Post AqwYfEhbTYS7W7TcCu by mattmcirvin@mathstodon.xyz
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(DIR) Post #AqwWXrEE9WL0mM5e6q by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-02-09T13:09:51Z
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Left-handed people have always existed and will always exist. We are happier, healthier, more capable when we just use our dominant hand (or hands) to write, and do complex tasks. It's possible to try to force everyone to use the same hand this leads to frustration, can hinder education. It is pointless. You don't need to worry about what hand other people use. It's none of your business. If you have never thought about this be glad your dominant hand was the one everyone expected.
(DIR) Post #AqwWipdaPMfP1vBV2m by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-02-09T13:11:53Z
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If you know someone who would be angered by these very obvious observations because they are transphobic or among those who would enable transphobia by "not being political" that's probably the person and the place where the "obvious thing everyone knows" needs to be said most.
(DIR) Post #AqwXGGb7BxQkCYyIUq by callisto@disabled.social
2025-02-09T13:17:53Z
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@futurebird I wonder if even this is something we'll be going back on. It's in living memory that people *were* forced to use their right hands for everything, usually by corporal punishment as well as ostracization. With the range of "acceptable" bodies reverting to white, male and abled, I wouldn't be surprised to find right-handedness on the list sooner than later.
(DIR) Post #AqwXRJHHZFa5hPxdBY by afeinman@wandering.shop
2025-02-09T13:19:49Z
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@futurebird *fist bumps* made this very same analogy...it's been helpful so far with folks who are failing to ally.https://afeinman.medium.com/how-being-a-lefty-taught-me-what-i-dont-know-about-racism-70ab6fae0c34
(DIR) Post #AqwXZ9lunIrCXA1xPE by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-02-09T13:21:20Z
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@callisto Once you stop respecting self determination there isn't any real limit to how far it will go. And the philosophy of fear requires an enemy to make sense. They choose the easiest enemies first, those who some people are already suspicious of, those who are few in numbers. But, then they need to move on. It's a really obvious pattern with these kinds of movements there are poems and lists and this is well established. And it's exactly where we are going if we are too passive.
(DIR) Post #AqwYfDV9wKu7nEeAAi by mattmcirvin@mathstodon.xyz
2025-02-09T13:29:04Z
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@callisto @futurebird I've met someone who was trying to force her left-handed kid to be right-handed. Today. Well, some years ago.Why? She'd heard the news story going around at the time claiming that left-handed people have a far shorter life expectancy.
(DIR) Post #AqwYfEhbTYS7W7TcCu by mattmcirvin@mathstodon.xyz
2025-02-09T13:30:59Z
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@callisto @futurebird I later found out that the study cited in that story had become a standard example of bad statistical sampling. Their method was to look at ages of death in obituaries and find out whether the person was left-handed. Since older people were more likely to be forced to become right-handed, there was a bias toward younger dead people being left-handed.
(DIR) Post #AqwYfFau9wgkHdLmPA by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-02-09T13:33:28Z
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@mattmcirvin @callisto Good to know. But ... Matt, you and I are convinced by and interested in studies. I don't know if studies help with this kind of thing because the problem is more fundamental. There is no benefit, nothing gained by forcing people to live like this. No one can explain what's being accomplished that has value or meaning to me.
(DIR) Post #AqwZPsxC9bIffx0u1I by MarciaW@ohai.social
2025-02-09T13:42:00Z
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@futurebird Reminds me of Dan Piraro's cartoon
(DIR) Post #AqwaFLVtjGV91Lmezg by aguaviva@mastodon.social
2025-02-09T13:51:19Z
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@futurebird Cosmic feces? Asking for a friend.
(DIR) Post #AqwaLQISrElLarOktc by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-02-09T13:52:28Z
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@aguaviva I don't know what "cosmic feces" is and I am not certain that I want to know?
