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(DIR) Post #AtFT60qjD3UbvBqWYK by stux@mstdn.social
2025-04-19T12:14:53Z
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My gf and me have decided to go shop for engagement rings together at some point when we have spare money for itBut ofc she does still wait for a proposal but is that even possible without a ring directly or maybe a placeholder or somethingI feel so clueless in this all lol
(DIR) Post #AtFTIJU5kdkNBw7ihU by grrrr_shark@supervolcano.angryshark.eu
2025-04-19T12:15:45Z
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@stux it's always possible. It depends on the people involved though.
(DIR) Post #AtFTIK8rJ4MBENCHFA by stux@mstdn.social
2025-04-19T12:17:08Z
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@grrrr_shark hmm true i guess š 2 years ago, my "father in law" sung for his now wife and that was also kinda nice!
(DIR) Post #AtFTS6WYn9OFtMwlJw by jannem@fosstodon.org
2025-04-19T12:18:51Z
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@stux This is *completely* in the hands of you and her. Nobody else. Whatever you decide to do is right for you.I got my wife an engagement ring well after I'd proposed, because we both felt it was a nice tradition and we'd seen a ring she really liked. But, we never got wedding rings when we got married. Neither of us particularly like wearing rings every day so we skipped that part.
(DIR) Post #AtFTTq62qALtWPN6zA by grrrr_shark@supervolcano.angryshark.eu
2025-04-19T12:19:15Z
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@stux I can only speak for myself - I was engaged twice. I married the one who didn't give me a ring š¤£But that was a weird situation anyway hehehe
(DIR) Post #AtFTYahnUXExEdIPeC by grrrr_shark@supervolcano.angryshark.eu
2025-04-19T12:20:00Z
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@stux the singing? That is amazing :)
(DIR) Post #AtFTc5ems4lo68YZaC by stux@mstdn.social
2025-04-19T12:20:45Z
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@jannem ah! so after you proposed you both got the rings? š® I have a feeling it's more about the engagement then the rings but after seeing movies and such i wasn't sure it was "possible without" if you know what i mean haha
(DIR) Post #AtFTfg7rjjwG4brvjE by LexiGirl@mstdn.social
2025-04-19T12:21:19Z
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@stux for sure! Get a āfake ringā and then you can go shopping for a real one together. My sisters husband proposed with a moissanite ring but she loved it so much, she ended up keeping it as her main ring. Google Swarovski Stilla Cocktail Ring. Itās divine!!!
(DIR) Post #AtFTgnRQ1XZt3EY1Hk by ranx@mastodon.social
2025-04-19T12:21:32Z
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@stux you're not alone being clueless about it. Luckily I don't have that "problem", if this can be considered some sort of luck š¤·š»āāļø
(DIR) Post #AtFTh7ggkTfxqNqUrY by stux@mstdn.social
2025-04-19T12:21:39Z
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@grrrr_shark Yup! Thats the way he proposed :blobhappy:
(DIR) Post #AtFTp4hRk0DKtUzYzQ by jannem@fosstodon.org
2025-04-19T12:23:06Z
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@stux Not quite.We decided to get married. We then saw a ring she liked a lot, so I bought it for her as her engagement ring. We got married.She only has the engagement ring (it's a memento, really; she never wears it). I have no rings at all.
(DIR) Post #AtFTsteojpvrnyaJIO by stux@mstdn.social
2025-04-19T12:23:47Z
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@jannem Aaah! got it! ā¤ļø i feel like it's going the same here :blobcatgiggle:
(DIR) Post #AtFTxRYscok67DyYC0 by gilester45@twit.social
2025-04-19T12:24:30Z
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@stux In my limited (singular) experience, rings are totally unnecessary but the proposal is still valued.That said I did a woeful job of the proposal part but she still married me.I would recommend putting at least some effort into it.
(DIR) Post #AtFTzlSpbDSyQAFkky by hamkaas@mstdn.social
2025-04-19T12:25:02Z
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@stux she is reading this?
