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(DIR) Post #AvsG5DLiGPjnfhpyDo by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T01:02:07Z
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As I am trying to get this memorial service for my mom together, I'm going through a lot of pictures of her. I just got a bunch from her sister, of when she was younger.I've been with mom almost every day, for the last 17 years. Then, she was about 300 pounds. The last 6 years mom battled mini strokes and type 2 diabetes. She was losing weight the past 5 years or so, which we attributed to her not having her stressful job anymore (she wrongfully got fired after her first stroke).
(DIR) Post #AvsHBNSZgYF2ilY7dI by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T01:07:18Z
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Her nails were always bitten to the stick from the stress she was under at the brokerage firm. After she "medically" retired (no job for her to go to, anymore--plus, nobody would hire a 76 yr old woman) her nails grew. So we thought the weight loss was from her not stress eating. She was diagnosed with a pancreatic mass 19 months ago during a hospital stay. We elected to not biopsy or treat her for it. I started her on the Joe Tippens protocol, which I did for about seven months.
(DIR) Post #AvsHBTfYbCBvylfZhY by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T01:14:17Z
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However, I lost control of her meds after the final stroke that put her in rehab. She never got well enough to leave the nursing home. SInce they controlled her meds, wouldn't give her anything except from FDA approved, labeled bottles , I couldn't get them to give her the off-label fenbendazole. Mom lost too much executive reasoning to self-administer the meds, or I would have sneaked them in to her. I could get one dose in for sure, during my daily visit, but the protocol is 2x a day.
(DIR) Post #AvsHBZstUWQPFrxJK4 by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T01:18:55Z
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It took mom exactly one year of nursing care--where she was off the Joe Tippens protocol --to finally die. She weigned less than 130 when she passed and her official diagnosis was "protein-calorie malnutrition ". My friend who runs a hospice told me it's a bullshit diagnosis when the doctors can't be certain exactly what's causing the patient to decline, except her weight was plummeting.It's been 12 days since mom left me. And, as I've been going through these photos of her, I've noticed
(DIR) Post #AvsyN5GnR9oJoGrvLk by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T01:23:29Z
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that the weight loss was profound and not like when Oprah lost weight, where she looked like a bobble- head. This looks like cancer, where mom was skeletal and her flesh melted away.I had one final photo of my mom that I took a week before she died, for my aunt. (She tried to snap a picture during their last FaceTime but it didn't work so she asked me to take a picture.) I just looked at it and that's when I realized how bad my mom deteriorated.There's only 1 reason I'm not sure about it.
(DIR) Post #AvsyN6Q3AEo5NGCpPc by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T01:27:17Z
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My mom was not in pain when she died. I asked her, countless times, and trust me, she would have told me.The nurses all told me that pancreatic cancer is extremely painful. My mom did not exhibit that pain at all. She cried out once, when her sheets were being changed, because she was so thin and the movement hurt her. But she was okay after a minute. She never asked for morphine. So although everything looked like cancer, I can't say for sure.Maybe the Lord spared her that pain.
(DIR) Post #AvsyN7cqg8df7FCZ04 by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T01:43:43Z
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Oh.... one last updateMy brother is not coming to the service. He just RSVP'd.I am trying to be charitable. That means that I'm not trying to judge him or be bitter about it. It is his choice. I think that it is a poor one, and an abysmal example for his children.This is difficult for me to accept. Your mother's memorial service is a big deal. So big, that the military would send you home from war to attend it.As retired military, he can even fly space-A within CONUS.
(DIR) Post #AvsyN8m6PDdQgEXT3w by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T01:49:12Z
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There's no excuse for him not attending. He hasn't contributed even a penny towards her final expenses or the memorial.I don't know how to feel about this. I want to be angry at him for not loving our mom, but I think my mom would rather have me pray for him because this is pretty indicative of his heart's condition and I know this was a source of anxiety for her. She knows I'm okay and we'll see each other again. But him... not so much. Deep inside, I think she knew his heart was hard.
