Post AVzCsZfMSv2M14Rqcq by quilnux@mastodon.fulltermprivacy.com
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(DIR) Post #AVzCsZ4UfzXwAjCPA0 by thor@berserker.town
2023-05-24T15:35:28Z
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there aren't all that many complaints i could launch against the overall structure of society here. the main issue is that despite putting in the best effort i could manage, i'm still single. fuck knows there are worse options than me out there. women pick the most unpalatable people all the time. i do my own thing anyway. their loss.
(DIR) Post #AVzCsZfMSv2M14Rqcq by quilnux@mastodon.fulltermprivacy.com
2023-05-24T16:47:02Z
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@thor As a married man, let me give you some advice. Stay single. Seriously. Single life is way better.
(DIR) Post #AVzCsaXbDGQEjHpAAK by thor@berserker.town
2023-05-24T16:52:20Z
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@quilnux leave it then.
(DIR) Post #AVzCsbDmgQAMq7Yqv2 by thor@berserker.town
2023-05-24T16:52:38Z
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@quilnux in fact, why don't you do so right now?
(DIR) Post #AVzCsbl6gWoyVT9SrI by thor@berserker.town
2023-05-24T16:53:50Z
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@quilnux once you do, and it's been a few years, let's talk.
(DIR) Post #AVzCscN2PVA8P6tkyu by ringo@talk-here.com
2023-05-24T16:59:30.630449Z
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@thor @quilnux at 40, and single: i have time to do the things that im passionate about.helping others learn things, playing some music sometimes, making some art sometimes, doing lots of writing, blogging about the world, sharing scripture and the holy writ with people, going for walks, setting my own bedtime, waking up when i want to, eating whatever i want to, and so on.if i was married: about 90% of that time would be spent attending to the emotional needs of a woman, and while in a lesser percentage, thats fine, most women are not equipped to handle a man that doesn't actually need them, but wants to co-habitate and share and expand two lives collectively to share a greater unified whole.most women are not trained this way by society, and thus the outcome is almost nearly always bad, and years if not more are spent either teaching, or attempting to make it fit, and by that point you realize you picked the wrong person, and said person has been reared with no self awareness, and at worst no moral compass, and desires little in the self improvement category, but only to "find someone to love me as I am." its largely a situation of falling into social normative and conditioning, versus actually learning to be ones own person through trial error and introspection and self work.sucks, but thats largely where we are, in the world - and most men have the same problem.i've been doing self work for almost 20 years now, and i'm just barely passable as an acceptable partner, but i know im leagues ahead of most other men.take all this for what it is. just my opinion and some observations.
(DIR) Post #AVzDPnYVqTZgeN5Swy by quilnux@mastodon.fulltermprivacy.com
2023-05-24T16:59:32Z
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@thor I was single for 30 years. I know what single life is like. What I'm saying is, people have preconceptions about what Marriage is. When they get into Marriage they realize it's not what they expected it to be.It's not that I don't love my wife. But my life was very simple. I do what I wanted anytime and didn't really have to worry about anything. Life is 3 times more complex and much more stressful then it was when I was single.I made a contract with my wife that I would be with her until death. I am a man of my word so I am stuck with this marriage. But believe me. Single life has more pros then married life has.
(DIR) Post #AVzDQ0Vnfs84piuz1k by quilnux@mastodon.fulltermprivacy.com
2023-05-24T17:03:39Z
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@ringo @thor I fully agree with this.
(DIR) Post #AVzKZkW4hRUvnadg4u by lamp@berserker.town
2023-05-24T18:25:50Z
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@quilnux @thor what if u have no life