Post 9uSiK2ZHEqX6S6qcbo by ghost_bird@cybre.space
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(DIR) Post #9uShnGKp25ajaqSNxw by ghost_bird@cybre.space
2020-04-25T17:42:44Z
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(As suggested by @dragon )It’s a bit less than three years since I figured out I was a trans woman, and a little more than two years since I started hrt. (Estrogen patches - no anti-androgens or progesterone as yet.) Physically, I have small but definite boobs, fat redistribution to the hips and thighs for a more feminine body shape overall, softer skin, and finer lighter body hair. I’ve had my face lasered so although I have enough white hair that I still have to shave, I don’t have visible shadow. And my posture’s improved because I took up pilates - which happened because I care more about my body than I used to.
(DIR) Post #9uSiK2ZHEqX6S6qcbo by ghost_bird@cybre.space
2020-04-25T17:50:18Z
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In terms of looks, I have a more feminine haircut and I’m taking more interest in clothes now I don’t have to struggle with the feeling that nothing looks quite right. I’ve changed my name - easy to do in the UK - and got the gender on my passport changed. I’m trying to work on my voice but it’s bastard hard and I’m having trouble keeping up with practise.
(DIR) Post #9uSiK2iUgZuCuh9yyW by ghost_bird@cybre.space
2020-04-25T17:57:22Z
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Internally? I’m happier, calmer, and more confident than I was - which isn’t to say I’m always happy, calm, or confident. Going out in public was nerve-wracking at first but it’s got much easier. It helps that I’m in the big city where no one really minds what you do and that I’ve not yet experienced significant transphobia.And my sexual response has changed. Not lower libido, but different feelings and a different pattern.
(DIR) Post #9uSiK2z9gdEVkMxHwe by ghost_bird@cybre.space
2020-04-25T18:38:12Z
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All that sounds a bit relentlessly positive but it’s honestly hard to think of a downside. That’s because I have a lot of privilege - I’m posh, white, and middle aged with a steady job and I live in a big city in a country that gives me meaningful rights as a “protected category”. And even then, coming out was terrifying and so was negotiating even the mild gatekeeping you get here with private care. It’s been so so worth it for me, but my experience is anything but universal, and your own experience and feelings are valid regardless.
(DIR) Post #9uSiK3Ekkdi4WkFkG0 by alice@bidule.menf.in
2020-04-27T07:38:41.712459Z
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@ghost_bird I hadn't realized how synchronized we were in our transitions ! It's all the more interesting to me reading about yours, they look so much alike. I'm so happy that it did that much good to you, and that you were able to overcome all the difficulties, granted probably not the worst in the world but still real. :trans_heart:
(DIR) Post #9uSjuQc1Q5F3P52wmO by ghost_bird@cybre.space
2020-04-27T07:52:35Z
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@alice :heart_trans:
(DIR) Post #9uSmnODYDyiToOw59E by ghost_bird@cybre.space
2020-04-27T07:56:20Z
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@alice I hadn’t realised we were synchronised either. Love and solidarity, and I hope your transition makes you as happy as mine does.
(DIR) Post #9uSnFUWaMv0ZTtEsfQ by alice@bidule.menf.in
2020-04-27T08:33:54.134562Z
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@ghost_bird From what you've written, I think does. I'm much happier now. Like you said, there are still tough times, but I'd almost say they are valuable to me because they show me how much better I feel overall. They're not as heavy and overwhelming as they used to be.