Post B2pTW3MuUVgL6zarCK by sapphire@shortstacksran.ch
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(DIR) Post #B2pSyq3uwW4GHps7EW by ShowMeYourLibrary@nicecrew.digital
2026-01-31T01:52:15.440361Z
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I have a serious question. I accept the risk of asking in a non serious place. My bestie broke up with her bf. They are both good people, no beating, no cheating, but they were struggling to try and be happy together because they just weren't a good match. Now he hates her. I tried to explain that this is just how men process a breakup. That hating her is easier than being sad. So I guess my question is, is it easier for you gentlemen to hate us and cut us out of your lives than to be sad over losing what you had hoped might be happiness?Again, I realize this may unintentionally provoke some vitriol over past pain, but I would be grateful for any heartfelt insights you may have to offer.
(DIR) Post #B2pTBUfFoJlxgfN0HA by matty@nicecrew.digital
2026-01-31T01:54:31.994607Z
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As a man, I compartmentalize my love for people. Even if I left someone on not great terms, I still wouldn't want harm to come to them (unless they did something really terrible). I do not believe there's a one size fits all answer for this though. Women are more vindictive than men in my experience, so I think you'd get different responses from them. I don't "hate" any woman that I have cut out of my life even if they were shitheads. It's more like, "okay we're done with that, time to do the next thing". I cannot speak for others, however.
(DIR) Post #B2pTHFwHTKW1kr58sa by ShowMeYourLibrary@nicecrew.digital
2026-01-31T01:55:34.718261Z
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Thank you, Matty.
(DIR) Post #B2pTHge8Av2YaNnWq0 by Zergling_man@sacred.harpy.faith
2026-01-31T01:55:15.665328Z
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@ShowMeYourLibrary >niggercock.digital
(DIR) Post #B2pTJ3d0DNdw9UvKNc by mackya@nicecrew.digital
2026-01-31T01:53:27.529720Z
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(DIR) Post #B2pTSFrE7Dhmgfxjge by RJ805@eveningzoo.club
2026-01-31T01:57:33.727262Z
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Kinda sounds like he was committed and she broke it off?
(DIR) Post #B2pTW3MuUVgL6zarCK by sapphire@shortstacksran.ch
2026-01-31T01:57:11.397427Z
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@ShowMeYourLibrary if I don’t close someone off and intentionally ignore the feelings I’ll want to go back, so yes. It’s either “he hates her” or he still loves her even if he doesn’t necessarily want her back
(DIR) Post #B2pTkKDcdh6VQT3R5c by Chzikken_1486@poa.st
2026-01-31T02:00:45.394942Z
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@ShowMeYourLibrary She needs to move from him fast. It sounds like it's over. It sounds extremely painful for both of them.
(DIR) Post #B2pTpjaDlJERXZCiK8 by Eleutheria2@poa.st
2026-01-31T01:57:57.153724Z
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@ShowMeYourLibrary I've found it was easier to just cut bait and move on. Especially in the short term. I never took it out as anger, but more like a deep sadness coupled with frustration. Maybe for some people, that can show up intentionally or not as hostility.Regardless of outward appearance, I'd be hard pressed to stay friends with someone after. As a guy, especially one intent on having kids, it represents a wasted opportunity, wasted time, and a negative facet of one's self. I wouldn't be meeting that for beers or a game of pool.
(DIR) Post #B2pU6vBFtef0QpipPM by wishgranter14@poa.st
2026-01-31T02:04:55.019964Z
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@ShowMeYourLibrary not just for sexual relationships, but typically if something comes between us I want nothing to do with you ever again. i didn't really think that was a male/female thing though. thought it was just a quirk of my personality.
(DIR) Post #B2pUK7SDZiGoGJwvPk by matty@nicecrew.digital
2026-01-31T02:07:17.951705Z
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Remember - men are more logical than emotional creatures in most circumstances. There's no point in wasting time mulling over what happened and why, unless it's pertinent to your personal growth. It's best to just take the lessons learned and apply them in the future.
(DIR) Post #B2pV17luGo6rhPfIEi by ChairmanO15@nicecrew.digital
2026-01-31T02:15:04.360692Z
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It depends on how bad the break up is. A lot of my break ups were a result of a bad match, it not working out and just moved on. My last relationship was such a disaster I had to employ my lawyers to deal with it. It was so bad it left me in such a bitter attitude towards women that I damn near let Sarah slip through my hands. I was done with it and had no interest in dealing with another relationship. I to this day refuse to have any contact with her.
