Post A8UVfvsLELthb32bi4 by hanafiyyah@spinster.xyz
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 (DIR) Post #A8USEtNU6pFiAX1Ssq by RockTheBoat@spinster.xyz
       2021-06-20T21:43:03.056039Z
       
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       This is so sad! I’m suspecting that many FTM TIFs were forced to play with “girl” toys and wear dresses and hyper feminine clothing. It wasn’t like this when I grew up. I mean girls clothing hadn’t entered that hyper feminine stage yet. (By hyper feminine I mean glitter and sequins and hot pink etc instead of being more neutral. I mean some of my dresses as a kid, while of course being a feminine style, we’re made of more neutral fabrics. I only had to hate the style ie it’s a dress rather than hating the super feminine fabric and colors as well!) I got to play with “boy” toys that my parents bought me. I had rough and tumble boy friends and we’d go out and get dirty. I think the realities of (at least) part of the 80’s and 90’s would shock many of these kids. I have a feeling they don’t know how things used to be when society wasn’t pushing the boy/girl thing as hard. It’s like there was a relaxation of the gender binary and now we’re dealing with the whiplash!
       
 (DIR) Post #A8UVfvsLELthb32bi4 by hanafiyyah@spinster.xyz
       2021-06-20T22:11:40.022049Z
       
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       @RockTheBoat It's so weird for me...as young kids, we had barely any toys, and even for kids young enough people just used same clothes for all of them. My spouse also grew up,until certain age,wearing old clothes of his sisters and that's that, because children are basically androgynous anyway so nobody thought of it as gendered...! at some point, there's such a drive for consumption that people feel they will need different items for everything, and themed items (the pink one for the girls, the blue one for the boys). This to the point that people feel legitimately traumatized that they were not given the items that matches their (apparently) consumption-based identity.Funny, in the countries that will be decried as the worst in these matters, we had a significantly less gendered childhood up to puberty than these people.
       
 (DIR) Post #A8UVfwHVim1wr6ohwO by grace_hawthorn@spinster.xyz
       2021-06-20T22:20:37.893684Z
       
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       @hanafiyyah @RockTheBoat the 'drive for consumption' and the relentless advertising/ representation of men and women/ ubiquitous promotion of separated gendered shit is responsible for so much awfulness. when everything, from birth onwards, is separated and named as 'for boys' and 'for girls' and it's on tv, in films, in advertising, on social media, it's really really difficult to imagine outside it. and it's all driven by the capitalist demand that everyone buy 2 of everything instead of one for sharing. it's so toxic.
       
 (DIR) Post #A8UXWDgINGdfpfu2iW by maiden@spinster.xyz
       2021-06-20T22:54:58.655152Z
       
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       @RockTheBoat I always played with everything as a kid, but I absolutely had more guy friends than girl friends growing up. And clothes used to be just like you were saying - very neutral. And I was a kid in the 2000s. No one I knew wore skirts regularly, every girl wore pants or shorts, pink was a PART of clothing but it wasn't this...overly sparkly, 'cant get it dirty' type of clothing. Plus the amount of clothes that stamp "GIRL POWER" on the front with sparkles and that are made to be body-tight on prepubescent kids is just sad. You're absolutely right here, the generation of kids that are transing themselves were forced into more of an extreme gender binary than anyone else as kids.And like, I understand. I would've been trans, too, if my options were "play with this BADASS boys toy from your favorite show, or ONLY play with dolls and wear skirts and sparkles". I would've "decided" I was a boy in a heartbeat.Lol with your comment about rough & tumble guy friends, my parents told me they specifically didn't buy me fancy, pretty dress for special occasions like my sister, because when I was really little I'd absolutely destroy everything I was wearing while playing 😂 some kids are just dirty and outdoorsy. I got second hand pretty dresses that were much lest costly to replace lmao.
       
 (DIR) Post #A8VG9CCUD3aKW6M6HQ by DoctorDee@spinster.xyz
       2021-06-21T07:16:07.283059Z
       
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       @RockTheBoat I was a kid in the '70s and we all looked like this. https://mondrian.mashable.com/2014%252F01%252F21%252F97%252FLegoGirl.64393.jpg%252Ffit-in__1200x9600.jpg?signature=w1fkU2FuyNyJfC9LTxEbTlRH2Hw=