(DIR) Post #AtFU2RsmrIrYYjfpGC by stux@mstdn.social
2025-04-19T12:25:26Z
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@hamkaas Nop :blobcatgiggle: pretty 100% sure of that
(DIR) Post #AtFUBhUADWE9YaZGZU by tombies@sharknado.tombies.eu
2025-04-19T12:26:12.055Z
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@stux@mstdn.social I proposed and later we went shopping for the wedding rings. if you like a placeholder maybe you can look for something thats cheap but cool, something she likes e. g. geek stuff or 3d-print something.
(DIR) Post #AtFUBiX2KK7Snmv4gi by stux@mstdn.social
2025-04-19T12:27:04Z
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@tombies Was thinking about that indeed š¤ good ideas
(DIR) Post #AtFUNsEg4dRoNC83km by ministerofimpediments@mastodon.social
2025-04-19T12:29:22Z
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@stux ā¦if you are going to proposeā¦then propose. Itās either a yes or no. Get a simple gold ring and tell her that it is because you donāt want to wait forever. Tell her that she can have whatever you can manage but realistically there isnāt a ring good enough for what she means to youā¦even if the diamond was the size of a baseball. Youāll find itās not the ring, but what the ring means is more important. Going on 13yrs of marriageā¦
(DIR) Post #AtFUWgPBQeH6HtF9vs by stux@mstdn.social
2025-04-19T12:30:54Z
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@ministerofimpediments Well, it's more from her side :blobblush: Just over a year ago she caught the flowers on the wedding of her mom! So i had a year to ask but im a little overdueI think it's more about the fact it's asked and not so much the ringBut im a little unsure on how to go about this without it direcrly
(DIR) Post #AtFVsaaNqUAgZ2UYbo by stinerman@mastodon.social
2025-04-19T12:46:03Z
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@stux I asked my girlfriend her ring size every few months for years.
(DIR) Post #AtFWJXeOrnGNHODrMW by ministerofimpediments@mastodon.social
2025-04-19T12:50:59Z
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@stux ā¦ok. Iām going to give you a life lesson and a piece of advice.Lesson: The smart person knows that this world is broken down into shit that matters and shit that doesnāt. The wise person knows which is which.Life is simpler than you realize.By your own admission youāve: been with her a long timeā¦at least a year, went to her momās wedding, and asked total strangers their opinionYouāve already made your decision. She matters. The rest is just personal obstacles to overcome.
(DIR) Post #AtFXAKsP5iDx0cwl60 by Crovanian@mastodon.social
2025-04-19T13:00:32Z
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@stux my partner and I have been together for over a decade. At this rate Iām not sure what would even be the impetus to properly propose- being on any vacation? Maybe when one of us gets laid off during this hell of an economy so the other can get health insurance. How romantic.
(DIR) Post #AtFYG23s3eBGLZag9w by rmd1023@infosec.exchange
2025-04-19T13:12:17Z
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@stux We had a proposal/acceptance without rings and then shopped for engagement rings later. We didnāt splurge on those - we went with Claddagh rings. (We did splurge on wedding bands and went with custom bands from a local jeweler.)A bit of context is that neither of us is into fancy jewelry with gems so we wanted fairly unadorned rings. Weād been together for like 15 years at the time and both agreed we wanted to get married so the proposal was more a āso, yeah, letās actually do this thing we know we want to do.ā
(DIR) Post #AtFZQ8eGWRHxcszrTk by Aradayn@mastodon.social
2025-04-19T13:25:49Z
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@stux FYI engagement rings are fun, but they're also something that might spend most of their time in a drawer somewhere after you get married.If the two of you have already talked about getting them later, it seems like your idea of a placeholder could work great! Good luck!
