Post AApgbHDAoaIGM9eMPA by thor@pl.thj.no
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(DIR) Post #AApfSaQ3vnIlMsyGTw by thor@pl.thj.no
2021-08-29T23:18:33.793445Z
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criteria for friendship when you’re a young kid:has pulsecriteria when you’re an adult:non-punchable faceeasy to converse with overlapping interests similar viewpoints socioeconomic clasmatching schedulesdoesn’t make you horny doesn’t make you sad or angry etc etc efc the older you get, the choosier you are about who you spend your time with, and the less shit you will take before you cut people off because they’re toxic.now, once this filtering has been performed, having friends as an adult at all is an accomplishment… 💀
(DIR) Post #AApfxcVaDKvOpALqCm by Senpai-kun@poa.st
2021-08-29T23:24:14.158302Z
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@thor That's only about when you're in your 20s. Once you pass 30, "friend" overlaps with "acquaintance" much more easily.
(DIR) Post #AApg1vGwOOrKB4YPx2 by thor@pl.thj.no
2021-08-29T23:24:58.262842Z
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@Senpai-kun i’m 37 though
(DIR) Post #AApg6oA0GILZZIdehk by Senpai-kun@poa.st
2021-08-29T23:25:53.819522Z
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@thor The catch is you have to not be autistic.It also helps to live in an actual society where you're not surrounded by niggers.
(DIR) Post #AApg86qeGZzfojCqHY by thor@pl.thj.no
2021-08-29T23:26:06.483608Z
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@Senpai-kun i barely had any friends in my 20s and my life situation is similar to a person in his 20s
(DIR) Post #AApgEJbNlFXh6s1aRE by icedquinn@blob.cat
2021-08-29T23:27:13.796711Z
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@Senpai-kun @thor > doesn't make you hornyweird flex :blobcathuh:
(DIR) Post #AApgVtDIbxwATp8kEK by thor@pl.thj.no
2021-08-29T23:30:24.433992Z
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@icedquinn @Senpai-kun it’s called “you can’t be friends with women”
(DIR) Post #AApgXhJBqRCK8Wl1xg by thor@pl.thj.no
2021-08-29T23:30:42.828375Z
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@icedquinn @Senpai-kun some people can do this, others cannot
(DIR) Post #AApgbHDAoaIGM9eMPA by thor@pl.thj.no
2021-08-29T23:31:22.201115Z
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@Senpai-kun @icedquinn women seem to do the friendzone thing but i think unless she’s kinda ugly, men don’t do it
(DIR) Post #AApgdbXiC8HhzYMnPU by thor@pl.thj.no
2021-08-29T23:31:46.014673Z
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@Senpai-kun @icedquinn in any case of your friend makes you horny, are they really just a friend anymore
(DIR) Post #AApghub9HygGFX1oKu by thor@pl.thj.no
2021-08-29T23:32:28.956977Z
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@icedquinn @Senpai-kun if a friend makes you horny, are you really just friends?
(DIR) Post #AApgop8xy22dMM8rT6 by nosleep@neckbeard.xyz
2021-08-29T23:33:49.939981Z
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@thor @icedquinn @Senpai-kun no, you're friends with benefits
(DIR) Post #AApgrXkL6dl8Guv52u by thor@pl.thj.no
2021-08-29T23:34:17.447238Z
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@icedquinn @Senpai-kun at that point you’re either in an unrequited love/horny kind of situation where one person wants it to develop further, or you’re having an affair, at which point you’re not “friends” as such are you.
(DIR) Post #AAph0LlyzbUtk7t6PY by thor@pl.thj.no
2021-08-29T23:35:54.533403Z
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@nosleep @Senpai-kun @icedquinn not if you don’t get said benefits. i’m not sure friends with benefits is even sustainable over time.
(DIR) Post #AAph0p3i6luQZVPAZM by Senpai-kun@poa.st
2021-08-29T23:36:01.095148Z
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@thor @icedquinn Past a certain age you should be married and therefore able to socialize with someone without wanting to put your dick in them.
