Post APmCbqza1Rf81omFiS by mkb@mastodon.social
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(DIR) Post #APm8dcp7GyVCqaTKxE by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-19T22:28:10Z
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The vile and toxic shit I've been dealing with from outtside of QOTO has put my stress levels to a point I've never expiernced before... It is effectively my health both mental and physical. I am having trouble sleeping, and is very quickly moving from anxiety to depression to a point where it is very dangerous for my health..My blood pressure is so high right now it would be enough to get me admitted to the emergency room alone.The really messed up part is if all these lies and toxicity wind up killing me these people are so horrible they would probably dance on my grave....Frankly im not sure where to go from here. But I do want to say thank you foe the overwhelming support from so many of you, it helps.
(DIR) Post #APm94k0we5miy3w1Gy by obi@qoto.org
2022-11-19T22:33:07Z
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@freemo Choose not to worry about things not in your control. Choose also not to worry about the things that are in your control.I know, easier said than done. Good luck. Have a cigar and a nice drink đ
(DIR) Post #APm97f7FJXN8e1H6iu by HaelusNovak@mastodon.lol
2022-11-19T22:33:18Z
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@freemo i heard there are methods to block and move on. I'm too new to Mastodon to offer an alternative solution, but I always find a weekend without social media to be cleansing.
(DIR) Post #APm9Dpo0U0YRXGDePQ by IAmErik@qoto.org
2022-11-19T22:34:44Z
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@freemo I don't have context for what you're describing, but if your BP is that high, you really should seek medical treatment. And maybe take a break from social media for a day or three. Even if the site struggles or crashes without your attention, we'll be fine. Please take care of yourself!
(DIR) Post #APm9EmX28l2BfhjQe0 by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-19T22:34:54Z
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@obi Alcohol just makes me feel sick.. i tried that yesterday... plus im not surei have liquor hard enough for this.
(DIR) Post #APm9KhlwkU1oeEX1LE by obi@qoto.org
2022-11-19T22:35:58Z
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@freemo ...
(DIR) Post #APm9Kw2lgjnouSVeVM by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-19T22:35:58Z
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@IAmErik It comes at a very bad time, im in a foreign country with no doctor and noa ccess to my blood pressure medication... I have been on a half dose and took my lastt dose today.
(DIR) Post #APm9N2PyxXcDG6N1jk by admitsWrongIfProven@qoto.org
2022-11-19T22:36:25Z
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@freemo Is this chat you talked about still active? Matrix, i think it was called. Just now looked it up, it seems there is a web instance on https://app.element.io/ and it looks like it does not ask for a phone number. If you want to chat to maybe air your feelings in a more dynamic and less permanent environment, let me know.
(DIR) Post #APm9VuVJkigRJv63Pc by mkb@mastodon.social
2022-11-19T22:38:01Z
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@freemo Maybe step away for a bit? We love having you here but if you need a break, you need a break.
(DIR) Post #APm9beFL6xQodSMJvs by warkittens@infosec.exchange
2022-11-19T22:39:03Z
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@freemo I'm so sorry man. It's not your fault. The idea of what qoto is just got engrained and no one is willing to listen. It's bullshit. I am just too tired on my own to deal with it on my end. I've been a frontline worker in the COVID mess since it started and now with the flu. I'm just exhausted all the time. I just want to post. đ All my vibes with you.
(DIR) Post #APm9gijfqcGm0SxyoC by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-19T22:39:57Z
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@warkittens No one should be obligated to deal with this drama or any other, no matter how unfounded it is... your good, your move is a symptom and not the problem.. dont feel a lick of guilt over it please, I wouldnt want that.
(DIR) Post #APm9mpmGZyXRaG5ty4 by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-19T22:41:03Z
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@mkb Unfortunately the drama is already getting to our other moderators as well, they wont be going anywhere but they will likely be disengaging for ttheir own health as well.. so not only is it on my shoulders now, but itt means i have to deal with all the load to help alleviate them.
