[HN Gopher] Manager's Handbook
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       Manager's Handbook
        
       Author : bspear
       Score  : 60 points
       Date   : 2022-04-20 09:06 UTC (3 days ago)
        
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       | dominotw wrote:
       | Being a manager in modern day means you have to accept being a
       | devious person to a certain degree. You are in the middle of
       | managing two conflicting goals of company and the employee. Each
       | wants to extract as much as possible from the other.
       | 
       | Promotions for example are always based on nebulous criteria that
       | are often made up on the fly. Yea there are career ladders and
       | stuff but those are totally ignored for all practical purposes.
       | As a manager you have to make up BS on the fly when an employee
       | asks you why they were not promoted despite doing everything you
       | asked them to do. Pomotions aren't really in your control as a
       | low lever manager.
        
         | PragmaticPulp wrote:
         | > Promotions for example are always based on nebulous criteria
         | that are often made up on the fly.
         | 
         | I think you've worked at some very toxic work environments, but
         | it's a mistake to suggest that your experience is the norm.
         | 
         | It's funny to read HN comments about how all managers are
         | terrible, devious people who are only out to abuse employees.
         | Most of us managers started out as ICs. Do you really think we
         | surrender our humanity and adopt evilness as our SOP on the day
         | they give us our manager title? No, most of us enter management
         | because we really like working with people and like helping
         | people succeed. This idea that we only exist to spite employees
         | is very childish.
        
           | daniel-cussen wrote:
           | He didn't say that, he just said it's antagonistic by nature,
           | nothing like what "you" accuse him of saying. That's fine,
           | you know chess is like that, in fact any game where the goals
           | are diametrically opposite. And they aren't completely
           | diametrical, they ways in which they are not diametrical are
           | just boring, nobody cares, yeah work hard yadda yadda, yeah
           | be polite and show up on time, nobody cares. But like don't
           | stop there! Work like fuck! Be gentlemanly or an assertive
           | woman, or some analog that suits you! And show up on time
           | like the bill from the cemetery! I did these things and
           | didn't get promoted, but well no one time I was promoted
           | actually, looking back...well but you gotta do it without
           | counting the cost, real enthusiasm, a real work ethic! And
           | knowing full well your employer might equally be, as an
           | employee is out to leech, out to leech his employees.
        
         | throwaway_1928 wrote:
         | This article explains it pretty well:
         | https://www.ribbonfarm.com/2009/10/07/the-gervais-
         | principle-....
        
         | atypeoferror wrote:
         | There is a lot to unpack in this comment, but in general the
         | situation described here is specific to certain kinds of
         | organizations, with lamentably poor leadership and management
         | cultures. If management views the employer-employee
         | relationship as some sort of zero-sum game - they have already
         | lost that game.
         | 
         | In companies with mature (which doesn't mean old - a relatively
         | young company can also be well-run!) structures, the criteria
         | for promotion are not nebulous. I struggle to see the wisdom in
         | setting goals for an employee's promotion without the intention
         | of rewarding them for working hard to meet those goals.
         | 
         | In general, I would encourage anyone who is in a working
         | situation described above to look for another job - and ask
         | about the management and leadership philosophy when you
         | interview! As interviewers, we are comfortable asking hard
         | questions, I don't see why being a candidate should be any
         | different. Is there a structured feedback system in your
         | company? What is it, and how closely does your team follow it?
         | When was the last person in your team promoted, and how long
         | were they in their previous role? etc.
        
           | chiefalchemist wrote:
           | > and ask about the management and leadership philosophy when
           | you interview!
           | 
           | In theory, I agree. The reality is these orgs are crap for a
           | reason...they drink too much of their own Kool Aid, they
           | don't realize they have blindspots, etc.
           | 
           | The point being, good luck getting a transparent and honest
           | answer as that's the antithesis of their philosophy.
        
             | atypeoferror wrote:
             | True - this is why it's important to structure your
             | questions in a way that makes it harder to BS - same as
             | when interviewing someone, ask about specific instances of
             | things.
             | 
             | It's been a while since I've been a candidate, so I kinda
             | winged it in the above comment, but if you want to be balsy
             | (and why not!) you can ask something like "Can you tell me
             | about the last time you had to give negative performance
             | feedback?" You might want to preface such a question a bit
             | to qualify your reasons for asking it, but that sort of
             | thing is not easy to BS.
        
               | chiefalchemist wrote:
               | Understood. It doesn't hurt to ask. I do agree. I'm just
               | suspect of honest replies. They might not BS in the true
               | sense. They just don't know what transparency and honesty
               | is.
               | 
               | Full disclosure: I just left a marketing agency that
               | wasn't 25% of what they said it was. I had asked
               | questions and the answers didn't match what was actually
               | happening. Nice people. I don't think it was intentional
               | per se. But they were so not self-aware that they had
               | little idea how far off they were.
        
