Posts by acjay@qoto.org
(DIR) Post #AR8fLQLQVtY1yyOz1E by acjay@qoto.org
2022-12-30T06:12:28Z
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Becoming a parent has forced me to come to terms with the finiteness of my time, mental, and emotional energy, in terms of getting things done. It's humbling. Honestly, I'm very privileged in what I have to work with. Some days, I feel like I'm crushing it. Other days, I feel like I can't get anything done. I try to be at peace with whatever I can do, because I do feel that in the long arc, I get the important stuff done. Even if it never actually feels enough and there's always an immense amount of things left undone. But that's the trap, isn't it? If there even are people out there that can do it all, they must be so few, and everybody else just feels like they're failing. Most of us are getting by, and I think that's just fine.
(DIR) Post #AR9G5jsRowD8ETEP68 by acjay@qoto.org
2022-12-31T00:02:12Z
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@lucifargundam Yep, agree with all those things.One thing I practice is acknowledging the emotions I have, whereas I used to be frustrated by them and try to suppress them.So I try to make decisions by my own standards, knowing that I'll feel whatever I'm going to feel, and that's alright.
(DIR) Post #ARYRk7k08H24LXwELI by acjay@qoto.org
2023-01-12T02:19:00Z
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I'm 38 now, and the concept of geniuses dying in their mid twenties blows my mind. Hendrix was 27. Biggie was 24. Basquiat was 27. How were they so good, so young? And then, like that, gone. I'm thankful for the geniuses, but I'm also kinda thankful I'm not a genius. I wouldn't have had the maturity to handle fame. I don't know if I do now!Also, I'm pretty sure being a genius doesn't lead to happiness.
(DIR) Post #ARYSvXv3F6aeg07KXg by acjay@qoto.org
2023-01-12T03:53:48Z
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@lucifargundam Yeah, I sometimes hate on aphorisms. But I think there's something to the dangers of youth+genius. I guess the problem with aphorisms is that even if they're right, they don't show their work.
(DIR) Post #ARYU4mRKiyK4GvBSxE by acjay@qoto.org
2023-01-12T04:05:57Z
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Of social networks, I find LinkedIn is the best if I have thoughts to share about professional life. (Probs no surprise there.)The Twitter algorithm is all about generating engagement. Mastodon doesn't have an algorithm, and therefore, things that you post can just get lost in the wash.LinkedIn kinda stands out for this because- people are obviously primed to see work-oriented content- most people don't post that often to it, therefore, there's less noise to cut through- in my experience, my network there is more representative of my real life connections, increasing engagement with my content
(DIR) Post #ARYU7KWQyiHeYUmlqC by acjay@qoto.org
2023-01-12T04:06:44Z
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The higher word limit here compared to Twitter is great. People still keep it short, but it's not nearly as cramped. And I can be longer where it feels right.
(DIR) Post #ARYVHbeAGQ00W5riVc by acjay@qoto.org
2023-01-12T04:20:12Z
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@lucifargundam When I was younger, I often felt that achieving all my dreams could be quite depressing. Trevor Noah actually said as much in an interview. There's nowhere to hide from your existential angst when you can't pin it to something you lack.https://www.wnycstudios.org/podcasts/deathsexmoney/episodes/tressie-mcmillan-cottom-trevor-noah-death-sex-money
(DIR) Post #ARYVRjHsi9Jz6qGmxs by acjay@qoto.org
2023-01-12T04:22:01Z
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@lucifargundam Also, I'm pretty familiar with burnout and gaslighting. In the context of this discussion, it reminds me of when Dave Chappelle famously checked out from fame and fortune. I believe he cited the burnout and the sense that he was stuck in kind of an illusion created by the fame (my paraphrasing).
(DIR) Post #ARYaTS8coG59Ascyp6 by acjay@qoto.org
2023-01-01T19:25:57Z
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The Fediverse needs a better answer for identity, decoupled from hosting. Identity needs decentralized verification. I know none of this is easy. I'm pretty sure this is where Bluesky is trying to differentiate. But it feels like it could be vaporware and I admittedly feel biased against things from the Dorseyverse.#fediverse #mastodon #TwitterMigration #bluesky #identity
(DIR) Post #ARYdTbxiaFPbVQIFFo by acjay@qoto.org
2023-01-12T05:52:00Z
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@lucifargundam I think that's all right. I'm actually truly astounded by young successful people who do manage to navigate it successfully. LeBron James stands out to me as an example.
(DIR) Post #ARiSIIjWa1OUlfer0y by acjay@qoto.org
2023-01-06T22:38:31Z
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Interesting discoveries about Roman concretehttps://news.mit.edu/2023/roman-concrete-durability-lime-casts-0106
(DIR) Post #ASKSIC1tssfuzqXEJM by acjay@qoto.org
2023-02-04T07:32:21Z
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If life allowed me to be up all night whenever I wanted without penalty, I'd be literally unstoppable
(DIR) Post #ASKSLCCzfw4CQ79iQS by acjay@qoto.org
2023-02-04T07:33:23Z
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@lucifargundam oh I'd sleep, just not as much at night.
(DIR) Post #ATvZypIZv6Mfkgphz6 by acjay@qoto.org
2023-03-23T12:30:24Z
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#protip Don't hang stuff from your doors, unless you've got heavy duty hinges. And you probably don't.If you don't heed this advice, you're likely going to have your top hinge start pulling out from the door frame.
(DIR) Post #ATvZyqRpeBMRJgAc2y by acjay@qoto.org
2023-03-24T03:07:47Z
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@trinsec may the odds be ever in your favor!
(DIR) Post #ATxJrMWi9MKAeaEdCj by acjay@qoto.org
2023-03-24T13:36:38Z
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People not from Jersey have this impression that it sucks, and people from Jersey love it.I think it's bc the points of interest in the state are very diffuse. It doesn't have a stand-out center of cultural gravity for the mind to latch on to.But what it does have is easy access to damn near everything people like.#newjersey
(DIR) Post #ATxJrO6CIuIvWvqU9g by acjay@qoto.org
2023-03-24T15:59:26Z
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@freemo What parts of the gun laws do you not support? I have no interest in owning a gun, so I don't know what our gun laws actually are.Agreed on the property tax, for sure. To some extent, it's "pick your poison" in terms of tax types, but we're in the top 10 in terms of overall tax burden.
(DIR) Post #ATxPeVOoRxfU8EnEpM by acjay@qoto.org
2023-03-24T12:56:44Z
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@lucifargundam @trinsec that too 😂
(DIR) Post #ATyqB0DcBwI8wvfiYC by acjay@qoto.org
2023-03-25T03:59:57Z
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After 4 kids, I've come to believe that kids want to sleep at night, through the whole night. They don't hate their parents and want to wake us up. Our job is to try to understand what's standing in the way of a good night's sleep.That's the right mindset, but unfortunately, there's no easy way to figure out the answer.#parenting #advice
(DIR) Post #AVjoxj201gAbJMEZ6m by acjay@qoto.org
2023-05-17T06:50:50Z
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@alexelcu reports of Scala's death are greatly exaggerated, apparentlyI haven't programmed it in a while, but it's still my fave language.