Posts by ghost_bird@cybre.space
(DIR) Post #9trw8tmWkgZE2hZ0NM by ghost_bird@cybre.space
2020-04-09T13:48:09Z
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@alice I didn’t mark the date in my calendar or anything, but I still have my archived posts. I was still figuring things out when I joined - didn’t decide I definitely wanted to transition until about three months later, or a little less, and it was maybe another three months after that before I came out to anyone else. And now here I am :-) :heart_trans:
(DIR) Post #9trwSTAvNrpHJdJ7JI by ghost_bird@cybre.space
2020-04-09T13:52:34Z
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@alice :blobhearttranscat:
(DIR) Post #9u1xwum8HB4rhIJGkq by ghost_bird@cybre.space
2020-04-14T09:54:11Z
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A couple of windy days have left the garden strewn with tiny white petals from the cherry tree.
(DIR) Post #9u2BPjs7C19fgOBOWu by ghost_bird@cybre.space
2020-04-14T12:27:19Z
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@noellabo “I”, said the sparrow, “with my bow and arrow”.
(DIR) Post #9u5zCQiaflC3hFSGLw by ghost_bird@cybre.space
2020-04-16T08:29:25Z
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@Paradox Relationships with students are generally against regs regardless of when and where they happen because of the power imbalance - the teacher’s going to be grading the student’s work, apart from anything else.
(DIR) Post #9u5zdzv5txeYgvRsbw by ghost_bird@cybre.space
2020-04-16T08:30:43Z
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@Paradox Which doesn’t mean there aren’t predatory staff, or that the regs don’t get selectively enforced... but they do exist.
(DIR) Post #9uAbMnJIE6CdTXSVDE by ghost_bird@cybre.space
2020-04-18T13:48:32Z
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Azalea buds in the garden.
(DIR) Post #9uAbMnbN8sfGNbuwOO by ghost_bird@cybre.space
2020-04-18T13:54:46Z
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...and the robin stopped by to take a look while I was photographing so I actually had a camera ready for once.
(DIR) Post #9uEDn2jls3WcaDfPP6 by ghost_bird@cybre.space
2020-04-20T07:49:03Z
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Good morning. Think I’m going to have to give up specifying that it’s a clear sunny day at this point - not that I’m complaining. Nothing exciting to report, except that I have a video appointment later and I wish my hair was a little less unruly.
(DIR) Post #9uEE4P10IMeMbG0MeO by ghost_bird@cybre.space
2020-04-20T07:52:33Z
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@alice 💜
(DIR) Post #9uEjtjyTE64Ox2mPDs by ghost_bird@cybre.space
2020-04-20T11:39:18Z
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Goldfinch just stopped by in the garden, briefly. Two great tits were investigating the ivy for bugs and I think it wanted to see what was up. Not common around here, so far into London, so it was good to see.
(DIR) Post #9uEjuDLW1Uje2umifY by ghost_bird@cybre.space
2020-04-20T13:46:45Z
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@porsupah And I have very carefully been saying “two” and not “a pair”, despite other impulses.
(DIR) Post #9uEsYqixpnXPOMdjtI by ghost_bird@cybre.space
2020-04-20T15:26:41Z
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Two more photos of the robin, which paused to have a look at me while I was making coffee.
(DIR) Post #9uGGdXQDcTg725bI8W by ghost_bird@cybre.space
2020-04-21T07:30:59Z
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Good morning. The robins are still working on their nest by the kitchen window - lots of surprisingly large dry dead leaves stuffed into the ivy. Evidently, it takes practice.
(DIR) Post #9uShnGKp25ajaqSNxw by ghost_bird@cybre.space
2020-04-25T17:42:44Z
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(As suggested by @dragon )It’s a bit less than three years since I figured out I was a trans woman, and a little more than two years since I started hrt. (Estrogen patches - no anti-androgens or progesterone as yet.) Physically, I have small but definite boobs, fat redistribution to the hips and thighs for a more feminine body shape overall, softer skin, and finer lighter body hair. I’ve had my face lasered so although I have enough white hair that I still have to shave, I don’t have visible shadow. And my posture’s improved because I took up pilates - which happened because I care more about my body than I used to.
(DIR) Post #9uSiK2ZHEqX6S6qcbo by ghost_bird@cybre.space
2020-04-25T17:50:18Z
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In terms of looks, I have a more feminine haircut and I’m taking more interest in clothes now I don’t have to struggle with the feeling that nothing looks quite right. I’ve changed my name - easy to do in the UK - and got the gender on my passport changed. I’m trying to work on my voice but it’s bastard hard and I’m having trouble keeping up with practise.
(DIR) Post #9uSiK2iUgZuCuh9yyW by ghost_bird@cybre.space
2020-04-25T17:57:22Z
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Internally? I’m happier, calmer, and more confident than I was - which isn’t to say I’m always happy, calm, or confident. Going out in public was nerve-wracking at first but it’s got much easier. It helps that I’m in the big city where no one really minds what you do and that I’ve not yet experienced significant transphobia.And my sexual response has changed. Not lower libido, but different feelings and a different pattern.
(DIR) Post #9uSiK2z9gdEVkMxHwe by ghost_bird@cybre.space
2020-04-25T18:38:12Z
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All that sounds a bit relentlessly positive but it’s honestly hard to think of a downside. That’s because I have a lot of privilege - I’m posh, white, and middle aged with a steady job and I live in a big city in a country that gives me meaningful rights as a “protected category”. And even then, coming out was terrifying and so was negotiating even the mild gatekeeping you get here with private care. It’s been so so worth it for me, but my experience is anything but universal, and your own experience and feelings are valid regardless.
(DIR) Post #9uSjuQc1Q5F3P52wmO by ghost_bird@cybre.space
2020-04-27T07:52:35Z
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@alice :heart_trans:
(DIR) Post #9uSmnODYDyiToOw59E by ghost_bird@cybre.space
2020-04-27T07:56:20Z
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@alice I hadn’t realised we were synchronised either. Love and solidarity, and I hope your transition makes you as happy as mine does.