Posts by dragora@kolektiva.social
 (DIR) Post #ATajuHAOtcNFq2HJQG by dragora@kolektiva.social
       2023-03-14T01:31:52Z
       
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       @Hypermycotic The people at work who regularly use "man" when talking to me inevitably end up misgendering me. I find that behavior more than a little sus, and I'm glad your therapist caught themselves.
       
 (DIR) Post #ATkmebnBaWdKjjHQ1o by dragora@kolektiva.social
       2023-03-18T22:15:33Z
       
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       @Tilopa Yeah, go fuck yourself.
       
 (DIR) Post #ATmZO4Q6zGIzVtBsqO by dragora@kolektiva.social
       2023-03-19T18:56:19Z
       
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       @lowqualityfacts Having been forced into becoming a back sleeper due to recent bottom surgery, I can verify this.
       
 (DIR) Post #AUUTv4dIRElOOOlWzo by dragora@kolektiva.social
       2023-04-09T23:04:04Z
       
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       @kittenlikeasmallcat @boytits @trans_caracal Having read your transformative justice post, can you elaborate a little more on what you see transformative justice practice looking like, and how that differs from the accountability processes that usually get labeled TJ? I'm having a hard time envisioning the practicalities of what you're talking about.
       
 (DIR) Post #AUUqfS9JXETVdjGJX6 by dragora@kolektiva.social
       2023-04-10T01:07:02Z
       
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       @kittenlikeasmallcat @boytits For at least some people who advocate this sort of thing, I suspect it's motivated by a liberal approach to prison abolition. A lot of people (myself included at the time; I like to think my thinking has evolved a lot since then) can get persuaded over to prison abolition by the argument that prisons don't work. This is true, but a lot of them take that argument to mean we just need to replace them with something more effective, which usually ends up being something like an accountability process, which they're assured will really work this time. People then get so starry-eyed about the possibilities of redemption that they lose sight of how much this centers abusers and denigrates survivors. Note that this isn't everyone. There's definitely some folks who exploit this cynically to cover up their own abusive tendencies. On the other hand, though, I think you've also got groups of people who are terrified of getting cancelled or whatever and think that being serious about dealing with rapists means that they'll be doomed if they speak out of turn. As other people have pointed out, this is the kind of conflation that's led Conflict Is Not Abuse to get so damn popular, and it's had some pretty pernicious effects.I think all of this ultimately stems from a failure to understand or account for the power dynamics at the heart of carceralism; they're assuming that the abusers get imprisoned and we're just not dealing with them properly. Thirty-One Theses encapsulates this failure pretty well in point 24: https://immerautonom.noblogs.org/thirty-one-theses-a-manifesto/As far as what to call this, I have no real idea.
       
 (DIR) Post #AVrKTZgSVWcFCTs8pc by dragora@kolektiva.social
       2023-05-20T16:31:08Z
       
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       @kittenlikeasmallcat Do you have any pointers towards texts you particularly like on the subject? I've been practicing polyamory for like five years or so, but I've never done much looking into the theory, and I know at least some texts are problematic at this point (e.g., More Than Two).
       
 (DIR) Post #AVvR386rsgquSmOyx6 by dragora@kolektiva.social
       2023-05-22T16:40:53Z
       
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       @kittenlikeasmallcat Probably my favorite album of last year, tbh.
       
 (DIR) Post #AYRCkybSTMt8ZCOpXM by dragora@kolektiva.social
       2023-08-06T00:39:50Z
       
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       @kittenlikeasmallcat I really need to buy that album one of these days.
       
 (DIR) Post #AbIU6wMx5C1VGdF6mG by dragora@kolektiva.social
       2023-10-30T13:32:02Z
       
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       @nyx Well, now I'm going to have to give that a listen again.
       
 (DIR) Post #AbuBAZjmymKPZsgwLI by dragora@kolektiva.social
       2023-11-17T14:30:50Z
       
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       @kittenlikeasmallcat NGL, I was really hoping you'd have a YouTube link.
       
 (DIR) Post #AbvcnECNsyCfzTgMAS by dragora@kolektiva.social
       2023-11-17T18:47:12Z
       
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       @kittenlikeasmallcat Yeah, you're not wrong.