Post B8JqMrIFo6Vnf4m2dc by ariadne@social.treehouse.systems
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(DIR) Post #B8JhE91nUGv8Qdg8Qq by ariadne@social.treehouse.systems
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"you should have kids so they will take care of you later"oh, guess i fucked that one upoh well, guess i'll figure it out at some point
(DIR) Post #B8Jjy2KQvZLsscPFKK by ska@social.treehouse.systems
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@ariadne "Be rich" is the answer to old age without a community (social/familial/whatever) safety net š
(DIR) Post #B8JlgJYmK4tZ1AnEy8 by ariadne@social.treehouse.systems
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@ska what I am hearing is that I should recruit a mid-20s youngster into my polycule
(DIR) Post #B8JmBAiRMzWgbiC6Zk by ska@social.treehouse.systems
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@ariadne Close enough, I suppose š
(DIR) Post #B8JmesskEwFjz5BLN2 by ariadne@social.treehouse.systems
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the largest fear I have is literally developing dementia. I would not want to continue existing in such a state, and hope that my friends and family would support me in seeking euthanasia in such a scenario.
(DIR) Post #B8Jn90EbT44nTWlf96 by ariadne@social.treehouse.systems
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I should probably also set up a family office or something
(DIR) Post #B8JnaKI30fNPUlPKhU by mensrea@freeradical.zone
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@ariadne unfortunately they would not be able to legally. all euthanasia legislation i've seen has a "of sound mind" requirement.i have a 50/50 shot of early onset alzheimer's
(DIR) Post #B8JnlhcIcdTV1jIxe4 by ariadne@social.treehouse.systems
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@aburka no I mean I have a reasonably sized nestegg, stock holdings from various tech companies I've worked for, etc. advanced directive is part of the overall package but really I need to figure out what happens in general
(DIR) Post #B8Jo05dC8MCZYoaGsi by ariadne@social.treehouse.systems
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@mensrea I think you can get around it with an advanced directive
(DIR) Post #B8JoBlQ76TvULu230a by Rycaut@mastodon.social
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@ariadne @aburka you want to talk with a good estate attorney. They will help you with not just a will but setting up medical directives, power of attorney etc. and can advise you on how to best protect your assets and set them up for your heirs (or whatever organization you want to get them in the future)A family office is typically for folks with $100M+ (or so Iāve heard - I do know a few families with them). But itās very common (especially in the Bay Area) to have a revocable trust
(DIR) Post #B8JoF83fOP9fQo8ZXM by lvmbdv_was_taken@mastodon.social
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@ariadne you realize thatās how these things start right? fear of death / being forgotten leading to procreation, and at a higher level, setting up mechanisms of attribution / control to make sure āyour ways are not forgottenānone of these are inherently bad, but look where they are taking us
(DIR) Post #B8JoP1q5Mz7T2UVOc4 by ariadne@social.treehouse.systems
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@aburka @Rycaut can I just go back to being poor? that seems more fun
(DIR) Post #B8JoiNvvRqoH46T0Jk by ariadne@social.treehouse.systems
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pros of cloud native: because of cloud native, I have "made it"cons of cloud native: because of cloud native, I have "made it"
(DIR) Post #B8JomMtfFAlR0cJBaK by ariadne@social.treehouse.systems
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damn u kubernetes
(DIR) Post #B8JoxrdhHgdzXZK0Bc by Rycaut@mastodon.social
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@ariadne @aburka honestly a good attorney makes the process pretty straightforward. (And giving away your assets is a real option - lots of people make it their goal before they die to have largely given away their assets while they are still around to choose how to have an impact)But yeah itās definitely in the āserious adultingā category of life tasks.
(DIR) Post #B8Jp0nbsinKhuds7cm by ariadne@social.treehouse.systems
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@lvmbdv_was_taken but that's the thing, I legit do not care about any of that.