(DIR) Post #APm9uEoxrmQVHXt2Om by icedquinn@blob.cat
2022-11-19T22:42:24.061022Z
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@freemo @IAmErik aren't you in the place with the most doctors in the world :comfyeyes:
(DIR) Post #APmA0nvmF2hxuXCj1U by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-19T22:43:34Z
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@icedquinn Probably.. and also the place where they wont give you health insurance if you have high blood pressure and where doctors only see patients with health insurance unless you go to some private doctor who charges a fortune and is barely qualified.... its a shit show here, worse than america.@IAmErik
(DIR) Post #APmACdxx7IZuTprpJo by biomedmax@qoto.org
2022-11-19T22:45:45Z
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@freemo I don't exactly know what's happening with you, but please direct all your resources to get on your feet, improve your mental and physical health. Don't be ashamed to ask for help and go to a psychologist. I've been spiraling down recently because my brain couldn't process the events that were unfolding in the world. A psychologist will not make the problems go away, but they will give you the tools to stabilize your head. You are a good person, don't give up.
(DIR) Post #APmAOMpaeKrMoQXuiW by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-19T22:47:49Z
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@biomedmax I have no problem seeing a psychologist... though im not sure its that simple.. I have to deal with highly stressful shitt and have limited opttions to disengage.
(DIR) Post #APmBFQcDJJ1JtfagdM by skobkin@lor.sh
2022-11-19T22:57:28Z
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@freemoDo not waste your time on people who are talking about compassion, but when it is needed from them just laugh in your face making comfy excuses why you doesn't deserve it.You're making much more for this world and this network than they.
(DIR) Post #APmBVTHj9WqQoGesLI by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-19T23:00:18Z
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@skobkin thank you
(DIR) Post #APmBbyssa31CYC8jhY by sgryphon@qoto.org
2022-11-19T23:01:31Z
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@freemo Well, you are doing great work supporting open source and the fediverse by running Qoto. Hope the other stuff works itself out.
(DIR) Post #APmBhh33o3VEyHcria by nullifidian@qoto.org
2022-11-19T23:02:33Z
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@freemo Iâd like to say âthank youâ for being a bastion of reason in what seems to be a ceaseless flood of toxic irrationality and egotism.
(DIR) Post #APmBqLUDLJhmhiS7SS by RustyStriker@qoto.org
2022-11-19T23:04:07Z
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@freemoOver the years i learned not to care what a lot of people think of me(sadly, it doesnt always work). Clearly all of this drama is affecting you and sadly i cant offer anything more then yet another online friend to talk to, but i hope the mastodon directory will be resolved and if people want to block QOTO, their bloody loss. Hope you sleep well, and maybe try talking a stroll or something
(DIR) Post #APmBrBSw5Ja1uoFpgW by khird@qoto.org
2022-11-19T23:04:16Z
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@freemo Hey man I'm going to have a lot of bandwidth to deal with routine mod stuff the next few days. If you need me to focus on anything in particular just point me in the right direction. Hope you start feeling a bit more upbeat and feel free to reach out anytime!
(DIR) Post #APmBtx8fo9ZULm64yu by mkb@mastodon.social
2022-11-19T23:04:45Z
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@freemo Ooof, that sucks. I donât know if it is helpful, but sometimes when Reddit toxicity has a long flare-up I spend less time evaluating and start handing out bans more aggressively. Itâs mostly a time/sanity preserving me but it actually seems to result in drama dying down not long after I start. (Itâs hard to know whatâs actually causal, of course.)Anyway, I still encourage you to set what boundaries you can for your own well-being.
(DIR) Post #APmC0ESIL3P5nHGk4W by Gaythia@qoto.org
2022-11-19T23:05:54Z
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@freemo Sorry to hear that. I saw a toot go by on federated, that said that some moderator on the social instance (I think) was being stressed out dealing with people who filed complaints about posts rather than just blocking them. What you are experiencing might be some other instances overreaction to their own stressors. I hope that you can take some deep calming breaths and wait until the dust settles. Us new happy people will remain and look forward to time to get acquainted with the elders here.
(DIR) Post #APmC1VhFinJDYXsIr2 by imdef@qoto.org
2022-11-19T23:06:09Z
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@freemo I don't know anything about the context here so I just want to say thanks for running QOTO. No shame in needing a break sometimes.
(DIR) Post #APmCMsm17LPbD1IJjk by gpowerf@qoto.org
2022-11-19T23:10:00Z
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@freemo that sounds really horrible. Iâm really sorry this is happening to you and thank you for all the effort. Please look after your mental health đ
(DIR) Post #APmCY7ERhXhfEjwqg4 by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-19T23:12:01Z
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@gpowerf thank you
(DIR) Post #APmCbqza1Rf81omFiS by mkb@mastodon.social
2022-11-19T23:08:39Z
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@freemo Spitballing a few ideasâŠMaybe work out a rotation with other mods? Work with other to recruit more? Let problems go for a bit? Cap your hours? Stop federating for a while? Put the whole instance on timeout?Sorry if I should just be listening and not jumping to solutions.
