Post B5qr6WWyMtwBpElvM0 by iro_miya@mk.absturztau.be
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(DIR) Post #B5qj4aKSTcKDOPU0jw by iro_miya@mk.absturztau.be
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I need to get better at sex... I often have no clue what I should do...
(DIR) Post #B5qj9PTgFUMXBb667s by iro_miya@mk.absturztau.be
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Also it annoys me how I'm not in the mood for sex most of the time...
(DIR) Post #B5qjOyf3ifqmeKqJKy by N33R@fops.cloud
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@iro_miya also IMHO thats not a good mindset to havethats like saying "I have to get better at video games"
(DIR) Post #B5qjOz12OxQnkV7ray by iro_miya@mk.absturztau.be
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@N33R@fops.cloud idk I tend to not enjoy the things I'm bad at
(DIR) Post #B5qjchkpNN78Gf5Qye by N33R@fops.cloud
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@iro_miya thats fair I guess
(DIR) Post #B5qkUB4H7RNwWwgH1k by LilaHexe@fedi.lilahexe.top
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@iro_miya practice
(DIR) Post #B5qkXwRjQLaoLARnRA by iro_miya@mk.absturztau.be
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@LilaHexe@fedi.lilahexe.top then I guess it's the same problem I have with everything, how do I pull through doing something I hate doing because I'm not good at it...
(DIR) Post #B5qkzh3SF7lGiFKD20 by gwenthefops@transfem.social
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@iro_miya@mk.absturztau.be I'd be happy to help you practice of you wanted :neofox_smug:
(DIR) Post #B5qlWUBv5dVQNDvAye by kitten@elizabeth.cat
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@iro_miya @LilaHexe "pulling through it" doesn't sound like the way to go to be honest
(DIR) Post #B5qlWUVPv96NLh2kMq by iro_miya@mk.absturztau.be
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@LilaHexe@fedi.lilahexe.top @kitten@social.elizabeth.cat but like this applies to everything, I can't be good at something if I don't practice, and I can't enjoy it if I'm not good at it... I keep trying to learn skills but failing because practicing is too frustrating and I hate that... I havent learnt new things in years because of that and I'm stuck in my life. I need to pull through for once...
(DIR) Post #B5qmHWDrM5h4HfFtqK by green@mk.absturztau.be
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@LilaHexe@fedi.lilahexe.top @iro_miya does the same apply to your ripperdoc activities?
(DIR) Post #B5qmHWPYeb3ErwjF4q by iro_miya@mk.absturztau.be
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@LilaHexe@fedi.lilahexe.top @green see it seems I'm just naturally good at procedures which might be why I'm drawn to this
(DIR) Post #B5qr2kQ8mhQxkHmADY by green@mk.absturztau.be
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@LilaHexe@fedi.lilahexe.top @iro_miya hmm, both procedures and coffee involve following a rigid set of steps. maybe that's related
(DIR) Post #B5qr3lt2oozIaAmdW4 by eudaimonia@mastodon.vierkantor.com
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@green @iro_miya @LilaHexe aha. so sex is a kind of cooking and body mods are a type of baking. makes sense
(DIR) Post #B5qr3mS8iL3oL1CfDc by iro_miya@mk.absturztau.be
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@eudaimonia@mastodon.vierkantor.com @green @LilaHexe@fedi.lilahexe.top EXACTLY
(DIR) Post #B5qr6WLH4Oa1ExIa7U by kitten@elizabeth.cat
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@iro_miya @LilaHexe it is complex, yes... but having sex when one doesn't enjoy it ends up killing one's desire. it sucks.
(DIR) Post #B5qr6WWyMtwBpElvM0 by iro_miya@mk.absturztau.be
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@kitten@social.elizabeth.cat @LilaHexe@fedi.lilahexe.top it does... but the alternative is to not have sex, so either way it'll ruin sex for me
(DIR) Post #B5qr84MK56Sb20Wm5A by anominominominous@polyglot.city
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@iro_miya A) simple solution? be a complete bottom or just don't do it.B) learn to kiss, touch and lick passionately, not only on the lips, but on necks, thighs, arms and groinsC) foreplay is fundamental. Don't listen to the alpha males who wanna make you cum in 20 seconds. Quality sex takes time.D) embarrassing moments (farts, stretched muscles, whatever) may happen. Don't let them ruin the mood.E) maybe sexting, and videochats may help you get in the mood?
(DIR) Post #B5qrmBuhPggq2ojqRk by 4censord@unfug.social
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@eudaimonia @green @iro_miya @LilaHexe I mean you can have sex that is more like baking
(DIR) Post #B5qrmC5Km9CGZniL1U by kitten@elizabeth.cat
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@4censord @eudaimonia @iro_miya @LilaHexe I like how this can mean either precise and methodized, or just messy :blobcatgiggle:
(DIR) Post #B5qru9cLpjXVExxAQq by skye@void.rehab
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@4censord @eudaimonia @green @iro_miya @LilaHexe baking sex is awesome
(DIR) Post #B5qrukKvJUaF7d5Gu8 by iro_miya@mk.absturztau.be
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@kitten@social.elizabeth.cat @4censord@unfug.social @eudaimonia@mastodon.vierkantor.com @LilaHexe@fedi.lilahexe.top play piercing manages to be both :3 (because you can bleed a lot)
(DIR) Post #B5qsrDnHwuBVHLEbtQ by LilaHexe@fedi.lilahexe.top
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@iro_miya if you don't like doing it, don't do it. It's not like being good at sex is a requirement in life.But also 'practice' is a bit cheeky, because 'sex' isn't any one particular skill.Is there any part of sex that you do currently enjoy? If so, I'd suggest focusing on that
(DIR) Post #B5qtvKKzf66agaWONE by iro_miya@mk.absturztau.be
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@LilaHexe@fedi.lilahexe.top I think I enjoy when people do things to me but then I have no idea how to do anything back
(DIR) Post #B5quDKu0IjDZeLU6sq by nafiri@sk.petalgarden.link
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@iro_miya@mk.absturztau.be @LilaHexe@fedi.lilahexe.top have you tried like reducing the pressure to perform? allowing yourself to pause, take breaks, ask "what would you like me to do in this situation?" and importantly, make sure that the other person understands and is being helpful?of course, you should consider the possibility that you just don't like sex. or perhaps that it's better for your mental health not to push yourself too hard right now. but experimenting first can be goodim very much not good at sex but i consider myself fairly good at being bad at sex while not freaking out about it. it's arguably a more important skill than being good at sex
(DIR) Post #B5rUK9HRVS3xyvznWK by emilyenco@todon.nl
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@iro_miya We should not know what to do together again some time.