Post B6Bh5M3ut0PHqV8xsG by buncube@transfem.social
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(DIR) Post #B5xMTlFk3qUtfn24UC by Mimesatwork@wandering.shop
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Cities must be primarily for biological life instead of machines
(DIR) Post #B5xoVWlZgqmG2VYJns by zed@mstdn.party
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@Mimesatwork yes but also “without fees” is a very American viewpoint.
(DIR) Post #B5xoVX8yHrUbD4V0Gu by Stoori@polyglot.city
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@zed @Mimesatwork as if public toilets in eg. europe were generally free to use 🙄 ("free to our customers" is not free. sure, public libraries usually have free toilets, but there are only so many public libraries)
(DIR) Post #B5xoVXVIwpMCKKwq5A by zed@mstdn.party
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@Stoori @Mimesatwork I point it out specifically because toilets are often not free, but .50€ is a negligible amount and if charging a minuscule amount is what enables plentifully available toilets the that is ok.
(DIR) Post #B5xoVXj87QPr1DPsdE by sammy@cherrykitten.gay
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@zed @Stoori @Mimesatwork no, they should be free. that's what taxes are for.
(DIR) Post #B5xoVY2GyFjDyaNATA by zed@mstdn.party
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@sammy your preferred model of a “shitable city” is that they be free. But it is possible for a city to have adequate public toilets and for those toilets to be paid. That is the only point I am making.I too prefer that public toilets be no charge, but the framing that the must be free otherwise it doesn’t count as a city with an adequate amount of public toilets is incorrect.
(DIR) Post #B5xoVYF2Cnw8cALMMS by sammy@cherrykitten.gay
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@zed no, if the toilet is not accessible to everyone, it is not enough
(DIR) Post #B5xoVYObdDap5qp0HQ by zed@mstdn.party
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@sammy is making toilets no charge at the time of use the only option for making a toilet accessible to people for whom .50€ is too much ?
(DIR) Post #B5xoVYZwx2fPf283xg by Mimesatwork@wandering.shop
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@zed @sammy Would you have an alternative in mindAs far as I can see, if a toilet costs money, no matter how little and insignificant amount that is to you, that amount of money has been significant to someone else. So the alternatives really are free toilets, or a city that smells like piss.A progressive pee-card system where people pay what they can, would create further structures for exploitation for individuals as well as businesses.
(DIR) Post #B5xoVYu9jupWfhaCSO by IngaLovinde@embracing.space
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@Mimesatwork @zed @sammy also maintaining the pee-card system is likely going to take more money than it would ever generate
(DIR) Post #B5xorNoFfj2IdCE5b6 by butchrobot@shork.nerdmusic.net
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@Mimesatwork@wandering.shop we need fuckable cities
(DIR) Post #B5xormyO7AzyfsA2Mq by IngaLovinde@embracing.space
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@butchrobot @Mimesatwork you might be joking but afaik this is one of the reasons for very low birth rate (below the replacement level) in many industrialized nations
(DIR) Post #B5xqHRUWhnUhX8zQtE by butchrobot@shork.nerdmusic.net
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@IngaLovinde@embracing.space @Mimesatwork@wandering.shop because we cant fuck the cities??????? macro furs have something to say
(DIR) Post #B5xqHRiLsOYME1STRI by IngaLovinde@embracing.space
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@butchrobot @Mimesatwork because we can't fuck in cities!Or more generally because there are basically no free third places where one can do the fucking, and a lot of people don't have a private first place in this economy.
(DIR) Post #B6BOsobHfk9FPqccc4 by buncube@transfem.social
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@IngaLovinde@embracing.space @butchrobot@shork.nerdmusic.net @Mimesatwork@wandering.shop now I'm sure there are definitions here that are broader than my immediate understanding but my immediate reading of this was thinking typical third places eg. parks/malls/libraries just where you can fuckAnd like . Based
(DIR) Post #B6BOsoo2uIMA3QaoVM by IngaLovinde@embracing.space
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@buncube @Mimesatwork @butchrobot that's the correct reading. (Not necessarily in the libraries because that would disturb silence. But, like, there should be places for that.)
