Posts by MellowMarigold@spinster.xyz
(DIR) Post #AQyRxeOhN5LLGqF3Ue by MellowMarigold@spinster.xyz
2022-12-25T18:43:49.617126Z
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@Piss_Ant Well done keep it up you can do it. Millions of beautiful souls have departed from this world too early because of addiction. Addiction is a cruel because it doesn't only take an individuals health it ulimately robs them of their soul and takes away their human dignity.You are an intelligent, funny and compassionate woman who has absolutely everything to live for and so much living to do.Merry Christmas and here is to more months and years of soberity.LoveMellowMarigold :)
(DIR) Post #AQyRylBdc8tWcJf6DQ by MellowMarigold@spinster.xyz
2022-12-25T18:09:36.110262Z
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@Piss_Ant Yeah it is absolutely wrong because it sends a misleading message that women who are not beautiful are villains and can not be trusted. This is how prejudices and misogyny in society end up spreading because the media plays a massive role in how people treat and see other people around them.Looking older pictures of Ghislane Maxwell in her 20s she was a very beautiful woman and the British media before she met Epstein painted her as this innocent daddy's girl. Her father was very famous corrupt businessman and was also a Member of Parliament the UK and she loved her father. Despite Ghislane's outer beauty inside she always the ugliest heart throughout her life. She used her innocent appearance along with her privileged social status to make people believe she was not a dangerous and evil woman. This is what led to the sexual abuse trafficking of many young girls that ghislane did.
(DIR) Post #AQyePgTgQeTDHUhujI by MellowMarigold@spinster.xyz
2022-12-25T21:04:59.859840Z
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@Piss_Ant The poverty and race argument is just insulting the poor and ethic minorities because the left are basically saying poor and ethnic minority people are not clever enough to get ID, that is what is what they are saying. A lot of left wingers and Liberals are snobs( NOT ALL) the voter ID debate is proof of that.Here in the UK we have British people particularly in the labour party and Liberal Democrat party argue the voter IDs laws the Conservative government want to bring in are racist against black people and discriminate against poor people in Britain.How do the poor, the black and ethnic minorities people in the UK drive, buy a a beer or tobacco in a shop( Brits love too drink) and claim welfare benefits because in the UK you need ID to do all those things?Non white majority countries have voter ID laws it is not just European nations. Voter ID laws exist in some countries within Africa, Asia and the Middle East. https://www.idea.int/data-tools/question-view/739
(DIR) Post #AQygfCrWVRDbyKO5oG by MellowMarigold@spinster.xyz
2022-12-25T20:46:09.527370Z
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What it's like being a 25 year old adult virgin woman? In past I have other women ask me what's it like never having a boyfriend and still being a virgin at 25. ● In the past I have had other women tell me its nothing to worry about and how they wished "they waited" instead of losing it young.● I feel so immature and a failure to grow into a real adult woman. Growing up witnessing my close childhood friend no longer hanging out with me anymore once she got a boyfriend her act of no longer hanging out with me I did feel like she was growing up and didn't need her childhood friend anymore. Just seeing all the other girls at school having boyfriends it felt like everyone was growing except me. Yesterday we were just children and now nearly everyone in school is coupled up, losing their virginity and experiencing real love and relationships the way grown ups do. ● I feel like an outsider amoung women my age group group. When I hear women in my life talk and share stories about their relationships, their first love and all the experiences of having a relationship I can not relate to any of that and women my age can not relate to me either. ● I am absolutely terrifed if I do have future relationships that I will not be a good enough future girlfriend to sexually satisfy her future boyfriend properly because of my abscence of sexual relationships. I fear he will not love me because it. It does causes me a lot of anxiety
(DIR) Post #AQyqg0Bs6VzAVCvJdg by MellowMarigold@spinster.xyz
2022-12-25T23:27:55.338773Z
