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 (DIR) Post #9xSEenJJT6IyYyz7Hk by Nemesis_Nyx@spinster.xyz
       2020-07-25T19:42:36Z
       
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       Wicked women and the weaponization of abuseWhy deal with facts when you can claim to know your opponent better than they know themselves?July 20, 2020 by Victoria SmithSometimes I think she’d have got away with it if she hadn’t mentioned the domestic abuse. JK Rowling was already in trouble, long before she published her essay on sex and gender, but it’s the mention of trauma that really pushed things over the edge. It’s one thing to be branded a TERF, and quite another to be a woman who asks for empathy. Even Piers Morgan — hardly a friend to the trans community — thought that was taking things a bit far.“There seems to be a thing at the moment,” declared Morgan on Good Morning Britain, “where people get into hot water […] and out comes the victim card.” Is this an acceptable response to a woman disclosing a history of male violence and sexual assault in relation to present-day concerns about female boundaries? Twitter seems to think so. Tweet after tweet accuses Rowling of “weaponizing” her experiences of domestic abuse and sexual assault to promote hate. Even a Labour shadow minister — who was at least made to apologize for it — got in on it.As a survivor of… Well, actually, I can’t be bothered to disclose what I’m a survivor of. Suffice it to say that when I read Rowling’s essay, I already knew how the response would play out, and why it does no good to expect compassion in debates such as these. While Rowling’s disclosure seemed appropriate to me, and clearly related to the question of why sex-segregation remains politically salient, the backlash was inevitable. It should be possible to disagree on a practical response to female fear of male violence without disregarding said fear, or deeming the fearful to have ulterior motives. It should be possible, but right now it is not. Because women are not supposed to bring their pain into politics at all.Liberal feminism has gone some way in encouraging listeners to take women’s accounts of trauma seriously. We #believewomen — but only up to a point, providing no discomforting political conclusions are being drawn in relation to what they tell us. In the response to Rowling, we see it can be possible to accept something genuinely took place — yes, she was abused — while confidently dismissing her reasons for telling us about it. We decide her account is being told “in bad faith” or that it contains “dog whistles.” In other words, what Rowling is saying about her abuse is, on the face of it, true, but irrelevant — she really means something else, and we will decide what that is.\\ continue @ https://www.feministcurrent.com/2020/07/20/wicked-women-and-the-weaponization-of-abuse/
       
 (DIR) Post #9xSF0APql3pGIxEXvk by thebewilderness@spinster.xyz
       2020-07-25T19:46:28Z
       
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       9th rule of misogyny: Men always know the "real reasons" for everything women do and say.10th rule of misogyny: The worst thing about male violence is that it makes men look bad.@Nemesis_Nyx
       
 (DIR) Post #9xSO5sR1QJRRrWZz28 by Rad@spinster.xyz
       2020-07-25T21:28:15Z
       
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       I'd recommend any woman to keep quiet about former abuse, it's too likely to be used against you. That goes for any situation.       Giving former trauma as an explanation for why you don't think men should be in women's spaces also gives the impression that you can only object if you have already been violated @Nemesis_Nyx