(DIR) Post #AvsyO1ZEgl1UcFwT8y by Lino0876@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T01:46:09Z
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@MMA Uh-oh. Did your mother pass? I'm so sorry.
(DIR) Post #AvsyO33l8l27FDEMMK by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T03:24:06Z
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@Lino0876 Yes, love, on the 24th. I was with her. It was hard to watch but I wouldn’t have it any other way.
(DIR) Post #AvsyOikk7qmGYOelY8 by Lino0876@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T03:28:07Z
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@MMA Again I'm so sorry and sorry your brother is being a dick. My dad passed 11 months ago today.
(DIR) Post #AvsyPdCKGU7Dc9zaJk by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T03:29:41Z
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@Lino0876 My belated condolences. I hope it is getting easier to bear. I am still crying a lot, even though I knew it was coming.
(DIR) Post #AvsyPt6X7mzMwpPBVg by Lino0876@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T03:30:15Z
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@MMA My mom is still taking it hard.
(DIR) Post #AvsyRYQywlXxQ4lTBQ by CarolEmmarie@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T04:49:32Z
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@MMA @Lino0876 Dear friends took us to dinner the night before my mom's funeral.I'll never forget Linda saying that it'd been 10 years since her mother passed and she STILL could not believe her own mom was gone.Our moms always will be an integral part of us. Forever.
(DIR) Post #AvsyRvX9418v3qpDU0 by CONSERVATARIAN@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T02:11:40Z
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@MMA Crying over here. I haven't been on here much, missed your posts and was wondering how you and your family were doing.I am so very sorry about the loss of your dear mother. 😪🙏🕯 You took such terrific care of her. I'm also so sorry about your brother's behavior.Prayers of peace and comfort for you and your family. Love,Kathryn
(DIR) Post #AvsySIURiDeMG8jsy8 by CarolEmmarie@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T02:14:56Z
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@MMA I am so sorry that your brother has decided to skip his mother's memorial. Good for you that you have purposed to pray for him. Your mom would be proud of that (and is proud right now in Heaven I am sure).
(DIR) Post #AvsyUXyN7RBArCoFPc by Defund_Politicians@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T02:30:20Z
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@MMA For perspective.. My brother, and our mom are tight... I can't stand her. When she dies I will not attend the service. We both have very different relationships with her. I do not try to derail my brothers relationship, but I also refuse to pretend we are cool.
(DIR) Post #AvsyWFzmvdINgIHsKu by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T02:40:34Z
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@Defund_Politicians I am sure you have your reasons for the relationship between you and your mom and I fully support you in establishing your boundaries.It's a little different for me. My brother is not nice to either of us. He hasn't been his entire life.I appreciate that you are HONEST about your feelings. My brother is passive- aggressive about his feelings. He would draw my mom close to bludgeon her. For instance, he came into town on a connecting flight and called her.
(DIR) Post #AvsyWM4GLuRKVuQX8y by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T02:44:40Z
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He asked her to come to the airport so he and his (2nd) wife could take her to dinner while he was waiting on his connecting flight. She eagerly jumped in her car and drove 75 miles to BWI airport. (I refused, because I'm like you, I don't like that mofo, and I won't pretend, so I wouldn't go. )She gets there and he's waiting alone. She asks where his wife is and he tells her that she's in the lounge. Mom is bewildered and then he tells her that he has to protect her (from my mother).
(DIR) Post #AvsyWS20BECF0dPoS8 by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T02:48:18Z
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Then he launched into a diatribe about his whole relationship with her and how he offended at how she's hurt his wife because she still keeping a relationship with his first wife (mother of her niece and nephew). My mom is confused, crying and really feeling trashed. There was no dinner, of course. Mom drove the 75 miles back home from the airport, upset and with a monster headache.My bro made his point I've found six such emails in her Gmail from him.... all.on the same theme.
