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 (DIR) Post #Avyl11JZKSf2iT4eDA by ansate@social.coop
       2025-07-10T03:44:27Z
       
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       Ok! I caught my negative thought. I examined it and decided that it was not a good reason to feel bad.Problem: i still feel bad, now i am just mad at myself for being upset and then feeling bad.Suggestions for how to break out of feeling bad? And not just spiraling because you feel bad, so you must have done something wrong?
       
 (DIR) Post #Avyl12VeszvSQFjoh6 by teajaygrey@snac.bsd.cafe
       2025-07-10T04:21:27Z
       
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       "just mad at myself for being upset and then feeling bad."Been there. As a sage friend of mine once phrased it: "I eventually learned to stop beating myself up, for beating myself up."Admittedly, I am not sure if I figured out that friend's solution for myself? His way of phrasing it was helpful framing to at least attempt to acknowledge when I am caught up in some similar mental anguish loop.For me, changing scenery is a methodology that I find is sometimes helpful? Going for a walk in nature if possible, far away from humans and their noises is ideal! A babbling brook, raging rapids, or the moon reflected in an ocean with waves crashing seem to be fantastic for me when I can enjoy such things.Rain drops, while soaking in some rustic hot springs far away from most signs of so-called "civilization"? Better still!Unfortunately, it is not always easy or possible to change scenery to such realms without significant effort and often expenses.Simpler things, such as making an herbal tisane, the meditative qualities of watching steam "peel" off the "skin" of the tea cup, help to slow down and be in the moment, a different moment than incessant negative thoughts.Tea kettles and water and loose leaves are not always readily available.So perhaps some headphones, and a song, or album, or something musical can be helpful, for me at least, to have another frame of reference when I am in exceedingly urban hellscapes full of human maladies.Barring that, earplugs.Admittedly, reducing inputs from the world around me that I find harrowing isn't the be all end all, but a starting point.If stuck with human trappings and no good tunes are readily available, vegging out to some movies or something similar (ideally: comedic in nature if looking for levity) might be beneficial?No doubt, if the negative thoughts are persistent (as they often are in my experience) such strategies may be of limited utility, but even temporary distractions can still be welcome in my experience.