(DIR) Post #AqwcNaqGozV2mpNCYS by oldclumsy_nowmad@mastodon.social
2025-02-09T14:15:14Z
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@futurebird My father, a born "lefty", was forced to be "righty" when learning to write (cursive) in school. All his life, his cursive looked messy.There's another side to the story. For a while, he became a semi-professional boxer. He had several characteristics - including being a lefty - which made him very good at that. Nobody expected a punch from that side! He won every match."Differentness" often comes with valuable "side effects". That's why evolution doesn't eliminate it.
(DIR) Post #Aqwe7f7HMU7zJmrOG8 by atarifrosch@mastodon.de
2025-02-09T14:34:42Z
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@futurebird /signA left-handed person who was forced to use the right hand as child.
(DIR) Post #AqweqQ6s0Deno70kO8 by Leefellerguy@mastodon.social
2025-02-09T14:42:40Z
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Never thought about it? May be another place for those who wallow in bigotry?
(DIR) Post #Aqwf5Gv0SSPRe1XmGO by davew@mastodon.online
2025-02-09T14:45:32Z
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@futurebird As with many variations in human experience, it wasn’t always respected https://mastodon.online/@davew/110884026432575709
(DIR) Post #AqwfBbCFyd7yH2d5Zg by KarenDorman@mastodon.sdf.org
2025-02-09T14:46:37Z
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@futurebird Urrg. My elderly grade 2 teacher whacked my knuckles with a pointer sick every time I picked up the pencil with my left hand. My lovely grade 3 teacher spent hours with me after school helping me learn to print and write beautifully.
(DIR) Post #AqwfHZ8UYFxncViJ4i by Elleaster@ohai.social
2025-02-09T14:47:40Z
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@futurebird What's frustrating is I didn't have a hand preference at 5. Either one worked, but I had to pick one. I chose left. Just let people develop naturally.#Ambidextrous
(DIR) Post #AqwfJKHSkouC7tkVgu by pkdmva@mstdn.social
2025-02-09T14:48:05Z
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@futurebird Two more data points to add to similar replies here: My grandmother was left-handed and forced to learn writing right-handed. I’m so dominantly left-handed that I think it would be physically painful to write with my right hand for more than a minute or so.
(DIR) Post #AqwfaMtaHkr79vhrii by courtcan@mastodon.social
2025-02-09T14:51:10Z
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@futurebird @callisto My daughter is left-handed. When my grandma was still alive (but drifting into dementia), one of her oft-repeated questions to me was, "Do they try to make her right-handed at school?"When I'd say no, she'd say, "Good. Don't let them. They tried to make my sister right-handed. But she wrote with her left hand. She had the most beautiful penmanship."I never got her to tell me what "they" did to her sister. But I could tell that 90 years later, it still bothered Grandma.
(DIR) Post #AqwfdRez1lfInxLOym by PhoenixSerenity@beige.party
2025-02-09T14:51:37Z
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@futurebird My Dad was left handed & had his left hand tied for years in schools. He learned how to write equally well with his right hand. He didn't like having his dominant left hand tied for years & I doubt any other left handed students wanted that kind of cruel treatment either.
(DIR) Post #Aqwfrb96YXrEHLBLBg by EndicottAuthor@mastodon.social
2025-02-09T14:54:17Z
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@futurebird As a southpaw, I agree. I was fortunate that several teachers allowed me to use my left hand to write. If they'd tried to change me, I'd have grown into a very different person.
(DIR) Post #AqwfyZrhiSDgKlN3gG by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-02-09T14:55:34Z
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@PhoenixSerenity Your dad was lucky he was to some degree ambidextrous, with a left preference perhaps. That's how I read this. We'll never know what they might have accomplished if not hindered, they will never get the wasted time back, the suffering resolved. Any teacher today who insisted on such a thing would be called a "bad teacher." It's pointless bad idea. But it is proof that we can do pointless and bad things for a long time to each other before getting wise.
(DIR) Post #Aqwgcxj6Q5AjvCbXuq by toxy@mastodon.acc.sunet.se
2025-02-09T15:02:48Z
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@futurebird Ringo Starr’s gran used to whack him when he resorted to his natural left-handedness but he always regressed. It is said that his unique drumming style comes from using a right-handed drumkit left-handed. You are in fine company.