(DIR) Post #B8JpWR08JevL3jIgBE by ariadne@social.treehouse.systems
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@aburka @Rycaut my main motive with getting ahead of the adulting with the FO is because I do expect my holdings to grow into it
(DIR) Post #B8JpaBKiVlEtckiOTQ by lvmbdv_was_taken@mastodon.social
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@ariadne well then why are you worrying about dementia? it does not happen overnight, unlike death
(DIR) Post #B8JpkEM08RRTt96iTA by ariadne@social.treehouse.systems
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@lvmbdv_was_taken I care about having integrity of mind. of the ego.
(DIR) Post #B8JqMrIFo6Vnf4m2dc by ariadne@social.treehouse.systems
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@lvmbdv_was_taken like, I have no fear of death. I had a near-death experience where I had pneumonia as a complication of catching the flu which was particularly nasty in 2018.losing my cognitive ability, however, is a dealbreaker
(DIR) Post #B8JqagTCqRUG9DUOBs by lvmbdv_was_taken@mastodon.social
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@ariadne i highly recommend hedging against that impulse with a bit of eastern philosophy, for total wellbeing
(DIR) Post #B8JqxUKEAITl8qABVY by ariadne@social.treehouse.systems
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@lvmbdv_was_taken I mean there's certainly truth to that, and for the most part it's not really about the ego, but just about basic dignity. quantity of life is meaningless if quality is zero.
(DIR) Post #B8JrLEWWZCx55FEn2W by ariadne@social.treehouse.systems
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I miss the days where alpine was this niche thing and I was a broke ass kid making money slinging VPSes
(DIR) Post #B8JrOPwCaNXtLvlZui by lvmbdv_was_taken@mastodon.social
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@ariadne i agree, but there must be a balance; imbalance in some values, which could be outside your control, no judgement here, leads to the stuff many of us keep complaining about, is my point
(DIR) Post #B8JrRnybfOFOmCVSoi by ariadne@social.treehouse.systems
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life was simple back then: if I wanted to go somewhere I just snuck on board a freight train like a gremlin
(DIR) Post #B8Js0mCkFLkDPrnMqe by ariadne@social.treehouse.systems
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@lvmbdv_was_taken im not worried about it because I can plan to take action about it with an advanced directive
(DIR) Post #B8JsIKYJnLTIrqFxWi by lvmbdv_was_taken@mastodon.social
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@ariadne that is what probably has been said before some of my friends were lost to me, just be careful about the ego (not just yours) is what i'm saying
(DIR) Post #B8JvPwIQABK1oh8lJw by fazalmajid@vivaldi.net
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@ariadne I worry more about strokes than dementia. Also, have you seen this anti-dementia vaccine?https://archive.ph/lwXWa
(DIR) Post #B8JwASszKMC8DGQgiW by tknarr@mstdn.social
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@ariadne @mensrea It depends on state law. In CA I could specify when to discontinue life support and put in a DNR/no-heroic-measures order, but not conditions for actual euthanasia. WA may have other options.My brush with the afterlife had the same cause as you: pneumonia. 0 stars, would not buy again. Though the memories of my stay filtered through the coma are... trippy.
(DIR) Post #B8JzeyRqqMnGeSyZ8a by ariadne@social.treehouse.systems
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@fazalmajid yes I plan to do shingrix when I qualify for it
(DIR) Post #B8KCLbtpkn3GcWA4Mi by xyhhx@social.treehouse.systems
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@ariadne wait u had a train hopper arc? š
(DIR) Post #B8KCgfmYVtESk8nhL6 by ariadne@social.treehouse.systems
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@xyhhx yeah like 20 years ago
(DIR) Post #B8KKvW6rYaQMint8AS by xyhhx@social.treehouse.systems
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@ariadne thats pretty cool
(DIR) Post #B8KUPcxNYzVyESsvDc by grumpybozo@toad.social
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@ariadne But there are also kids whose parents need to essentially take care of them past parental death. People should only have kids because they want to be parents and they want to have kids.