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(DIR) Post #B1DaezMpcdHObcbYtE by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-12-13T21:27:07Z
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So a friend of mine was telling me about this one strange thing his wife does. Whenever they get a gift of *food* and ONLY food (eg like a basket of cheese and crackers) she immediately goes about dividing it EXACTLY in half. "this is my part of the cheddar, this is yours" he isn't bothered about it just a little confused. She told him. "If you had siblings you'd understand."I suggested he may eat all the cheese and not notice. Can those with siblings speak on this? Are you traumatized?
(DIR) Post #B1DahR9dHV2NMhbAQ4 by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-12-13T21:27:34Z
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Technically I have a sibling but our age difference is so great we never really squabbled and I don't know of these things.
(DIR) Post #B1DauetLW9EtjeHjsW by farah@beige.party
2025-12-13T21:29:51Z
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@futurebird
(DIR) Post #B1DayawI9eZmdRXXLU by CStamp@mastodon.social
2025-12-13T21:30:33Z
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@futurebird 2 siblings, but I'm guessing it depends on food budget. We didn't have a lot, but being hungry was never an issue. We did fight over who got the prize at the bottom of the cereal, but that was about it. I think the cereal prize was fixed by each getting it on a rotating basis. :)
(DIR) Post #B1Db2Vb5xR0VE4UXXk by Lemniscate@infosec.exchange
2025-12-13T21:31:19Z
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@futurebird when my sibling and I got food gifts, we usually each got our own so didn’t have to worry about that. But in cases where there WERE shared sweets and we were younger, I did have to make sure she didn’t eat my share. She was a sweets fiend when little.Funnily enough, food basket divvying was more relevant when I worked somewhere major vendor partners would send gifts to the office for the IT and security folks. Not so fun to oversee the splitting of summer sausage and cheese between grown adults who’d suddenly turned into six year olds about it. Perhaps they too had sibling trauma!
(DIR) Post #B1Db6LooFzOQ3Wjqxk by rlcw@ecoevo.social
2025-12-13T21:32:00Z
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@futurebird No, as oldest of four. And also nothing I have observed with my 3 younger sibs, that are each roughly a year and a half apart.
(DIR) Post #B1DbJbK3vNDRuCfu9w by TheOtterDragon@eldritch.cafe
2025-12-13T21:34:24Z
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@futurebird Yup. I can confirm. For my sister and I equality was *very important*.
(DIR) Post #B1DbNAsmAbIX3rcFRw by stevegis_ssg@mas.to
2025-12-13T21:35:04Z
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@futurebird Siblingdom may easily contribute to this. My younger sister used to count presents on Xmas morning.When my husband was working from home while I walked 2.5 miles each way, he had to step in to stop me serving him as much dinner as I served myself. It just feels wrong to take more, somehow.
(DIR) Post #B1DbOzgGmxR8tndM92 by ehproque@neopaquita.es
2025-12-13T21:35:14Z
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@futurebird no. The occasional argument over the last $YUMMY_TREAT but that's it.
(DIR) Post #B1DbRHkmZ7Q7WupxtQ by IanMoore3000@mastodon.ie
2025-12-13T21:35:48Z
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@futurebird when I was small my sister and I might have done that with chocolate but not with cheese or any other foodstuff.
(DIR) Post #B1DbS6OCIqeqZdf9Gq by HansZauner@ecoevo.social
2025-12-13T21:35:54Z
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@futurebird cake sharing rule that many siblings will know: the older one divides the cake. The younger sibling can choose which piece to take. Also works with cheese I guess.
(DIR) Post #B1DbUc1ZehFnGeHHfM by tkinias@hcommons.social
2025-12-13T21:36:24Z
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@futurebird I have a sibling, but this strikes me as *really* weird behavior. This kind of divvying up of food is very alien to my upbringing, and it would be a serious red flag with a romantic partner.
(DIR) Post #B1DbW9ayKD13fwZOWu by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-12-13T21:36:43Z
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@IanMoore3000 Cheese is cake for grown ups I think.
(DIR) Post #B1DbZOMNt1mIKuI5CK by jrm4@mastodon.social
2025-12-13T21:37:15Z
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@futurebird Only child here: Spouse has 3 siblings. We have 2 kids.I think I slightly *regret* deferring to the spouse on "MAKE SURE EVERYTHINGS EQUAL" ; I think it's a vicious cycle that I could have broken :)
(DIR) Post #B1DbaA7qIOfOThr9CC by llewelly@sauropods.win
2025-12-13T21:37:20Z
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@futurebird I think your suggestion risks destroying the relationship.
