Posts by kittenlikeasmallcat@social.xenofem.me
(DIR) Post #B2ZmoRyUojShvDksbo by kittenlikeasmallcat@social.xenofem.me
2026-01-23T12:18:45.281976Z
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@erin ash ketchum ass post right here hell yea you get that personhood you got it i believe in you inspirational buttrock in low bitrate mp3 over the loudspeakers
(DIR) Post #B2aBe7Mt4i2XyCKl9s by kittenlikeasmallcat@social.xenofem.me
2026-01-23T03:50:42.724488Z
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@ellenor2000 @dot It can and does say this as often as when someone is totally in the closet about being a trans women (or being anything but cisgender (or really being anything on purpose) ). It's easily an intermediary closet, a closet foyer, a mudroom of the closet, a safe reserved denial, is it not? It can just as easily be, if we're keeping to the architectural metaphors, a means of not only leaving the closet but the house its in altogether. The phenomenon of tma nonbinary gender is more widely understood to be associated with the "leaving the house," so any time the alternative possibility is invoked, as seen in this post, I feel it ought to be read as a means of exploring and emphasizing that alternate "foyer" scenario. I'm sure this post invokes what it does for the sake of being challenging to the wide interpretation. Whether it has succeeded here isn't for me to say. The thing I understand this post to be saying, in gentler and more lumbering terms, is that the fear and denial associated with transitioning can be mitigated, at least theoretically, by not "going all the way," by stopping short of insisting on one's place in womanhood. It names the fear that a transfem might have that she isn't a woman and it takes it to its unexamined logical conclusion - that this impossibility is categorical. This post criticizes this fear with personal idiomatic hyperbole borne from experience inflated to make a point without diluting it by rote-naming its exclusions and exceptions - a perfectly possible and surely at least somewhat common nonbinary identity which isn't a result of fear. The exact proportions of how often "afraid"-nb and "fleshed out"-nb occur are immaterial. That each occurs is the point. We have to decide whether we think this semi-closet safety is ever actually safe. I say it isn't.For myself, I think it's important to mention that my own understanding of myself in relation to gender is in a lot of respects nonbinary. The thing that I have to put in huge flashing lights, however is that despite harsh opposition, I'm still definitively a woman - more pointedly a lesbian. I have to put it in those lights because I know that if I say I'm nonbinary, all but the most informed are going to instantly read that to say that I'm fundamentally a man "but quirky" or at best in any respect anything remotely like a man. This is wrong, so I make sure that the only time I'm talking about my gender being anything other than binary is when I can make this totally and convincingly clear, otherwise I am not nonbinary because I reject the safety and comfort offered to this ID (an id that retains manhood and does not insist on womanhood) by a world that daily invents new unthinkable levels of hatred for transgender women, binary or otherwise.
(DIR) Post #B2aBe8MZNNNd3VC1Im by kittenlikeasmallcat@social.xenofem.me
2026-01-23T04:02:43.184080Z
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@ellenor2000 @dot Disengaging with the salient points embedded in challenging material because its tone is harsh isn't doing anyone any favors.
(DIR) Post #B2aXnWGi3zKgnLKfx2 by kittenlikeasmallcat@social.xenofem.me
2026-01-23T21:00:59.126090Z
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@dot @ellenor2000 yea but i used six times as many words and said it twelve times more awkwardly so its different that way
(DIR) Post #B2ahlc7sJUWlvLvjbk by kittenlikeasmallcat@social.xenofem.me
2026-01-23T22:52:11.745395Z
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Weekend in a motel with a girl over-enthusiastically wielding a tattoo gun. Let's have it. I'll trade and eyeball, 50% mobility in my right knee and one of each - pinky or ring fingers. Do we have a deal?
(DIR) Post #B2akj6jSMc0dqD0NZQ by kittenlikeasmallcat@social.xenofem.me
2026-01-23T23:29:05.624961Z
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@nyx A bunch of sewing needles, a binder clip, too much coffee, and a soldering iron is surely a sufficient stand-in.Alternatively - (see pictured)
(DIR) Post #B2aktFG7W3HfBN7Kfg by kittenlikeasmallcat@social.xenofem.me
2026-01-23T23:32:00.032896Z
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@nyx {Audiophile who only listens to analog music played using a motor that's been used for a prison tattoo machine.}
(DIR) Post #B2anL3b8fGXh27L196 by kittenlikeasmallcat@social.xenofem.me
2026-01-23T23:54:41.901908Z
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MAKE BACKUPS DO IT FUCK YOU DO IT FUCK YOU IF YOURE NOT DOING IT DO IT NAO
(DIR) Post #B2aoGMku6sU4xIEU9A by kittenlikeasmallcat@social.xenofem.me
2026-01-23T23:45:03.928602Z
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@cyb3rm0shp1t A world where specific death just as easily results from the endorsement of passive inaction in context as a consumer or beneficiary or just pure fucking automation sure makes killing more common. Civilization, colonization, and the march of progress from the perspective of those whose ground up bones and souls are the substance of the body of leviathan certainly do not act as escapes from that mythical suggestion of a primordial brutality which props it all up to begin with.
