Post AVbMiAxNwDItzC4lEW by wilbur@nnia.space
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 (DIR) Post #AVbIJetH6mhzleCu4e by comrade_lecter@nnia.space
       2023-05-13T04:07:12Z
       
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       A pretty fascinating double standard in discourse - you can say "some people become cgl littles because they were sexually abused in childhood", and pro queer, pro kink advocates will nod along, but if you say "some people prefer vaginas over penises because they were sexually abused by someone with a penis", that's suddenly transphobic and/or homophobic. I think they understand that linking some attraction to trauma carries and implication that people will get over it once they heal, and that they can be encouraged to try something else. They just haven't yet conceptualized it as bad when it's about a kink. No matter how much they say they're pro kink. With that being said, whatever the source of your attraction is, it's only up to you to analyze and label.
       
 (DIR) Post #AVbMiAxNwDItzC4lEW by wilbur@nnia.space
       2023-05-13T04:56:38Z
       
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       @comrade_lecter it always bothered me when the main discourse of the day was still whether genital preferences were inherently transphobic. the whole point was that genitals aren't equal to gender - so if someone doesn't equate certain genitals to being cisgender or transgender, then calling their preference transphobic always seemed the more harmful of the two. no one should have to justify their kinks or preferences, or any part of their lives, with any amount of past trauma, regardless of what it is they're interested in. i think that's an issue that a lot of these people haven't processed yet; if the preference isn't being actually used to cause harm then they're not entitled to every last detail
       
 (DIR) Post #AVbfy7p3G1zu1kUqzQ by necryssa@nnia.space
       2023-05-13T08:32:24Z
       
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       @comrade_lecter i feel weird cause i was mostly raped by ciswoman so i pretty much developed the opposite preference(well, it was exclusive for a while), what's weird is imagining myself as having both developed an attraction to vaginas later...but i dont think i could remove attractions i have developed due to trauma, only add (and what fits for me doesnt necessarily fit for others, not going to say bad to have a preference or exclusion)