(DIR) Post #APmCbra5pgrxr3rPd2 by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-19T23:12:40Z
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@mkb yea ill talk to them...
(DIR) Post #APmCgwbOam4wsJtOtM by mkb@mastodon.social
2022-11-19T23:13:26Z
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@freemo đ
(DIR) Post #APmCiD6Gjr7YKew9qK by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-19T23:13:49Z
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@Gaythia that was stux yea...
(DIR) Post #APmCmzqFSbmIeyj3bc by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-19T23:14:41Z
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@khird anything you can do to take the stress of my shoulders can help... im reaching a break down point with this drama...Also i am editing our ToC ill get your input soon but im certain youll like it.
(DIR) Post #APmCpARn05Qa8DJviy by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-19T23:15:07Z
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@RustyStriker i dont care what people think of me, so much as I care about the consequences to me and my users.
(DIR) Post #APmCqXZAWupu7iQWWm by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-19T23:15:20Z
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@nullifidian thanks for that.
(DIR) Post #APmCuwwg72qxzgWeZc by Zest@nnia.space
2022-11-19T23:14:52Z
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@freemo I hope it gets better for you.My people know what it's like. I haven't been harassed super badly but plenty of friends have.
(DIR) Post #APmCuxPOOHp1QjxaKW by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-19T23:16:08Z
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@Zest Thank you.
(DIR) Post #APmD2qqafZ8JOhRi76 by aebrockwell@qoto.org
2022-11-19T23:17:35Z
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@freemo I've only been here a few days but very much appreciate the value of the work you are doing. Be sure to look after yourself as well however you can.
(DIR) Post #APmDYQTwEMQGtRuGe0 by khird@qoto.org
2022-11-19T23:23:17Z
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@freemo I plan to take care of most of the outstanding reports, and I should have time to catch up on the spammer deletion (interestingly, as Twitter migrants have increased, spammers have decreased in both relative and absolute terms). I don't really know what other loads you're shouldering at the moment but you might have better ideas than I for how to help - if there's a specific way I can, please don't hesitate to let me know.I look forward to seeing your proposed changes but I think you already have done quite a good job on the instance policies!
(DIR) Post #APmDdqkXzjLzoGGHBI by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-19T23:24:15Z
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@khird I think thats most of what matters... my see my recent posts on my timeline to get a sense of what im dealing witth... im cracking man.
(DIR) Post #APmDouqz4q6zisY6SG by raucao@kosmos.social
2022-11-19T23:26:16Z
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@skobkin @freemo Well said! Ironically, the most aggressive and toxic people are often the same ones that claim the moral high ground at every turn.Or, as Stephen Batchelor put it: "The greatest threat to compassion is the temptation to succumb to fantasies of moral superiority."
(DIR) Post #APmEHvuOEYlpOOyj1k by khird@qoto.org
2022-11-19T23:31:32Z
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@freemo Take it easy for a few days then my man! You have safe hands in Trinsec (and in me too, I shall endeavour to prove) to leave the site in for a bit while you catch your breath, so to speak.If you have the opportunity for a road trip, there's the [BahĂĄ'Ă Gardens](https://ganbahai.org.il/) in the north of the country which are quite peaceful and might be a help to your frame of mind. Please do take care of yourself.
(DIR) Post #APmEOvWI4rMuDL2bia by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-19T23:32:45Z
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@khird thanks I appreciate it... sadly trinsec is a bit overwhelmed by the drama lately too so im not sure how active he will be for the next day or two.. we will see how he feels tomorrow.
(DIR) Post #APmFisdkarNR1qboGW by smartgeekette@qoto.org
2022-11-19T23:47:35Z
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@freemo The world is so often unkind. I hope you find peace and joy somehow.
(DIR) Post #APmFlgIUwLlTcK0IIS by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-19T23:48:06Z
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@smartgeekette I appreciate this.
