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       I believe in both transmisogyny and  transmisandry and I believe people assigned any gender at birth can experience either.The reason for this is that how you are coded is more done to you by outside forces than what you would like. You can dress differently. You can have surgery. You can do HRT. But at the end of the day, if another cis person decides you are fem or masc coded, they will then enact those biases upon you. You don't get a choice in the matter.I've been on HRT for close to a decade now. I've had top and lower surgery. I wear a lot of male presenting clothing about 75% of the time. I still get misgendered even in masc clothing. With the misgendering, my abilities, even my profession, come into question. My hobbies are assumed. Lots of assumptions are made about me. That is both sexism AND transmisogyny, in part because they often think I'm a trans woman. It's also transmisandry, because it assumes that I couldn't possibly be anything other than a cis or trans woman. It strips me of my identity.For a more concrete example of transmisandry, since that's my frequently lived experience online, it comes in the form of hatred of my HRT. There's a lot of hatred of testosterone that's proclaimed pretty openly by both cis and trans fems. I understand it, but it demonizes my medicine. That's transmisandry. Another example would be implying that as soon as a trans masc person begins their transition, they can no longer experience any sort of discrimination. This implies that we all are instantly always coded as cis male immediately, or that being coded 100% cis male is even a goal that we have. It's not for a lot of us. Some of us can't or don't want to start HRT. There are medical reasons for not being able to start HRT. There are also just personal reasons for not wanting it. Some people just love their bodies. Dysphoria is not required to be trans, especially for those growing up in loving and accepting environments, something that is more common now than it was 10 yrs ago. We have more language now. We have more tools at our disposal. How we choose to transition is a personal journey and should be respected regardless.Some of us will have the goal of being coded as cis male, and can grow out a full beard and experience day to day life as what a cis male would, but that's not all of us. It may not even be possible. To imply it is, is to not have marinated in our complex and wonderful trans masc communities.I can't speak to the transfem experience, because I'm not transfem, but I'm absolutely sure they get it from both angles as well, especially nonbinary transfems. I want them to know though: That's not right either. You don't deserve that.I want all trans people to know that it's not right to experience discrimination. I'm sorry you experience it and I hope it stops one day. I believe we have to acknowledge it though or we can't properly combat it.I love all my trans siblings.#trans
       
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       I think there's also this concept among some binary trans people that dysphoria is required, which implies that suffering is required to be trans, and it lacks the imagination that one day, you won't be required to suffer in order to change your socially perceived gender.I want gender euphoria to be the core reason people transition one day. I want it to be normal to just say, "I feel better when I feel more x" and x can be girl, boy, nonbinary, agender, whatever you want. I'm not going to name all the genders, this post would get too long, but any gender(s) you are is wonderful. I'm happy for you! I want that for you! I want you to be happy. And I don't want you to suffer.No one should have to suffer for gender. I feel like that's something feminism taught me and it's something I want to help bring along side my fellow trans mascs, to masculinity.Being any gender shouldn't be suffering and it shouldn't be imposing suffering on others.That is the goal. That's where I want to be. Anything less than that is at best a stepping stone, but at worst, detriment.