(DIR) Post #B1Dbam15PxqDzkzHwO by ELS@sfba.social
2025-12-13T21:37:25Z
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@futurebird I’m a slow eater and my partner might absentmindedly eat it all if we didn't divide it first.
(DIR) Post #B1DbcCFJNnVZdMJtKa by BruceMirken@mas.to
2025-12-13T21:37:47Z
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@futurebird No. I grew up with 2 older brothers and no one ever thought of anything like this.
(DIR) Post #B1DbctEPZ1L0x1EHOi by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-12-13T21:37:47Z
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@tkinias IDK they seem fine. I don't know her well but I think it's JUST with food gifts. Were it with everything I'd wonder about that.
(DIR) Post #B1DbgbRTe6S2w96xhA by pattykimura@beige.party
2025-12-13T21:38:36Z
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@futurebird Grew up with five sibs (plus one much older half sib). Two were 10-13 years older, the bottom two + me were all within 4 years.Dad would buy us neopolitan ice cream - strawberry, vanilla, and chocolate. We would each carefully eat only our flavor. When we had to split food, we'd watch the split, and whoever did the cutting got the last piece. Then, my brother realized if he licked all the pieces or spit on it, the two younger sisters, we would be repelled and he'd get it all. Until my Dad found out. Ha ha!
(DIR) Post #B1Dbi8KgqSTBEbfNo0 by IanMoore3000@mastodon.ie
2025-12-13T21:38:51Z
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@futurebird I love cheese and so does my partner but if we run out of it we just get more. I suppose we are high rollers when it comes to cheese.
(DIR) Post #B1Dbo5BvRBiDEHP5sG by trochee@dair-community.social
2025-12-13T21:39:54Z
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@futurebird I have a sibling close in age but we were never food-insecure, and we had very different dietary preferences so we rarely fought about food (I remember that I deliberately ate the vegetarian pizza slices first, though, because his vegetarianism meant that I could take my time on the meat-ified pizzas)Now we've both moved left —35 years later, I'm a vegetarian & he's a vegan — but he makes *amazing* vegan pizza when we get together and I tell that story every time to apologize
(DIR) Post #B1DbsfscyIcMAxZCrY by richpuchalsky@mastodon.social
2025-12-13T21:40:45Z
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@futurebird It's not necessarily a siblings thing, it's more like a siblings-plus-shortage thing. If your family puts dinner into a shared plate that people take portions out of, and you don't eat fast, you may not get enough.
(DIR) Post #B1DbtbbGN1BrBtt9qi by Catfish_Man@mastodon.social
2025-12-13T21:40:51Z
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@futurebird my ex would hide sweets all over the house because she was used to her siblings *and her mom* ransacking her room and stealing stuff. Her mom also stole and pawned her jewelry though, so that’s a fairly extreme case.
(DIR) Post #B1Dc5vlzC3itEOmVdI by tkinias@hcommons.social
2025-12-13T21:43:10Z
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@futurebird I mean, we all have our idiosyncracies! But I guess food is very symbolically charged for me, so that ‘this is mine and you may not eat it’ feels quite antagonistic in a way that, say, ‘I’d prefer if you didn’t use my scissors’ wouldn’t.
(DIR) Post #B1Dc9Q4uyXD65fIg88 by epicdemiologist@wandering.shop
2025-12-13T21:43:47Z
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@futurebird At our house it was my dad & his "only 1 kind of jelly can be open at a time" and since we weren't well-off he bought HUGE jars of jelly. Grape for months. When my middle sister grew up, the very first thing she did when she got her own place was buy 2 jars of jelly and open them both.
(DIR) Post #B1DcOGXmhqwsrbsiqu by flowerpot@mas.to
2025-12-13T21:46:27Z
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@futurebird This is not how I was raised (2 siblings) but my former husband said he and his siblings (2) would wait until his mother finished unloading the groceries then hide the Little Debbie snack cakes from each other to prevent the other siblings from getting any. And no one stopped or reported the behavior. Once I heard that, I understood a lot of the petty behavior from some in that family. My memories around food (because we were poor) was that we all cared that everyone got enough.
(DIR) Post #B1DcWAC6CMkfUFVK52 by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-12-13T21:47:55Z
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@epicdemiologist Yeah. My parents would only let me use like two of the scissors and hid the nice ones and wouldn't buy the scissors I wanted as a gift because "you have scissors" (even told other people not to get them for me since I had them already)They came over one day and noticed that I have a big vase and it's full of every kind of scissor, every color and size..."so, that really was a big deal I guess" my mom said ... I hadn't even really noticed the connection. But it WAS.
