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 (DIR) Post #B0YDoM6Wu2yrDCF5Ga by vlrny@disabled.social
       2025-11-20T23:16:08Z
       
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       I think I missed #internationalMensDay but I've been thinking a lot lately about male mentorship, not the business kind, but coaching peers and young men on emotional literacy and interpersonal skills.There's been a lot of talk lately about women not doing #emotionalLabour (valid!) but it leaves a gap, with no history or cultural infrastructure for men to learn and build capacity.Fellas, hit me with moments of man-on-man emotional mentoring. I know it's out there.  💪🧡 #tonicMasculinity
       
 (DIR) Post #B0YDoNP04rLjEltLhA by stepheneb@ruby.social
       2025-11-23T20:27:06Z
       
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       @vlrny Have been in a feminist-oriented mens group that meets once a month since 1978. One very interesting aspect that has developed over time is all of us getting much better at listening. There can be a kind of group mind sometimes. This is hard to describe — there are folks that think differently than me and have very different life experiences and sometimes I feel when I express a perspective it’s actually incomplete until I hear more.1/2https://ruby.social/@stepheneb/110550257605389302
       
 (DIR) Post #B0YDoQnZRxmnlqPVuS by vlrny@disabled.social
       2025-11-21T01:03:45Z
       
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       ☝️ OMG this is well timed. Just discovered a show on #CBC  called #theAssembly  -  neurodivergents asking blunt questions of celebrities in a setting where it's ok to be socially awkward. The first episode with Howie Mandel was so much of this male emotional mentorship and vulnerability that we've been talking about. Link to article: https://www.cbc.ca/television/watch-the-assembly-on-cbc-gem-9.6948634 #tonicmasculinity @autistics
       
 (DIR) Post #B0YDoR4ES176bWCosa by vlrny@disabled.social
       2025-11-23T20:12:37Z
       
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       ☝️Heh. I watched The Hitman's Bodyguard last night, and I just realized in between swearing and shooting ppl Samuel L Jackson did a pretty good job of mentoring mental flexibility and relationships skills to Ryan Reynolds. #samuelLJackson #ryanRenolds
       
 (DIR) Post #B0YDoUlwfwrY5xgGvo by stepheneb@ruby.social
       2025-11-23T20:29:19Z
       
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       @vlrny In general this has supported me in having deeper conversations with all sorts of folks including other men friends.
       
 (DIR) Post #B0YDoVZvg6qSaz4BqC by vlrny@disabled.social
       2025-11-21T23:46:15Z
       
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       ☝️ ooo and in a beautiful mirror image of #tonicMasculinity tonight I watched the #lilithFairDocumentary and it is chocked full of #tonicFemininity (if that's a term). My heart feels so much lighter. Gorgeous music, amazing collaboration, uplifting each other, creating safe spaces to be yourself. A blueprint of a different way to be, regardless of gender. Good write up from Rolling Stone, and catch the doc if you can, it's a balm for bruised souls. https://www.rollingstone.com/music/music-features/lilith-fair-building-a-mystery-documentary-takeaways-1235431199/