(DIR) Post #Aqwgib6vPwb7W9R008 by PhoenixSerenity@beige.party
2025-02-09T15:03:51Z
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@futurebird Dad never stopped using his dominant left hand. He just didn't do ot at school because a couple of beatings was enough for him to avoid trying to fight back there. He was really happy when we found the left handed store in Vancouver a few decades back.
(DIR) Post #AqwhCuMUPIW5uYASdE by lePetomaneAncien@fosstodon.org
2025-02-09T15:09:20Z
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@futurebird I'm left handed. My right hand is pretty much a vestigial appendage. BUT when working with tools, especially on complex machines, I often force use of my right hand and it often works better. It seems the world was designed by and for right handed people. There's a lesson in there somewhere on when and how to fight the power. Probably something about means and ends. I'll never abandon my left handed nature but I'll use my right hand when it's better suited for the task at hand.
(DIR) Post #AqwhE1MtqGqLvntGLo by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-02-09T15:09:27Z
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@zenheathen @courtcan @callisto Yeah this is why "You don't need to worry about what hand other people use. It's none of your business."
(DIR) Post #AqwiTlxP0a0Aio2TQm by Alleyoop@mastodon.social
2025-02-09T15:23:34Z
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@futurebird I will never quite understand why this ever mattered. To anyone. But I've heard stories of children being abused over it! What damn difference does it make?! Unnecessary cruelness. 🤦🏾♀️
(DIR) Post #AqwiaVdg4qam8g1cie by whose_nose@dresden.network
2025-02-09T15:24:46Z
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@futurebird yuhu -- I am a left-handed person. Kindergarten + school wanted to turn me into a righty - my mother stopped them doing that. So I still write with my left hand. BUT teachers were bullying me because of my bad handwriting. They did not teach how to write with my left hand without smearing the ink. (we had to use a cartidge pen with real ink for writing). I was not allowed to use another pen. Even if I tried hard to write even, it was not possible. I was very ashamed. Yeah, but my coach (handball) was very fond of my dominant left hand. I know "converts" who have difficulties with math and spelling. Thank you for the toot.
(DIR) Post #Aqwj3kXfkM2cl49vZA by TechSalman@mastodon.social
2025-02-09T15:29:54Z
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@futurebird Absolutely agree! Forcing left-handed people to conform to right-handed norms is not only outdated but harmful. It stifles individuality, creates unnecessary frustration, and can even hinder learning and development. Embracing diversity in how we use our hands—or any aspect of our identity—leads to happier, healthier, and more capable individuals. Let’s celebrate differences, not erase them.#LeftHanded #Diversity #Inclusion
(DIR) Post #AqwjNRTIMP2LP4VAlE by x0r0x@techhub.social
2025-02-09T15:33:39Z
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@futurebird My dad (born in 1947, Czech republic) has been "reeducated" to use the right hand. Then, like 10 years later, the "reeducation" has been abolished.. so he started to write/draw with his left hand again - he says that the time he has spent learning to use the right hand was just huge waste... My question is, in 2025, is there still a country / place / school where they do this ?
(DIR) Post #AqwjPTYdZiB2S7yDa4 by nazokiyoubinbou@urusai.social
2025-02-09T15:34:02Z
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@futurebird I actually had a teacher try to force me to learn to write right-handed. It did not work. In fact, it had the opposite effect. I was more resistant towards writing right-handed because of that teacher. (She was a very bad teacher. One of those rare bad apples that spoils the bunch. She really really hated me for various reasons, not the least of which being I was different.)It wasn't until something like ten years later that I even started to experiment with writing right-handed a little bit just because I wanted to be a bit more ambidextrous. (I never got that great at it though.)
(DIR) Post #AqwjSuUlsUe4rondcu by chrissn@mastodon.social
2025-02-09T15:34:36Z
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@futurebird As a kid in England in the mid-70s I was required to wear an eye patch in classes in to ensure I was right-handed for writing. I'm ambidextrous for everything else.
