Posts by MMA@freeatlantis.com
(DIR) Post #AvsHBZstUWQPFrxJK4 by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T01:18:55Z
0 likes, 0 repeats
It took mom exactly one year of nursing care--where she was off the Joe Tippens protocol --to finally die. She weigned less than 130 when she passed and her official diagnosis was "protein-calorie malnutrition ". My friend who runs a hospice told me it's a bullshit diagnosis when the doctors can't be certain exactly what's causing the patient to decline, except her weight was plummeting.It's been 12 days since mom left me. And, as I've been going through these photos of her, I've noticed
(DIR) Post #AvsyN5GnR9oJoGrvLk by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T01:23:29Z
0 likes, 0 repeats
that the weight loss was profound and not like when Oprah lost weight, where she looked like a bobble- head. This looks like cancer, where mom was skeletal and her flesh melted away.I had one final photo of my mom that I took a week before she died, for my aunt. (She tried to snap a picture during their last FaceTime but it didn't work so she asked me to take a picture.) I just looked at it and that's when I realized how bad my mom deteriorated.There's only 1 reason I'm not sure about it.
(DIR) Post #AvsyN6Q3AEo5NGCpPc by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T01:27:17Z
0 likes, 0 repeats
My mom was not in pain when she died. I asked her, countless times, and trust me, she would have told me.The nurses all told me that pancreatic cancer is extremely painful. My mom did not exhibit that pain at all. She cried out once, when her sheets were being changed, because she was so thin and the movement hurt her. But she was okay after a minute. She never asked for morphine. So although everything looked like cancer, I can't say for sure.Maybe the Lord spared her that pain.
(DIR) Post #AvsyN7cqg8df7FCZ04 by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T01:43:43Z
0 likes, 0 repeats
Oh.... one last updateMy brother is not coming to the service. He just RSVP'd.I am trying to be charitable. That means that I'm not trying to judge him or be bitter about it. It is his choice. I think that it is a poor one, and an abysmal example for his children.This is difficult for me to accept. Your mother's memorial service is a big deal. So big, that the military would send you home from war to attend it.As retired military, he can even fly space-A within CONUS.
(DIR) Post #AvsyN8m6PDdQgEXT3w by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T01:49:12Z
0 likes, 0 repeats
There's no excuse for him not attending. He hasn't contributed even a penny towards her final expenses or the memorial.I don't know how to feel about this. I want to be angry at him for not loving our mom, but I think my mom would rather have me pray for him because this is pretty indicative of his heart's condition and I know this was a source of anxiety for her. She knows I'm okay and we'll see each other again. But him... not so much. Deep inside, I think she knew his heart was hard.
(DIR) Post #AvsyO33l8l27FDEMMK by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T03:24:06Z
0 likes, 0 repeats
@Lino0876 Yes, love, on the 24th. I was with her. It was hard to watch but I wouldn’t have it any other way.
(DIR) Post #AvsyPdCKGU7Dc9zaJk by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T03:29:41Z
0 likes, 0 repeats
@Lino0876 My belated condolences. I hope it is getting easier to bear. I am still crying a lot, even though I knew it was coming.
(DIR) Post #AvsyWFzmvdINgIHsKu by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T02:40:34Z
0 likes, 0 repeats
@Defund_Politicians I am sure you have your reasons for the relationship between you and your mom and I fully support you in establishing your boundaries.It's a little different for me. My brother is not nice to either of us. He hasn't been his entire life.I appreciate that you are HONEST about your feelings. My brother is passive- aggressive about his feelings. He would draw my mom close to bludgeon her. For instance, he came into town on a connecting flight and called her.
(DIR) Post #AvsyWM4GLuRKVuQX8y by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T02:44:40Z
0 likes, 0 repeats
He asked her to come to the airport so he and his (2nd) wife could take her to dinner while he was waiting on his connecting flight. She eagerly jumped in her car and drove 75 miles to BWI airport. (I refused, because I'm like you, I don't like that mofo, and I won't pretend, so I wouldn't go. )She gets there and he's waiting alone. She asks where his wife is and he tells her that she's in the lounge. Mom is bewildered and then he tells her that he has to protect her (from my mother).
(DIR) Post #AvsyWS20BECF0dPoS8 by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T02:48:18Z
0 likes, 0 repeats
Then he launched into a diatribe about his whole relationship with her and how he offended at how she's hurt his wife because she still keeping a relationship with his first wife (mother of her niece and nephew). My mom is confused, crying and really feeling trashed. There was no dinner, of course. Mom drove the 75 miles back home from the airport, upset and with a monster headache.My bro made his point I've found six such emails in her Gmail from him.... all.on the same theme.
(DIR) Post #AvsyWXi14Rm6cO6w8O by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T02:53:18Z
0 likes, 0 repeats
I have no issue with not caring for a person in your family. But be up front, be honest, and then be DONE. That isn't what he's doing.I'm hurt because he's a phony and acts like he wanted to have a relationshipbut not really any of the responsibilitiesthat go with it. His offense and anger is the excuse to justify deliberately shifting all mom's medical expenses onto me when he knows I'm not in the greatest financial situation.This memorial service is his last act of disdain for her.
(DIR) Post #Avsydc1JRLSi14VX1M by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T02:58:55Z
0 likes, 0 repeats
@Defund_Politicians Thank you dear. Just so you know, I'm just like you. I'm fine with not having a relationship with a sibling or a parent. And I respect that my daughter doesn't want one with me, even though I'm hurt by her choice. I had to tolerate my bro for my mom. And I'm going to honor her by praying for him. But I'm not going to have him in my house. He's done and said some things to me that you wouldn't believe, including punching me in the face when we were teenagers.
(DIR) Post #Avsyf5zNVCZzFiJHmK by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T03:06:21Z
0 likes, 0 repeats
@Defund_Politicians I will make it because y'all are praying me through. My friends have always been more of a family to me than my own. Thank you for the encouragement and support. It's made all the difference in the world to me.
(DIR) Post #AvsyiV0kvW3Pj5Zrii by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T03:03:54Z
0 likes, 0 repeats
@Lori Amen sister. I have done right by my mom when she lived with me, and allowed that meat-ax across the threshold to see her... but, no more! I will not suffer him in my house anymore. My duty and responsibility to care for my mom is ended. Part of caring for her was to get her closer to him because I knew she wanted to see her son more. If we hadn't moved to Texas, he wouldn't have made any effort.I am in a way glad he won't be at the memorial. It's easier for me.
(DIR) Post #AvsyiaovKQ9dk85V6u by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T03:13:48Z
0 likes, 0 repeats
I wanted to share a few pictures of my mom with you. I found some of them when I was going through her pictures. Some are from my aunt's stash. ( She inherited all the pictures from my grandmother.) Quite a few of these I'd never seen before.
(DIR) Post #AvsyigfvYmWVtxvOvA by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T03:17:05Z
0 likes, 0 repeats
(DIR) Post #AvsyimHKj8PpHQSqQ4 by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T03:18:05Z
0 likes, 0 repeats
(DIR) Post #Avsyiro8AccaQaqbjc by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T03:18:42Z
0 likes, 0 repeats
(DIR) Post #AvsyixiKD7XgkKB3WC by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T03:19:05Z
0 likes, 0 repeats
(DIR) Post #Avsyj42OhPACMJcAdc by MMA@freeatlantis.com
2025-07-07T03:20:06Z
0 likes, 0 repeats
I really miss my mom.