Posts by hystersyster@spinster.xyz
(DIR) Post #A4ZOhF6kBihCni3kY4 by hystersyster@spinster.xyz
2021-02-23T14:42:28.806899Z
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I'm thinking back to the time when I identified as asexual. While I think one of the reasons was because I am a lesbian and didn't want to admit it, more generally I felt like I had no sexual privacy otherwise. The culture I grew up in was hypersexual, and I had many peers in high school who talked about sex frequently. Sometimes it was things that didn't sit right with me, like kink, but a lot of times, it was just relaying sexual encounters. I think it's normal to discuss those sorts of things as a teenager, but for me, I wanted my sex life to be private. I didn't really discuss it with anyone save maybe my closest friend. For me, saying I was asexual was like a get out of jail free card to keep things to myself.
(DIR) Post #A5dSbJEGfAzBSfypqi by hystersyster@spinster.xyz
2021-03-01T04:29:05.161205Z
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@FeistyAmazon It's really sad seeing all my butch peers trans the gay away. Every single lesbian I know, including me, went through a trans phase, all of them, and I know a lot of lesbians. A few survived but others not.It's so important for young butch lesbians to have butch role models and friends. That's what got me through it. I hope one day I can be that person for someone else.
(DIR) Post #A90zUKwJE7EPYB4QjY by hystersyster@spinster.xyz
2021-07-06T14:37:05.769627Z
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https://www.28toomany.org/donate/28toomany is a charity whose goal is ending the barbaric and inhumane practice of female genital mutilation. Their website has a lot of information on FGM as it is practiced in many countries. I encourage everyone to read up on it and donate if you can. This is one of the most overt and violent expressions of misogyny globally, done to girls as young as 5, to keep them "pure" for their future husbands. In one method, the inner labia and clitoris are completely cut off with shears, and the labia majora are sewn shut, with a small opening for the passage of urine and menstrual blood. The legs of the child are bound together to encourage formation of a scar and the fusion of the labia majora, leaving the girl incapacitated for weeks. When the girl is married (often also as a child or young teenager, if she survives the practice), the scar is either forced open by penetration, cut open by the man with a knife, or, if he happens to have a modicum of sympathy, it is cut open by a doctor in a hospital. No matter what, the result is a second bout of excruciating pain.I am by no means an expert on this topic, but since reading more and more women's testimonies and descriptions of the practice, it is one of my biggest concerns as a feminist. Please, if anyone knows of any other ways we can help end this practice and support the women affected by it, add on to this thread. Thank you.
(DIR) Post #A91EEy2NanOVUP2UbI by hystersyster@spinster.xyz
2021-07-06T17:23:31.443351Z
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@BCLADY I know that of course having the language to describe sex-based oppression is crucial, and there have been transactivists that have attacked and attempted to suppress the work of anti-FGM activists, and we must acknowledge these as a backlash to the feminist movement, but I think it's a reach and a bit disrespectful to compare gender ideology to the practice of FGM. They are not intrinsically linked, FGM predates transsexualism by millennia, it's an age-old practice of misogyny. Likewise, while SRS is a horrific practice that should be abolished, I simply do not think it is comparable to a procedure where a girl is held down to have her genitals cut off or burnt with acid against her will, with no anaesthetic, so that she will remain a virgin bride for a potential husband that will likely be at least a decade older than her, only to have the scar ripped or cut open later so she can be raped. SRS can't be the Western version of FGM when FGM literally *is* practiced in the West. These are separate issues with separate causes and consequences, linked only by the vast umbrella of misogyny. I am not trying to attack you or anything, just saying that although it can be tempting to think all roads lead to trans, because it's so prevalent in Western media and increasingly in law, misogyny is the oldest form of oppression, and there are issues like this that deserve our head-on attention without derailing into issues more familiar to us.That out of the way, I do love Hibo Wardere's social media presence, but I had no idea she had a book, so thank you for the recommendation. I am currently reading Infidel by Ayaan Hirsi Ali, another FGM survivor and activist, which is a horrifying autobiography of her life in Muslim Somalia, and her escape from an arranged marriage. I highly recommend this book.