(DIR) Post #AqwjYTg2V5eTQfj0aW by fahrni@curmudgeon.cafe
2025-02-09T15:35:38Z
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@futurebird @lisamelton When I was a boy I was left handed. I didn’t know I was, I just was. My dad converted me to be right handed because “the world is right handed.”I don’t remember any of this. He told me that story later in life.I always wondered why I could do some stuff really well left or right handed. Maybe that’s why? 🤷🏻♂️
(DIR) Post #Aqwjn1nKRtR3IU4ZBA by whknott@mastodon.social
2025-02-09T15:38:14Z
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@futurebird Now replace handed-ness with trans-gender and say it again, LOUD, for the people in the back.
(DIR) Post #Aqwjo6iLdwGGqRG2DY by YakyuNightOwl@mastodon.world
2025-02-09T15:38:26Z
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@futurebird Ichiro was born right handed. He throws with his right hand and catches with his left. His father taught him to bat left handed, and now that he is headed to the Hall with more hits than anyone else in professional baseball, the rest is history.
(DIR) Post #Aqwjy9h9PqTmz8UNLU by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-02-09T15:40:17Z
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@chrissn So I have heard about:* tying arms down* wrapping knuckles and now a damn eyepatch??And it still took time for people to think "oh maybe this isn't a great idea, maybe this is not worth it and bad."All of this stuff is abusive. That is not to say the adults doing it saw it that way or intended it in that way but that doesn't matter. Hitting children restraining them, it's abuse.
(DIR) Post #Aqwk79R9kDEsn7ITsu by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-02-09T15:41:56Z
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@chrissn My dad would laugh with my uncle about how the teacher would "WAP!" his left hand, but he always apologized to me for not being able to write more neatly. "I'm glad you have beautiful handwriting, but I was left handed."Laughing is one way to cope with the contradiction of being harmed by people who are meant to care for you. I laugh about my grandmother who spanked me. But, I also know it would have been better for both of us if she didn't do that. But she didn't know.
(DIR) Post #AqwkAJpNZJ4ht08aqu by sloanlance@mastodon.social
2025-02-09T15:42:03Z
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@futurebird So true! Is there a special reason you've mentioned this now? Has the new #USA presidential regime begun targeting left-handed people?
(DIR) Post #AqwkCWk8WJHgWPjqCW by JeniParsons@mstdn.social
2025-02-09T15:39:17Z
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@Lily_and_frog @futurebird interesting thought about the Industrial Revolution but I suspect it’s much older than that and connects with religion. As a left handed priest I was told I could only bless with my right hand… so I do since it’s, on the face of it, a small conformity but relating it to the bigger picture since I use my ‘sinister’ hand for most things maybe the ‘it’s evil’ stuff is stupidly still around still
(DIR) Post #AqwkOeRhhvMht0tjsG by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-02-09T15:45:05Z
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@sloanlance I bring it up because it's helpful when talking to people who are transphobic. Among such metaphors I think it's one of the better ones. Although it isn't perfect. Being forced to use your non-dominant hand will impact you every day of your life, I think being forced to live as a gender you are not is probably much more disruptive and traumatic.
(DIR) Post #AqwkQwloY5pFIVOnw0 by lloydlemons@me.dm
2025-02-09T15:45:29Z
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@futurebird In grade school I used to get my hand tapped with a ruler. The teacher was trying to make me stop using my left hand to write. Now I'm old and I still use my left hand.
(DIR) Post #Aqwkqvf7I6hDOFeheq by Bob_n_PA_USA@mastodon.world
2025-02-09T15:50:10Z
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@futurebird I went to public schools in the 60s and 70s. I remember being horrified that classmates who went to parochial schools would have their hands wacked if they tried to write left-handed by the nuns and priests
(DIR) Post #Aqwky6OVmspChcJE3c by beisbolcards@mastodon.world
2025-02-09T15:51:29Z
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@futurebird I'm not left-handed but for daily things like opening jars, doors and faucets, using my phone and throwing frisbees, I always use my left hand.But it cannot write nor throw a ball with it.