(DIR) Post #APmG8mkh6jBkISD23c by stux@mstdn.social
2022-11-19T23:52:13Z
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@freemo I am also here for you mate! â€ïž :cat_hug_triangle: Don't let it drive you crazy! There are always people who want to decide the rules for you on the instance you host.. In the past I broke often for this but nowadays I stand behind my rules/vision I have set for this community and if people don't like it or agree they can always move to another instance! đȘ I refuse to pay blood sweat and tears to let someone else dictate how I should run my server
(DIR) Post #APmGK8Bxjdi7ybNEf2 by stux@mstdn.social
2022-11-19T23:54:05Z
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@freemo People call me a little dictator on Twitter but hey... :rickhey: Fuck them! It's sooo very easy for trolls to bitch about anything without offering a solution or alternative Kinda the lost part of hoomanity, always complaining and bitchigng about everything without any positive feed into the mix..
(DIR) Post #APmGMZDGF7TGMM8u9I by RustyStriker@qoto.org
2022-11-19T23:54:46Z
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@freemoAll i can say here is, QOTO SHALL PREVAIL(And if this instance going doing, it wont, that will be a sad day to the fediverse)
(DIR) Post #APmGgBCbDvT3gRBXwO by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-19T23:58:17Z
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@stux its gone well beyond that sadly.. people are mass blocking us and attacking me with lies that are propagating (thus why i ask you to consider speaking out).
(DIR) Post #APmH710PF6QxsUHIxM by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-20T00:03:08Z
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@stux I appreciate these words :)
(DIR) Post #APmH7Zg4KhxjPY23cG by Hyolobrika@gleasonator.com
2022-11-20T00:03:16.464121Z
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@freemo @freemo Repeated exposure to the fear stimulus. Worked for me.
(DIR) Post #APmHh9iUKgfFJs88em by caranmegil@mastodon.social
2022-11-20T00:09:34Z
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@freemo your house, your rules!
(DIR) Post #APmIFAmItNqaSR8SuG by iankenway@qoto.org
2022-11-20T00:15:49Z
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@freemo Keep cool. You have my support and many others who appreciate all your hard work.
(DIR) Post #APmIObQDCWlxhKIaBs by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-20T00:17:31Z
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@iankenway thank you
(DIR) Post #APmIgxTlvlnfJuiUjY by BE@qoto.org
2022-11-20T00:20:50Z
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@freemo I haven't been here long enough to know whether I should nod in agreement with you or throw out my ideas, but it seems like everyone here is quite happy to have your back. As someone who went cold turkey years back on trying to moderate anything online I know where you're coming from and the solutions aren't always obvious, but please speak up if there's anything that can be done.
(DIR) Post #APmIt3cutskfrSlO76 by ChemBob@qoto.org
2022-11-20T00:22:57Z
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@freemo take care of yourself. Donât let the jerks get to you. I havenât been on in a day or two, must have missed something really aggravating.
(DIR) Post #APmIusJJwbDfLPSpl2 by TheQueensMindset@mstdn.social
2022-11-20T00:22:53Z
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@freemo sounds super stressful. I hope you donât mind me leaving some advice here. The people we are mingling most with have a huge effect on our mental and physical well-being. If you can distance yourself from them itâs the best you can do. A lot of us are sleep-deprived and sleep deprivation has a massive influence on our physical and mental health. There are books out there I highly recommend. âStolen Focusâ, âWhy We Sleepâ and I highly recommend the Body Scan mediation by Jon Kabat-Zinn.
(DIR) Post #APmJ46gTsBcMWshPGq by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-20T00:24:58Z
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@TheQueensMindset All good advice.. though in my case unfortunately as an admin, i cantt distance myself from accusations against me and the server as easily as I'd like.. it has consequences.
(DIR) Post #APmJAQgMQwRQI1eqVU by Joel@qoto.org
2022-11-20T00:26:05Z
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@freemo I haven't been here long, but already I am in your debt. Thanks in no small part to you, QOTO is very likely more resilient than you think. Please remember to take care of yourself.
(DIR) Post #APmJDAj4DPcJfeEPKK by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-20T00:26:38Z
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@Joel Thank you, much appreciated.
(DIR) Post #APmJGzq0dezX3oInYG by TheQueensMindset@mstdn.social
2022-11-20T00:27:19Z
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@freemo Iâm so sorry to hear that. Whatever the worst that can happen? Itâs horrible when people try to accuse us of things we havenât done.