(DIR) Post #B6BgDKlhTqv0CBrd1U by buncube@transfem.social
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@IngaLovinde@embracing.space @Mimesatwork@wandering.shop @butchrobot@shork.nerdmusic.net OKAY I LIKE YOU A LOT MORE NOW /sillyI was NOT expecting that to unironically read the point but you are so fucking real for that and I want so badly to give a detailed response to that but it has to wait until I get home in a few aaaaa
(DIR) Post #B6BgDKzWeRyet4KfZY by buncube@transfem.social
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@IngaLovinde@embracing.space @Mimesatwork@wandering.shop @butchrobot@shork.nerdmusic.net i GENUINELY NEVER THOUGHT anyone would even actually contemplate that without immediate dismissalbut it really does seem to make FAR TOO MUCH SENSE TO ME and most people will consider you literally genuinely insane for so much as considering it, let alone making it a public discussioni dont see most other animal building rooms to hide where they fuck. in fact, they probably fuck LESS where they sleep than ANYWHERE ELSE. i'm no animal expert, so this isn't an "expert opinion" in any sense, but it's just a pattern i feel like i'm aware of. and why WOULD they? sex is a thing LITERALLY (almost) EVERYONE EVER will fucking do, and is something so biologically basic and fundamental that i can't fathom the shame people have surrounding it. kink as a whole is an INCREDIBLY healthy way of engaging with your identity, or with trauma, or with a multitude of things, and it's almost consistently a universally life-changing experience to be able to express one's self openly in that wayit is INCREDIBLY common alone for people to want to see others and/or be seen by others, having sex, EVEN by those who have been forced into viewing sex with aggressive shame- so you then have to consider WHY said people are "shaming themselves" into repressing things for no reason, instead of creating spaces where that behaviour IS acceptedat which point you have to consider the part that sexual repression and frustration and isolation play in the current fascist-capitalist hellscape we live in and the greater concept of a self-sustaining patriarchy
(DIR) Post #B6BgDLEPl5t3dFIYmO by IngaLovinde@embracing.space
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@buncube @Mimesatwork @butchrobot uhh that's not what I meant 😅 what I was talking about was more like, people who don't have private housing and don't have enough money on hotels etc need alternative free places to fuck (in privacy).Kinda like we have with public toilets.But also I don't disagree with what you're saying, with one caveat that of course this has to be consensual for everybody including those who see it (because unfortunately I've seen it on fedi more than once that people talk about having sex in public spaces, _flaunting_ that unwilling unexpecting bystanders witnessed it).Incidentally I recently read a really good book, "The Thick and the Lean" by Chana Porter, where one of the main premises is "what if there was a society just like ours but where sex is considered to be as mundane as eating is in ours, and where eating is considered to be as taboo as sex in ours?"And also to expand on this, I'm currently lucky to live in a country where unclothed bodies are accepted in dedicated spaces (including some beaches and some lawns), and I think this does wonders for body positivity, because instead of only seeing unhealthy photoshopped images in glossy magazines, people can see actual bodies the way they are in all their diversity.Unfortunately even in this country the practice was slowly dying out in the last decades, I wish it expanded more instead.And I wonder how life would be if there was a similar approach to sex.
(DIR) Post #B6Bh5M3ut0PHqV8xsG by buncube@transfem.social
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@IngaLovinde@embracing.space @Mimesatwork@wandering.shop @butchrobot@shork.nerdmusic.net BASICALLY EXHIBITIONISM IS ANARCHIST PRAXIS AND I AM SCREAMING.Jokes aside, a lot of people would deadass lynch you for it being a "threat to children" or intent to groom, but let me fucking ask them this;IF THE PEOPLE THAT FUCKING GROOMED ME WHEN I WAS FIFTEEN COULD HAVE JUST GONE SOMEWHERE AND ACTUALLY FUCKED, WHO WOULD HAVE BEEN THERE TO GROOM ME?a majority of sexual abuse and harrassment on the internet comes as a result of deep and violent sexual repression, and i have personal experience with that fact, both as a victim, and as someone who hurt others myself as a resultthe amount of times others, and in the end myself, talked about increasingly consequential and increasingly dangerous and reprehensible things being "hotter" because there was no healthier outlet, was, and continues to be disturbing. that's often WHY teenagers end up victimised anyway- because it's "wrong", because they're expected not to, because it gives the other party power to express themselves without contest, without responsibilityi was hurt, and hurt people, because my confusion and fear was channelled by the internet into that behavior, because i was repressed and confused and didn't understand the way i felt and didn't understand my own gender and didn't feel safe irl.if i knew what being trans was because of real-world education, i and others would have been spared. if others didn't judge what being trans was because of real-world education, i and others would have been spared. IF THE OTHERS ONLINE HAD A PUBLIC SPACE TO JUST GO FUCK, I WOULD HAVE BEEN SPARED.the reason i mention all of those things? well, because the throughline there is "things people will say you're a pedophile for endorsing, with zero nuance"