(DIR) Post #B1DcY4Jd1et7plw0CO by webhat@infosec.exchange
2025-12-13T21:48:14Z
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@futurebird I wouldn't need to do that, because even if I divided it in half and my sibling would eat their half, my parental unit would tell me not to be so greedy and share what I have with my sibling
(DIR) Post #B1DcfYDeF9nybahmIS by dlakelan@mastodon.sdf.org
2025-12-13T21:49:35Z
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@futurebirdIts called resource guarding in dogs, and it is generally caused or made worse by resource scarcity or a tendency of the other participants to snipe resources or gobble them quickly. my wife sometimes divides things and makes a separate piece for herself. my kids rarely do it. we are very resource secure. and if my kids want something they usually can have it, there isn't much gate keeping etc. every so often I wish my older son would leave me a few oranges though.
(DIR) Post #B1Dd2pI8vzo2DOuF8q by jnl@hcommons.social
2025-12-13T21:53:37Z
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@futurebird My best guess is that this comes down to either what one saw modeled by caregivers in terms of "how we do fair allocation," or what one dearly wishes they had seen modeled. I grew up in a family that definitely would be considered resource scarce by my spouse's family or our current family standards, but nothing like this ever happened nor would it occur to me. In fact, now that I think about it, maybe I should do something like this NOW because actually people eat my stuff all the time in my present household. Maybe it's gendered? I am the sole female living with three man-type humans.
(DIR) Post #B1DdQsde8tvtXrQyA4 by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-12-13T21:58:06Z
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@epicdemiologist Let your kid use scissors or they may grow up with a scissors scarcity mentality.
(DIR) Post #B1DdWGaKXNjlGIS2Ma by epicdemiologist@wandering.shop
2025-12-13T21:59:08Z
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@futurebird God only knows how I've scarred my kids. They're all still talking to me though, and I did get kudos for allowing them to experiment with eating pancakes in the bathtubm.
(DIR) Post #B1DdcYp1e5DtYoKHPk by paul_ipv6@infosec.exchange
2025-12-13T22:00:12Z
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@futurebird as a kid, sure.when we had dessert or similar to share, my mom used to have one of us cut and the other pick which piece they wanted.pretty sure we were at 0.01mm level of precision.as adults, we've mostly adjusted to something more approximating normal.
(DIR) Post #B1DdlarXQbyWUloC4u by carrideen@c18.masto.host
2025-12-13T22:01:53Z
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@futurebird @epicdemiologist My spouse's parents must have been in a club with yours, because we have scissors in every room of the apartment.
(DIR) Post #B1DdpAJW4sfZJXb9s0 by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-12-13T22:02:34Z
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@carrideen @epicdemiologist Listen. What if you needed to cut something and you couldn't find the right scissors!? It would be horrible... so horrible...
(DIR) Post #B1DeAqUeRy9qDH91ou by Phosphenes@mastodon.social
2025-12-13T22:06:28Z
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@futurebird @epicdemiologist Oo I love the protractor scissors. Never seen those before. Our scissors kept disappearing for years. When we moved out we found 9 pairs of them in our kid's room, behind the furniture, under the bed, in the closet...
(DIR) Post #B1DeDPhwUkGS0XaO6y by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-12-13T22:06:57Z
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@Phosphenes @epicdemiologist A wise child ...
(DIR) Post #B1DeemJqXCJjxEMbei by SKleefeld@retro.pizza
2025-12-13T22:11:52Z
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@futurebird We didn't have many things that got divvied like that, but it definitely did happen. Egg nog was caused the most fights. Mom eventually resorted to buying a carton for each of us each year and put our names on them. Once the one with your name on it was gone, that was it until next year.And of course we had to mark the sides of the cartons with the level of egg nog so they couldn't pour some of yours into their container.
(DIR) Post #B1DejpjXGdqTzXn2eW by michael_w_busch@mastodon.online
2025-12-13T22:12:47Z
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@futurebird I once heard a child psychologist say "anything short of fratricide is normal".So the range of sibling relationships is wide.
(DIR) Post #B1DfA1RcLgStqFtfBw by arti@friendica.world
2025-12-13T22:01:40Z
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what are the circular ones used for?
