pan of similarly cooked vegetables and drown everything in dark salty corn syrup labeled "teriyaki sauce."Imagine doing all of this and still waking and walking free every day, neither burning in hell nor rotting in prison.These people are all around you. They vote. They're just allowed to exist and breathe the same air as the rest of us.
(DIR) Post #Ayyw2vJ1IQPF8hsYwi by KittyTantrum@poa.st
2025-10-07T23:58:36.739965Z
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I'm tired of living with people who constantly try to talk to me, it's exhausting, what in the fuck is wrong with them :cat_cry:
(DIR) Post #Az2eM2BIw5yPQI4aYq by KittyTantrum@poa.st
2025-10-09T16:19:23.275344Z
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Here's a funny thing...BFF'S husband recently felt the need to have a serious conversation about if/when we're planning to get our own place and move out.(as soon as possible if I have anything to do with it lmao)I guess us living here stresses him out and it came to a bit of a head because... I like to unplug the stupid Amazon Echo in the kitchen while I work in there. Apparently this offends some people in the house. Not for any practical reason, but because these folks have their identities and egos tied up in their electronics and gadgets and any rejection of the system is seen as disrespectful of the people who identify with it (creepy idolatry much? idk).ANYWAY.I'm not terribly put out by it. The feeling of discomfort is mutual. THEY were the ones initially hoping we'd want to live here long-term, and we were never going to be down for that.The funny thing is how quickly/easily he decided it was time to start talking about a timeline for moving out, compared to when BFF's brother (my ex) and his girlfriend were living with them.They put up with them for a LONG time. Even though their list of complaints were endless. Didn't pay their rent, ate all their food/didn't buy their own groceries, completely trashed the room they were staying in (unruly dog tore things up and used the carpet as a toilet, etc.), left huge messes, ruined other people's things, were rude and confrontational, disrespectful of their faith, openly judgmental about how they live and raise their kids, etc.It just goes to show that, generally speaking, people aren't more inclined to subject themselves to what is more tolerable. They put up with my ex for a long time because he was aggressive, whiny, and demanding of endless accommodation. He contributed basically nothing, but had them walking on eggshells and afraid to ask him to leave.They also had her younger brother and his wife living with them for a while and had similar complaints (albeit to a lesser degree) and were similarly hesitant to bring up having them move out. In both cases BFF regularly complained to me "I just want them gone but I don't know what to do."They INVITED us to live here (brought it up and practically begged us to consider moving here and living with them every time I visited for years) because having us around actually contributing to the household in various ways was so much more pleasant than her brothers who "needed" a place to stay and then brazenly took advantage.It's weird to me, but it seems to be how most people operate. The average person with the average disposition will take hell from someone who is basically using them because they're afraid of the confrontation/discomfort required to get out of the situation.It's much easier to cut ties or terminate arrangements with people who are generally agreeable, respectful, and pull their own weight.And so people spend the greater portion of their lives in various arrangements where they are tolerating disrespectful people who take and take and take from them without giving back.And far less of their lives in cooperative arrangements with folks who are objectively beneficial to have around, because it's so EASY to show them the door at the first sign of minor discomfort.They don't keep the people around who are better for them. They keep the people around who are demanding and volatile and impose on them and make them feel like they have no choice.What an absolutely crazy way to live. Completely backwards. But I've seen the pattern repeated over and over with so many people in so many different contexts. Housemates, relationships, employees, etc.Fear is a costly way to live.
(DIR) Post #Az2eNZQ8q3HynokHNQ by KittyTantrum@poa.st
2025-10-09T16:35:11.546642Z
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This was all underscored by the fact that my BFF came and talked to me before her husband brought it up, and she actually started CRYING because she likes having us here and doesn't want us to have to move out, but has to respect her husband's decision.And then I had to gently point out to her that this is fine because we were never going to stay long term anyway, and that made her sad, too.I feel bad for her. Her husband could have put his foot down at any time while they were actually being taken advantage of. But his action/inaction is all centered around his own weakness. D:
(DIR) Post #B0TXlLNgA9hZOOJ03U by KittyTantrum@poa.st
2025-11-21T16:17:21.664271Z
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Am tired, frens. Plz pray for good outcomes.Looking to rent our own place before the end of the year (unfortunately still in Idaho, husband thinks sticking with his current job for a while is a good idea). Ideally something with very few if any stairs.Because my oldest son injured his foot pretty badly, will probably need surgery, and will need to be non-weight bearing for a long time regardless.He is stubborn and has a high threshold for pain so thus far he's been just walking around in a boot with a torn ligament and multiple fractures. Gotta get that young man to take it easy. :acat: Baby is also finally teething. Some seasons of life are just... full.
(DIR) Post #B0U0CVbD4qBBcRNN0i by KittyTantrum@poa.st
2025-11-21T21:12:55.171151Z
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@nobullyplz We borrowed a knee scooter from a family member and he hated it and refused to use it. 😆 I just ordered him some nice forearm crutches that he asked for (hates the underarm ones) so hopefully he'll actually use them. :acat:
(DIR) Post #B15WgHYJXdEUDMepPc by KittyTantrum@poa.st
2025-12-10T00:04:36.977620Z
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Moving into our own place this weekend. We'll be in Idaho for a bit longer than I'd hoped, but at least we get to live in a house. With a yard. And no housemates.No housemates ever again plz. :acat:
(DIR) Post #B15XR5MyeeTw2Zfkdk by KittyTantrum@poa.st
2025-12-10T00:11:33.393745Z
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Hey btw why are LED Christmas lights so fucking gayI like that they don't get really hot so they can be made out of plastic so they don't break so easilybut why are they all hideous colored diodes instead of warm white diodes with colored bulbsso uglynot cozyI found one company doing something kinda like that but they're like "oh yeah we make them with GLASS bulbs for authenticity" and fuck all the way off with that PLEASE do not give me a fucking glass LED light I'll just buy cheap incandescent lights if they're going to shatter when I accidentally drop them grrrso homo
(DIR) Post #B1JSOFvTAdt4M04mdk by KittyTantrum@poa.st
2025-12-16T17:06:23.904009Z
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Waking up in our own place is amazinghardly anything unpacked yet, don't carego into the kitchen and make my coffee without any mormons aroundturn on some Marty Robbinszero percent chance of being accosted by someone else's childrennobody hijacking my attention first thing in the morning to talk about themselvesnobody trying to get me to talk about myselfjust baby yelling at mehusband at workteenagers sleeping inperfection
(DIR) Post #B1h0BvXBII3LBEqE8u by KittyTantrum@poa.st
2025-12-28T01:58:39.229685Z
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acquired for lolsif I was starving in a third world country and the US sent this I would beg them to just drop bombs instead
(DIR) Post #B1otdeaQklPCJPJZM8 by KittyTantrum@poa.st
2025-12-31T19:57:44.579025Z
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I guess I always kinda wondered if finally having our own place was going to humble me in a "turns out the problem wasn't all those housemates it was US" sort of way.HAHAHAHAHAHA NOPEThe vibe over here is peaceful, respectful, and well-ordered.Sometimes it feels like we're a different breed of human. We're the sort who intentionally make *smaller* messes when we know it's someone else's job to clean up after us, and we've been living "cooperatively" for years with the sorts of people who do exactly the opposite. People always trying to get away with taking more benefit than responsibility.They act like this is just the way of things. Like you can actually build good working systems on that mentality as long as everyone shares the same mentality and operates the same way. No. Everyone just ends up with a shittier quality of life because everyone is careless and lazy.They look like us but spiritually they are niggers.