Post AYKy3UlKCl8OTOGEl6 by Antiquixotic@spinster.xyz
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(DIR) Post #AYKe9BLRJUQMuAaUIi by Antiquixotic@spinster.xyz
2023-08-02T20:58:17.458871Z
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I’m going to get a divorce. Any advice?
(DIR) Post #AYKgIz00GkcDQ4MVf6 by Flick@spinster.xyz
2023-08-02T21:22:28.201630Z
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@Antiquixotic Try to keep it as amicable as possible. Mine went very smoothly, so it is possible.
(DIR) Post #AYKh1gzU4RH2bBREhc by HumongusChungus@poa.st
2023-08-02T21:30:33.333278Z
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@Antiquixotic Dare to say "No" to Drugs and Violence.
(DIR) Post #AYKhT9PuUTi8a0tNBo by Antiquixotic@spinster.xyz
2023-08-02T21:35:31.370465Z
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@Flick It will likely be quite amicable. We’re still living together at the moment. No one knows yet, it just sunk in. I want to be smart on moving forward. He’s a bit in denial about it. Of course he wants to immediately start sleeping with other women as we do a slow separation, which made me want to expedite it all the more. He’ll be kinda angry when he realizes I want to move faster than he does.
(DIR) Post #AYKhu16LW1yAbmYGzg by Flick@spinster.xyz
2023-08-02T21:40:22.531481Z
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@Antiquixotic That’s a lot better than it could be. I’m assuming no kids, do you own or rent?I don’t know about your local set-up, but we (England) pretty much tried to go as quickly as possible and it was still nearly a year before it was finalised. If you’re both ready to move on, and still amicable, why do you think he’ll not want to get it settled as soon as possible?
(DIR) Post #AYKiBRoJSsr8MtQdSy by Antiquixotic@spinster.xyz
2023-08-02T21:43:31.405204Z
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@Flick We have two kids, 10 and 16. He doesn’t want to shake his reputation and is afraid of losing a lot of our life and routines together. Not seeing the kids through daily activities. We’re in a small town and we are renting a home from my dad.
(DIR) Post #AYKidVBUVxgCwMeCWm by Flick@spinster.xyz
2023-08-02T21:48:35.724464Z
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@Antiquixotic Ah, right, that complicates things. A lot harder to have a clean break in that situation. Do you think he’s envisaging a set-up where you have separate bedrooms but otherwise everything else stays the same until the kids are older?
(DIR) Post #AYKjXWlNpazC3P9P96 by Antiquixotic@spinster.xyz
2023-08-02T21:58:43.092948Z
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@Flick Probably, yes. Eventually living next door to each other so our lives will be intertwined. We’ve been together 20 years, we hold each other’s history at this point.
(DIR) Post #AYKo6Vr1bPQlBdj9IO by Fullycaffeinated@spinster.xyz
2023-08-02T22:49:51.621395Z
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@Antiquixotic Talk to a lawyer. Make sure you know where all the money is.
(DIR) Post #AYKqPc5eqCirwCo6qW by Fullycaffeinated@spinster.xyz
2023-08-02T23:15:43.695575Z
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@Antiquixotic @Flick He wants to keep living with you or near you but is in a hurry to sleep with other women? Is he planning on doing that in your shared home? Get a legal separation document asap. Protect your assets. And your kids.
(DIR) Post #AYKqRKyFShNDQDACeW by FemaleIsNotAFeeling@spinster.xyz
2023-08-02T23:14:10.014530Z
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@Antiquixotic ✅
(DIR) Post #AYKqRLf8tDgVZFESVk by tangleofsnakes@spinster.xyz
2023-08-02T23:16:01.904218Z
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@FemaleIsNotAFeeling @Antiquixotic Alternativelyhttps://youtu.be/qHL2Cpb1618
(DIR) Post #AYKrHmEHMOsr1MfPUW by Antiquixotic@spinster.xyz
2023-08-02T23:25:31.010455Z
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@Fullycaffeinated @Flick He travels for work, so he’ll do it then. Basically were divorcing because were sexually mismatched.
(DIR) Post #AYKshfbOiq4px0OJXM by Antiquixotic@spinster.xyz
2023-08-02T23:41:23.667117Z
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@Fullycaffeinated @Flick To clarify: You’d think the cliché, that I’m low libido, he’s high. But it’s we’re both high, but he doesn’t like my needs. A few years ago he told me to go find someone who can satisfy me, but to keep satisfying him. When my libido basically disappeared at such a proposal, he’s now been unhappy for the last couple years and can’t go one without enthusiastic sex anymore. Spoiler alert: male sex drive can be a super big bummer.
