Post A59iWSLrbGo3Sqp5Ga by BeachBleach@spinster.xyz
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 (DIR) Post #A59UFsHIYRoFamt1tY by Rachelheartsb@spinster.xyz
       2021-03-13T01:24:22.439398Z
       
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       The only male allies I want are lawyers ha
       
 (DIR) Post #A59iWSLrbGo3Sqp5Ga by BeachBleach@spinster.xyz
       2021-03-13T02:22:25.710800Z
       
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       @Rachelheartsb   A smart lawyer, male or female, is a very useful ally!!!!  I spent my entire working life in the legal profession.
       
 (DIR) Post #A59iWSl25gwIiubBUu by Rachelheartsb@spinster.xyz
       2021-03-13T02:48:24.765722Z
       
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       @BeachBleach I was saying I'm not very keen on the male ally stuff. More boys trying to self promote
       
 (DIR) Post #A59iWTBcUqCs3N2PwG by BeachBleach@spinster.xyz
       2021-03-13T04:01:08.600503Z
       
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       @Rachelheartsb    I have a good man, and he's an ally. But I do recognize that good men are quite rare.  I'm a baby boomer and he is an older baby boomer. I think some of it is that the porn magazines back then, like Playboy, despite being porn, were artfully done pictures of beautiful ladies. Yeah they were sex objects, but there wasn't the degradation, extreme objectification, and mental and physical torture there is now in porn.   Porn has gotten so pervasive with the last two generations that I seriously believe most young people are seriously messed up from it.
       
 (DIR) Post #A59iWTkMPfznn7IA5Y by hanafiyyah@spinster.xyz
       2021-03-13T04:15:06.786803Z
       
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       @BeachBleach @Rachelheartsb One of my professors mentioned this as her turning point against porn... That what was in magazines and video shops used to be quite "tame," even if still harmful, while the ones who wanted more "hard" or disgusting porn had to really go out of their way to look for it, or ask to see it to a real person, or go to "that" corner of the shop where everyone knew the creeps were. Shame still kept a lot of men away from it, so its effects weren't widely seen.Now, it's a click away for any 12yo boy to grow up on.
       
 (DIR) Post #A59n3VJtz5rq2kv3uC by BeachBleach@spinster.xyz
       2021-03-13T05:02:37.992945Z
       
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       @hanafiyyah @Rachelheartsb    Yes. I hit college in the early 70s. I had a boyfriend who took me to porn movies, when you had to go to an unmarked adult theater where they had real film.  I watched all that stuff and didn't know what to think, because I was brainwashed, as we all are, by society.  Now I look at his taking me to see Deep Throat, Behind the Green Door, and trash like that as trauma bonding.  That was being sold as "liberated" by some of the feminists.  The "liberation" that they were selling us meant "sexually available to men at all times possible".   He was a super math nerd, going to grad school at one of the premier techie schools in the country. They often have "Institute" or "Technology" in the name. Fortunately, he broke up with me. Looked him up later and he became a computer science professor, which I fully expected, but he also became a rabid Jesus freak. I think this was definitely connected with the porn habit, which he was ashamed of.  I dodged some serious bullets over the years with my breakups. I think about some of the old boyfriends decades later, and realize that they had some kinks that were disturbing. They weren't nearly as bad as the ones now, like choking and hitting, but they disturbed me and I'm glad I got away from them.