Posts by carrideen@c18.masto.host
(DIR) Post #AxmMeyVMvRcQNAz7lg by carrideen@c18.masto.host
2025-09-02T00:36:41Z
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@futurebird When our Camilla thinks it should be supper time, she starts flirting around and dancing, curling her tail and her paws and booping everyone. It is so cute, but my God, it's 3pm, sweetie. Supper is hours away. I think if she and Pica were in an ad for supper time, the world would be powerless to stop them.
(DIR) Post #AyqnjtUzR7vf8SDJZY by carrideen@c18.masto.host
2025-10-03T18:31:35Z
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As a former "gifted" elementary school student, I'm 100% in favor of Mamdani's proposal to end the gifted programs in early public education. When you're separating 6 and 7yo's and saying "These kids are special and high-achieving," you are selecting almost entirely for kids with learning support at home, and allocating extra resources to them, while draining resources from the kids with less support. https://www.nytimes.com/2025/10/02/nyregion/mamdani-schools-gifted-and-talented-program.html
(DIR) Post #Ayqnk1e98y0UPAYjxI by carrideen@c18.masto.host
2025-10-03T18:39:46Z
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NYC public schools work extra hard to make sure white upper-class kids get lots of special advantages so their parents won't put them in private schools. In return, those parents will pay into a school's PTA for resources. So you'll have one elementary school with computers, teaching assistants, great libraries, big playgrounds, and gifted programs, five blocks from an elementary school that doesn't have enough seats or A/C.
(DIR) Post #Ayqnk9PCIQnoT7culU by carrideen@c18.masto.host
2025-10-03T18:47:30Z
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When I was a kid, one of my classmates asked me where I go on Tuesdays and Thursdays, and I talked about learning Spanish, math, history, art, computer programming, creating my own projects, etc. My classmate got really sad and said she would be better in school if she got to learn what she wanted, too.By the time we were all in a good high school that had lots of options, the best students were not the "gifted" ones anymore. Best pedagogical practices shouldn't be reserved for a few students.
(DIR) Post #AyqoHK5TbOGF9dDi6q by carrideen@c18.masto.host
2025-10-04T01:57:07Z
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@overholt Same--and I cannot help but think there could have been a lot less drama if school had been less shitty in general.
(DIR) Post #AyruVIH1w4cKSzd4ee by carrideen@c18.masto.host
2025-10-04T14:41:33Z
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@futurebird Baba ghanoush, imam bayildi, nasu dengaku, tempura, pasta alla Norma, eggplant parmesan, ratatouille, and charred eggplant salad have been my solutions to this problem. It is a whole thing!!
(DIR) Post #Az90iExBUeejLXDoWm by carrideen@c18.masto.host
2025-10-12T20:41:13Z
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@overholt The styling here looks like an imitation of Frank Lloyd Wright's 1950 Zimmerman house, which was designed to be long but with round spaces for early music consort playing. It's like they saw that and went, ah yes, 16th-century instruments *are* the future!
(DIR) Post #AzKqlIviUxvSu1sQRk by carrideen@c18.masto.host
2025-10-18T13:46:15Z
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@futurebird Originally, the anxiety about novels in the 1740s was that they were pretty explicit about sexual desire and often narrated poor people jumping to the upper classes through sexual manipulation, so reading them came to be associated with a kind of emotional masturbation and class delusion.
(DIR) Post #B05VZ4Cou8lG2B32o4 by carrideen@c18.masto.host
2025-11-09T20:36:31Z
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@futurebird @RachelThornSub Ooh that is good. I have a lot of weird dreams set in an infinitely huge hammam or banya. In Iowa (in real life) I found a sort of abandoned bath space like this that no one else ever seemed to use, that had odd inaccessible architecture as if it wasn't supposed to be used so of course I used it whenever I could.