(DIR) Post #B2pVuFpe0I10cnhXbE by Rudolf_von_Goldenbaum@poa.st
2026-01-31T02:25:02.708760Z
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@ShowMeYourLibrary I seriously thought it was the opposite, women retcon past men as either a loser or an asshole, while men look back at past gf's and think "nice".
(DIR) Post #B2pW5fFHrBc8d48VE0 by badneighbor@poa.st
2026-01-31T02:15:38.960037Z
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@ShowMeYourLibrary Women fret over a breakup long before pulling the trigger, so when the time comes it doesn't hit them as hard. Men usually don't see it coming, so the breakup hits harder and can be seen as a betrayal. My 2¢ as someone who's been in a similar situation is that he's trying to cut her out because that's the best way for him to move on. If he appears to hate her, then she, or someone else, is making it *very difficult* for him to distance himself from her. He needs to be completely free of her to the point of being strangers before he can even consider being her friend again. If that's not it, then he's in dire need of an anchor with no ties to her (gym, obsessive hobby, dog, best friend, etc).
(DIR) Post #B2pW6LZySf7LvO8cIi by sapphire@shortstacksran.ch
2026-01-31T02:26:08.143684Z
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@Dudebro @ShowMeYourLibrary women are experiential, they want the experience of a thing. They are gatherers, collectors of memories and ephemeral things. They’ll always find berries on the bush, so the social experience is the highlightMen are hunters. It’s my woman, it’s my prey, it’s my kill, it’s mine. If we’re gonna turn off that lizard brain and walk away it’s gotta no longer be ours
(DIR) Post #B2pWBORdEdQKG9dsFk by animegothicgirl88@nicecrew.digital
2026-01-31T02:28:08.132004Z
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Don't forget who helped you engineer that because of my long term designs and plans with a touch of sociopathic persistence. :coffeeblob:
(DIR) Post #B2pWC5S9KaO5eDDOWu by Dregsman@poa.st
2026-01-31T02:18:12.138022Z
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@ShowMeYourLibrary He is sad and feels like a failure because he may have tried hard to make it work and could not and failed. The anger is just a mask, he is trying not to feel hurt like he has just been thrown away. Yeah probably easier I guess but everyone processes failure differently.
(DIR) Post #B2pWSpqqaguABOkm8W by Xeraser@detroitriotcity.com
2026-01-31T02:31:00.102733Z
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@ShowMeYourLibrary >So I guess my question is, is it easier for you gentlemen to hate us and cut us out of your lives than to be sad over losing what you had hoped might be happiness?From my experiences with my twice-exyes. it's SO much easier. I wouldn't really call it full blown hate in my case though, more like a mix of anger, disappointment, sadness, LOTS of regret, etc etc. I definitely hated her more when she suddenly cut me off the first time we broke up vs when I cut her off the second time we broke up. (I didn't do it without warning like she did though)
(DIR) Post #B2pX2tQEnADBgNV65w by James_Dixon@poa.st
2026-01-31T02:37:48.762169Z
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@ShowMeYourLibrary > So I guess my question is, is it easier for you gentlemen to hate us and cut us out of your lives than to be sad over losing what you had hoped might be happiness?I think the general answer is yes, but that it's more anger than hatred. For me it would be a complex mixture of anger and grief.But cutting her out of his life? Definitely. I at least would need a clean break to get on with my life.
(DIR) Post #B2pX7rPrg4vCuPh9H6 by PodunkPotato@nicecrew.digital
2026-01-31T02:37:51.683219Z
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>is it easier for you gentlemen to hate us and cut us out of your lives than to be sadThese are all independent of each other, French. Clean break does not imply hatred. And hatred doesn't mean a clean break, either. That's probably the worst option, anger without the break. None of those mean he isn't sad about it either. Could be he just doesn't want reminders to stew on, could be she still wants all the parts of the relationship she feels due without the rest of it. Too faceted to say without knowing those involved. Can't read his mind, or hers.
(DIR) Post #B2pXS7hKqtBpCJWpsm by demonofustio@poa.st
2026-01-31T02:42:18.542748Z
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@Evil_Bender @ShowMeYourLibrary I agree with resolute. I would probably pretend you never existed. Since your like a void that doesnt need to be seen or recognized. Moving on, regardless if its hate or not. But someone (which is usually the women whos at fault)
(DIR) Post #B2pZsDIGrybRzRNDoO by chainsaw_appreciator@nicecrew.digital
2026-01-31T01:55:07.180123Z
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>He just hates her for "no reason"Sure sure.What did she do?
(DIR) Post #B2pcfEYTAWM802S7qC by Captain80s@nicecrew.digital
2026-01-31T03:01:56.599715Z
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His name is not resolute its Bend Over.I mean Bender.
