Post AcOrPEGn6RdG9pb02S by marshlander@www.minds.com
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(DIR) Post #AcNddO1M3K7lwCGw7c by SMetzeler@www.minds.com
2023-12-01T23:04:58+00:00
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Compare the education of this Russian boy to adapt to his environment with the average child in the US school system who is probably obese and told that everyone is non-binary... https://www.minds.com/newsfeed/1577460532036767757
(DIR) Post #AcNemawNUESWZGtnou by RonHarvey@www.minds.com
2023-12-01T23:11:17+00:00
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in America dad would get thrown into prison for severe child abuse, the children would be taken away and sent to "therapy" for their trauma.
(DIR) Post #AcNen5HKgt2wewvxeC by RonHarvey@www.minds.com
2023-12-01T23:08:45+00:00
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i'm impressed.
(DIR) Post #AcNpal7KvHVY9RaFUG by skullwizarddragon@www.minds.com
2023-12-02T01:03:19+00:00
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They seem like they're into it.Today I had a conversation on another platform about people who are SO FUCKING SENSITIVE like "I can't work, I can't drive, I can't this, I can't that" and how much of it - including neurodivergent people - is an issue of of:- the person not doing something because they LEGITIMATELY cannot do it, or no amount of acclimation will make them like it- they CAN do it but were not introduced properly because the adults around them are incompetent- they CAN do it but were never acclimated to overcoming discomfort in activities that are otherwise generally safe or necessary by being allowed to quit at the slightest sign of discomfortTo the second point, for example, this is parents who try to get their kid into roller coasters by making them go on the biggest one first, freaking them the fuck out, and then making fun of them for not liking it. I think it would make sense if you like rollercoasters and you want your kid to like rollercoasters, you'd have them on the baby rides first, then the mild rides adults go on (the paratrooper or kangaroo or smt), then mild rollercoasters that are smooth or don't have crazy hills, etc. Like, you'd prep them ("This one has a big hill at the beginning but it's 5 seconds, rollercoasters are designed to be scary but they are very safe if you follow the rules."), or if they go on one and not have a good time, do the ones they do like and try the bigger one next year or whatever. Like, don't throw them into a situation then make them feel like shit.To the third point, who remembers learning to do something like rollerskating as a kid? I remember going out on skates at some grade school, single-digit age and crying and clinging to the wall.My mother was an ass, but while she didn't really couch it in the least insulting language, she made me keep going. Ultimately, rollerskating is harmless. Eventually I got good at it and had a good time. However, I feel like a modern parent wouldn't just not be rude to the kid about it, but just like "UWU, you don't like it?? oh muyh guahd baby uwu let's go," and never make them persist or never make them try it again so they wouldn't get through the initial learning curve for like 2-3 sessions before they could start having fun.
(DIR) Post #AcNtkrCbYNpXjh7PKi by skullwizarddragon@www.minds.com
2023-12-02T01:52:28+00:00
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The more experience someone has with successfully overcoming discomfort to enjoy a fun activity, the more open-minded they will be. When they don't like something you know it's because they tried to humor it and straight up don't like it, not because they're a lil' bitch who only did it for 5 seconds and gave up
(DIR) Post #AcNtpTd4cowI4bhaIS by faithshield@www.minds.com
2023-12-02T00:33:18+00:00
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This was a tradition among Tlingit Natives too. Only they would beat themselves with sticks when they got out of the river - but the concept is the same, toughen up! Learn your limits. Grow used to overcoming hardship and learn to enjoy being tough.
(DIR) Post #AcOOF8yh1fheB7y9oG by han_so_oh@www.minds.com
2023-12-02T07:26:03+00:00
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I've been taking cold showers for years. It sounds counter intuitive, but in the winter it actually warms you up. In that you feel warm soon as you dry off, and stay feeling warm.
(DIR) Post #AcOrNclr2P3tZDMOZc by airyaman@www.minds.com
2023-12-02T12:56:39+00:00
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The issue I always had was that no one (least of all the Boomers I grew up with) was any good at EXPLAINING anything in ways that made sense to me or training me how to do things in a systematic way. I've literally learned more from YouTube videos in an hour than I learned in ten years as a kid from people who think that everything is self-evident and can only respond to anyone "not getting it" with vague platitudes and frustrated impatience.
(DIR) Post #AcOrPEGn6RdG9pb02S by marshlander@www.minds.com
2023-12-02T10:20:37+00:00
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Strange that you should mention roller skating as a harmless activity now, just as I'm in the midst of "outing" myself as a keen skater. The difference here is, I never skated as a kid. The mere thought of being around any other kids was bad enough, but attempting to do something that would see me put through the worst sort of public humiliation with my terrible level of coordination - even worse than just playing football, badly - was enough to make me stay inside with no human contact until I was about 15.But that was then, this is now. And after only taking up skating for the first time at 22, it took another 22 years to start taking it seriously. Spending north of £250 on new skates to replace my old broken eBay-special Raptors is one motivation (the Yorkshireman in me wants my money's worth), but having a nearly-five-year-old nephew who can ride a bike and is well known to like things with wheels will drive me onwards even harder. I want to be the one who shows him that skating is fun, and can teach him not just the basics (and get rid of that awful zimmer frame on wheels in ten minutes), but how to (eventually) fling himself around at neck-breaking speeds without actually breaking his neck.(continued...)