(DIR) Post #B2aq201a1hTwJJJHIe by kittenlikeasmallcat@social.xenofem.me
2026-01-24T00:19:58.920041Z
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@cyb3rm0shp1t I'm agreeing with the main point. I'm going a little deeper and saying that any assumption that the "uncivilized world" is more violent is one of the main arguments for colonization and industrialization and all that and it's to begin with fully bonkers and ignorant.
(DIR) Post #B2aqX4L02XPYfHCyxs by kittenlikeasmallcat@social.xenofem.me
2026-01-24T00:29:10.164944Z
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@mndnau I'm currently copying my music folder from a T410 to a latitude E5430 using a naked HDD with a usb adapter plugged into it as a vehicle. I might as well have two tin cans on a string and a rusty mallet pinging out morse code between two hand crank singer sewing machines tbh.
(DIR) Post #B2ar38xiNjcAH2byJU by kittenlikeasmallcat@social.xenofem.me
2026-01-24T00:39:51.765295Z
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@rowb1t @mndnau yoooooooooo we talk about flac formats and vinyl and shit but where's the love for player piano rolls and wax gramophone tubes amirite
(DIR) Post #B2bvt72rLefAMT0vbM by kittenlikeasmallcat@social.xenofem.me
2026-01-24T13:06:00.859184Z
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@nyx @OneRatOneVerySmallTrenchCoat good old regexr dot com says that this:/\b(?<![Nn]ative |[Ll]atin |[Nn]orth |[Ss]outh )[Aa]merica.*/gcovers it but i am not very good at regex someone competent should probably look at it too but either way go to sleep ffs also i suspect you may have missed this post https://social.xenofem.me/notice/B1N7wQaPC9ba7RAbQW but if this was an emoji i would be fuckin lit up
(DIR) Post #B2eov6teTIpPam8dE0 by kittenlikeasmallcat@social.xenofem.me
2026-01-25T22:17:56.115369Z
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vibes based character assassination conviction by a jury of that one bitch who was a little creeped out
(DIR) Post #B2etqpBOt9A1GaDRMe by kittenlikeasmallcat@social.xenofem.me
2026-01-25T23:20:37.611767Z
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@zuki @salt All these words denoting deviations only exist relative to a dominant culture which is a population able to wield power in its context. In our context where power is distributed by exploitation any deviation that doesnt internally reproduce exploitation ought to be celebrated whereas any superficial folding-in of the form of a deviant into a quarantined niche provided by a dominant culture is literally the texbook form of recuperation and erasure. Where slurs are reclaimed and ways of life are crystallized and formalized the path is being laid for recuperation. The deliberate point isn't the semiotic form assigned from above, it's how the effective dynamics and maintained separation from the dominant population can contribute to actualization. 'Neurodivergent' from what I understand is an example of a label coined internally and accepted into the hiring branch of the heirarchy; 'queer and gay' are examples of terms first laid vertically and then accepted but then used to reproduce exploitation. Weird on the other hand seems only to have become more convoluted in its functional etymology and I appreciate that about it.
(DIR) Post #B2euaSLq6lS9mBrDto by kittenlikeasmallcat@social.xenofem.me
2026-01-25T23:36:18.086749Z
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@zuki @salt the name that can be named is not the eternal name, but fortunately the naming process is often so fleetingly cyclical that the thing underlying it can usually ignore it and keep ballin
(DIR) Post #B2euoxmW31xhJGFinA by kittenlikeasmallcat@social.xenofem.me
2026-01-25T09:16:04.877102Z
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@cyndr calling out @cyb3rm0shp1t cos I'm a biiiiiitch who usually does not drop things mostly and the visceral revulsion toward spotify is loud
(DIR) Post #B2euozAIu4aHbKOEVc by kittenlikeasmallcat@social.xenofem.me
2026-01-25T23:26:10.506974Z
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@cyb3rm0shp1t @cyndr it means i think you're in an abusive relationship with a corporation and i think you should break up with it because you deserve better and also that i'm shit on purpose at minding my own buisiness
(DIR) Post #B2gvMUEcnRoNpnIzXk by kittenlikeasmallcat@social.xenofem.me
2026-01-26T22:44:52.917065Z
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@nyx OMFG LOOK OMG OMG LOOK LOOK WOW WOWEE WOW LOOK AT THIS CAT WOW
(DIR) Post #B2hAtroHfFGJouMM5Y by kittenlikeasmallcat@social.xenofem.me
2026-01-27T01:51:19.201758Z
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sometimes the right move is to shut the fuck up sometimes the right move is to shut the fuck up sometimes the right move is to shut the fuck up sometimes the right move is to shut the fuck up sometimes the right move is to shut the fuck up