Post B6sp86ZiYW7tTYrsTA by lumi@snug.moe
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 (DIR) Post #B6sgwQ2PZIzojLCpai by harmonycorrupted@kinkycats.org
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       When your friend/loved one tries something new, PLEASE encourage them and don't shit on them just because they're not instantly a whiz at it...Don't get competitive. Don't get jealous. Don't "test" them. Under NO circumstances pass judgement unprompted and without being constructive.All these behaviors might seem funny in the moment but they are deeply damaging.Sounds so obvious yet most people I've met have sucked at it
       
 (DIR) Post #B6sgwRGczvxiXirhOC by harmonycorrupted@kinkycats.org
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       Why I wrote that: I was made to believe by my family and former friends that I'm talentless, ugly and not graceful (as in: if you're not eye candy as a woman, don't bother doing any audience-facing arts), lazy and "shouldn't be wasting my time anyway".This has created incredibly deep insecurities within me and pretty much made me stop doing any art for myself. It took years and an unapologetically loving partner for me to gradually unravel this.
       
 (DIR) Post #B6sgwRhvMRnRuNdUw4 by harmonycorrupted@kinkycats.org
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       It invites further debate... I personally don't think that "talent" is a thing. Or at the very least shouldn't be the "end all be all" to someone trying their hand at arts.If you LOVE art and are passionate about it, good news: you CAN make art!!!Practicing is great but don't live by someone's arbitrary idea of what constitutes "grace" and "great art"
       
 (DIR) Post #B6soZMkCRodrUJCpl2 by KatS@chaosfem.tw
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       @harmonycorrupted The consensus among creative types is that talent is definitely a thing, but...Talent is no use by itself. It's a multiplier for the hard work of practice.Dedicated hard work will beat pure talent, every time.I think the idea of a prodigy who succeeds through sheer talent, is an appealing myth for a few reasons. Largely it's for people who don't want to face the part about hard work.First, it's used as an excuse: "I'd love to {become an artist, play piano, etc.} but I don't have any talent." When you answer with "that doesn't matter; most of the best just worked hard at it for years" they stammer excuses for why they couldn't do that.It also plays into the "chosen one" idea in fantasy such as Star Wars.
       
 (DIR) Post #B6soa3Q9mD9vqb9vzE by harmonycorrupted@kinkycats.org
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       @KatS very well-put!!👏🏻
       
 (DIR) Post #B6sp86ZiYW7tTYrsTA by lumi@snug.moe
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       @harmonycorrupted it's gross when people needlessly discourage others from doing what they want to do. shouldn't we all try to be supportive of one-another?if there is no reason why what they're doing is problematic, at least don't break them down over it. and preferably encourage thembreaking people down will only foster a toxic environment for everyone, where no-one feels like they can truly be themself; where no-one feels like they can express themself