Post 9h0fc2Ri1nA4cxusrY by ctrlaltchaos@aleph.land
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 (DIR) Post #9h0dtVQbKIhRWpbEdE by aparrish@mastodon.social
       2019-03-21T21:52:37Z
       
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       take: when you call it "Take Our Children to Work Day" and you send a mass e-mail about it to a group containing people who don't have kids, it sorta comes off as a presumptuous command
       
 (DIR) Post #9h0dtVgYMzSaKJ3yUq by aparrish@mastodon.social
       2019-03-21T21:59:10Z
       
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       reading the "our" as exclusive ("ours" as in "mine and those of the others in my group, but not you") in this case is kind of absurd, I know, *and* I know many not-straight not-cis people have kids.but the inclusive reading of "our" in "our children" can be interpreted in two ways—the first is that the e-mail is implicitly addressing only the people who have kids, but because it's a mass e-mail, that sets up a norm of "people in this group probably have kids"..
       
 (DIR) Post #9h0dtVwVPgDj7mWiMS by ctrlaltchaos@aleph.land
       2019-03-21T22:19:50Z
       
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       @aparrish I'm not sure we can attribute a malicious intent here. There's also the possibility that they didn't have a way to address all the parents and opted for the second best solution.I get organization-wide mass email dozens of times a day, every one of which is addressed directly at the recipient and assumes interest/relevance but hardly any of those is interesting/relevant to me.While I perceive them as spam, I don't think all those writers think the majority of people in the respective mailing list fit into the group that their mail is interesting to.They're probably just lazy or in need of better filtering tools (although experience shows people don't use those even if present).Regardless, I wish people were better at accepting each other. The intolerance and divisiveness just suck.
       
 (DIR) Post #9h0epSK71lPIhBCHqq by aparrish@mastodon.social
       2019-03-21T22:30:19Z
       
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       @ctrlaltchaos I definitely don't think there was malicious intent! just something I'm sensitive about lately.
       
 (DIR) Post #9h0fc2Ri1nA4cxusrY by ctrlaltchaos@aleph.land
       2019-03-21T22:39:06Z
       
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       @aparrish I'm particularly sensitive to minority-flavoured slurs as a result of having been at their receiving end for quite some time.The world needs more empathy (people actually feeling the feelings they cause in others).There were probably enough situations that lead to your sensitivity and I'm sorry you had to experience any of them.
       
 (DIR) Post #9h0fjI4YKM1L7SXkFE by aparrish@mastodon.social
       2019-03-21T22:03:16Z
       
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       the second being that the "our" means "all of our children, because children belong to all of us, right?" which feels kinda belittling to me as someone who belongs to a particular gender minority that often faces significant medical and bureaucratic barriers along the path to being a parent (if I even wanted to be a parent to begin with). I sorta prefer "bring *your* children to work" since the "your" there seems to have an implied "if you got 'em/if you want to"
       
 (DIR) Post #9h0fjIOl7EBS87zsjw by smallsees@social.dropbear.xyz
       2019-03-21T22:40:20Z
       
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       @aparrish always thought it was your, odd they changed it.It is also something I have never seen or heard of outside movies or other media. I have never heard of people I know that have had it at their work either. Perhaps it's not the done thing in Australia.