(DIR) Post #AtFc9kkZuIlGjipOIy by plsik@mastodon.social
2025-04-19T13:56:28Z
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@stux KĆ”mo, neÄekej. OhlednÄ prstĆ½nku se mÅÆžete domluvit, ale veÅejnĆ½ slib vzĆ”jemnĆ© lĆ”sky a podpory na prstĆ½nku nezĆ”visĆ. RadÄji dÅĆv než vÅÆbec.
(DIR) Post #AtFel6BNNwnxpXIXL6 by Tedgarrison3@mstdn.social
2025-04-19T14:25:39Z
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@stux You're options are wide open. Heck - unless there's some financial/legal benefit to being married, don't even feel pressured to do so.I've been with the same woman now for 19 years. Many people think we're married. We're not. Her daughter is only 7 years younger than me... but still tells folks I'm her step-dad.For us, the only reason to get married would be to potentially make end-of-life stuff a tad simpler, as right now I don't have any actual claim to the house. (cont'd)
(DIR) Post #AtFg0rj509Jna991hA by SecretAntelope@covertcreatures.xyz
2025-04-19T14:39:32Z
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@stuxIf the reason for not doing it now is money then the ring is meaningless.
(DIR) Post #AtFjc1RQ8wImI3II5Y by nf3xn@mastodon.social
2025-04-19T15:19:55Z
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@stux Here's what you do. Go to Dublin for the weekend and buy a pair of gold claddagh rings, wear with the point of the heart inwards. Diamonds are bullshit. Gold is real. An investment really š No proposal required, you are 'promised' to each other as long as you wear them like that. ā¤ļø
(DIR) Post #AtFsuxq0fDsYChu0XI by mariellequinton@ottawa.place
2025-04-19T17:04:16Z
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@stux If you're going to shop together for engagement rings, why not propose with a necklace or earrings or something else? Just something pretty and you don't have to worry about it fitting.
(DIR) Post #AtFtCukqrk4tr136WG by paulc@mstdn.social
2025-04-19T17:07:30Z
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@stux you donāt need a placeholder just ask her, or her ask you, and then both agree. We did that over 30 years ago.
(DIR) Post #AtFucA9gqMsaoPGogy by guinnessduck@mstdn.social
2025-04-19T17:23:18Z
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@stux I proposed without a ring. It was actually a spontaneous kind of moment (given my anxiety problems I was nervous as hell and when the impulse hit I decided screw all the fancy stuff, just do it before I chicken out again). We ended up getting a pair of ear rings my mom gave me that came from my great grandmother, took the small diamonds from them, and had one put in to an engagement ring and one out in to my eventual wedding band.
(DIR) Post #AtG3MMu6Zm2vIzWY6q by n_dimension@infosec.exchange
2025-04-19T19:01:16Z
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@stux My classy brother proposed with a fried onion ring.
(DIR) Post #AtG7Usybc9WauTwi9Y by mav@masto.hackers.town
2025-04-19T19:47:34Z
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@stuxInside what set of rules?Thing about stuff like this is the only rules that exist are rules that you make up. You two just decide what you want to do, and then do it. You might have to just ask.
(DIR) Post #AtGNizoqZLEFS88Dom by chewie@mammut.gogreenit.net
2025-04-19T22:49:25Z
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@stux hmm, would one of these do temporarily? https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Gummy_rings_aug_21_(cropped).jpg
(DIR) Post #AtGyhLmtcGRzJOIVoO by spinni81@mastodon.social
2025-04-20T05:43:44Z
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@stux You do you. I asked my husband if he would consider getting married because it would save us a bunch of money (German law is weird like that). He said he'd consider it. I asked again 3 weeks later, he said yes. We got married shortly after (no party because no money). That was over 15 years ago. No rings involved ever. Back then we didn't have the money and when we did it just wasn't important anymore. We may celebrate our 20th anniversary with a big party.
(DIR) Post #AtGzTGPCvhomWH42ro by energisch_@troet.cafe
2025-04-20T05:52:19Z
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@stux It's the heartfelt wish to share your lives together that counts, not the ring.Forget all that brimborium around it. Heart to heart, that's important. š