(DIR) Post #Aqwl8ZdrtrjWJBU9b6 by paninid@mastodon.world
2025-02-09T15:53:20Z
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@futurebird Slightly edited with the objective of sharing to LinkedIn.Do I have your permission?
(DIR) Post #AqwlC2HHtCQ5zPZeka by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-02-09T15:54:02Z
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@paninid Yes!
(DIR) Post #Aqwlv2ftGDrwFeXhRo by chrissn@mastodon.social
2025-02-09T16:02:08Z
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@futurebird as I recall it they were trying to cure my habit of switching writing hands when they got tired.
(DIR) Post #AqwmNTXgxbr3glGXw0 by qurlyjoe@mstdn.social
2025-02-09T16:07:15Z
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@futurebird Lefty here, mostly. No one ever even suggested I try to write with my right hand. I wrote with a weird contortion of my wrist so my hand was above what I was writing. Learned to write from “below” without the contortion in 10th grade. Had a history teacher who made us write down everything he said. The pain forced me to relearn. Everything else—throwing, batting, kicking, large arm motions—I do righty.
(DIR) Post #Aqwn6JvZYSmgtros7M by jernej__s@infosec.exchange
2025-02-09T16:15:23Z
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@futurebird I saw this earlier today: https://mk.absturztau.be/notes/a41501mdzlce00zd
(DIR) Post #Aqwn7n2So1MpTak9zc by whknott@mastodon.social
2025-02-09T16:15:39Z
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@futurebird Sorry, should have assumed you were several steps ahead of me 🤣 @sloanlance
(DIR) Post #AqwnMUpulRDvMlt13A by aguaviva@mastodon.social
2025-02-09T16:18:17Z
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@futurebird@sauropods. you're totally right, me neither. but i've been told we have yet to find out what is on the other side of that black hole.
(DIR) Post #AqwneWt5sO3wwNyLDs by amorphophalex@mastodon.social
2025-02-09T16:21:33Z
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@futurebird My whole family on my dad's side is left-handed 💪 None of us have been diagnosed as dyslexic (although sometimes I wonder if I am, just a tiny bit). But I heard a hypothesis that the connection between left-handedness and dyslexia is probably because forcing left-handed people to use their right hand messes up what their brain wants to do. Also the way lots of tools and appliances are made for righties.
(DIR) Post #Aqwo6ceo1DhQwWgWno by gpilz@mastodon.social
2025-02-09T16:26:33Z
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@futurebird @sloanlance I've tried this line of reasoning with transphobes but they tend to use their oversimplified understanding of genetic gender ("XY" means male, "XX" means female) to argue that "that isn't a good analogy". Of course, they cling to this oversimplification because it provides them with a justification for their transphobia.
(DIR) Post #AqwoOwekOwe0BJOWQa by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-02-09T16:29:58Z
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@gpilz @sloanlance I'm not interested in debating this topic. I don't think it's productive and it makes it seem like it's "debatable" I offer an analogy to help people understand because it helps me to understand. But you can't *make* a person understand.Although, knowing that you and other people who matter to them are disappointed, disgusted that they don't understand can, over time create the needed openness to learn. Seen that happen. So reminding them they are doing harm is good IMO.
(DIR) Post #Aqwocv0fJsjr84JFp2 by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-02-09T16:32:30Z
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@gpilz @sloanlance Some people think arguing is fun. Heck, I like to have a good argument, but I think it's ... dangerous to use these issues of life and death as a little intellectual playground. Though I didn't always understand this when I was younger. I used to really think a beautiful argument could accomplish anything. Shocked to learn that my own personal regard has more power. "You really don't want to go with us anymore? Over THAT?""Yes. It's a big deal."That did it.
