Post AtTbH3DQGwwiI7ftPk by d4rkness@ni.hil.ist
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(DIR) Post #AtT9w6j9K6T4L5IsdM by Tattie@eldritch.cafe
2025-04-25T13:22:16Z
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Cis people: I've heard more than one of you tell me that it's "not entirely safe" to go round wearing a trans flag pin, which is why you don't. And you're right, it's not entirely safe. But. If I can go around existing as a very obviously trans woman for four years, then it's safer than your fears are telling you.When I first started transitioning, I was terrified. Even at the very first step; painting my nails a clear gloss. Would people laugh at me? Would they shun me? Step by step I discovered: no. I started getting supportive comments and compliments. Women started to treat me with trust and openness. The vast majority of people are kind, decent, supportiveSo I challenge you to start wearing that pin that you're scared of. It's just a pin. See how people react to it. You might see some smiles.Because trans people might be a single percentage of the population, but what about their families? Friends? Co-workers?Go ahead and take a pocketful of spares, as well. Offer them to your friends, or anyone who asks.In this darkest time, when every message from the media tells us that we should hate and mistrust those around us, you deserve to discover, like I did, that this mistrust is a lot less well-founded than you might think. So be brave, and wear that empathy on your sleeve. Or lapel. :heart_transgender:
(DIR) Post #AtT9wEYoCQwwdKWjcu by Tattie@eldritch.cafe
2025-04-25T23:09:56Z
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Update: privileged white cis guys who come into the comments to make weak-ass excuses for why they can't or shouldn't have to wear pins in support of minorities will be excoriated so hard they delete their posts in shame. 😂
(DIR) Post #AtTMjor7F4YqqBV66y by Bel_tamtu@meemu.org
2025-04-25T13:33:34Z
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@Tattie Yeah. I am no longer visibly trans but I like to dress gender non conforming, appearing in a beard and a skirt in public, or looking like a guy in obvious makeup, and now I wear a large amount of queer flag pins on my bag which includes a trans flag.It may be different in the UK but where I am a lot of people don't even recognize the trans flag or any queer flag beyond the rainbow one, or the progress pride flag. Which has the trans colours on it! But many folks still don't recognize the trans flag.If I get harassed it's always been for looking gender non conforming, and I have rarely been harassed, very very rarely. A few more times I have received or overheard rude comments about myself for presenting as I do.But the vast, vast, vast majority of people just let me be. And others genuinely appreciate how I dress or my pins. I get compliments on my skirt or hat, I get compliments on my pins, and that is a huge part of why I wear the pins at all. Cis folks should try pins.
(DIR) Post #AtTMleb6LxUJbWsuye by Bel_tamtu@meemu.org
2025-04-25T14:46:14Z
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@maggiejk I'm aro, and I dont think you can culturally appropriate a queer identity, personally. If you feel a label fits you in some way you're welcome to use it, there is much variety in experiences of queer people and I believe in inclusivity and not gatekeeping.You don't have to label yourself either if you don't want to or aren't ready or feel wrong about it. You can also change your labels any time you want to. It's all available to you if you want it. 💜💚I can't tell you who you are but I will say I have met aspec folks with experiences similar to yours.
(DIR) Post #AtTMlnNbhV2cqHdlh2 by Bel_tamtu@meemu.org
2025-04-25T14:53:52Z
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@maggiejk Let me correct myself: some queer identities are specific to a culture, may be tied exclusively to an ethnicity or race, and (for example) it would be inappropriate for someone like me with no indigenous North American hertage to claim an identity like 2-spirit. So in that way one could culturally appropriate a queer identity, though I'm not sure if that term is applicable in this context.But none of that applies to you with ace & aro. 💜💚 Also you probably know all this already, I just saw the glaring error in my post and had to say this because it's important.
(DIR) Post #AtTMoALZHRkseWoiQK by eowyn@pouet.chapril.org
2025-04-25T19:26:44Z
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@maggiejk @Bel_tamtu @Tattie you're not stealing anything from anyone by indentifying in good faith as aro and/or ace.
(DIR) Post #AtTMpzXWQrSZiKHMFE by Tattie@eldritch.cafe
2025-04-25T14:19:55Z
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@maggiejk it's interesting, isn't it?I'd say it's a sign that the person hasn't fallen down the toxic masculine rabbit-hole of loathing for anything associated with women and femininity-- a loathing that short-circuits any empathy for women as human beings.The nail polish says clearly "I am not afraid to associate with femininity".
(DIR) Post #AtTMqmgPiagg85oePI by JoscelynTransient@chaosfem.tw
2025-04-25T23:13:15Z
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@Tattie I mean…it’s literally there in the story of everyone wearing a Star of David to protect Jewish folks from fascists. It’s like the most basic and simple way you can stand up and help protect those being targeted by shitheads.
(DIR) Post #AtTMqu3MJgCUzHbZdw by Tattie@eldritch.cafe
2025-04-25T23:53:46Z
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@JoscelynTransient yup. And, you know, those people who are too anxious to help in that way, I'm sad, but I also get it, because I once lived in fear as well. Those who come into my comments all self-righteous about it, on the other hand, are getting the c word flung at them, and I don't mean any word referring to a part of the anatomy.
(DIR) Post #AtTbH3DQGwwiI7ftPk by d4rkness@ni.hil.ist
2025-04-26T07:47:38Z
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@maggiejk @Bel_tamtu @Tattie If you feel that you are aromantic or asexual, then you are free to use those labels! there is so much variety within aspec identities and if you feel the label fits you then please use the label!
(DIR) Post #AtTvOn86NAZXkaY9JI by SuperGaytor@mementomori.social
2025-04-26T08:32:33Z
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@maggiejk @Tattie for me it's a sign of someone who is secure in his masculinity, he knows having painted toenails doesn't make him any less of a man and that's such a green flag