(DIR) Post #APmJOGn60RdZfNPL7o by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-20T00:28:38Z
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@TheQueensMindset the worst that can happen is a server thats been up for over half a decade dies....
(DIR) Post #APmJfykDqBkcuQVY5Q by TheQueensMindset@mstdn.social
2022-11-20T00:31:51Z
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@freemo at the end your health and peace is important and itâs brilliant to see that in the comment section are fantastic people that want to help you and take the pressure a bit from you. When people throw đ© at us we can turn it into fertilizer and Iâm pretty sure youâve done that many times. I hope you can sort out your BP medication.
(DIR) Post #APmN5lmiwkxk6hfSWe by STORM@qoto.org
2022-11-20T01:10:09Z
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@freemo Please take a break if you need to man, you shouldn't allow hateful people to kill you. Your health comes before everything !
(DIR) Post #APmNFDlaHUF3Urdp6e by Crookhorne@mstdn.social
2022-11-20T01:11:47Z
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@stux @freemo no, real dictator there is Muks. Maybe the guy spotted me when I proposed to give him 3 year in Ukrainian jail (art 110 pt.1 of Criminal Code, talks on violation of integrity) and I got suspended. Or maybe that was Mark Hertling, loves to send reports
(DIR) Post #APmNwTuA9ehY08HXpg by APlT49tKkkjIrOPkoK.SSumma@anthro.cc
2022-11-20T01:09:48.019Z
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@freemo@qoto.org Very histrionic! He died as he lived; reading words on a computer screen đ
(DIR) Post #APmO0Arws3zw7a0Vfs by drjuliebug@qoto.org
2022-11-20T01:20:20Z
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@freemo Iâm new here, and am sorry to hear youâve been subjected to that stuff. Thanks for being a moderator!
(DIR) Post #APmO3ao2tUqJQroO1Y by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-20T01:20:56Z
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@drjuliebug its my pleasure to help you guys out.
(DIR) Post #APmPpVsyaj8m1fX3Mu by Rmond@qoto.org
2022-11-20T01:40:49Z
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@freemo Thank you for providing this oasis. "You never change things by fighting the existing reality. To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete.R. Buckminster Fuller"This is exactly what you're doing with qoto; I believe you're on the right track.
(DIR) Post #APmPyVf6nBbLwFKrDs by ZingerLearns@qoto.org
2022-11-20T01:42:29Z
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@freemo appreciate you, your work, and continuing efforts. Sorry these are taking a toll on you :(
(DIR) Post #APmQ2UOJSXvh9gNQps by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-20T01:43:09Z
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@ZingerLearns I appreciate that, thank you.
(DIR) Post #APmQ4LzrdlIXhRpXpg by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-20T01:43:30Z
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@Rmond I appreciate that, thank you.
(DIR) Post #APmSU70cBfsoeYakaG by agterrane@qoto.org
2022-11-20T02:10:35Z
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@freemo The problem is them, not you. I hope that you can realize they're projecting their own dealings on you. (After the years of Trump toxicity, we've discovered that what they say we do is in fact what they do/ want to do). Just because someone claims to be part of a minority doesn't mean they're automatically nice or reasonable. All humans are on a spectrum of nice to not nice. I think it's the ultimate '-ism' to claim all people of a certain group are the same. Mobs can develop on any end of the political spectrum.Best wishes to you. If you can take some time for yourself, like take a walk or garden of do your fave hobby-- go and have fun.