(DIR) Post #AqwpWhYwVEq9dkwSLA by Tytrater@mastodon.social
2025-02-09T16:42:29Z
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@futurebird it’s wild how many times I’ve been told “no that’s wrong “ when picking something up for the first time (guitar, hockey stick, baseball bat, etc) I’ve had teachers just sit and stare at me until I flip it around “the right way” before they start their lesson
(DIR) Post #AqwpzXQFHcHWaYcl1M by joy_mitali@musician.social
2025-02-09T16:47:45Z
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@futurebird I am a left-handed person too and I am a musician ( sitarist).
(DIR) Post #Aqwq4f8W1v37xem5XE by bigbebe@mastodon.social
2025-02-09T16:48:38Z
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@futurebird my daughter is left handed, both her dad and i are not. we think it's cool as hell! i noticed it when she started learning how to use eating utensils (maybe 10-12 months old) and never once thought to try and "correct" it. she is different and thats more than okay
(DIR) Post #AqwqHDOMUhzzg6AjFQ by seachanged@mastodon.social
2025-02-09T16:44:43Z
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@unchartedworlds @futurebird When my stepfather was a child, they BEAT HIS LEFT HAND when he used it to write.I'm sure that the intention was to injure the sinister hand enough so that it was painful to use, to help induce use of the right hand.
(DIR) Post #AqwqHEZ28W85JUAlWK by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-02-09T16:50:52Z
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@seachanged @unchartedworlds Not a coincidence that the same people who insist children need to be beaten in order to be good. (Or less extreme, but not much better, that hitting children isn't harmful, antithetical to nurturing & teaching) also use this extreme tactic for something futile, counterproductive and pointless as trying to change a child's dominant hand. (And not to impart some deep moral sense as the defenders of hitting kids will claim.)
(DIR) Post #Aqwr1KjTXCehlV2SaO by LinuxAndYarn@mastodon.social
2025-02-09T16:59:14Z
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@futurebird @seachanged @unchartedworlds A nun tried to do that to my little brother in the 70s, and my Mom read her up and down. Nobody tried to make my brother right-handed again.(This was at the same school where she went to the library and demanded I be allowed to take Nancy Drew books from the "fourth graders" shelf in first grade because I was already reading them from her old collection and the public library.)
(DIR) Post #AqwrEHrjVLOCde4tRQ by antdude@mastodon.social
2025-02-09T17:01:38Z
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@futurebird some people can't use, have defected/broken hands(me), or even have hands :(
(DIR) Post #AqwrINKt6m2SlKfFVg by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-02-09T17:02:22Z
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@seachanged @unchartedworlds "But if you spare the rod you will spoil the child! They won't know right from wrong! They will end up in prison.""Oh wow. That sounds bad. So ... what are you using the rod for then?""Hitting the kid for holding the crayon with the wrong hand."...
(DIR) Post #AqwrSbAsVmkAZsrCvg by fleeky@prsm.space
2025-02-09T17:04:13Z
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@futurebird i've always been fascinated by people who are left handed because they also tend to be much more ambidextrous than most right handed people for obvious reasons.being able to do things in a different way should be celebrated and attempted .. personally i can type with my feet and practice ambidextrousness, in general it also helps your body to work muscles symetrically !
(DIR) Post #AqwvwfAyb8WpUbUiau by williampietri@sfba.social
2025-02-09T17:54:29Z
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@futurebird Yeah, growing up left-handed planted important seeds for me. Scissors, doors, whole classrooms: all built for the dominant group without regard for lefties, and the vast majority were unaware or indifferent. A small burden, really, and I had it better than my dad, who was hit by nuns until he switched. But it made it much easier for me to spot all the systemic oppression later on.
(DIR) Post #AqwwMVJBuKyoPzetoO by monkeyben@mastodon.sdf.org
2025-02-09T17:59:04Z
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@futurebirdI heard of research that suggests some people who stutter maybe do so because they are lefties forced to be righties.