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@Cousin_Isobel @ArtistBristol Hey you just reminded me of something. When i was teenager studying A level Government and Politics a girl in my class mentioned an American politician who was so open about having a transgender child, that transgender child grew up to die by suicide at 24 years old. In class we had a few discussions how American toliet laws banning transgender people was going to effect the UK because at time British transgender tourists were worried about being abused visting American states that had those toliet laws. The transgender rights groups in the UK were even demanding the British Prime Minister do something about it the whole was so embrassing, I followed the whole thing.Suicide is very complex and only the individual knows why they are ending their life. I feel like this politician did more harm exposing her child to the world at such a young age. Her child at 16 years old was testifying publicly how the states toliets laws effected them as student at school.https://www.nytimes.com/2022/12/23/us/henry-berg-brousseau-transgender-activist-dead.html
(DIR) Post #AQzmjg5Wa4YieiPatc by MellowMarigold@spinster.xyz
2022-12-26T00:16:29.887571Z
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@Cousin_Isobel @ArtistBristol Yesterday I was following the story about this person's suicide along with the mother comments and with transgender rights supporters blaming society not accepting the persons trans identity. God forgive me for saying this but that politican mother I am sorry failed her child which inevitably led to this tragic suicide. These parents of transgender kids are setting their kids up for failure. ●I am NOT a mother but I know a good mother would protect their children from harm. This politician exposed her child to the world so young this made her child open to be mocked,abused, harassed and hated on by other people in sections of society. On social media people do not care about your feelings just like the real world. Someone so young will not have the resilience to cope with such abuse and harassment. It does not matter that the mother had good intentions to raise awareness she did more harm by exposing her child to the world so young ●The mother never really allowed her child to grow and develop as a person. I am going to be honest my teenage years and early 20s were nothing but pure confusion and at times absolute misery mainly in struggling to fit in, my identity and trying to be something successful. Only now at 25 things are starting slowly to stabilise and I am feeling more comfortable within myself as a person. Henry Berg-Brousseau never really lived that is what makes me so upset about this suicide. From the age of 16 this person spent their lifetime up until the death centering their entire life based upon their gender identity and seeking validation for it. We know absolutely nothing about this person ie passions, hobbies, dreams for the future and nobody really got to see the real person this individual was. ● As I grew older I learnt not everyone is going to accept you and if you seeking approval and validation from other people then you never ever be happy. If the mother taught her child this maybe just maybe they would have been more stronger. As black woman and child of immigrants whose parents experienced vile racism when they came to the UK my experience is similar to many ethic minority women living in a western country. Marginalised groups across society face discrimination and dehumanisation everyday since the day we are born and throughout our entire lives however we are all not killing ourselves over it. I understand discrimination can impact a humans mental health, I am not minimising or trivialising peoples suffering. As minorities as children our parents were more open with us about how brutal the world actually is. No offence this person was probably always pampered and coddled by their mother and transgender support groups. Growing up as a minority I noticed children who were white tended to be treated a bit more with kid gloves and coddled to some extent by authority whereas minority children we don't have such treatment. This is NOT always the case this my experience and other minority people experience similar treatment
(DIR) Post #AR0xfRBFMIbduqEFVo by MellowMarigold@spinster.xyz
2022-12-26T22:16:05.325765Z
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@Piss_Ant @dave The Supreme Court overturning Roe V Wade just proves why politicians selecting judges is a bad idea and can never ever work. These Supreme Court justices are chosen mainly if they are in line with the presidents ideological beliefs all US presidents do this. Long after the president leaves office the president influence still continues because those chosen Supreme Court Justices sit on the court for life. An independent judiciary is necessary for preservation of democracy and ensuring the government acts within the law When I was studying the public law at university we learnt differences in the UK Supreme Court and American Supreme Court system. In the UK system Supreme Court judges are chosen by an independent committe called the Judicial Appointments Committee that looks at the legal qualifications and experiences of the candidates applying for the position. The JAC has it flaws like every system does but the upsides are greater as there is no political involvement and intervention allowed in the appointment process. I am so grateful for our system in the UK and it must be protected.
