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 (DIR) Post #9j89EaOf3WSbJzugIC by UnclearFuture@mastodon.starrevolution.org
       2019-05-24T08:57:16Z
       
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       So I was at a group last night and a lovely person was doing their best to explain how friendship worked to me, telling me the ‘rules’ about how to talk about oneself and also when to talk about oneself and when to listen, why it feels like people are often ignoring me or not talking to me much and I’m having to do all the ‘work’. However, I then got home and talked to a close friend about it and they said that you should’t have to hide yourself/pretend to be someone you’re not because then are you really friends? As they don’t really know who you are.So I’m wondering where is the line? Should there be one? Are there some ‘rules’ we should follow if only to make people feel at ease and if so how do we then introduce our real messy selves to them or are there some friendships where that will never or should never happen? I wonder.