(DIR) Post #Aqwy5y8xe8popl7JQG by Myphatself@mstdn.social
2025-02-09T18:18:32Z
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@futurebird i am 50ish and went to a catholic grade school. In sixth grade, the teacher, who was a sister, tried to force me to use my right hand. I am pretty hard headed and it did not take.
(DIR) Post #Aqwym9HYciUxXgFbNI by amanda@an.errant.cloud
2025-02-09T16:39:20Z
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@gpilz @futurebird @sloanlance on some level just letting an idea sit with someone goes a long way. Deep in their core they believe gender is immutable because that's how they were raised. That's been their reality since they were at least a toddler. And if it fits nicely with their own gender identity it's super comfortable. So add to their perspective and leave them to consider it.
(DIR) Post #Aqwym9t8N0YXQDpbwe by gpilz@mastodon.social
2025-02-09T18:22:09Z
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@amanda @futurebird @sloanlance I'm still surprised at the level of fear that comes through the arguments of many transphobes. The idea that biological sex and psychological gender aren't one and the same seems to terrify them and I can't understand why they won't recognize their fear and try to deal with it (instead of making it other people's problem).
(DIR) Post #AqwymAZfoqaFY9jaFc by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-02-09T18:25:51Z
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@gpilz @amanda @sloanlance A lot of cis people have had pretty traumatic experiences in relation to gender conformity. Bad stuff and not any help processing it. That's not an excuse to be a jerk, but it does motivate me to talk about these things with people and help them to process them. And with a little perspective realizing how horrible it was to be told you "look like a man" or "walk like a girl" ought to make people more compassionate not less... but yeah.
(DIR) Post #AqwzCrkXuteWz8Y8TA by leeloo@techhub.social
2025-02-09T18:29:40Z
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@Lily_and_frog @futurebirdMight be all the way back to the whole eating pigs and shellfish thing. From what I've been told, society back then was very black and white, everything was split into right and wrong. Essentially, if there were two options, one of them had to be wrong.
(DIR) Post #AqwzCstndyeIY7t2X2 by futurebird@sauropods.win
2025-02-09T18:31:00Z
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@leeloo @Lily_and_frog That might be because people tended to write down the extreme stuff. There is a lot of what people knew and thought that didn't get written down. And writing something wishy washy on expensive paper isn't ... as compelling?
(DIR) Post #Aqx05FxE8nNbgwPsO0 by mark@mastodon.fixermark.com
2025-02-09T18:40:48Z
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@futurebird Yes. The only time I think about this is designing interfaces (computer and physical). All other times? Friends, do whatever you want with your own bodies, couldn't matter less to me.... unless we're sword-fighting.... in which case so many things have already gone wrong it doesn't matter anymore.
(DIR) Post #Aqx0B5NcMvzQdKXY8m by irCurts@mastodon.social
2025-02-09T18:41:53Z
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@futurebird Before toilet paper and other hygienic advancements, people cared a lot about right and left-hand practices. I agree, though, we are past those days.
(DIR) Post #Aqx3boXZNxci5VdEFE by Phracker2Art@mstdn.social
2025-02-09T19:20:20Z
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@futurebird I read somewhere the left-handed people have shorter life expectancy than right-handed people. Little stressors like having trouble using an instrument that's made for right-handed people can build up over time.
(DIR) Post #Aqx4YDANz5c5GBdLKS by kimlockhartga@beige.party
2025-02-09T19:30:53Z
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@futurebird there are some parallels to other examples as well. 😉 BTW, left-handers are supposed to be more likely to be geniuses?
(DIR) Post #Aqx4olZhp3UwbpN3Eu by bgrinter@mastodon.sdf.org
2025-02-09T19:33:51Z
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@futurebird @lisamelton a teacher tried to get me to write with my right hand so I did mirror writing - they gave up
(DIR) Post #Aqx5i4YWx90fPAC1yK by T2R@infosec.exchange
2025-02-09T19:43:54Z
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@futurebird I was a lefty until they forced me to use my right hand in early grade school. My penmanship is terrible with both FYI.
