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 (DIR) Post #AzAOh2GNmZg1kx7V6O by futurebird@sauropods.win
       2025-10-13T12:44:40Z
       
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       If you go on the talk you hear about "relationships" you might think that most of them are bad. Things go wrong, people are terrible. Love is impossible. In great relationships you just don't have anything to talk about. Nothing happens.Do not operate on the impression that "most" relationships end in cheating, heartbreak and such. With relationships the good stuff is very boring. Also sometimes people get mad when you talk about it because it sounds like bragging.
       
 (DIR) Post #AzAOtI0N54Rq3NTRey by futurebird@sauropods.win
       2025-10-13T12:46:53Z
       
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       If you long for boring love without drama there are people who will build that with you. You will have no gossip, no reasons to cry on the phone in the night. It's out there! It's not even "rare" ... it's just not something you hear people talking about. "I didn't argue with my partner, he helped me organize the dishes and he took me to a nice restaurant." Isn't interesting conversation.
       
 (DIR) Post #AzAPBEzp0SKjvymDpI by Uair@autistics.life
       2025-10-13T12:50:05Z
       
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       @futurebird That's why there are a gazillion boy-meets-girl new love stories, and a gazillion cheating and heartbreak stories, and no happily-married-for-life stories.
       
 (DIR) Post #AzAPfxOoTteEKr747c by zenkat@sfba.social
       2025-10-13T12:55:39Z
       
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       @futurebird Honestly I think some people (subconsciously) choose had relationships because they are bored, and want some drama in their life. People love drama.
       
 (DIR) Post #AzAQCZysZRvzGFXQ3s by mansr@society.oftrolls.com
       2025-10-13T13:01:31Z
       
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       @futurebird I would argue that most relationships do end. Given that most people have had at least one before the final one, that's simple arithmetic. How badly they end is more difficult to assess, but I suspect the majority of breakups are at least a little unpleasant for at least one person involved.That said, you are right about good relationships making for boring gossip.
       
 (DIR) Post #AzAQEd8VoI6Jcu1PCy by mhoye@mastodon.social
       2025-10-13T13:01:55Z
       
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       @futurebird I saw a thing go by a few weeks back that looked like a reasonably tidy kitchen with two plates of food on the table, and the caption was just "this and nobody's yelling".
       
 (DIR) Post #AzARYfTGwGiec6qngG by sconlan@metalhead.club
       2025-10-13T13:16:43Z
       
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       @futurebird I tell people that a lot. There’s a lot to be said for finding someone that complements you, in ways large and small. I wife loves planning trips and I don’t. She likes to cook but I step in when she’s had a long day. I’m the fixer, builder and litter box attendant in the house. I pay bills and she does taxes. We joke that we don’t keep score but she’d probably be ahead. We’ve been married 25 years
       
 (DIR) Post #AzASAVejsZqNB2G5GC by cm@chaos.social
       2025-10-13T13:23:34Z
       
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       @futurebird The interesting things happen when one partner says "I have this crazy/dangerous/... thing I wanna do" and the other says "Sure, let's do it".
       
 (DIR) Post #AzASPeqvy6XI2mBa8O by RogerBW@discordian.social
       2025-10-13T13:26:18Z
       
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       @futurebird Sometimes the cheating etc. can happen because one partner is bored. But I've known friends whose partners wanted them to give up all their hobbies and friend groups, and that feels cultish to me.
       
 (DIR) Post #AzATVS1Yg5NpwqTuiW by LShashaty@sfba.social
       2025-10-13T13:38:34Z
       
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       @futurebird Early in the relationship I said I didn't think we'd make it because we argued all the time. He said oh, does this feel like arguing to you? and stopped. We've been contentedly married for 30 years.
       
 (DIR) Post #AzATwbwTuVvSWl3dbM by mhalila@mastodontti.fi
       2025-10-13T13:43:29Z
       
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       @futurebird I agree with this, but the caveat I've learned to add is that there are people for who "no drama" means everything gets done exactly the way they want, and if you disagree, you're causing "drama".
       
 (DIR) Post #AzAbdF0pjp5tXjMsam by futurebird@sauropods.win
       2025-10-13T15:09:36Z
       
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       @jetlagjen IDK when #PicaTheCat finds up something like this is going down... things get pretty dramatic pretty fast.
       
 (DIR) Post #AzBdzwZUrSEq4nUj2m by estelle@mstdn.social
       2025-10-14T03:10:49Z
       
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       @futurebird there's actually plentythe view of humanity through the lenses you trust each other to perceive through