Post AnTUExApCjE6GqHIAK by justafrog@mstdn.social
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(DIR) Post #AnSs1kZHrYoCHSprk0 by futurebird@sauropods.win
2024-10-28T12:12:57Z
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My mother has never been able to understand social media. She always asks “who will see my post?” “The people who follow you, so that would be me, Kate, Uncle David and others.”“Why wouldn’t I just send the message to those people then?”“Part of the fun is not knowing who will stumble across your post— people you don’t know may find it funny or meaningful. And you can get to know new people in that way.”“I don’t get it.”1/
(DIR) Post #AnSsISrWwgyUI3L40e by ajsadauskas@social.vivaldi.net
2024-10-28T12:15:55Z
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@futurebird Your mother is very wise 😁
(DIR) Post #AnSsgRer4jNvVLqRCS by futurebird@sauropods.win
2024-10-28T12:20:18Z
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She has a point it’s a little odd to say something to nobody in particular. To speak and hope the words find the right ears. So many of my mom’s communications are as much about WHO she is talking to as what she is saying. She calls me “to hear my voice” which annoyed me when I was younger. It’s something that *I* don’t get. But I’m dutiful about making those calls happen since I understand it’s important to her. How to explain how it would be comforting to see regular posts?
(DIR) Post #AnSsuKmPRe1EE7080m by futurebird@sauropods.win
2024-10-28T12:22:49Z
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I can only hope that I will keep up with technology as I age. I made a promise to my younger self that I would and I intend to keep it. 3/3
(DIR) Post #AnSt4zQz9CdVD53qt6 by ephemeral@mograph.social
2024-10-28T12:24:43Z
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@futurebird I really hear this. Communicating to no-one in particular is soap-box style, which isn't everyone's desire when they communicate. In a way it feels a bit like posting that way is pretending to be famous, giving your words power to influence anonymously.
(DIR) Post #AnStFZGilqD3FDIuxs by nora@blob.love
2024-10-28T12:26:34Z
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@futurebird i started a group chat with my family and it's kind of becoming halfway in between social media and regular texting, which is really neat? like there's no need to participate but we all share pictures of stuff we made and places we went
(DIR) Post #AnStVpoF2ZxVB4jv9s by SKleefeld@mastodon.social
2024-10-28T12:29:34Z
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@futurebird What if you explained it to her like writing an author writing an op ed piece for the newspaper? It's not directed at any one individual, but intended to share the author's thoughts and opinions to a potentially broad audience that they don't necessarily know.
(DIR) Post #AnStrL4I13qCCrV3js by futurebird@sauropods.win
2024-10-28T12:33:28Z
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@RememberUsAlways I doubt this is true. I insist that we stop trivializing social media or acting like is some kind of childish vanity driven vice. This kind of contempt and dismissiveness has allowed too much power over these networks to fall into the wrong hands. Because too many people think it’s not important if someone controls social media. But obviously this is wrong.
(DIR) Post #AnStuKkXemYw5TgumW by unspeaker@mastodon.social
2024-10-28T12:34:00Z
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@futurebird uh... i can certainly imagine it not being as much about being unable to understand, and more about *understanding it and finding it wrong*
(DIR) Post #AnStvPIAFofoSrvhLs by SCampbell@mstdn.social
2024-10-28T12:34:05Z
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@futurebird I wish I could hear my mothers voice again. I thought I was being nice by regularly calling her. It was the opposite - she gave me support by being interested in every boring detail of my life.
(DIR) Post #AnStydUptne7O5Ods0 by rayhindle@mastodon.social
2024-10-28T12:34:47Z
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@futurebird Me too!
(DIR) Post #AnSuBooF9HcKErlB32 by aaron@hilltown.studio
2024-10-28T12:37:09Z
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@futurebird Mood.But there are days that make me want to renounce my field entirely, and entire technologies I'm shying away from.
(DIR) Post #AnSuHsbTxGp1kAgIMK by MikeFromLFE@cupoftea.social
2024-10-28T12:38:13Z
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@futurebird I'm not sure that shouting into the void is all that odd.It may not be something that we did when I was younger (I'm an old bloke) but I like hearing about other peoples' daily round, and I hope I occasionally give something of interest back - particularly to those in other countries or cultures.It's also a (mostly) harmless way of venting when things get too much or we're ground down by life - and very often - almost always - there is someone to offer support or at least a different perspective.On balance - I'm very glad that we've got this safe space.
(DIR) Post #AnSvGt2WwneklGQIam by Scofisticated@socel.net
2024-10-28T12:49:17Z
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@futurebird I sometimes wonder if we lose touch with technology because we either buy into that "I'm old now, and old ppl inherently dont get new tech." Or "I'm old now, and and too tired/ dont want to deal with the new complexity." Or even are scared we'll never catch up or get lost in it. Which can be valid concerns. Plus there is alot to deal with when getting to elder ages. But I also dont think they are absolute truths.
(DIR) Post #AnSvybYTJhRPH6D4ca by jollyorc@social.5f9.de
2024-10-28T12:57:10Z
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@futurebird my Mom doesn't follow my blog (not that it is that great a thing to follow). That is writing that isn't specifically for her, so it is obviously less valuable to her and less meaningful.
(DIR) Post #AnSzDZuc0UfINyOh0q by QueenOfTheCroneAge@beige.party
2024-10-28T13:33:30Z
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@futurebird It gets...exhausting.
(DIR) Post #AnTUExApCjE6GqHIAK by justafrog@mstdn.social
2024-10-28T19:21:06Z
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@futurebird Some of my neighbours are in their 80s and use newfangled things to talk to the grandkids.It's working quite well for them.They're really fond of the way they can see baby pics and vids of the ggkids too, now that those are coming into the world.They lived more than half their lives without any internet or mobile phones, but they're doing just fine with it.Role models.
(DIR) Post #AnTVDkNZO7tYFoEBnc by msbellows@c.im
2024-10-28T19:32:06Z
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@futurebird A couple of thoughts: 1. Even if the only people who saw her posts were family members, it's still easier to share updates in one place for everyone to see them to telephone or email everyone separately. Plus, the comments and responses keep everyone in the loop and build community. 2. As for maybe meeting new people, maybe she'd understand that it's like going with your family to see a museum exhibition or garden or play: it's enough that you and your friends enjoy it, but also you might strike up a conversation with someone else who's appreciating the same thing, and end up making a new friend.