(DIR) Post #Aqx9iC3bSnAsUC2YbI by Chakeenah@mastodon.social
2025-02-09T20:28:38Z
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@futurebird My daughter is left handed. I like to sit at booths in restaurants. The battle to figure out how to sit side by side without elbowing each other is real. I did buy her sissors that I cannot use👿
(DIR) Post #AqxC5ckAbq3Hp0Fbto by alexproe@mastodon.uno
2025-02-09T20:55:22Z
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@futurebird Left is not Right but it’s not wrong either 😉😁🙂
(DIR) Post #AqxHa3YbytDTROAulk by goosey@mastodon.sdf.org
2025-02-09T21:56:53Z
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@futurebird When we were in the first grade (1980? 81?) the lefty guy who eventually became my best friend was being forced to be righty by our teacher (who left me so traumatized that I nearly had ulcers!)Fortunately for him, his dad was also a teacher, and came down on her like a ton of bricks!
(DIR) Post #AqxNcz7PXXpCGgEQj2 by ksaj@infosec.exchange
2025-02-09T23:04:39Z
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@futurebird I was a "lucky lefty" in that my schools throughout life always accommodated.Where it got weird is that even though I write with my left hand, I play guitar right handed. I was given a left-hand guitar in grade 7, but shunned it for a right-hander instead. To me it always made sense to have the dominant hand on the fretboard, and let the non-dominant hand do all the simple twiddly bits.#lefthanded #guitar
(DIR) Post #AqxTmFSIlhozGdnt44 by Broadfork@mastodon.green
2025-02-10T00:13:29Z
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@futurebird As a left hander it is very rare to be taught in a physical skill by a teacher who is also a fellow left hander. I take extra time learning the basics of a skill I am shown because I am processing how best to go about it left handed. Often this meant being told I was doing something wrong or I was a slow learner. I think left handed people are automatically more non-conformist. We have no choice but to do some things our own way.
(DIR) Post #AqxToILH0Uf0ncUZF2 by caracabe@zirk.us
2025-02-10T00:13:56Z
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@futurebird I have left-handed people in my family, therefore I care about this issue.
(DIR) Post #AqxWBFJAeXZjxUa2O8 by daedalean@mastodon.social
2025-02-10T00:40:29Z
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@futurebird no, no, no. There are no ‘left handed’ people. You clearly have some sort of mental derangement or just want attention. And you better start using your left hand in public.
(DIR) Post #AqxZJe5mgpY70K12Om by ossobuffo@triangletoot.party
2025-02-10T01:15:35Z
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@futurebird My dad grew up attending a two-room schoolhouse in northwest Illinois, where left-handedness was not allowed. He always wrote with his right hand (with beautiful penmanship) but drew and painted with his left. All his life he had terrible difficulty distinguishing between “left” and “right” directions, though.
(DIR) Post #Aqy28OAgRNoj6yI9sO by jens@social.finkhaeuser.de
2025-02-10T06:38:29Z
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@futurebird I do some things more easily like a left-handed person, and never bothered to "fix" that, despite the attempts being made. It just felt wrong.Other things I naturally use my right hand for.I realize that seems rarer than most people's experience, but the whole "handedness" thing has always felt artificial to me.
(DIR) Post #AqyAXfaLdGjLzbrVNg by maartenpelgrim@mastodon.nl
2025-02-10T08:12:43Z
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@futurebird Proud leftie here!
(DIR) Post #Ar0vtnzK9iLUaPWNEm by qole@techhub.social
2025-02-11T16:12:46Z
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@futurebird As a lefty myself, the first generation to not be harassed for my deviant handedness, I have often used this as a metaphor to help those around me see how our current phobias around gender and orientation are equally ridiculous. So many human traits are naturally distributed on a bell curve. We need to accept everyone, not just the "normal" ones in the middle.
(DIR) Post #Ar11BFgUvyNbB8r0W8 by toxy@mastodon.acc.sunet.se
2025-02-11T17:11:57Z
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@futurebird And the origin of “sinister” too.