(DIR) Post #B6Bh5MuNjwNGTDgreS by IngaLovinde@embracing.space
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@buncube @Mimesatwork @butchrobot my (probably considered to be problematic; and I really hope that fragments of this post won't get quoted out of context; I didn't put hours of thought into each sentence here, so some of them might be badly worded and I guess misinterpreted in bad faith) opinion about CSA is that CSA is only such a big thing in our society because sex is such a big and separate and taboo thing in our society.Sex work is work, and similarly, child sexual abuse could be said to be just a child abuse. It's only because sex is considered to be such a special thing, that child sexual abuse gets disproportionate amount of attention (with it being used to introduce all kinds of surveillance for everybody for example), while all the other child abuse gets almost no attention at all.And yes, children are hugely traumatized by sexual abuse (compared to other forms of abuse), but how much of that difference is caused by our society telling them that sex is such a special thing that they should feel traumatized in a very special way by this specific form of abuse? (Both explicitly and implicitly, by subjecting victims of CSA to all the experiences they have to face after the fact of CSA).And also, yes, perhaps if sex was considered to be just an activity (although more intimate than many other activities), then a lot less people would be willing to abuse children in this specific way, because it just would not be The Thing.
(DIR) Post #B6BkyN2rEVQegSZcKe by butchrobot@shork.nerdmusic.net
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@IngaLovinde@embracing.space @buncube@transfem.social @Mimesatwork@wandering.shop Okay, I'm gonna step in here:Why does this particular conversation have to happen? Because CSA is a gateway to other forms of abuse, the highest forms of abuse. Sex is indeed extremely bonding and special; we have the neurochemistry to prove this, that stuff isn't just a social construct. In CSA, sex is used as coercion. Those without power are manipulated by sex in powerful ways.Sex is a gateway to child marriage, abuse, control, making life-changing decisions that are legally binding before they reasonably should be. How many decisions do you regret that you made at 14? Well, imagine getting pregnant and married at 14. And what kind of fucking freak would marry a 14 year old?So, no, there's a reason CSA gets the highest consideration for abuse imo. Now, to your point, should it be any more punishable than other forms of abuse? Depends, like it certainly should be more punishable than some forms of verbal abuse, I guess. I understand your point but there's 100% a reason. Neurochemistry is extremely powerful and sex is the most powerful neurochemical tool and activity.
(DIR) Post #B6BkyNFyRjv9L8i5mC by IngaLovinde@embracing.space
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@butchrobot @Mimesatwork @buncube > How many decisions do you regret that you made at 14?A lot in fact. Some of them I didn't know I made because society made them for me. Some of them, my parents did for me. A huge problem with a lot of these decisions is that they're not easily undone, in many cases because society deliberately makes them difficult to undo.I can also say the same about decisions made at 16, or at 18, because I didn't just wake up one day on my birthday as a fully formed responsible person.(None of them as bad as getting pregnant, but still.)Also CW mentions grooming and a significant part of our society doesn't even really consider it to be abuse on a technicality, simply because no sexual act happens until technically the child reaches the age of consent. Although actually it is just as bad as other forms of CSA.> Well, imagine getting pregnant and married at 14If we're talking about some idealized world, well maybe then marriage should also not be what it is now (if at all), and maybe it should be unacceptable that people become pregnant at 14.But weirdly enough, some parts of our society seem to be very interested in introducing global surveillance under the pretext of banning children from internet under the pretext of saving them from sexual abuse, and at the same time to be very interested in forcing the abused children to carry the pregnancy to term (as if this did not compound the abuse extremely, as if this did not constitute a separate form of abuse probably much worse than the rape itself).But thank you for your perspective, I never heard this reasoning about CSA being different from other forms of abuse before. Usually it goes more like that: "OBVIOUSLY sex is an extremely special thing so OBVIOUSLY sex work is not a real work but something entirely different and OBVIOUSLY child sexual abuse is not a real abuse but something entirely different so OBVIOUSLY we need to surveil the entire population to ensure that nobody younger than 21 never hears anything related to sex in the spaces we control and that no adult ever pays transactionally to another adult for sex in the places we control, and if you disagree then OBVIOUSLY you're a pedophile and rapist and support human trafficking".