(DIR) Post #AAph6bjEaBqExxaNzk by nosleep@neckbeard.xyz
2021-08-29T23:37:03.509911Z
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@thor @icedquinn @Senpai-kun that's true. ive never had a friend like that before, so i can't speak from experience here. it's always been either-or for me
(DIR) Post #AAphILnJeRfh1R5vQe by thor@pl.thj.no
2021-08-29T23:39:08.481805Z
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@nosleep @Senpai-kun @icedquinn staying friends with the opposite sex is a balancing act already
(DIR) Post #AAphSRwVeAz2zED6fY by nosleep@neckbeard.xyz
2021-08-29T23:40:59.799133Z
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@thor @icedquinn @Senpai-kun yeah that's for certain. being gay helps, they just drop the games
(DIR) Post #AAphV4qnxWGwEjnLuK by thor@pl.thj.no
2021-08-29T23:41:27.911733Z
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@nosleep @Senpai-kun @icedquinn if you’re also having sex with them, you’re really starting to blur the boundaries.
(DIR) Post #AAplex0WNHpmcjIrk8 by goddamn@mastodon.social
2021-08-30T00:24:56Z
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@thor “doesn’t make you horny”HOLD UP, let’s not get carried away now
(DIR) Post #AAplexTwbtN05z4MbY by thor@pl.thj.no
2021-08-30T00:28:01.509323Z
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@goddamn well, i just came to the conclusion that, in case of a 30+ person, what i’m describing is essentially a good romantic match, and that people well into adulthood don’t really have friends they are close with in that way anymore, because their significant other fills that space.
(DIR) Post #AAplnwR1s8zvSEzOtM by thor@pl.thj.no
2021-08-30T00:29:41.771371Z
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@goddamn and that the reason i don’t “have any friends” is because i’m looking to fill the “i’m single” spot
(DIR) Post #AApluVRoboSVmXUH7g by thor@pl.thj.no
2021-08-30T00:30:52.481397Z
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@goddamn the sort of thing i would want to do with said hypothetical friends also look suspiciously similar to what many dating profiles ask for, such as travel or eating out.
(DIR) Post #AAplwirlgpcbyhgR60 by thor@pl.thj.no
2021-08-30T00:31:14.995793Z
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@goddamn and when you’re younger you often do those things with friends.
(DIR) Post #AAplxetBxhDtvunOMq by goddamn@mastodon.social
2021-08-30T00:29:34Z
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@thor I get you. As someone who isn’t/has never been married, I’m beginning to question whether or not having a long-term SO is even possible these days. Or I’m just jaded and bitter.
(DIR) Post #AApm7PIamUQYTbKCoa by goddamn@mastodon.social
2021-08-30T00:32:51Z
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@thor @thor I think that’s natural though. I think we all want our SO to be our best friend, so there’s a kind of fine line between friendship and having “your person.”That’s why I just have my bands and my dog.
(DIR) Post #AApmOny0Js57uCzV1k by thor@pl.thj.no
2021-08-30T00:36:21.328041Z
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@goddamn and i think what i’m saying is that you’d not typically see two 30+ adults of the same sex be “best friends” like that. that spot would typically belong to whoever your SO is, or no one.
(DIR) Post #AApmPBb8SY37CETZiK by goddamn@mastodon.social
2021-08-30T00:34:04Z
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@thor or rather, the reason I just have my bands and my dog is because finding someone compatible with someone like me, who is clearly neurotic, can be difficult.
(DIR) Post #AApmqyIxTcHm4oDt5s by thor@pl.thj.no
2021-08-30T00:41:25.719137Z
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@goddamn and i never had a big circle of friends. not counting relatives, i had one friend i was very close to. perhaps not so incidentally, neither of us had partners at the time. me because i was unpopular. him because he was gay but didn’t know it yet.
(DIR) Post #AApmyExxvcTBmIrzUG by thor@pl.thj.no
2021-08-30T00:42:45.808383Z
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@goddamn had either of us been busy with girls all the time, i doubt we would’ve spent as much time together.
(DIR) Post #AApn78Yt6qOmWNNl2G by thor@pl.thj.no
2021-08-30T00:44:19.685222Z
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@goddamn maybe to some extent still, because i suspect teenage relationships are probably shallower than adult ones (i don’t know since in ever dated anyone as a teenager, but that’s my general impression)
(DIR) Post #AApnA6vFf1cKJ1GDRI by thor@pl.thj.no
2021-08-30T00:44:54.278958Z
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@goddamn maybe to some extent still, because i suspect teenage relationships are probably shallower than adult ones (i don’t know since in ever dated anyone as a teenager, but that’s my general impression)