(DIR) Post #AYKufEVIhaYNEgVMvo by Fullycaffeinated@spinster.xyz
2023-08-03T00:03:21.682318Z
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@Antiquixotic @Flick Yeah, it's hard to get aroused by someone who isn't interested in meeting your needs but wants his own taken care of. And what kind of husband tells his wife to go cheat then come home and do what he likes? And wants her to be happy about it? Get this over as quickly as possible.
(DIR) Post #AYKvpX2El41dYkNxWi by Antiquixotic@spinster.xyz
2023-08-03T00:16:26.063918Z
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@Fullycaffeinated @Flick Thank you for understanding. It’s nice to not feel crazy. He doesn’t understand why I’m not okay with it all, him being open to sharing me with other men. He’s a real male feminist, you know. Wants me to get my needs meet. Not jealous. He doesn’t understand why it doesn’t sit well with me.
(DIR) Post #AYKwgZ7viAFdOYKvtA by GrumpyOldNurse@spinster.xyz
2023-08-03T00:26:01.319094Z
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@Antiquixotic @Fullycaffeinated @Flick Urgh. My ex was a male feminist. Nearly 30 years later, I still have an unlisted phone number and no mainstream social media.Good luck with the divorce. ❤️
(DIR) Post #AYKwvjMHx8GhTIHfm4 by TheWitchBitch@spinster.xyz
2023-08-03T00:20:13.426513Z
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@Antiquixotic @Fullycaffeinated @Flick wow what a selfish creep jerk. Why would anyone want to go have sex with somebody who actually cares about their sexual pleasure only to come home and have some man wipe his dick on her body?
(DIR) Post #AYKwvjwnlNTXIXMpge by Antiquixotic@spinster.xyz
2023-08-03T00:28:45.337187Z
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@TheWitchBitch @Flick @Fullycaffeinated Yeah. This dimension of our relationship has basically become a cancer. Killing everything else. It’s sad. Sex with him has become a chore, unfortunately, necessary to hold things together. When he decided I’m not enthusiastic enough about it anymore, I realized it’s over now.
(DIR) Post #AYKxL7gadnkcA3t6wa by Fullycaffeinated@spinster.xyz
2023-08-03T00:33:21.102893Z
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@Antiquixotic @Flick Oh, let's not kid ourselves, if he was that okay with you seeking satisfaction elsewhere, he was already doing it or looking for an excuse to.
(DIR) Post #AYKxNpuDCiTBsxYMV6 by TheWitchBitch@spinster.xyz
2023-08-03T00:33:35.631353Z
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@Antiquixotic @Fullycaffeinated @Flick so while he's traveling he'll trick women into having sex with him just to fulfill his own needs and not give them anything? Prince Charming!
(DIR) Post #AYKxnzkNEkMdw9QPM8 by Antiquixotic@spinster.xyz
2023-08-03T00:38:34.116687Z
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@TheWitchBitch @Flick @Fullycaffeinated Yeah. He’s convinced there are women out there who are just interested in fun sexy time. No commitment. This sex-positive feminism has grossly misinformed the world of the normal, healthy sexual behaviors of women, leaving men thinking they have great sexual options and women who embrace the idea left sad and unsatisfied.
(DIR) Post #AYKxs9qJduPsPIBnRA by Antiquixotic@spinster.xyz
2023-08-03T00:39:19.298793Z
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@Fullycaffeinated @Flick Bingo
(DIR) Post #AYKxv4pAl235iA2wHg by Fullycaffeinated@spinster.xyz
2023-08-03T00:39:51.005156Z
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@Antiquixotic @Flick Gee, it's almost like I know the type...
(DIR) Post #AYKy3UlKCl8OTOGEl6 by Antiquixotic@spinster.xyz
2023-08-03T00:41:22.274373Z
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@Fullycaffeinated @Flick Honestly, I always felt if he wanted me sexually satisfied he would enthusiastically meet my needs.
(DIR) Post #AYLLAG5zQoURxS7YIq by LaylaAlexandrovna@spinster.xyz
2023-08-03T04:07:13.208880Z
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@Antiquixotic @TheWitchBitch @Flick @Fullycaffeinated A lot of men seem to think this now! LOL. I guess because women are dressing so much more scantily these days, they must be gagging for it!!?!? Good luck. Hope everything works out but he won't be able to keep his activities from spilling out into the fam and the community - he'll want to share his good fortune! So yeah, lawyer up asap.