(DIR) Post #B05VZCePVRaIE41BvE by carrideen@c18.masto.host
2025-11-09T20:45:40Z
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@futurebird @RachelThornSub Weirdly, I cannot find any evidence online that this bath space in Iowa ever existed. I know where it is on the map, exactly!
(DIR) Post #B0JBUoBr0zny1K1f3A by carrideen@c18.masto.host
2025-11-16T16:09:25Z
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I woke up to that disgusting Vaseline-lensed NYT essay about how the world of Epstein was a long-ago different time when male power bonds emerged according to the ancient affective paradigms of NYC, lost in the mist of #metoo and I am desperate to know why no one ever thinks to look at the tremendous work on those affective paradigms written by those who could see them clearly at the time. Eve Sedgwick's Between Men (1985) will do nicely. She was declared dangerous for describing male affect:
(DIR) Post #B0JBV4QGfAqEMetOjo by carrideen@c18.masto.host
2025-11-16T16:13:39Z
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She argues (beautifully, hilariously, enragedly) that patriarchy replicates itself by recruiting men at all levels of socioeconomic/political power to find themselves in brotherhood and solidarity through ritual, mutual humiliation of others (women, children, etc.). Even gay men can be invited into these emotional bonds, as willing participants, or they can become victims. Her great insight, I think, is that patriarchy is material but also emotional--a misty glorious past that is still with us.
(DIR) Post #B1DdlarXQbyWUloC4u by carrideen@c18.masto.host
2025-12-13T22:01:53Z
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@futurebird @epicdemiologist My spouse's parents must have been in a club with yours, because we have scissors in every room of the apartment.
(DIR) Post #B1RR1oBpKnCRjttUB6 by carrideen@c18.masto.host
2025-12-20T13:45:06Z
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@futurebird This is such a tell. For about half of my 25 years teaching college, I have worked with working class students who get exposed to all these "innovative" pedagogical tools that squeeze them dry and wring them out. At the most elite colleges for the wealthiest students, no one seriously suggests outsourcing mentorship and one-on-one attention and care. If these innovations were so effective, rich people would make them exclusive to themselves!
(DIR) Post #B1ZutxQ9gI2JwSRoaO by carrideen@c18.masto.host
2025-12-24T15:57:30Z
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@futurebird If there is a seat on the C and you're not in a terrible rush, it will feel faster than standing on the A.
(DIR) Post #B1rRHnMdDwBFvCWqoq by carrideen@c18.masto.host
2026-01-02T02:50:29Z
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@futurebird Oh yes. Our younger cat has zero chill, makes a fool of herself over anything she wants, but Dolores feigns impassivity. She can't control her little sniffy nose or the tips of her ears, though.
(DIR) Post #B2RnaNk4IrDPQiBOym by carrideen@c18.masto.host
2026-01-19T15:49:57Z
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@futurebird One of the hardest things for my mom when she has tried to visit me in New York has been toilet access. If you are not used to just holding it for hours, which most of us are, the city is totally inaccessible. I showed her that most hotels will not stop you from using a lobby toilet if you look like you know what you are doing, and she was convinced the city has made me insane. And then you visit a place like Tokyo and have a luxury bidet toilet experience in a subway station...
(DIR) Post #B2SX4zxTHDNqa1QQ1Q by carrideen@c18.masto.host
2026-01-19T16:17:04Z
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@adardis @VCP @futurebird Conspicuous hydration is such a flex in a toiletless city!
(DIR) Post #B2Vk9C6XwMbEHusfmC by carrideen@c18.masto.host
2026-01-21T13:30:16Z
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@futurebird A good friend of ours recently left his 30-year career in programming for the MTA and he is having a really great time. The work is always different and exciting, and he is making great new friends. It seems like a very decent life!
(DIR) Post #B2VlA4Ra0ZY0lwhVjs by carrideen@c18.masto.host
2026-01-21T13:41:39Z
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@futurebird @Phosphenes My friend became a station agent. It is very different from his former career but he loves it.