Post AXARgh7Hn2sI5zuZV2 by ada@blahaj.zone
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 (DIR) Post #AXABX3hBO9fPxd5LX6 by AIaYYAle4i1uKmKpqy.gme@bofh.social
       2023-06-28T21:58:25.175493Z
       
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       It’s the Dalnet vs. Efnet IRC split happening all over again right here on the #fediverse because too many #fediadmin / #mastoadmin flat out refuse to practice Assume Positive Intent.https://bofh.social/notice/AX5pVKSUlYGFQMT53w
       
 (DIR) Post #AXAM7t76h4IXOjPZD6 by NotMyBub@beekeeping.ninja
       2023-06-28T23:53:08Z
       
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       @gme I like that analogy. I just went with the wind and used UnderNet.
       
 (DIR) Post #AXARgh7Hn2sI5zuZV2 by ada@blahaj.zone
       2023-06-29T00:43:34.772Z
       
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       @gme@bofh.social Unfortunately, that's not exactly a sustainable approach. Many bigots deliberately attack and overwhelm vulnerable folk by "just asking questions". Appearing to have good intent, putting a lot of work on the vulnerable person to explain themselves, only to move the goal posts and find more "questions". It's an explicit technique used by bigots to take advantage of just this approach...
       
 (DIR) Post #AXARghsmwQs8TK8VXc by AIaYYAle4i1uKmKpqy.gme@bofh.social
       2023-06-29T00:59:27.175157Z
       
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       @ada Assume Positive Intent doesn’t mean that you should ignore harmful behaviors or actions. If someone consistently acts in a way that is harmful or disrespectful, it’s important to address that behavior directly, even if you’re assuming positive intent. Assuming positive intent is about giving people the benefit of the doubt, not about allowing harmful behavior to continue unchecked.If someone is being disrespectful, that behavior has to be addressed first, before anything else.
       
 (DIR) Post #AXAVPZupi1dUelBG0e by AIaYYAle4i1uKmKpqy.gme@bofh.social
       2023-06-29T01:41:05.843996Z
       
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       @Ada @ada Thank you for sharing your perspective. I understand and deeply sympathize with your experiences. I can see how my “Assume Positive Intent” message may come off as dismissive of the very real and painful experiences you and others in the trans community have faced.What I meant was to encourage open-mindedness and understanding, not to trivialize or overlook the actions of those who act in bad faith. I understand how that can be misinterpreted and potentially lead to harm. I agree that it’s vital to be cautious and discerning, particularly in discussions about the basic rights of vulnerable people. Your caution, as you’ve said, is earned the hard way, and I respect that.I’m sorry if my post seemed insensitive. I appreciate your feedback and I’ll strive to consider the complexities of these issues more fully in the future.