Posts by Mafalda@spinster.xyz
(DIR) Post #9zr9Pqtu4nVhThZRku by Mafalda@spinster.xyz
2020-10-05T15:54:40.139453Z
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@LostInCalifornia that’s the word I was looking for - androgyny! Thank you!
(DIR) Post #9zr9RMpYqZtEnSGJ2O by Mafalda@spinster.xyz
2020-10-05T15:52:51.560799Z
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@LostInCalifornia gah, I’m having a hard time articulating this. The author is non binary so it not male or female, right? I guess there is no real way to dress completely neutral - that always seems to be men’s clothing it seems. This is honestly something that does not really work in their favor. It’s like a trap - the photo shows what most people would think is a woman dressed up for a fancy event, def an artistic type. But if you assume her gender you’re transphobic. Honestly, it’s like my abusive ex who would make me guess what he wanted for dinner then yell at me it wasn’t what he wanted.
(DIR) Post #9zrGjVilEOAVGFgCtU by Mafalda@spinster.xyz
2020-10-05T17:16:30.099172Z
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@Ferniegair @Ladyfat @Hollahollara several I know a few people whose adult sons - never daughters - live them them, but don’t work or go to school. They are so ANGRY. You can’t enjoy visiting because they stomp around, get mad that we are talking and laughing while they are trying to video games, etc. I think it’s the frog in boiling water thing, they just don’t see how maladaptive these man are. But from the outside you can. I bet this couple’s friends long ago stopped coming around because the son freaked them the hell out, and his parents felt trapped in a way.
(DIR) Post #9zrY8cnLlWcTf3O5I0 by Mafalda@spinster.xyz
2020-10-05T20:31:07.956858Z
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@Nora hope you’re feeling better! I have GERD and the tight chest feeling is awful.
(DIR) Post #9ztmTCxkn8IXIdsmdE by Mafalda@spinster.xyz
2020-10-06T22:22:44.825405Z
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@filenotfound even the language here is shitty “producing porn with a minor” not “filmed a minor being raped.”
(DIR) Post #9zv5hp0MdBferQTOXA by Mafalda@spinster.xyz
2020-10-07T13:22:02.393960Z
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@Hollahollara his son is not getting a scholarship.
(DIR) Post #9zzBrI1LUrm5obfb1c by Mafalda@spinster.xyz
2020-10-09T11:33:59.619645Z
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@Nora I usually say something like “I am worried I used the wrong address, did you happen to get a package from me?”
(DIR) Post #A00gJm1z0SD5mJncvo by Mafalda@spinster.xyz
2020-10-10T02:43:17.021268Z
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@deftoneslettuce I have no idea if these will help, I’m in the US so not familiar with UK resources. I look up info on forced marriage, and maybe one of these groups can help you with getting away from your abusive family.
(DIR) Post #A0401uB8YWuUOPiZeK by Mafalda@spinster.xyz
2020-10-11T19:39:11.905045Z
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@Gelatinousrube I commented, that’s bullshit. He needs to go.
(DIR) Post #A05jd8Hll9bXxFuDHU by Mafalda@spinster.xyz
2020-10-12T16:42:32.927178Z
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@Nora @DoctorDee and this is why there is a talk before we watch any historical movie that touches on my boyfriend’a area if expertise - “I do not care if they are using a canon developed two years after this battle, or if the battle took place five miles up river on the previous or if the uniform is closer to blue than purple…this is for enjoyment!” And he has the same talk with me about my “BUT THAT WASN’T IN THE BOOK!” outbursts.
(DIR) Post #A06LOKWrkjeBqFKsEq by Mafalda@spinster.xyz
2020-10-12T23:49:57.311482Z
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@lezpaulguitars @Nora to be honest if the choice is random exploitative sexual encounters that you can’t allow yourself to question because it’s sex negative vs being a “prude” and not having sex in college…I think the latter is healthier. I work at a college and these guys treat the girls like trash to be fucked and tossed away, and the girls are supposed to be happy with that. It’s gross.