(DIR) Post #B2pcfFkuhju7ivHZsO by demonofustio@poa.st
2026-01-31T03:40:40.656316Z
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@Captain80s @Evil_Bender @ShowMeYourLibrary Yeah i Ah mean ah Bender! *Bender smokes* Angry look.
(DIR) Post #B2plBp35otOu5EpKT2 by JollyR@nicecrew.digital
2026-01-31T04:01:11.203641Z
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Logic does not always have much to do with romance .. I had a long confessional effort post I wanted to make, but now it seems like too much effort. But I tended to blame myself after a breakup, get depressed, mope, and looking back on it now, I hope those women went on to have happy lives .. they would not have been happy with me.
(DIR) Post #B2plRuqW2AKmhEcNQ8 by Sargent_s_laughter@poa.st
2026-01-31T02:36:41.239177Z
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@ShowMeYourLibrary He's been rejected. Then you wonder why he's mad."He's mad cos he's sad" = you don't understand.Anger and sadness are two separate states of dealing with a rejection. postcopulatory rejection is worse than merely being rejected when asking someone out. The other person knows who you are, and rejects you in your entirety.Not having a reason is even worse. It's 'who you are, on a good day' that she doesn't want. You don't understand this because the female mind is wired completely differentlyYou ask*"is it easier for you gentlemen to hate us and cut us out of your lives than to be sad over losing what you had hoped might be happiness?"So, after one of the worst forms of rejection a dude can take, you make it all about you without ever even trying to understand why we would be pissed at you? for this rejection?Granted it might be not "feel nice" to not be liked after dumping someone. But fuck me, it's not even close to what the guy feels when he's being rejected based on who he is.but all we get is mememememememememememememejfc
(DIR) Post #B2plZrbJz070wsIhgO by Captain80s@nicecrew.digital
2026-01-31T03:07:37.584411Z
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Breaking up is a skill. Its mind over emotion. A break up typically educes strong emotion. He must have the mental fortitude to pinch that shit off and think about it rationally. Not easy to do but it can be done. I have done it. Broke with a chick, nice rack. I told her we were buds before but dating is just not working. We could fight with each other or go back to being friends . We didnt talk for a bit, which was good, but when we did it was as friends. Because I initiated a good outcome and the bitch followed along. Been sad I have been being angry. Neither helps for shit. A man must be calm in thinking so he can do what needs to be done. IE a divorce. I calculated against my ex. I got the kid, house most of our stuff and money. The anger is seething against her but its under control and enjoys every time I hurt the bitch.
(DIR) Post #B2plb6dRZUYtrkszBI by smoker78@poa.st
2026-01-31T03:56:32.808316Z
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@ShowMeYourLibrary It depends. I have broken up with a few ladies amicably and we were cordial and kept in touch for a while. I've also broken up with some in very nasty ways and cutting them out completely was the right decision. I've never wished them ill, but I may have smiled if I hear of their misfortune.The one exception was my ex-wife who I had to stay in touch with because of our kids and the ungodly amount of money I had to pay her. Hated her guts the entire time, but once child support stopped and I never had to deal with her again, I just stopped thinking about her so hate turned into indifference.
(DIR) Post #B2plxS0imL7mX1QdFY by Largo@poa.st
2026-01-31T05:23:53.779880Z
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@ShowMeYourLibrary In my experience, it kind of depends on the circumstances. What was his intial reaction, how was the breakup "brought up", what was the gfs reaction at first, etc. Maybe the guy wasn't unhappy but not good at expressing himself or perhaps there had been a misunderstanding, maybe this is his pride acting up, etc.Trying to completely understand the human heart and all its own internal contradictions is irrational. Best we can do is try not to get bogged down by feeling sad for ourselves (especially ourselves) since that never helps anything.
(DIR) Post #B2pm2Rj3GXBf5zXtkO by Scarlett@nicecrew.digital
2026-01-31T05:24:49.786538Z
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"The female of the species is deadlier than the male."-- Rudyard Kipling
(DIR) Post #B2pmU67RBz7eBy8Zii by ShowMeYourLibrary@nicecrew.digital
2026-01-31T05:30:09.336554Z
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I'm sorry for what happened to you.
(DIR) Post #B2pmV9D1BnCy46FRwW by animegothicgirl88@nicecrew.digital
2026-01-31T05:30:27.906660Z
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A good example is the Black Widow spider.
(DIR) Post #B2pnkKMM76qAwiPyK0 by Scarlett@nicecrew.digital
2026-01-31T05:42:51.986969Z
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Black Widows are so mercenary. 🕸️ 🕷️
(DIR) Post #B2pnkLZraNEuitkH0y by animegothicgirl88@nicecrew.digital
2026-01-31T05:44:54.736949Z
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We have one that sits outside the house by our window. I dont bother it and I let it be.