           | dominotw wrote:
           | > and ask about the management and leadership philosophy when
           | you interview!
           | 
           | Is this really useful though. They will always tell you what
           | you want to hear, just like you say what they want to hear.
           | 
           | > I struggle to see the wisdom in setting goals for an
           | employee's promotion without the intention of rewarding them
           | for working hard to meet those goals.
           | 
           | Because low level managers don't really have the power to
           | grant that promotion and are not in position to properly
           | explain why they lost out the promotion to a peer from
           | another team. There are a whole of unspoken things that
           | factor into a promotion like gaining favor by pumping your
           | manager/VP by giving them credit publicly, thanking them for
           | their support ect.
        
             | tomtheelder wrote:
             | > Is this really useful though. They will always tell you
             | what you want to hear, just like you say what they want to
             | hear.
             | 
             | 100% it's useful.
             | 
             | First, not everyone is going to just tell you what you want
             | to hear. I for one am entirely transparent in interviews,
             | often criticizing the org. Hiring someone who doesn't like
             | the culture is an absolute disaster.
             | 
             | Second, you should ask the same question to every person
             | that interviews you. If you get a bunch of different
             | answers you're probably getting bullshitted, or they just
             | don't have a consistent answer across the org for what you
             | are asking. That's valuable info either way.
             | 
             | Third, ask questions that don't have a "right" answer. If
             | you ask "do people who work here care about the mission?"
             | you're going to get a yes every time. If you ask "what
             | would you say is the biggest source of motivation for you
             | and your team?" you'll get lots of varied answers. I know
             | because I've asked that question and gotten countless
             | different ones.
             | 
             | For the leadership/management question they have no way to
             | know what answer you are looking for when you ask about the
             | management philosophy. If they give a nothing answer like
             | "we try not to micromanage" then you push. You'll either
             | find out what it is or you'll find out that the people you
             | are asking don't know, which suggests that there isn't one.
        
           | sdoering wrote:
           | A lot of orgs don't control their promotion cycle.
           | 
           | Imagine a local unit with the budget given for promotions
           | from global is announced after the yearly promotion
           | discussions of all team leaders happened.
           | 
           | So they had to come up with some form of ranking so that the
           | cut off can be made based on the available budget.
           | 
           | So even if 15 people had done all that their team leads said
           | would be necessary for a promotion the decision hinges on
           | some internal ranking as well as a globally decided budget.
        
         | correstco wrote:
         | This is oddly specific. Perhaps to your company or industry.
         | 
         | But is in no way a standard across companies.
         | 
         | Sounds horrific to be honest. Having to BS employees on the
         | fly?
        
         | candiddevmike wrote:
         | You're spot on. The only way to "win" as a manager is by being
         | a sycophant to the director or VP above you. Loyalty is how you
         | get promoted. So your job is to make sure your boss or their
         | boss is never wrong, even when they really, really are.
        
         | rockinghigh wrote:
         | As a first-level manager you're not in control of compensation
         | policies but you can certainly impact promotions in many ways.
         | I have had many managers who were honest about the lack of
         | promotion or a bigger bonus.
        
       | Kototama wrote:
       | Oh no, it has a whole section on enneagram, which is pseudo-
       | science.
        
         | catach wrote:
         | They do preface with:
         | 
         | "It is not an exact science. It is not there to pigeonhole
         | people or to be an excuse for bad behavior. It is just a useful
         | framework for understanding yourself and others a little
         | better. And the better you understand someone, the better you
         | can work together."
        
       | ms4720 wrote:
       | I get an unexpected error, seems about right
        
         | BLKNSLVR wrote:
         | Doesn't that mean it's an expected error?
        
       | thenerdhead wrote:
       | I went through half of it. I think it has promise, but not really
       | sure I would call it a handbook. Some things are just strange to
       | me:
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       | > A senior employee comes to you with a competitive offer in
       | hand, asking for a promotion. You investigate the situation and
       | decide that, since you really don't want to lose this employee,
       | you will cave and give them a promotion.
       | 
       | > You have just created a strong incentive for political
       | behavior.
       | 
       | Hard disagree. People look for more responsibility / jobs all the
       | time and when they come to you saying they want to stay and this
       | is their condition, you better honor it and not call it
       | "politics". They don't have to do that at all and now you're back
       | to hiring or backfilling.
       | 
       | This is also literally the opposite of the highlights saying:
       | 
       | > Attract, nurture, coach, and retain talent.
       | 
       | > Keep an eye on your team's health and happiness.
       | 
       | > Give your team a clear path to progress in their careers.
       | 
       | Also this section on remote work is so out of touch:
       | 
       | > Always have your camera on for meetings and touchpoints. Please
       | ask others to do so as well. This is non-negotiable. There should
       | be no state in which you are working where your camera can't be
       | turned on. If you look like ass, own the fact that you look like
       | ass and understand that at some point the people you are talking
       | to will look like ass too. If you don't want to turn the camera
       | on because you are sitting in bed and it's all messed up, then
       | get out of the bed and go sit at a table or something. This isn't
       | rocket science. Be 100% of yourself at all times, but be
       | professional.
       | 
       | An executive definitely wrote this. I bet they don't show their
       | face to every call they take. The pandemic has made this normal,
       | but prior to it I think this would be challenged. I don't need to
       | see your face to work with you. Sure let's do it often, but not
       | 24/7.
       | 
       | > The terms "management" and "leadership" are often used
       | interchangeably, but they are actually two distinct things. In
       | short, management is tactical and leadership is strategic.
       | 
       | This attitude I think harms the merit of what management really
       | is. Management is a noble profession that people think is
       | separate from leadership. They are the same regardless of what
       | you think. I think Clayton Christensen said it best:
       | 
       | > "I used to think that if you cared for other people, you need
       | to study sociology or something like it. But....I [have]
       | concluded, if you want to help other people, be a manager. If
       | done well, management is among the most noble of professions. You
       | are in a position where you have eight or ten hours every day
       | from every person who works for you. You have the opportunity to
       | frame each person's work so that, at the end of every day, your
       | employees will go home feeling like Diana felt on her good day:
       | living a life filled with motivators."
       | 
       | I would overall call this a generic self-help guide for someone
       | who happens to be a manager. It literally includes word for word
       | ideas in the most random places like GTD, stoicism, and even a
       | section on sales?
        
