Post Aypi0xpBoSBCajSTdg by Ladyfat@spinster.xyz
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(DIR) Post #Aypi0xpBoSBCajSTdg by Ladyfat@spinster.xyz
2025-10-03T11:56:56.838496Z
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Long time no see Spinsters! Popping in with an observation and question…I was recently (erroneously!!!) linked to a much younger man (think very early 20’s) that I know through a hobby…and people’s reactions were very interesting…At first I was quite rightly disgusted with them… and women started saying things like “oh god he’s not even mature looking for his age etc etc” and then i started thinking… if our sexes were reversed you can bet a lot of people (men) would be saying “good on you! Enjoy her! Does she have a sister?” Etc etc. So… what is an acceptable age gap for you?10 years? 15? 20? Much smaller? In hetero couples does that change if one sex is older than the other? Are all bets off in a lesbian or gay relationship? Tell me Spinster!
(DIR) Post #Aypi0zRVnSQbbsOb0i by Flick@spinster.xyz
2025-10-03T13:12:16.841674Z
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@Ladyfat Half your age plus seven is the lower limit.
(DIR) Post #Aypi1iiPTTgQ1JeE64 by Fullycaffeinated@spinster.xyz
2025-10-03T12:04:24.249990Z
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@Ladyfat I think it varies with age. A ten year gap when you're in your 50s or 60s is less of an issue than in your 20s-30s. People are just at different stages in their lives re education, career, starting a family, etc. Even teenagers, a few years makes a huge difference.And yes, if the sexes were reversed, no one would bat an eye.I think the same would apply to homosexual relationships. It's a matter of overall compatibility.
(DIR) Post #Aypi5pTKIM8O8NYHUO by HebrideanHecate@spinster.xyz
2025-10-03T12:31:56.000038Z
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@Ladyfat Hello there! How are you and all of yours?What Caff said.The older one gets the closer it becomes if both on the older side, but if younger I always think more iffy, one because men at that age are usually so immature...do they ever mature!....compared to women even close to the age they are themselves, never mind some years older. I couldn't be bothered myself, and if the gap is very large it usually means that there are less wholesome reasons involved. Whether vanity or being used for sex, but not really liked as a person for themselves...cuts both ways...or for monetary gain, it does make me uncomfortable. Older women, usually rich though, can be predatory too re young men, and I don't like that mindset from either sex. A friend's parents had a 20 year gap between them, so her dad was more like her grandfather and had a different life experience to her mum in certain ways and it also meant that her mum became a widow for a long time. Sometimes too older men are looking not just for eye candy to hoist their vanity on but as potential future carers, and women using rich older men for nothing but money, as I said, I neither like nor approve of this.A friend of mine, for assorted unhealthy reasons, always chased older men, all of them shites, and married one 16 years older than her, to say I hate him would be an understatement. He is now about to fall off his perch, and no, not with help from me. She ruined her life but will never see it, sunk cost fallacy involved as well no doubt. He's old for his years, as in older even than he is if you see what I mean, extremely controlling too, and she looks young for her age, so it looks like she is going around with her decrepit dad for whom she is carer. Me, I'd be dancing round the flames of his cremation if I had my way but I guess good taste means I shall have to be pious and circumspect.
(DIR) Post #AypkKE0e3us8CL82cq by benis_redux@cawfee.club
2025-10-03T13:38:09.740673Z
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@Ladyfat any sex with an older w*man should be considered rape which is hot
(DIR) Post #AypnfZquLTtRt1RnJA by Leyonhjelm@detroitriotcity.com
2025-10-03T14:15:38.644512Z
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@Ladyfat opinion: You should both be 18+. That's it. Everyone else can mind their business.
(DIR) Post #AyprY41kfhpQyLBzEm by Childfree@spinster.xyz
2025-10-03T14:16:07.412045Z
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@Ladyfat Up to five years up or down past age 25 seems about right to me.
(DIR) Post #AyprY5KvnslT27Aols by HebrideanHecate@spinster.xyz
2025-10-03T14:47:18.251068Z
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@Childfree @Ladyfat I am 3 years and 3 months older than partner, but due to different upbringings re place, time and culture it sometimes feels like I am a hundred years older! Things like having experienced life without electricity, not every house having a phone, and even after the electric arrived it taking a long time for people to afford goods like TV, fridges and the like, far fewer cars were owned and just stuff like that.
(DIR) Post #AyprdenDPDNkRk3mFs by TriptychTwinsRidesAgain@spinster.xyz
2025-10-03T14:30:43.131582Z
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@Ladyfat Lovely to see you again Empress of the Potatoes.In answer to your question. I was in a relationship in my 50s with a bloke in his 20s. I'd never been interested in younger men - we had nothing in common. He pursued me when I was having a shit time and I turned him down multiple times. It only lasted for about a year, but the vitriol from other women was off the charts. Even those I considered friends. The snide remarks and bitchy comments were horrendous, even from women who were in relationships with much older men. But honestly, they can fuck off. Do what's good for you.
(DIR) Post #AyrW5kNSQVflCQvAPo by Brookryn@spinster.xyz
2025-10-04T09:59:25.014610Z
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@Ladyfat I don't think age difference really matters over 25, but life stage does. I know women who wanted kids but were with a guy who wasn't ready or a much older man with grown children who didn't want more, who will now probably end up changing her husbands diapers instead of her own babies. When kids isn't a concern I think it's mostly a sexist double standard, women are judged when in a relationship with a much younger person, men aren't.