(DIR) Post #AR2FWLmU3aHAteQGjA by MellowMarigold@spinster.xyz
2022-12-26T23:41:45.061414Z
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Goodnight everyone 😴 I am currently starting to pack my bags because for the 1st time ever I will be spending New Years Eve and New Year in a different country. Travelling as a single woman is so much fun and enriching. I admit it has boosted my confidence a lot and I feel even more comfortable with myself. I genuinely love learning about other cultures. Inside my travel bag will be the usual essentials you pack for travelling, some tea bags of the expensive fine quality British tea brands I drink which is Fortnatum and Mason and I packed my book Animal Farm to read at the airport. I brought this book a couple of years ago but I have never read it because I was so busy.I finally got the best Christmas gift that money can not buy. It is wanted I wanted all a long which was to to be happy.
(DIR) Post #ARryXLFaRuxnsGVg9Y by MellowMarigold@spinster.xyz
2023-01-21T10:33:29.285899Z
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@AnungIkwe @SulphuricMirror @GalacticTurtle @Kay @Ladyfat @FemaleIsNotAFeeling @Blackgendermoderate I really deeply regret my comments over brown eyes and I now suffer from severe depression including suicide sometimes over the deep shame and replusion despite my life getting significantly better. Growing up as a black girl all I ever experienced was people always taunting my appearance including black guys participating in the daily misogynistic harassment and abuse towards me. I envied blonde haired white women and girls with lighter eyes because the non white guys who were misogynistic towards me were always nicer towards them, gave them real love and saw them as beautiful. The daily misogyny and racism made made me hate myself and I wanted to get rid of my brown eyes and afro textured black hair forever because these were features that made a frequent target harassment and rejection whereas women who didn't have these features were seen as beautiful by society's eurocentric standards,men and got better treatment. My insecurities from all the pain kept growing and I never saw brown eyes get complimented even my own family don't compliment brown eyes and told me to wear coloured contacts if I don't like them. Everyone was always nice to the blonde haired blue eyed girl and I began to believe having blonde hair and blue eyes meant having better treatment from society and being loved. I wished I was her because then people would finally love and respect me too and that is what I wanted.
(DIR) Post #ARulN6YHWk6ZShvFRI by MellowMarigold@spinster.xyz
2023-01-22T21:46:52.170356Z
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@MardiShakti @AnungIkwe @SulphuricMirror @GalacticTurtle @Tiggy @ninafromcanadaeh @ArtistBristol @FemaleIsNotAFeeling @starsstorm @Ladyfat @Kay @AbolishPregnancy @Kay, @Piss_Ant To all the Spinsters of colour/ethnic minorities, those with brown eyes or effected by controversial comments on brown eyes some of you I know others I do not know but my post is aimed at reaching out to ALL of you.I have now fallen in love deeply with my dark brown eyes. Brown eyes have this deep shine, allure and mystery now I can see it. Such a shame I couldn't see it throughout the years. For years I have struggled with severely body image mainly due to misogynistic and racial harassment throughout my life which distorts how I see myself. I just came to say I really am sorry for ALL my previous controversial comments about brown eyes. I feel pure shame over my comments. I am currently working and living in a different country and lot more happier nowadays but I still have moments of overwhelming pure guilt over ALL past mistakes( I do experience depressive episodes of it). I do genuinely feel bad for them especially realising the hurt it have caused people. I am now trying to learn how to be a 25 year old single and independent because I will never get this time again. I tried making this post yesterday one spinster. called me a "narcisst", "troll" and kept on abusing me which was why I deleted my orginal post trying to reach out to Spinsters women of colour and other people effected by controversial comments. This is why I made this new post. I admit sometimes I feel like I am not welcome here on Spinster and people here dont want me here. Goodnight everyone and have a lovely year Spinsters. I will be travelling a lot this yearLove MellowMarigold:)
(DIR) Post #ARwzIlvi2rBo1Hd25A by MellowMarigold@spinster.xyz
2023-01-23T23:37:04.105805Z
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@ninafromcanadaeh @AnungIkwe @MardiShakti @SulphuricMirror @GalacticTurtle @Tiggy @ArtistBristol @FemaleIsNotAFeeling @starsstorm @Ladyfat @Kay @AbolishPregnancy @Piss_Ant As time has gone on I do genuinely regret and I am ashamed of all the comments I made about brown eyes on Spinster last year. I went way too far it and it upset, hurt, offended a lot of Spinsters. I was expressing my OWN personal unhappiness towards my dark brown eyes and jealously towards people who have blue eyes or non brown eyes I went way too far in comments. I have a new life now and been given a chance to start again but I still hate myself for ALL my past decisions and mistakes. I came to tell everyone on Spinster that I am so sorry and do regret deeply my comments.