         | fernandotakai wrote:
         | >The pandemic has made this normal, but prior to it I think
         | this would be challenged. I don't need to see your face to work
         | with you. Sure let's do it often, but not 24/7.
         | 
         | my rules, since i started working remotely (so ~10y ago)
         | regarding cameras are: on if the meeting has less than 10
         | people. on at the beginning from 10 to 20~30. after that
         | number, off (since it doesn't matter anymore).
         | 
         | that means that for team and project meetings, my camera is
         | always on. for dept meetings, it's on at the beginning because
         | i want people to know i'm around and paying attention (usually
         | i turn it off after the meeting starts properly). and for
         | company wide meetings, it's off because there are so many
         | people that it doesn't really matter if the CEO can see me or
         | ont.
        
         | ithkuil wrote:
         | Every time I quit it was because I wanted to quit and when
         | asked from my employer what would have taken to change my mind
         | I couldn't find anything realistic they could offer me to stay.
         | But that's because in my cases compensation wasn't the main
         | motivation for desiring to leave.
         | 
         | I can totally imagine a different scenario where people who are
         | clearly underpaid must follow a different strategy. It all
         | boils down to a) does the employer underpay the employee b)
         | does the employer understand how much the employee feels
         | sincerely underpaid?
         | 
         | Point (b) is an important nitpick because often employers and
         | employees have radically different measures of what is "right",
         | in particular when you throw in rules about location-based
         | compensation.
        
         | PragmaticPulp wrote:
         | When you're an employee, it feels like your manager's job is to
         | keep you happy and give you what you want.
         | 
         | When you first get into management, you immediately realize
         | that your job is to serve _an entire team_ in ways that will
         | some times not make individuals happy. You have to focus on
         | doing what's best for the team, not just giving the loudest
         | team member what they demand.
         | 
         | > Hard disagree. People look for more responsibility / jobs all
         | the time and when they come to you saying they want to stay and
         | this is their condition, you better honor it and not call it
         | "politics".
         | 
         | If the person is deserving of the promotion then withholding it
         | _just because_ is silly. But in the real world that doesn't
         | really happen. What manager would actively withhold something
         | that would motivate their team? Remember, managers don't get
         | compensated and promoted for keeping their team members
         | miserable and depriving them of what they want. We get
         | compensated and promoted based on getting the job done.
         | 
         | The problem in these scenarios is that you can't start trading
         | promotions as leverage. You need to give out promotions _as
         | earned_ according to the criteria spelled out to the team.
         | 
         | If you start giving out promotions to people who seek competing
         | job offers, you're telling the team that the promotion path is
         | not based on merit or performance, but rather on your ability
         | to hold your manager over a barrel with threats of quitting.
         | 
         | Reward this once and you'll start seeing much of the team
         | threaten to quit whenever they want something. Motivation will
         | fall as employees realize that their best option to get ahead
         | of their peers is not to work hard, but to threaten to quit.
         | Resentment will grow as team members learn that their peer was
         | promoted for getting competing job offers, not for doing good
         | work. That's the definition of politics.
         | 
         | Of course, you need to have a valid promotion structure and
         | criteria in place and you need to honor it. But no, you should
         | not get into the habit of giving employees whatever they want
         | in response to threats to leave.
        
         | tyre wrote:
         | Declining a promotion that a manager doesn't feel is warranted
         | does not conflict with providing a clear career path for team
         | members.
         | 
         | Promoting someone to staff engineer who doesn't meet the bar
         | lowers the bar for a staff engineer at the company.
         | 
         | Promoting based on a threat to leave communicates that one path
         | forward is negotiation through counter-offers. Maybe that's the
         | culture some company are after, I don't know.
         | 
         | Management and leadership are distinct. There are people
         | managers who don't lead their teams and senior ICs who do.
        
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