(DIR) Post #B1DfA2tIyECsKPrHzE by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-12-13T22:17:27Z
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@arti @epicdemiologist They are just strange art scissors from the 80s. They are not very practical but they are fun.
(DIR) Post #B1DfCPoQiieTzrhyIS by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-12-13T22:17:58Z
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@carrideen @epicdemiologist waking from a nightmare in a cold sweat because you needed scissors and there were none in the house... the horror.
(DIR) Post #B1DfGy814nsXaH2aye by adriano@lile.cl
2025-12-13T22:18:46Z
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@futurebird @carrideen @epicdemiologist look, just… just make sure you don’t run with them
(DIR) Post #B1DfMaEQptmnCwidI8 by gneilyo@mastodon.online
2025-12-13T22:19:46Z
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@futurebird Tell your friend to get a kitchen scale to make sure he’s not getting cheated.
(DIR) Post #B1DfP2cSGNJlpT7xq4 by realtegan@wandering.shop
2025-12-13T22:20:14Z
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@futurebird I have four sisters and two brothers, and I can say without reservation that this is very much something I could see myself doing.I tend to hide chocolate from my hubby, still. It's been years since I lived in that madhouse I grew up in, and I still worry that things will just... vanish. Because someone "borrowed" it.
(DIR) Post #B1DftrAAuHBBH9arZY by sovietfish@todon.eu
2025-12-13T22:25:47Z
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@futurebird My partner is an only child, but does this with everything, even home-cooked meals. I grew up with a close-in-age-but-older sibling and think my partner doing this is baffling.
(DIR) Post #B1DgGBZBjBXIvVwNhw by wtrmt@mastodon.social
2025-12-13T22:29:48Z
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@futurebird @epicdemiologist let them run carelessly and free with them!
(DIR) Post #B1DghYJxEgg7Jgrg48 by fflyn@mastodon.social
2025-12-13T22:34:46Z
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@futurebird From paper, cardboard, foil, cables, and strings to pizza and so much more; straight, round, or jagged. Put your fingers in the recess; create, make something; cut, shorten something; or give it a new look. Scissors, so simple, so ingenious, and we humans have been using them as a universal tool since invention. It accompanies us throughout our lives, but many don't really notice. We should remember the simple things in our lives much more than any high-tech junk.
(DIR) Post #B1Dh6BNHgdetODAOky by australopithecus@mastodon.social
2025-12-13T22:39:13Z
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@futurebird I do have (many) siblings and I do do this, but probably not for the reason you're thinking. I divide the food so YOU get YOUR fair share. Otherwise I eat it all too fast (which is apparently a common thing in people from large families).
(DIR) Post #B1DhtSRqznXcX3ngWG by MedeaVanamonde@beige.party
2025-12-13T22:48:06Z
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@futurebird @epicdemiologist You don’t use the cut/up method.You are the cur/up method
(DIR) Post #B1DhuKngup5x6QQt3Q by xiroux@zaidin.lgbt
2025-12-13T22:44:11Z
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@futurebird can you please talk a bit more about the two very weird (but still weirdly recognizible as scissors??) scissors on the table??????
(DIR) Post #B1DhuMG5UjP5cmj4xE by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-12-13T22:48:17Z
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@xiroux They are "art scissors" from the 80s just designed to be playful and fun.
(DIR) Post #B1Di70nAcLhooQEZMm by xiroux@zaidin.lgbt
2025-12-13T22:50:24Z
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@futurebird they do look playful and fun
(DIR) Post #B1DiqBer46MLXksymW by Burn_this_@beige.party
2025-12-13T22:58:41Z
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@futurebird No, but I was the baby, so I assume I just ate *all* the cheese.
(DIR) Post #B1DjVLqS5vzR0jwHAG by diazona@techhub.social
2025-12-13T23:06:10Z
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@futurebird huh, I have two siblings but I don't really relate to this behavior. We weren't particularly competitive about food (or anything) in my family though.
(DIR) Post #B1DpiLNjjA9l425OOO by log@mastodon.sdf.org
2025-12-14T00:15:44Z
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@futurebird My human porter at some point bought two identical "good scissors", and their spouse claimed them both. It wasn't even some kind of stewardship or organization thing. It was just a silent usurpation of all property interest. So they then bought dozens of identical cheap scissors, and planned for sad-cutting and tool-attrition.Porter and spouse are each the youngest of their siblings. This might not be a "has siblings" thing, but "how awful were your siblings to you" thing.
(DIR) Post #B1DqzMJBdSPuoadQx6 by Gorfram@beige.party
2025-12-14T00:29:58Z
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@futurebird @epicdemiologist Need.
