Post 1551930 by erosdiscordia@radical.town
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(DIR) Post #1551889 by julia@harpy.life
2018-11-28T07:25:28Z
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Why are there so many dick pics floating around the fediverse but zero clit pics? Or am I just in the wrong parts?
(DIR) Post #1551930 by erosdiscordia@radical.town
2018-11-28T07:50:42Z
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@julia I mean, I've thought about this. Totally fuckin unfair that, as accepting as Masto is about what gender you are, the shape of your junk still has to resemble what society labels "male" to be safe to share. Even here.It's bullshit and it needs to be challenged.
(DIR) Post #1551931 by julia@harpy.life
2018-11-28T07:52:22Z
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@erosdiscordia Yes! YES! Very true. And it needs to be challenged but it's not going to be me because I DO feel shame and I DO feel unsafe.This just sucks, ugh!
(DIR) Post #1552741 by xyzzy@cybre.space
2018-11-28T11:20:22Z
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@julia it's not just you! i've had to really train myself to be fucking careful before just casually clicking open CWs lately... normally i just go for it because im lucky enough to not have many like triggers and stuff but now i've been smacked with too many dick pics :< personally i really do not get the appeal of an out-of-context dick floating through the ether, maybe i'm just too gay for all this
(DIR) Post #1553748 by erosdiscordia@radical.town
2018-11-28T07:55:00Z
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@julia Solidarity, friend.Some days, I'm one stiff drink and a better phone camera from showing people just how creative a "dick" pic can get when you're a vulva-haver.
(DIR) Post #1553749 by byttyrs@queer.party
2018-11-28T08:12:46Z
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@erosdiscordia @julia I gotta go to bed, I can't get into this longform,but I have deep misgivings about the use of 'dick-haver' and 'vulva-haver' as categories, especially the implicit treatment of 'dick-haver' as a privileged class over 'vulva-haver'? because it equates women's genitalia with men's.trans women do, in fact, experience shame about our genitalia. we're fetishized and abjected for it. our bodies and genitals are subject to intense and pervasive hyperscrutiny, & our right to...
(DIR) Post #1553750 by byttyrs@queer.party
2018-11-28T08:15:13Z
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@erosdiscordia @julia food and shelter is often predicated on our sexual availability; sex work is often our only real option for income. and, yeah, sometimes that pervasive sexualization carries over into our interactions with one another; support networks between trans women often occur alongside sexual relationships, for better or for worse.this is not the same as a cis dude slapping his dick pics around. it doesn't happen for the same reasons.
(DIR) Post #1553751 by gasp@girlcock.club
2018-11-28T08:22:43Z
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@byttyrs @erosdiscordia @julia 100% here for a more clit-friendly and vulva-friendly mastodon,honestly having a hard time a hard time not reading the sentence "your junk still has to resemble what society labels 'male' to be safe to share" as "yeah of course masto is lousy with dick pics, MALE PRIVILEGE amirite?"earnestly, honestly, could just be my baggage, but fuck if that was not a whiplash tour of excitement over a take to pretty sharp dysphoria
(DIR) Post #1553752 by erosdiscordia@radical.town
2018-11-28T08:41:04Z
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@gasp I am genuinely sorry if the way I worded that caused anyone dysphoria. That's the last thing I'd want any Masto friend to feel.I do want clarification though, of how it isn't what has been traditionally called "male privilege" that dicks are safer to share online? I wouldn't have used the MP phrase at all, for the reason of NOT wanting to have caused dysphoria. That's why I said "what society labels male".@byttyrs @julia
(DIR) Post #1553753 by gasp@girlcock.club
2018-11-28T08:46:24Z
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@erosdiscordia @byttyrs @julia i have no conception of how and why other people feel comfortable posting pictures of their genitals online, but i certainly know that the fact that what i have is associated with masculinity and maleness is an active barrier to me feeling comfortable enough sharing nudes, and if i ever get to that point it will because i have reached a point where i can feel femme and attractive DESPITE those associations
(DIR) Post #1553754 by gasp@girlcock.club
2018-11-28T08:54:31Z
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@erosdiscordia @byttyrs @julia and honestly, it's like actively painful to feel as though overcoming that would somehow stand as evidence of being drawn back into masculinity.if i am being honest, the fact that i included that last sentence in my second toot, despite it coming from a voice that i've put a lot of effort and heartbreak into trying to silence, is that i was worried if i didn't hedge all of this would come off as the fragile ego of "a dick-haver"
(DIR) Post #1553755 by erosdiscordia@radical.town
2018-11-28T08:58:39Z
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@gasp I would never have judged the thoughts you're sharing in that manner!For one thing I've had about enough of people's valid pain being shamed as "a fragile ego", whatever their gender.I'm glad you've shared your thoughts, I value it.@byttyrs @julia
(DIR) Post #1553756 by gasp@girlcock.club
2018-11-28T09:03:46Z
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@erosdiscordia @byttyrs @julia and i totally don't mean to put that on you as like a pressure i think you were employing! i know that bit was me i just say it as like... illustration of the thread, for me, that connects to the idea of my genitalia as a marker of privilege when the same structures that sexually/socially advantage cis men and their genitalia can actively encumber trans femme folks and theirs
(DIR) Post #1553757 by erosdiscordia@radical.town
2018-11-28T09:10:44Z
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@gasp To compare the AFAB vulva thing, I've experienced a ton of sexual violence in response to being a sexually open "woman" in life. It felt like being gradually driven into a corner and silenced. And society does use the vulva, and how it's treated, as a coded symbol of potential threat against those who possess one. For all that transitioning to male lessens that threat, it is still there and always will be in rape culture. Sharing or not sharing vulvas feels political.@julia
(DIR) Post #1553758 by gasp@girlcock.club
2018-11-28T09:18:16Z
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@erosdiscordia @julia yeah and i think it says something really worrisome about the political reality of mastodon that it is not (yet? if we are optimistic?) a space that can reach beyond or effectively usurp those aspects of rape culture even in limited aspects within its own bounds!
(DIR) Post #1553759 by gasp@girlcock.club
2018-11-28T09:22:49Z
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@erosdiscordia @julia that is to say, that it is not a space that has demonstrably and effectively rendered itself as a not just a safe space for vulvas to be shared, but also a space that is predicated on a politics that thrives on and is driven by that expressionuh, sorry for that weirdly contorted construction
(DIR) Post #1553760 by gasp@girlcock.club
2018-11-28T09:28:21Z
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@erosdiscordia @julia anyway sorry i feel like i've taken up MORE THAN ENOUGH space in a conversation that never really initially had to involve me at all but i appreciate y'all making space for me it was very helpful for me to dig in to why i that made me feel the way i did. i just hope that at some point we can develop spaces that can let us all actually revel in our bodies, and i don't think we're there yet but i do appreciate some of what this space has made seem more possible for me
(DIR) Post #1553761 by julia@harpy.life
2018-11-28T09:32:36Z
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@gasp @erosdiscordia Mastodon has done a lot for me and how I see bodies, especially my own, and I'm really hoping we can all work together to create an open, supportive, loving, non-judgemental and safe space.I don't believe that will happen but I'm hoping.