(DIR) Post #AvsyWXi14Rm6cO6w8O by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T02:53:18Z
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I have no issue with not caring for a person in your family. But be up front, be honest, and then be DONE. That isn't what he's doing.I'm hurt because he's a phony and acts like he wanted to have a relationshipbut not really any of the responsibilitiesthat go with it. His offense and anger is the excuse to justify deliberately shifting all mom's medical expenses onto me when he knows I'm not in the greatest financial situation.This memorial service is his last act of disdain for her.
(DIR) Post #AvsydayRKXZOls9iu8 by Defund_Politicians@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T02:45:11Z
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@MMA That is not how I play for sure.. Sorry for your pain MMA. I like you a ton, and hope you get through this quick.
(DIR) Post #Avsydc1JRLSi14VX1M by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T02:58:55Z
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@Defund_Politicians Thank you dear. Just so you know, I'm just like you. I'm fine with not having a relationship with a sibling or a parent. And I respect that my daughter doesn't want one with me, even though I'm hurt by her choice. I had to tolerate my bro for my mom. And I'm going to honor her by praying for him. But I'm not going to have him in my house. He's done and said some things to me that you wouldn't believe, including punching me in the face when we were teenagers.
(DIR) Post #AvsyeSQGboJwXWaC8W by Defund_Politicians@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T03:02:39Z
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@MMA Well MMA for whatever it's worth.. I am not your family, but I love you.. You are my kind of people. Hope you get through this fast, and back to living your life.
(DIR) Post #Avsyf5zNVCZzFiJHmK by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T03:06:21Z
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@Defund_Politicians I will make it because y'all are praying me through. My friends have always been more of a family to me than my own. Thank you for the encouragement and support. It's made all the difference in the world to me.
(DIR) Post #AvsyguQBTuZPxHiH6u by Lori@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T02:53:34Z
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@MMA I'm so sorry you have this in to of the pain of losing your mother, but this is not your burden to bear. You offered an invitation to participate and to join. Prayers are all you should give now for your own sanity. Put him out of your mind and let his own conscience rule his future.God will deal with his naughtiness since that's His domain. Who knows what will happen? Blessings and love!🥰💞
(DIR) Post #AvsyiV0kvW3Pj5Zrii by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T03:03:54Z
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@Lori Amen sister. I have done right by my mom when she lived with me, and allowed that meat-ax across the threshold to see her... but, no more! I will not suffer him in my house anymore. My duty and responsibility to care for my mom is ended. Part of caring for her was to get her closer to him because I knew she wanted to see her son more. If we hadn't moved to Texas, he wouldn't have made any effort.I am in a way glad he won't be at the memorial. It's easier for me.
(DIR) Post #AvsyiaovKQ9dk85V6u by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T03:13:48Z
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I wanted to share a few pictures of my mom with you. I found some of them when I was going through her pictures. Some are from my aunt's stash. ( She inherited all the pictures from my grandmother.) Quite a few of these I'd never seen before.
(DIR) Post #AvsyigfvYmWVtxvOvA by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T03:17:05Z
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(DIR) Post #AvsyimHKj8PpHQSqQ4 by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T03:18:05Z
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(DIR) Post #Avsyiro8AccaQaqbjc by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T03:18:42Z
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(DIR) Post #AvsyixiKD7XgkKB3WC by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T03:19:05Z
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(DIR) Post #Avsyj42OhPACMJcAdc by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T03:20:06Z
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I really miss my mom.
(DIR) Post #AvsyoGv8EEGxlJhQem by Lori@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T04:02:17Z
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@MMA So pretty! She looks very sassy too. Now we know where got it, 😉
(DIR) Post #AvsyojIqhdshmz0lVo by CDuBois@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T03:12:52Z
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@MMA Oh, friend, I'm so sorry for your loss. Even when we know it's coming, or it's time, it still hits us head on.God bless you as you plow through what needs to be done to put your mother at rest. I pray for you, for her, and for your brother.You are loved and supported here, dear heart. 🙏🕯❤️