(DIR) Post #B1Drauc93Aq3vXPRi4 by Gorfram@beige.party
2025-12-14T00:36:49Z
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@futurebird Oh, hell, yeah.I'm a little more talky about it. Do you merely really like the cheese; while I really, really, *really* like the cheese? -- I'm gonna negotiate for more of the cheese. Are the crackers the cracker equivalent of catnip to you, but "I mean, they're nice" to me? -- You're gonna get some cracker concessions. Etc.FTR, I have three siblings, two of them older than me.
(DIR) Post #B1Dsln2beCWPZwXND6 by Gorfram@beige.party
2025-12-14T00:50:00Z
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@futurebird @epicdemiologist As far as I knew, there was only one pair of scissors ever in the house I grew up in. Finding them when they were needed a frequent source of drama, sturm, und drang.It remains a thing of family legend how my sister, who was really into sewing, assiduously saved up her babysitting money until she could buy herself a pair of proper dressmaker's shears - and then my father, unable to locate the communal family scissors, took the dressmaker's shears out of my sister's sewing box and used them to cut fiberglass cloth.I have a pair of scissors in every room of my house, two in the kitchen, three (each for a different purpose) in my own sewing box, and one more that lives in the box of gift wrap.Shower your kids with scissors, folks.
(DIR) Post #B1DtHATSZcgfET3mbI by vfrmedia@social.tchncs.de
2025-12-14T00:36:55Z
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@IanMoore3000 @futurebird this never happened at home with any food but there is 8 year difference between me and my sister so we've always got on well.When she started cooking in her 20s, I did however start to meow with our half-Siamese cat when we were hungry, we'd make so much racket she would feed *both* of us and couldn't prove who first started the noise..I told her it was a cross-species male bonding exercise, to try and make the cat braver (I did also meow against the neighbours cat who had been bullying him and chased him away)Me and the cat meowed together for some years until the mid 2000s when I had to move away to Ipswich (where I still live), for some weeks after I left he hung around my old room wondering where I had gone as he missed the meowing sessions 😸
(DIR) Post #B1DtWXdKkZqDP40cng by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-12-14T00:58:28Z
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@Gorfram @epicdemiologist There were four pairs of scissors in our house and it always baffled me. There were more pens and pencils than you could count... there were many books and notebooks. But the idea of having more scissors just didn't compute for my parents. I remember being at "SAM'S Club" as a tween and there was a set of like 8 cheap, but sharp scissors for 15 bucks, which was more in the 90s but not... "so much money"IDK. It was strange.
(DIR) Post #B1DtnsmjMX6VvVfoC8 by petabites@mastodon.world
2025-12-14T01:01:34Z
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@futurebird House Rule: one sibling cuts, the other chooses. * my twin brother was always cutting the cheese (he's over 50; apparently I'm still a teenage boy)
(DIR) Post #B1DtozxQBHecSeCowC by Gorfram@beige.party
2025-12-14T01:01:47Z
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@futurebird @epicdemiologist Until my sister bought the dressmaker's shears, it had never occurred to me (I'm a few years younger) that there could be more than 1 pair of scissors in a household.
(DIR) Post #B1DttD71DJPePzhfdI by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-12-14T01:02:32Z
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@Gorfram @epicdemiologist Decadence beyond our wildest dreams!
(DIR) Post #B1Dty7s08Dcrbk1U4O by nazokiyoubinbou@urusai.social
2025-12-14T01:03:26Z
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@futurebird My sister and I definitely fought off and on over the years. I remember one big thing we fought over that made the parents really go nuts was one of the cats. We wanted to hog him, lol. Another was consoles — in particular a Playstation (1) system. My sister demanded it was her turn to have it for a while once while I had been installing an, uh, chip to fix it. (Yeah, to fix it.) It was in pieces and my parents were like "no, give it to her right now" so I didn't even have time to get it all together again right and a ribbon cable got broken during the transfer.I don't remember much about fighting over food, but I do think we did once or twice have occasion to get upset if either thought the other was getting more. It was rare, but not never.
(DIR) Post #B1DuDD5T14xS8GVwMy by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-12-14T01:06:11Z
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@Gorfram @epicdemiologist I suddenly have the urge to send texts to my family of me holding like five scissors fanned out like a wad of cash with more scissors scattered around like some kind of scissors drug lord.
(DIR) Post #B1DuaAf8CK0XGx911M by PavelASamsonov@mastodon.social
2025-12-14T01:10:17Z
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@futurebird Yes. This is a serious concern.