(DIR) Post #A06OTjV4dcNSbAlVUu by Mafalda@spinster.xyz
2020-10-12T23:45:32.006758Z
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@lezpaulguitars @Nora Just a few days ago another mom said she thought college girls should embrace the sugar daddy life and take men for all they can get. No thought to the risk to them physically, the potential for doxxing, explicit photos, manipulation, financial fraud…
(DIR) Post #A07f8HPhlEmjmrZPH6 by Mafalda@spinster.xyz
2020-10-13T12:55:39.785676Z
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@Zephyranthes @steph yeah, in the US everyone likes to think of themselves as middle class. I think also, we sorta tend to think of class as disposable income/what we can buy. So you’ll have a person who makes $150k a year think he’s barely hit middle class because his mortgage is $4k a month, he has $1500 of medications for his kid every month and is still paying student loans. But you’ll have someone making $50k a year, no debt, saves a lot and the big family splurge is a cross country road trip every two years who considers themself to be solidly middle class.
(DIR) Post #A07f8KFtCBiSbI06tM by Mafalda@spinster.xyz
2020-10-13T13:04:43.528411Z
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@Zephyranthes @steph Paul Fussel had a book on American class, his view was that we do have a class system that derives from jolly old England and that it weighs more towards money than taste, though the hobbies and leisure activities are indicators. He wrote it in the 80s before the tech stuff made a lot of money for people as well as opened up a whole new lucrative field for people to work in. I wish he had written one in the 2000s.
(DIR) Post #A07f8PNW9FmyUOblya by Mafalda@spinster.xyz
2020-10-13T13:12:31.892590Z
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@CailleachBeinneBric @Zephyranthes @steph in the US there would be a caveat to that - the segment of prosperous christians who are middle/upper middle and have socially conservative beliefs. Is that a thing in the UK?
(DIR) Post #A07f8W8t03FDT2ogds by Mafalda@spinster.xyz
2020-10-13T14:45:51.246241Z
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@HebrideanHecate Do you have a thing on your island - it’s incredibly beautiful! - where wealthy people have vacation homes? Or even live there full time because they can work remotely?
(DIR) Post #A07itS8C1xsEV3Z3c8 by Mafalda@spinster.xyz
2020-10-13T15:48:47.357943Z
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@JohnGritt @Zephyranthes @steph that was my understanding of middle class as well, but so much of the “common knowledge” seems to be different these days. I am NOT any sort of knowledgable person on this, these are all just my perceptions and also comments on how I see people define middle class, if that makes sense. For example, I work in higher ed, was in the military and grew up in two worlds of dirt poor/middle class (in the traditional sense, my grandparents had investments and property.) So many of my peers both use middle class as a near pejorative (what does he know about real life, he grew up middle class) but also as a sort of praise (look how well he’s done even though his middle class parents couldn’t pay for college!). For people they want to dismiss as out of tough, middle class means well off; for people they want to praise as bootstrappers, middle class means just making ends meet. (Again this is not actual economic def of middle class, but how regular people I know refer to it.)
(DIR) Post #A07jJeRqrIYEEJFgiu by Mafalda@spinster.xyz
2020-10-13T15:53:31.393819Z
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@JohnGritt @Zephyranthes @steph I am also really interested in this from an amateur point of view. My odd back ground and mixed social group expose to all types and I never fit it. I love observing how everyone acts.
(DIR) Post #A07ja0SGo1O37FFL9c by Mafalda@spinster.xyz
2020-10-13T15:56:28.628947Z
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@JohnGritt @Zephyranthes @steph well, most people are middling intellect. Or just not informed, but prob quite a bit more intelligent than it appears because have not been exposed to ideas. But I’m way off topic. I am also caffeinated and prone to typing quickly without organizing my thoughts.
(DIR) Post #A0HSe6Iw3rYnwCo3iS by Mafalda@spinster.xyz
2020-09-13T09:46:33.250122Z
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@ThePatriarchy out of sheer curiosity, what is your purpose in posting on a feminist site? You seem insufferable.