(DIR) Post #AcOrSIO8FOOnncUXrM by marshlander@www.minds.com
2023-12-02T10:25:28+00:00
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(carrying on...)I find there are two types of under-tens, who show which side they're on when they fall over. There are the scared-of-everything kids who burst into tears and don't want to do it any more and a parent has to be summoned to do the "uwu" thing you mentioned above, and there are those who will giggle a bit, get up and take off again like a Saturn V rocket that's only temporarily crashed on the surface of Mars with a bit of a graze. Unsurprisingly, I want to point my nephew in the latter direction. Sometimes when he's fallen off his bike he cries and doesn't want to ride it any more, but that doesn't last - he'll get back on eventually, so he's part of the way there.Also, as a bonus, I have gone from being a 220 lb blob who can trundle around and stay upright at a decent speed without thinking about it, to being a 200 lb slightly-less-of-a-blob who can do crossovers, two of the three manuals and a basic transition (if I slow down quite a bit). That last move, for 11 years, was in the "I will never, ever be able to do this as long as I live" category. Not any more. The latest project is to turn that into an emergency stop... which I needed yesterday evening and didn't have in my toolkit. Although I will.Maybe you should give skating another go, eh? At least this time there'll be no crying in terror.
(DIR) Post #AcOrT1O0wg2jMHmaQK by skullwizarddragon@www.minds.com
2023-12-02T12:02:13+00:00
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Learning new things like that as an adult takes a lot of balls. Many props to you.I went rollerblading on an outdoor trail a bit ago and it went well. It was fun. I’d like to go with my husband but he’s more embarrassed of that kind of stuff than I am.I’m socially anxious to talk to people or just be perceived but I generally don’t have a problem trying activities in public, dancing, etc. even if I’m bad at them at first. It might be something like “jester’s privilege”. My mere presence feels embarrassing so it’s not that much “worse” to do something like jump around on a pogo stick or use rollerblades. Or perhaps I’m decently athletic so it’s less embarrassing to be better-than-average at something in public.
(DIR) Post #AcOrXLQmMVUmgT8ZwO by dannica@www.minds.com
2023-12-02T09:33:56+00:00
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Wondering if that shed is a sauna and they're alternating it with cold plunging.
(DIR) Post #AcOswQPN5rMRJZ0Boe by worldaffairs2021@www.minds.com
2023-12-02T13:25:55+00:00
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Bet they have great immune systems and good health doing that#russia
(DIR) Post #AcPOG6mqqsD0pZqmu0 by Xanahan@www.minds.com
2023-12-02T15:39:34+00:00
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When exactly did the USA start going down hill? What series of events tipped the scales away from goodness and even reasonableness? The empire is a sick and it desperately needs a correction. I’m wondering if any correction which can save this once great experiment in personal freedom is even possible at this point.
(DIR) Post #AcPOa5xfdA3U3vRQHY by dannica@www.minds.com
2023-12-02T15:27:40+00:00
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@SMetzeler Oh, you do think it is? I thought maybe I was just being stoopid. I thought sauna-cold-sauna-cold would make more sense than just randomly chucking skinny little boys in a ducking barrel in the snow. And one of them looked like he was heading back towards the shed afterwards.
(DIR) Post #AcRh0y7V519j3IvHbE by laochspiorad@www.minds.com
2023-12-03T20:35:22+00:00
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Probable not a one answer problem. Layers and layers of issues with many players pushing the pawns. Some of it was Soviet Russia who had infiltrated our institutions during the cold War. Some of it is modern China currently infiltrating. Some of it is left authoritarianism manifesting in social movements like CRT and Feminism. The backlash to all of these being a hard pendulum swing in the opposite direction to an equally destructive extreme. Soem of the problem is also internal. The nature of selfish people thinking only of their immediate benefit instead of the wellbeing of humanity as a whole. The worst part is that with complicated problems we'll need complicated solutions. No one size fits all. A good place to start for everyone on a small scale is to instill good values into our own families.
(DIR) Post #AcRh6XMfT7HVoFfldg by laochspiorad@www.minds.com
2023-12-03T20:30:42+00:00
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Those kids will be tough and determined. It might have some adverse effects on them in the long run if it's too rough but they'll at least push against their obstacles instead of throwing a tantrum like their US counterparts.
(DIR) Post #AcRh7Vd3PK2WiRnhVg by johnny108@www.minds.com
2023-12-02T19:31:32+00:00
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