Post B2RhOzJGCc3MkApM5g by futurebird@sauropods.win
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(DIR) Post #B2RgvlS8duUpMz2rMO by futurebird@sauropods.win
2026-01-19T14:35:26Z
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I wish people would stop using "throwing shade" to mean just "disparage"It's just a neat metaphorical kind of disparagement. To throw shade you need to effortlessly, and blamelessly say something the re-casts a person's actions in a negative light. You cast shade over them, a change in lighting changes everything. NOT SHADE: He's ugly and gross. SHADE: It must be hard for him worrying that we might find out that all of his money came from crypto.
(DIR) Post #B2RhOzJGCc3MkApM5g by futurebird@sauropods.win
2026-01-19T14:40:43Z
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Strictly speaking "shade" should also cast the speaker in a better light, so that they are putting the other person in their shade.It's a special and impressive kind of insult.
(DIR) Post #B2RhdaI9V5tzUoGkVc by brothersoul@mstdn.social
2026-01-19T14:43:19Z
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@futurebird š Brilliant. Big up's to breaking down this overused term. Education upgraded. However, I'll probably from time to time still use it. lolol Brother
(DIR) Post #B2Rhy3KVFQnfLa82r2 by MedeaVanamonde@beige.party
2026-01-19T14:46:58Z
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@futurebird One needs to be a true T serving librarian just to lift shade let alone throw it . Reading is fundamental
(DIR) Post #B2Ri27AcuUdMPvRiRk by slothrop@chaos.social
2026-01-19T14:47:43Z
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@futurebird are there training courses where I could learn this technique?Iāve seen it used to great effect, but am not really good at it myself.(But then Iām German. We donāt really do nuance. If we want to insult someone, we just say so, in a way that ensures they stay insulted)
(DIR) Post #B2RiGl65GCWAImIuQa by futurebird@sauropods.win
2026-01-19T14:50:26Z
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"Did you enjoy his opening party?""Oh. It was unforgettable."
(DIR) Post #B2RiVmyWYmFUTDw22S by indigoparadox@mastodon.social
2026-01-19T14:53:04Z
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@futurebird Wow, you're totally gaslighting* me right now.* Saying something that I don't necessarily completely agree with unreservedly.
(DIR) Post #B2RieDdhJ7LZU5DHge by futurebird@sauropods.win
2026-01-19T14:54:40Z
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@indigoparadox I thought that "gaslighting" had to be saying things that makes another person feel upset because they don't think they can trust their own senses anymore. Doing it to make them feel helps and a little crazy.
(DIR) Post #B2Rivsfg0MYlfJYpIO by indigoparadox@mastodon.social
2026-01-19T14:57:50Z
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@futurebird What? No... That's crazy. There is no word for that. I'm reliably informed that gaslighting is just another word for "lying" or "being wrong" or "just generally disagreeing." Unless the people I talk to are doing... that thing you mentioned, whatever it's called.
(DIR) Post #B2RjYEIW2x01k70uLQ by tofugolem@mastodon.social
2026-01-19T15:04:45Z
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@futurebird I dunno if I've ever used that term before but in general, I try to stick to what I know: nerd references from the 80s to 2000s.Because I know where my towel is.
(DIR) Post #B2Rk8CXs2UJCjVLesa by nicholas@aklp.club
2026-01-19T15:11:19.265953Z
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I think futurebird is commenting on the definition creep of the term, similar to your observation about 'throwing shade'; not proposing that is the proper definition.
(DIR) Post #B2RkvtkqB2MMvw71LU by indigoparadox@mastodon.social
2026-01-19T15:18:22Z
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@nicholas @futurebird Oh no, now a grifter* is here.* Someone who... says something about something someone said? I've heard it said that it has to be negative but I've seen it used so broadly that I think you can use it whenever.
(DIR) Post #B2RlS26getRk6XeaxM by futurebird@sauropods.win
2026-01-19T15:26:05Z
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@indigoparadox @nicholas A grifter is related to "graft" or little things politicians used to tack on to bills, or little kickbacks they would get ... basically bribery and self-dealing.In the online political space it was meant to mean: presenting yourself as someone who is guided by principles, but really you are guided by earning even small amounts of cash. "Welcome to gambling recovery talk. We care about helping you with your addiction... sponsored by DraftKings."
(DIR) Post #B2RmAmSvevV4cpOWki by nicholas@aklp.club
2026-01-19T15:34:11.606958Z
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Well I did cash all those cheques from big gaslighting for my posts š¤£
(DIR) Post #B2RmB9WFwipO7o80dE by indigoparadox@mastodon.social
2026-01-19T15:20:13Z
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@nicholas @futurebird "Words mean things!"Pffft... Maybe to you, buddy. š
(DIR) Post #B2RmhOkYr12cd3C9xY by ersatzmaus@mastodon.social
2026-01-19T15:40:02Z
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@futurebird I would _never_ have the courage to throw such aā¦ memorableā¦ event. It was definitely a choice.
(DIR) Post #B2Rw52cdfw76XQq2Gu by Sharksonaplane@mastodon.sandwich.net
2026-01-19T17:25:07Z
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@futurebird Yes!! It's another of so many nuances that gets lost when non-Black people take AAE terms away from their context and turn them into just "popular slang"