(DIR) Post #B1DubkvUr3KQ25YT8S by leadegroot@bne.social
2025-12-14T01:10:33Z
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@futurebird @Gorfram @epicdemiologist it is important to buy decent scissors (as opposed to Good scissors for eg dressmaking) The 8 pack was probably rubbish and wouldnt have cut paper within 2 years, and wouldn’t have been sharpenable #experience
(DIR) Post #B1DucgB3zqeHasHCoS by adriano@lile.cl
2025-12-14T01:10:38Z
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@futurebird Wolverine cosplay @Gorfram @epicdemiologist
(DIR) Post #B1DuhS124qVF7TrNGy by dlakelan@mastodon.sdf.org
2025-12-14T01:11:11Z
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@futurebird@Gorfram @epicdemiologist
(DIR) Post #B1DuloO4qFMjf8iag4 by erincandescent@akko.erincandescent.net
2025-12-14T01:10:41.284148Z
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@futurebird @tkinias no siblings, but it’s a thing i do with shared foods because otherwise i will forget how much i’ve taken and then devour 3/4ths of a tasty thing that was supposed to be shared in halves.
(DIR) Post #B1DulphFyQIliuhQDA by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-12-14T01:12:24Z
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@erincandescent @tkinias "Wow some of those candied orange peels would hit the spot right now... where are they?""... funny thing about THAT."Yeah this is the best reason to do this. Then you can gobble without remorse.
(DIR) Post #B1DvruwnSrmDhRQvxI by vfrmedia@social.tchncs.de
2025-12-14T01:24:43Z
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@futurebird @Gorfram @epicdemiologist there was never any shortage of scissors in my family house, but my Dad (who always did a lot of DIY) would buy his own shears and cutting tools for any gnarly stuff (which in the 70s included aluminium mesh, used to patch up holes in the wing (fender) of his classic Mini van (these were prone to rust)At work I get my own cutting tools rather than use the office scissors for unsuitable items (such as cable) but if I order them online whoever signs for the parcel gets carded (as its the law in my country). And you then need a pair of scissors, sidecutters or knife to open the packaging they are supplied in..
(DIR) Post #B1Dvz8JcA2d1BeXy52 by varx@cybersecurity.theater
2025-12-14T01:26:01Z
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@futurebird I'm an only child, but I think I may have traumatized my spouse and child when it comes to pomegranates.(If left unchecked, I will simply eat them all. We now have rules, with the alternative being that I maintain a ready supply of pomegranates while they're in season.)
(DIR) Post #B1E03ylzSxjOrANygS by MedeaVanamonde@beige.party
2025-12-14T02:11:44Z
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@futurebird we seldom got gift baskets. It was always first come first served.And then we’d peck at it Pakistan
(DIR) Post #B1E04r0joLc74XhWAS by graydon@canada.masto.host
2025-12-14T02:11:48Z
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@futurebird Western multi-tools have doubtful scissors and people question Swiss Army Knives because their scissors are functional. East Asian multi-tools have more variety, larger, and much more effective scissor setups including on-the-same-scale-as-the-pliers scissors.I can only conclude that scissors are femme-coded and that it is thus wrong to treat them like they're important.Which is supported by the use of "shears" for anything in a trade; tailor's, pattern, etc.@epicdemiologist
(DIR) Post #B1E27Qls1griT56SZM by aSweetGentleman@mstdn.social
2025-12-14T01:43:49Z
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@Gorfram @futurebird @epicdemiologist Now that you point it out I realize that yes, scissors were often the source of conflict/search/despair/hope in my family too!We need more studies on this.🤔
(DIR) Post #B1E27SCUiBkwtwZEhs by Gorfram@beige.party
2025-12-14T02:33:54Z
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@aSweetGentleman @futurebird @epicdemiologist I was thinking about scissors-related folklore.There's a Chinese superstition that dropping a pair of scissors brings bad luck. In "The Joy Luck Club," someone knocks over a whole table stacked with scissors; and her luck promptly goes straight to hell.An Irish superstition holds that, if someone gives you a blade as a gift, you must give them a coin (at least a small one); or else the friendship might be cut short. (That's just a blade, though - I suppose for scissors, you'd have to give them two coins.)In Greek/Roman mythology, the third of The Three Sisters of Fate cuts the thread representing a person's life - with, of course, scissors.