(DIR) Post #B2po6qT1Q3eSteH0We by thefinn@poa.st
2026-01-31T05:49:00.585551Z
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@Captain80s @ShowMeYourLibrary Yeah I tend to be very rational and unemotional about it - my emotions are generally all used up by the time I break up with someone.
(DIR) Post #B2poD9cn6Yn83AqpXM by ShowMeYourLibrary@nicecrew.digital
2026-01-31T05:50:08.531568Z
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Boundaries.
(DIR) Post #B2poYXYNKj94LSz1kW by DC5FAN@poa.st
2026-01-31T05:48:44.723653Z
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@ShowMeYourLibrary Yes. Cruel to be kind. The worst thing you can do is try to be friends.
(DIR) Post #B2pof8H9iJOLyV4YC0 by Scarlett@nicecrew.digital
2026-01-31T05:50:01.165372Z
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You're a better woman than I am. I kill every arachnid I see. I got bitten by a brown recluse in AZ.
(DIR) Post #B2pof9QPROO7XUPSFs by animegothicgirl88@nicecrew.digital
2026-01-31T05:55:08.917310Z
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Some like the brown recluse you want to get rid of. They will mess you up. Most I see I put in a temporary container and release it outside. Don't care to have them inside but I don't mind letting them outside.
(DIR) Post #B2pokYM4BAxuJ1xDUm by Scarlett@nicecrew.digital
2026-01-31T05:52:23.788079Z
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The story of Adam & Eve is a good one.
(DIR) Post #B2potJyT11K6JN63Em by VaxxSabbath@detroitriotcity.com
2026-01-31T05:57:38.166344Z
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@Scarlett @ShowMeYourLibrary Mark Twain’s version is especially poignant
(DIR) Post #B2ppJh2ZsV6FNaav8i by HarryNuggets@poa.st
2026-01-31T05:58:45.655373Z
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@ShowMeYourLibrary Is this really a thing? All my ex's either tried to kill me or fucked around.... women are nuts.
(DIR) Post #B2ppOcT2JCUQdyJrE0 by animegothicgirl88@nicecrew.digital
2026-01-31T06:02:42.522952Z
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I was going to mention the praying mantis but somehow slipped my mind.
(DIR) Post #B2ppTjm8Z57ml0h5VY by sapphire@shortstacksran.ch
2026-01-31T06:03:15.400506Z
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@JohnSmith87298753 @Dudebro @Scarlett @ShowMeYourLibrary @animegothicgirl88 you can cut a plea deal with the DA, you can't cut a plea deal with a divorce attorney
(DIR) Post #B2ppeASKDqiGOvOtxA by Scarlett@nicecrew.digital
2026-01-31T06:04:11.884813Z
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You're kind-hearted. I know they catch and devour flies and skeeters, but I'm not sharing my space with them. I knew a woman who took off her shoes right outside her back door before she went in the house after working in the garden. She was only in there long enough to powder her nose, put her garden shoes back on and back to the garden. Black Widow crawled in there just in a few minutes and bit her foot. It poisoned her so badly, she was in the hospital for over a week. Lucky they didn't have to amputate her foot.
(DIR) Post #B2ppeBdhp1PW4VjVKa by ShowMeYourLibrary@nicecrew.digital
2026-01-31T06:06:12.197996Z
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I had one of those floozies in my garage. Next thing you know there were three little simps hanging around.
(DIR) Post #B2pqV7kwzRJRNOMdHM by animegothicgirl88@nicecrew.digital
2026-01-31T06:15:47.063432Z
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I do not ever want to have to go through this. I certainly do want to put my husband through anything like that. I saw what my mom did to my dad and the consequences it had on all of us growing. Dad did well after the divorce but you can tell it's still a sore subject with him after all these years. My dad was pretty stern with C when I brought him to meet dad. He wanted to make sure C was a worthy enough man for me. So being a nigger and dipping out when things get tough is not an option. Not for him it isn't. I vowed not to do that to my husband what mom did to my dad. I care to much about him to do that.
(DIR) Post #B2prYlIIXsiSp8GDg0 by Scarlett@nicecrew.digital
2026-01-31T06:26:29.116766Z
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Mark Twain was an atheist, but a brilliant one.
(DIR) Post #B2pt73vNstFcPASjRY by VaxxSabbath@detroitriotcity.com
2026-01-31T06:44:53.773356Z
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@Scarlett @Dudebro @ShowMeYourLibrary @animegothicgirl88 @sapphire Total Arachnid Death