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(DIR) Post #Ab04w7G626Q8iAC2HQ by RickiTarr@beige.party
2023-10-21T16:01:55Z
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I want to talk about Women's Pain. I've never had "good" periods, not since I was a teenager, but as I aged they got worse and worse. I was basically bedridden three days out of the month, and popping ibuprofen for a while after that too. I even got a prescription for Marijuana, because I knew the ibuprofen wasn't good for my stomach, and I needed something to ease the pain. Despite all of this, I just assumed that this was what it was like for most women. I've always had a lot of anxiety about doctors, but it had ramped up since childhood. My Mom has been in and out of hospitals her whole life, and has had some pretty traumatic experiences. I watched my Dad die in an ER in front of me. But my best friend died suddenly of a preventable illness, and I decided I had to do better, regular Doctor visits was the top of the list, since I had only been going when I absolutely needed to. I casually mentioned to the doctor increased pain during periods and he (like a very good doctor) ordered an ultrasound just in case. This started months and months of tests and doctor visits, 4 ultrasounds, birth control pills that made me sick, an MRI, two different specialists, one of which let me know that I was a mess inside, but I would need surgery to find out exactly how, basically a nightmare. I was so ready to be done with it that when they said surgery I said Yes, immediately, I was so ready to be done. My surgeon was fantastic, but basically said they wouldn't know what the end result was be until they were in there could be just cyst removal, could be a total hysterectomy. In the end, they had to remove my right fallopian tube, right ovary, and some cysts, they also put in a Mirena IUD. I had endometriosis for years, and didn't realize it.I tell this story, because in a way, I was lucky, my doctor believed me about my pain, but there are thousands more stories where Women's pain gets ignored by the medical establishment, they tell them they are just stressed and hysterical. The average endometriosis diagnosis takes about 7 years, because of this. Men get better care than women, period, and if you're a woman of color or LGBTQ, watch out, the stats are even worse for you. Men get treatment and pain management far more often and far quicker than women. And to top it all off, women are just told pain is normal and part of life from the time they are small children, your period will hurt, so will sex, pregnancy, menopause. We are expected to live in and accept pain our whole lives. Women don't have a higher pain tolerance than men, we are just expected to grin and bear it in a way Men simply are not.So, final message, if something feels wrong, don't wait, go to the doctor, don't take no for an answer, if your doctor denies you, get another doctor. You know your body better than any other person, you deserve the best care for it, love yourself!If you have any other advice for women, and dealing with the medical establishment, or just want to share a story, please feel free!
(DIR) Post #Ab04w83j3a7TC5PfdY by Aviva_Gary@noc.social
2023-10-21T16:25:48Z
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@RickiTarr This... the all of this^ Also get you an advocate (preferably old, pale male) who can help you and fight for you because medical care is a bitch and they only listen to certain people (at least some times)...
(DIR) Post #Ab09GSDWDelzJxwOYa by RickiTarr@beige.party
2023-10-21T17:14:15Z
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@Aviva_Gary Taking my husband with me helped, which I kind of hate, but also, use everything in your arsenal.
(DIR) Post #Ab0B3iljZIoSnd07ZQ by autolycos@med-mastodon.com
2023-10-21T17:19:24Z
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@RickiTarr @Aviva_Gary that explains why I suddenly could effect change when I turned 40.
(DIR) Post #Ab0B3jjzxF1DoXCFVI by Aviva_Gary@noc.social
2023-10-21T17:34:22Z
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@autolycos @RickiTarr Yep... it works. Should it? Nope... but do I get better results when my advocate shows up? Yeppers...
(DIR) Post #Ab0BjcjmNqw4Fu4FDU by kittywifclaws@hachyderm.io
2023-10-21T17:41:56Z
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@Aviva_Gary @autolycos @RickiTarr agreeing here wholeheartedly. When I got an IUD replacement my partner came with me due to the pain I knew would be a problem. A woman doctor asked him if I was ok and to get approval for insertion, while I was on the table. Like I wasn’t there at all. He has never let me go alone again in sheer horror.
(DIR) Post #Ab4asieNuFyzkAZog4 by CppGuy@infosec.exchange
2023-10-21T17:50:00Z
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@kittywifclaws My father had to sign the consent form for the Caesarian section that saved my mother's life and mine. He had to rush across the city by public transport, trying to get there before one of us died.I'm glad those days are gone.@Aviva_Gary @autolycos @RickiTarr
(DIR) Post #Ab4asjbwKpcaisRNVQ by Willow@stranger.social
2023-10-22T19:09:05Z
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@CppGuy @kittywifclaws @Aviva_Gary @autolycos @RickiTarr Are they?
(DIR) Post #Ab4askUB5B0TR5oh2u by CppGuy@infosec.exchange
2023-10-23T11:48:02Z
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@Willow @kittywifclaws @Aviva_Gary @autolycos @RickiTarr Yes, in the narrow sense that a woman is no longer considered the property of her husband, and she can sign her own consent forms now.I'm not saying that women always get the same respect that men do. Clearly, they don't.
(DIR) Post #Ab4aslKzunG24uWsNM by Willow@stranger.social
2023-10-23T15:24:30Z
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@CppGuy @kittywifclaws @Aviva_Gary @autolycos @RickiTarr We currently have states trying to get rid of the right to birth control. It isn't just respect; it's rights. It is based on men having control over women as though women are the property of men, that men can decide what to do with their property or that women are the property of the government.
(DIR) Post #Ab4asm3JG2heILGGRc by CppGuy@infosec.exchange
2023-10-23T17:11:01Z
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@Willow @kittywifclaws @Aviva_Gary @autolycos @RickiTarr I was specifically writing about my country, rather than yours. Women's rights vary wildly across the world, as you know. Over here, we don't have any mainstream parties that want to treat women as baby-producing chattels, and I believe that social attitudes are slowly improving, too, as the old guard dies off. In your country, I agree, a lot of what's happening (to women, yes, but not only to women) is seriously alarming.
(DIR) Post #Ab4asmt49c6SsrTb7I by Willow@stranger.social
2023-10-23T17:31:54Z
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@CppGuy @kittywifclaws @Aviva_Gary @autolycos @RickiTarr Didn't realize you are not posting from the US. Strange times, are these. We must all be vigilant.
(DIR) Post #Ab4asndVMxFZCtCgV6 by Aviva_Gary@noc.social
2023-10-23T20:42:32Z
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@Willow @CppGuy @kittywifclaws @autolycos @RickiTarr It explains who their dad was able to make to save them however your point still stands