(DIR) Post #B1E4RQgEH3DLsz81IG by burnitdown@beige.party
2025-12-14T03:00:47Z
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@futurebird i think it would depend on how those siblings interact. i don't remember doing anything like that with mine.
(DIR) Post #B1E4YX3qwpYFhfZ6Ce by Burn_this_@beige.party
2025-12-14T03:02:03Z
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@futurebird @Gorfram @epicdemiologist Paper dust around your nose and mouth
(DIR) Post #B1E5dfvzU7qOcou6Pw by burnitdown@beige.party
2025-12-14T03:14:11Z
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@futurebird @epicdemiologist it has been a very long time since i last saw a pair of those scissors with extra finger loops. i'm not sure i ever knew what the purpose was.
(DIR) Post #B1EBUI35WLvrfF8DlQ by deepmud@mas.to
2025-12-14T04:19:43Z
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@futurebird my psychopath brother used to buy donuts and put them in the refrigerator. You were not allowed to eat them. I'm not traumatized. I think it was stupid
(DIR) Post #B1ECAEF24CMS1CiTLs by downbeatdan@mas.to
2025-12-14T04:27:19Z
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@futurebird @epicdemiologist there's a lot going on in THAT jar.
(DIR) Post #B1EQ4V3U2ViJmnTd68 by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-12-14T07:03:10Z
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@burnitdown @epicdemiologist They are "teaching scissors" where you are supposed to help a kid by holding the outer loops?I don't know how effective they are, but I like them for being freaky.
(DIR) Post #B1EQCqnR5efDX1x808 by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-12-14T07:04:41Z
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@burnitdown @epicdemiologist They still make and sell them so they must be useful to some teachers. https://www.therapro.com/Dual-Controlled-Training-Scissors.html
(DIR) Post #B1ETiV05xggl3vemAa by oblomov@sociale.network
2025-12-14T07:43:56Z
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@futurebird I grew up with multiple sisters at different age differences but altogether relatively close, and while we did have a tendency to be quite rigid about portioning in our younger days, we've mostly grown out of it. The youngest does seem to be still a bit hung up on that though.
(DIR) Post #B1EWCpdxyXihgJtigi by econads@mendeddrum.org
2025-12-14T08:11:44Z
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@futurebird in our house we had a policy of you cut he chooses or vice versa.
(DIR) Post #B1EY61xLzyYfkYqngG by ersatzmaus@mastodon.social
2025-12-14T08:33:03Z
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@futurebird Was meeting up with my sister and some friends.Someone commented that we both ate fast, and she said she didn't know why."It's because you had to finish first to guarantee you'd get seconds.""Oh, so you're the reason I eat fast.""Excuse me, I was already there - you're the reason _I_ eat fast."The other people there turned out to ghave been only children.
(DIR) Post #B1FBrQsB4dBSql1Vho by stevendbrewer@wandering.shop
2025-12-14T15:58:38Z
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@futurebird I kinda wish my wife would do this. Instead, I'm just supposed to leave the right amount. If I eat too much of it, I get chastised. Moreover, she will never eat her part because she likes to hoard things. So I always have to sit and watch her part go bad.
(DIR) Post #B1FCIyD7EVCa40wppg by Fragarach@social.vivaldi.net
2025-12-14T16:03:35Z
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@futurebird Multiple, mainly female siblings here. For some years there were 9 of us at mealtimes.This is not a behaviour I've encountered.
(DIR) Post #B1HhJNifsQ7O4dIzXk by maysonic@twit.social
2025-12-15T19:04:25Z
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@futurebird @epicdemiologist I still resent the fact that my father taught me to play chess almost 75 years ago, and then, when I beat him once, never played with me again. This was about the time when Bobby Fisher was making headlines as a quite un-nice prodigy, and my parents were afraid of a similar fate for me.
(DIR) Post #B1HoOnRINW7my8hns0 by graydon@canada.masto.host
2025-12-15T22:19:02Z
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@mediaevalfishsandwich Western would indeed be the scissors on a Leatherman (or SOG) where by default, there aren't any. (RAPTOR or PARASHEARS if you insist), and yes, compared to Roxon or Nextool where the scissors are the same scale as the pliers or if they're not they're a main secondary tool on the same scale as the knife blades.So far as I can tell this is broadly general; better things are expected of default general purpose scissors in East Asia. @futurebird @epicdemiologist
(DIR) Post #B1HoOoqV9HshKbVRnU by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-12-15T22:19:47Z
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@graydon @mediaevalfishsandwich @epicdemiologist "parashears"men need help good lordt
(DIR) Post #B1Holl0xYlAs6pKsWO by graydon@canada.masto.host
2025-12-15T22:24:01Z
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@futurebird @mediaevalfishsandwich @epicdemiologist If you want made-in-the-USA good scissors, they won't be called scissors.There are excellent trauma shears (presumably for EMTs though the better companies admit nurses might want some and produce a range of handle colours broader than red and black) and odd corners of trades (e.g., pattern shears) but just in general scissors are a lot worse made and worse designed than they ought to be given the prevailing constraints of technology.