(DIR) Post #APmWaMZjcl4gUBFsHI by AlanOutback@qoto.org
2022-11-20T02:56:32Z
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@freemo My bottom line: Your server your rules => thumbs up from here.That I liked the rule and goals, is why I chose this server."While we allow questions and conversation regarding these topics in general, doing so in bad faith will result in immediate expulsion."In another (less charged) context:Kathryn Hayhoe, has useful scale of people she suggests people need to talk to.There are some percentage of them (dismissives) that in the end we wont need to persuade in order to achieve powerful strong action on climate change.As small qualified counterpoint:(I can make the case to, (at times, to some extent,) engage with even the dismissives, so as to demonstrate to the others what the dismissives really are, but 'legitimising' the concern 'OMG it gets dark at night' and its 'the sun stupid'. Giving that oxygen can backfire.)I also commend to you, the idea of conceptually validating the rules, in contexts like the above.Translating to the QOTO context:I don't see QOTO as being literally QOTO. But more accurately,QOTO about STEM (or the things that interest STEM people).Hence while unlike Kathryn QOTO doesn't have a clear direction called progress. Promoting good faith discussion, stopping bad faith actors burning it down, is less tangible but is the objective. For me: if someone really has negative value to learning of themselves and others... then they made mistake and don't belong on QOTO.anything, _you_ are ever going to agree to 'expel', wont be interesting to me. Even in a scatological sense. I wont as a result be missing anyone I get value from talking to or reading. and noting I have indeed talked to Flat earthers, and the thing I was trying to teach myself, is just what sort of mind and internal belief and analysis system can genuinely believe that. Or is it always, like the 'Ban Dihydrogen Monoxide' group I was a very early member of.But yes discussing "banning di hydrogen monoxide", while seemingly failing "has negative value to learning of themselves and others..." is on the level of "a cautionary tale" funny. But if there was enough of it, it would also be a problemHence I like, not so much rules, as people making decisions about what benefits QOTO. And in the end all conduct prejudicial to the good order and discipline of QOTO can go. And yes for good people to make good decisions, having guidleines is beneficial, as is discussion of them (hence this post)ta. && Pls Look after yourself. They (the dismissives), are not worth your BP.
(DIR) Post #APmh50HRZ7lVrEwsMa by WhatYouMcCallit@qoto.org
2022-11-20T04:54:08Z
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@freemo not my call to make but my opinion is the more you give in to bullies the more they bully. I would absolutely support the change and even agree with it had you been doing it from your own free will. Sorry I can't really sugar coat it, wish I had an easier way to put it. As far as I am concerned they're a bunch of hypocrites with rules about treating people nicely all while bullying others to conform to their rules. If you need to kick me out for my words I won't hold it against you in any way.
(DIR) Post #APmhrvsshOrqPen6Iq by WhatYouMcCallit@qoto.org
2022-11-20T05:02:58Z
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@freemo if you haven't tried it yet for the BP, peppermint tea works wonders and a stress ball or squeeze a towel if you don't have a stress ball.
(DIR) Post #APmk0lRh4uo6YLPgMy by peterdrake@qoto.org
2022-11-20T05:26:58Z
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@freemo Hang in there. It will get better. When a ton of new people show up, there's going to be some growing pains, some miscommunication, and a few genuinely bad actors.
(DIR) Post #APmk5UEMVjEqbqQflg by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-20T05:27:48Z
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@peterdrake Well we are off joinmastodon with no indiciation that will change... so QOTO is dead at this point, no new people to be expected.
(DIR) Post #APmkieNAjixdMHDzai by peterdrake@qoto.org
2022-11-20T05:34:55Z
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@freemo Grrf. It doesn't seem very decentralized if that one list is so crucial.I know far less than you about how these things work, but perhaps some things will change over the next week.
(DIR) Post #APmknjJ9oZuu72ljZA by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-20T05:35:47Z
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@peterdrake Its pretty much our source of 99% of new users.. so effectively it means growth for our server has come to an end.
(DIR) Post #APmmpSXXKS4UawRmhE by lucifargundam@qoto.org
2022-11-20T05:58:33Z
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@freemo @peterdrake Qoto will still function and the ability to grow will still be there - the mainstream way new Fedi users have found Qoto is down. So, it's still decentralized, Qoto just lost it's primary advertisement (effectively, not literally) spot.
(DIR) Post #APn1kAYaGEa2gZsA0O by bloc@qoto.org
2022-11-20T08:45:39Z
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@freemoIt's sad that people like this will always be around, no matter the platform. Try to not take this to seriously and please be assured that you have created a wonderful community with #qoto. Hope you stay well!
(DIR) Post #APnUgWTXitLqB580WG by DrK@qoto.org
2022-11-20T14:09:57Z
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@freemo hey! Not sure whatâs been going on, but hope youâre ok. Really appreciate everything you do here! Sending lots of positivity your way, make sure you look after yourself! Folly is offering a hug đ¶
(DIR) Post #APnWNLximq5DygENLU by freemo@qoto.org
2022-11-20T14:28:52Z
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@DrK Thanks, really appreciate it :) Give the pupper some cuddles for me!
(DIR) Post #APqsIbTCRnry12nufw by radehi@qoto.org
2022-11-22T05:18:40Z
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@freemo That really sucks. đ„ I hope you can find a refuge from the stress.