(DIR) Post #AUBJOJEXaCTVU3lsnI by MellowMarigold@spinster.xyz
2023-03-31T17:18:06.553972Z
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In January I was living and remote working in aboard and then in February I got fired. At 25 I had it all then I lost it all. I was finally experiencing happiness, earning a descent salary, able to travel and then I lost it all. Now I am back in the UK. My final days at work was pure hell and humiliation. Humiliation because my work colleague friend who I trusted gossiped about me to the workplace and the man I loved put me under a stress because of his lying. I got fired for performance reasons.RT: https://spinster.xyz/objects/a0db4fb9-7f7a-4a22-baeb-10eb91aa7358
(DIR) Post #AUBLGShwfphiSXuXsO by MellowMarigold@spinster.xyz
2023-03-31T17:41:03.684478Z
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@tangleofsnakes The most fucked up and painful thing about the situation was being betrayed by an older woman work colleague I saw as a friend. I was always so good to her at work, helped her with her work and we bonded. This woman has daughters the same age me I thought I was safe confinding in her. I confinded in her as I was so upset over the man after she promised me she wouldn't say anything to anyone she went to the man and revealed our ENTIRE private conversation. She told him everything. Her and the man were gossiping about me. I had to find out from another employee( OUR boss) it was so embarrassing. A couple of days later after she gossiped about me at the office day event organised by the department the woman she surrounded herself around ALL these male colleagues including the man. She even went outside with them. Evil handmaiden. I never use the term handmaiden but my god the whole thing was disgusting to witness. I was one of the youngest employees in the department
(DIR) Post #AUBQ7R8NeeIMk9n8jo by MellowMarigold@spinster.xyz
2023-03-31T17:05:30.972499Z
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Spinsters I was wrong, wrong and so FUCKING wrong. I used to think age was "just a number" but age really DOES MATTER. Age determines who gets believed in a situation, which party gets more respect and so much more. The older man will always have an advantage no matter what. I learnt the hard way. Remember on Spinster when I started talking a lot about a male work colleague I liked. I hid his real age from my family and loved ones. Everyone thought he was my age( 25). He is 55. When things went wrong between us the man went behind my back and went to our boss he told multiple lies about me. The workplace believed him over me. The management saw me as an irresponsible immature young woman besotted with an older man and I got blamed for everything while the man was seen as the innocent respectable party. My own boss called me "immature" when I pointed out the workplace was not being fair in the process of questioning me and the favourism they were showing the man. My age was a disadvantage and the mans age was his advantage. The whole thing was so humiliating
(DIR) Post #AUBrhS9a2W4t5mkdVo by MellowMarigold@spinster.xyz
2023-03-31T16:51:54.275531Z
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@ninafromcanadaeh @LadyMont I should have listened to you.I have been thinking a lot about the things both of you said about men and now I realise if I had your cynicism and outlook I would not be in this fucked up situation I found myself in. I fell in love with a 55 Yr old male work colleague and he is seen as that nice guy at work. I thought he really liked me. In the beginning he was always messaging even on his day off, he always came quickly running if just had a problem at work then only day he distanced himself from me completely. I worked out and caught him being dishonest about his true relationship status. Whenever he breaks up with his long term partner who is a woman in her 50s he gets involved with other women including employees in the company. I was so heart-broken because he knew I how I felt and couldn't be honest. I confinded in an older woman work colleague friend as I was so heart-broken. After she promised me she will not say anything to anyone the she told the man our private conversation she told him everything unfortunately I really insulted the man in our private conversation. The man out of pure spite picked the phone and rang OUR BOSS to complain about how he feels "uncomfortable" being around me at work and told multiple lies about me. The workplace believed him over me without looking at the facts. My final days at work was spent so being humiliated by my work friend gossip which spread and stressed by because of the mans lying. I got fired for underperforming last month. I was so stupid and naive. Worst of all the workplace saw me as nothing but an irresponsible immature young woman who was besotted with an older man.