(DIR) Post #B1HosbSxSVVIWRhE1o by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-12-15T22:25:17Z
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@graydon Tactical SnippersPower Slicers?What is driving this...(**whispers** is it lesbians? :( )
(DIR) Post #B1HpXjN6yDzaukZYwa by graydon@canada.masto.host
2025-12-15T22:32:39Z
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@futurebird Let me reference something that works; the safety razors produced by the Timeless Razor company. It's pretty obvious it's a company run by engineers because they quote you blade projection in hundredsth of a millimetre. (Razor blades are not made so accurately that there is a practical difference between 0.95 and 0.98, but their CNC machinery can tell and they tell you.)These are not products being produced with marketing input. (None of those companies make safety razors.)
(DIR) Post #B1HqVVqgNTgeLeuVYe by simon_brooke@mastodon.scot
2025-12-15T22:43:23Z
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@futurebird no. Well, yes, but by school, not by siblings. I mean, growing up with siblings not all sweetness and light all of the time, but I honestly don't think that any of my weird, obsessional or perverse behaviours are due to my siblings.
(DIR) Post #B1Htp6pLPtf2OpJvhQ by moz@fosstodon.org
2025-12-15T23:18:38Z
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@graydon @futurebird @mediaevalfishsandwich @epicdemiologist Sewing scissors, especially cloth shears, are both femme-coded and VERY IMPORTANT. Exercise extreme caution when expressing other opinions.Some are even made in the USA:https://sewingtrip.com/scissors-still-made-in-the-usa/(sorry about replying to an old comment, I keep thinking about this and can't not point it out)
(DIR) Post #B1Htp8LzjzN98NbWEK by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-12-15T23:20:39Z
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@moz @graydon @mediaevalfishsandwich @epicdemiologist "sorry about replying to an old comment"One of the things I like about the fedi is that old conversations can comeback and feed into each other and build. I never understood the hate for "necro threads" in some online communities.
(DIR) Post #B1Hu4yuKd4KGTFDo5Q by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-12-15T23:23:32Z
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@moz @graydon @mediaevalfishsandwich @epicdemiologist The only kind of "necro thread" I find annoying is when something gets boosted and the author isn't around to respond or even seemingly notice the replies. Then it just feels like an attention mill tactic.
(DIR) Post #B1HuEciI0A0wX4BdL6 by apophis@brain.worm.pink
2025-12-15T23:24:52.399372Z
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@futurebird @moz @graydon @epicdemiologist i've found that hate inversely proportional to the quality and diversity of the people who post there
(DIR) Post #B1HuEe2X4Nnie8fJWy by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-12-15T23:25:15Z
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@apophis @graydon @moz @epicdemiologist now that you mention it...
(DIR) Post #B1HuKclgi7liRKdbHc by dlakelan@mastodon.sdf.org
2025-12-15T23:26:19Z
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Usually the hate is on support forums. Someone adds something to a thread that's 5 years old, the software has long since moved on and fixed bugs and changed the way it works etc, thereby deflecting attention to old/out of date/broken tech instead of questions relevant to current users.The etiquette there is to start a new thread, reference the old thread if needed@futurebird @moz @graydon @mediaevalfishsandwich @epicdemiologist
(DIR) Post #B1HuzflKU0fzbD2kYi by darkling@mstdn.social
2025-12-15T23:33:45Z
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@futurebird @moz @graydon @mediaevalfishsandwich @epicdemiologist There are some things that just escalate over time.I was on a mailing list once where someone once said "sorry, replying to my own mail here", and then added something to what they'd just said.Then a couple more people did the same thing, presumably echoing that first one.After a couple of years, *everyone* was apologising for it, for no good reason. I'm sure that given a couple more years, it would have been verboten.
(DIR) Post #B1Hw6jjGEXJLsn0YpE by chicating@mastodon.world
2025-12-15T23:46:13Z
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@futurebird I guess it would depend on what you brought back, but just revisiting something doesn't bother me, as such.