Post AOVedDsaW5YCY8YuSe by Kalarchy@nnia.space
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(DIR) Post #AOVedDsaW5YCY8YuSe by Kalarchy@nnia.space
2022-10-13T01:40:26Z
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One thing that really annoys me is the assumption all gays/bi’s want to reclaim the word “fag/faggot”. Like no offence to people who like using that word but it’s incredibly offensive to a lot of people, and it’s always really fucking jarring to go on TikTok/instagram and see people just…with it in their bio?
(DIR) Post #AOVedF8Zq7w0S13C1Q by comrade_lecter@nnia.space
2022-10-13T01:44:29Z
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@Kalarchy you'll be disappointed to see my Tumblr url.
(DIR) Post #AOVedPniC2mRWUNBWi by Kalarchy@nnia.space
2022-10-13T01:41:38Z
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Also I really cannot be asked to get into that whole debate but *why* are most of that demographic femme presenting (it’s the she/they crowd)?? Idk I just feel like it’s a bit disingenuous to take a slur used against gay men and gay man majorly and then “reclaim it” if you aren’t part of that demographic
(DIR) Post #AOWRRTBSgWKOIJPoXI by Kalarchy@nnia.space
2022-10-13T07:52:41Z
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@PlusMakesPosts obviously femme gay men are a thing dude, I’m talking about people who are femme presenting (as in afabs presenting as cis females). You can’t reclaim something if you’ve never been called it, or if it isn’t used to target your demographic.
(DIR) Post #AOWRRTXnLUBzPZreLY by comrade_lecter@nnia.space
2022-10-13T10:51:24Z
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@Kalarchy @PlusMakesPosts that's not what "femme presenting" means. Femme presenting means presenting as a femme, the feminine end of the femme-butch scale. It doesn't mean looking like a cis woman while being an afab.Also, you do not know about why someone looks a certain way and what their life situation is, and whether they possibly can change anything at all.
(DIR) Post #AOWm8vTvLeZfas39xA by Kalarchy@nnia.space
2022-10-13T14:43:20Z
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@comrade_lecter @PlusMakesPosts I didn’t want to use the phrase “cis woman” for that exact reason. Femme presenting was just my way of discussing that presentation as a conscious choice, as opposed to simply “being a woman”. IMO, it’s a more accessible and less assumption based phrase than “feminine/female” - your definition of a word is not the only one around. Don’t condescend me about the inaccessibility of transition. I’ve been identifying as trans for 6 years, and am still mostly forced to present feminine - regardless, I am not a cis woman *which is why I made the distinction in the first place between gender and presentation* Stop looking for issues where there aren’t any, and maybe read my actual original point about people commodifying a word that doesn’t belong to them
(DIR) Post #AOWsvhX8ayB6FUC5su by comrade_lecter@nnia.space
2022-10-13T15:59:25Z
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@Kalarchy @PlusMakesPosts this matters to me, because I'm presenting femme/feminine, but I don't look like a cis woman - and I've been called the Russian version of "faggot" irl. In addition to that, I started using this word as a part of my identity way before I started passing as male, and I don't really like the idea that it doesn't "belong" to me, because where do you draw the line?
(DIR) Post #AOWu72PZPasA8kcks4 by Kalarchy@nnia.space
2022-10-13T16:12:40Z
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@comrade_lecter @PlusMakesPosts I draw the line at cisgender women who present as women calling themselves fags. It’s not that complicated. I was discussing a specific phenomenon, so you might not have come across the type of people I’m talking about. It has nothing to do with passing, but with identity. But I also wanted to acknowledge that non-feminine presenting cis women can also have history with the word, or may have been called it in the past.
(DIR) Post #AOWuSTlUuH553c6X3o by comrade_lecter@nnia.space
2022-10-13T16:16:32Z
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@Kalarchy @PlusMakesPosts your post was about "gays/bis", which, I give that to you, is gender neutral, and then you switched to talking about "she/theys", which means "not cisgender" in 99% cases.Regardless of who you had on your mind, your post is applicable to a wide group of people, and largely to myself.
(DIR) Post #AOX0Dhy2Q74AUCJHWK by Kalarchy@nnia.space
2022-10-13T17:21:06Z
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@comrade_lecter @PlusMakesPosts I honestly think you’re taking this far too personally. I’m not going to keep repeating the demographic I’m discussing. Just because something incrementally discusses a demographic you happen to be a part of (which again, is a reach), doesn’t mean I’m discussing you. The post was about a specific demographic of majorly cisgender women attempting to reclaim the f slur online and how that makes me personally uncomfortable. Get over yourself.
(DIR) Post #AOX0q7qGfQC3jszi76 by comrade_lecter@nnia.space
2022-10-13T17:28:02Z
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@Kalarchy @PlusMakesPosts and I am telling you that these people are highly likely not cisgender women.
(DIR) Post #AOX82LYoBgsfRLbPu4 by Kalarchy@nnia.space
2022-10-13T18:48:41Z
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@comrade_lecter @PlusMakesPosts *even* if I were to give you the benefit of the doubt and assume a demographic that base their identity on a “pronouns don’t equal gender” and a non conformative view of femininity (which is valid, but does not make these self identified afab women trans), are secretly transgender people (which is what you’re saying, and goes against the explicit self identification of quite a few people), fag is a slur used against majorly masculine presenting people, specifically gay and bisexual men (cis or trans). They cannot reclaim the word, as they are not part of that demographic? Why is that so difficult to comprehend??
(DIR) Post #AOeFDCUtXCOo7ES1ku by buttonchovi@nnia.space
2022-10-17T05:12:04Z
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@comrade_lecter @Kalarchy 😭😭😭 lmaooo