(DIR) Post #AUBswZ4EiTacpi1NS4 by MellowMarigold@spinster.xyz
2023-03-31T23:03:47.273216Z
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@Aflowernamedyou @ninafromcanadaeh @LadyMont I never got to work in an office or experience office culture that previous generations got to have because of the pandemic. My part time job and full time job are all WFH. I hate WFH so much because it's lonely, I feel so trapped and I have no space at home. Most communications with colleagues is zoom meetings and calls sometimes the workplace organises events in the office that is how I met the man for the first time. It was crazy how we ended up having fun that day in the office day and communications between us never stopped. I really thought he liked me and I wanted a future with him. I get sad watching the office because all I see is an office culture I never got to experience because of the pandemic. I always read stories of people meeting their future spouses at work so I thought the same would happen for me too. I am getting anxiety seeing other women i grew up with getting married or moving in with their boyfriends and I am that woman with no man.
(DIR) Post #AUByQaQSjIKVVLYIN6 by MellowMarigold@spinster.xyz
2023-04-01T00:01:21.388205Z
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@Aflowernamedyou @ninafromcanadaeh @LadyMont Thanks 😊 I just loved the attention he always giving me. I spent my life being that invisible girl then women who men never ever saw as beautiful, always rejected, ignored while all the woman and girls around me got complimented and received love. As a result sometimes I felt like I was not a real woman and just a freak due to all the male rejection. I was not attractive as a teenager, and throughout my early 20s, once I hit 25 I began to get attractive the human body is werid. Experiencing male attention for the first time in my life I actually began to feel like a real woman and normal like every other woman my age. It felt great having a man notice me and no longer being the invisible woman.
(DIR) Post #AUByQbjHsmyxY1MqLw by MellowMarigold@spinster.xyz
2023-04-01T00:23:42.193322Z
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@Aflowernamedyou @ninafromcanadaeh @LadyMont I was actually was miserable in that job and only liked the salary. The job was very challenging, the client base( NOT ALL) has SOME of the most entitled people with ridiculous sense of entitlement and they take the piss. When I was brutally honest about one annoying social worker client ridiculous entitlement and just unfair behaviour the workplace management gave me a hard time over it. My honestly shocked the workplace and the management. I acknowledge I was harsh my honestly, took responsibility for my actions, tried to redeem myself but management kept giving me a hard time even months after the incident got resolved.
(DIR) Post #AUByQdBgShI64Nf2Fk by MellowMarigold@spinster.xyz
2023-04-01T00:51:09.545250Z
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@Aflowernamedyou @ninafromcanadaeh @LadyMont In March it was Mother's Day in the UK and in my letter I wrote to my mother on Mother's day I thanked her for teaching teaching me how fight and above all to never ever take any crap from anyone under any circumstances. My mother loved my letter.My biggest regret was not being honest with my family in the beginning about the mans age because I didn't know how to handle my attraction to him and feared what they would think of me. My grandmother was more disappointed at me for not confinding in her. She said "you tell me everything why did you go to that older woman colleague and not me" I am more closer to my grandmother than my mother.
(DIR) Post #AUC8vIuAv7nPgRjgps by MellowMarigold@spinster.xyz
2023-04-01T02:42:21.229231Z
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@AbolishPregnancy @ninafromcanadaeh @LadyMont I have learnt a lot from this believe me and now it has been a major turning point in my life. I finally realise what I want in life. I realise I can not keep living this anymore. I now realise how destructive my need to be loved by men really is. I unfortunately I have deep issues with belonging and identify due to growing up without a father, pure resentment for having toxic shitty relatives who cause problems and my mother and grandmother always helping these arseholes while my own needs got ignored. My mum and grandmother kept giving money helping these arseholes by the time I went to university I had to take a student loan because there was no money left for me. I hate my relatives so much Going through all these things since I was a teenager fuelled my desire to be loved by a man so I can no longer feel unwanted and can finally belong. It would just be the 2 of us. I realise this not healthy