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(DIR) Post #Am7pj9Es37fbnzt4c4 by ErikUden@mastodon.de
2024-09-18T10:46:11Z
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Do you identify as “queer”?(poll not anonymous to instance admins)
(DIR) Post #Am7pxNdrIPj8WuMU0u by ErikUden@mastodon.de
2024-09-18T10:48:45Z
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I am just curious to know and understand my following — the disclaimer is still important: if you don't trust me or the admin of your instance and are worried about this information of you, do not answer this poll. I learned my lesson when I asked people what party they vote for. Sadly, across the Fediverse, this information is not anonymous. However, it would be a ton of effort to look through the database / logs to see who voted how here. I am not interested in that :]
(DIR) Post #Am7qBCnkOhqqxkZyuO by Emily@mastodon.de
2024-09-18T10:51:15Z
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@ErikUden I can vouch for that
(DIR) Post #Am7qHiS5dMZqrZYOEy by ErikUden@mastodon.de
2024-09-18T10:52:26Z
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Additionally, I'd be happy to receive a comment on this to explain your answer further! If you do not think the term “queer” fits, what does fit (or maybe why does “queer” not fit well)? I'm just personally interested. You need to imagine, I just came out last year :bisper: , and although I am very progressive, it's all just facts, understanding, stories and beliefs I've learned or furthered since last year. I wish to understand the people around me more, which is why I ask this. You're all great people and I am happy that the fediverse is the way it is :ablobcatheartsqueeze:
(DIR) Post #Am7qN41Is8Q3CdZga8 by ErikUden@mastodon.de
2024-09-18T10:53:23Z
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@Emily I do not vouch for you. If you're given too much power, you'd rule the fediverse with an iron fist!
(DIR) Post #Am7qSoJ0DA6cCcaqau by Emily@mastodon.de
2024-09-18T10:54:26Z
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@ErikUden I already do
(DIR) Post #Am7qep2nI6o3y5jvGK by _maleficentgirl@troet.cafe
2024-09-18T10:56:35Z
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@ErikUden gay or lesbian would be the word I'd use.I'm female but see "gay" as the universal word for us in samesex-relationships even though it is mostly used to describe Male-Male-relationships. Queer is ... a weird word to me, personally I'd not use it to describe anyone. If someone is bi I just use bi, if someone is lesbian or gay I use that.
(DIR) Post #Am7qzt6VOLmGdnWKMi by nasamuffin@jorts.horse
2024-09-18T11:00:23Z
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@ErikUden yes, I use and like it. It's blanket, so I don't have to fill up a shopping cart with all the labels that apply to my feelings about sex, romance, and gender all at once. I can just drop this term as catchall and not have to carefully define myself
(DIR) Post #Am7rIE1sKYewkh6BVI by Bebef@mastodon.social
2024-09-18T11:03:42Z
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@ErikUden Somehow, I don't feel any of those applies to me. 🤔It's hard to find words, but I'll give it a try. I am what I am (which probably is in the queer spectrum), but I don't feel the need to identify as such. Not because I was afraid or something, I don't just feel the need to identify as ... whatever.Not sure if that makes sense, especially as a response to the poll. 😅
(DIR) Post #Am7rOlxJ6eF9i65Gka by meso@netzsphaere.xyz
2024-09-18T11:04:56.227817Z
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@ErikUden I'm not queer or a sissy, I'm a fucking faggot
(DIR) Post #Am7rPJf3mzqkFLoB1s by getimiskon@fedi.getimiskon.xyz
2024-09-18T10:54:15.044931Z
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@ErikUden i'll be honest, i don't trust the admin of my instance, but it's fiiiine.
(DIR) Post #Am7rZeBSLG2Yn9t5NY by waifu@mai.waifuism.life
2024-09-18T11:06:31.758Z
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@getimiskon@fedi.getimiskon.xyz @ErikUden@mastodon.de I don't trust mine either (it's me)
(DIR) Post #Am7tHKnxqxvXNwIM2y by ErikUden@mastodon.de
2024-09-18T11:25:53Z
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@digitalrodent I so fully understand it whilst not feeling it at all. The term was always used positively and worn with pride for my time. I wonder what words we will have reclaimed or lost in the future...
(DIR) Post #Am7vNTofShwqylgLtw by caravantraveller@social.cologne
2024-09-18T11:49:28Z
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@ErikUden We identify as gay, which is some kind of queer.
(DIR) Post #Am7zphG5TeFyavDYga by Prinz@ohai.social
2024-09-18T12:39:23Z
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@ErikUden I also don't understand this term much, but I've been focusing on understanding my sexuality, because at first I understood myself as demisexual, however, what I see about it ends up going the opposite of what I understand about... But recognizing yourself rediscovers yourself :)
(DIR) Post #Am81ULdsqmfXNdIQK0 by catsalad@infosec.exchange
2024-09-18T12:57:58Z
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@ErikUden We're hereWe're queerConnection reset by peerhttps://hachyderm.io/@lambdasierra/112774542195623165
(DIR) Post #Am81XDjihV6NjHOb8C by ReneDamkot@mastodon.social
2024-09-18T12:58:28Z
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@ErikUden "Hey mate, are you queer? -No, just peculiar"
(DIR) Post #Am84Tsvfu8mWBt5YZM by jstatepost@mstdn.social
2024-09-18T13:31:28Z
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@ErikUden🥥 While Eye, for one, don't identify as queer, Erik, Eye DO identify as the good kind of weird. 🥥
(DIR) Post #Am86WHlMkC8xhNXU36 by kokoschinsky@ifwo.eu
2024-09-18T13:54:19Z
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@ErikUden I chose queer because it has a lot more culture, politics and life than this staid, dick-fixated "gay" that my Generation has settled to.
(DIR) Post #Am8Ch60vMmusAbM2PA by MaYashako@bonn.social
2024-09-18T15:03:25Z
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@ErikUden Hi, ich bin Lesbisch und falle damit nach manchen Definitionen unter "queer". Der Grund warum ich dieses Wort nicht für mich wähle, ist schwer zu erklären. Für mich beschreibt "queer" einen vollkommen unklaren Blob, der sich eigentlich nur dadurch auszeichnet, daß er sich auf Lebensweisen und "Anders sein" bezieht.Nun definiert für mich meine Sexualpräferenz aber weder meine Lebensweise noch mein Sein, und aus dem Alter "aber ich bin anders" bin ich raus. Ich sortiere Menschen anders.
(DIR) Post #Am8G1IcAWijmu96IK0 by bjeelka@ukrainian.network
2024-09-18T15:40:46Z
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@ErikUden Don't know about you guys, but in my vocabulary "queer" is not necessarily something you can "identify" as, but just an umbrella term for everything outside the "traditional norm" - basically I use it instead of all those confusing letters in "LGBTQLOMNOPWHATEVER+" abbreviation, which of course itself contains Q for "queer" and it makes it even more confusing :)
(DIR) Post #Am8GHdyWsNWxmqLxJY by jeffmarkel@mastochist.social
2024-09-18T15:43:43Z
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@ErikUden odd? Quirky? Yes. But not queer☺️
(DIR) Post #Am8Gc4YRlSUq0qtW40 by michaelvcooper1@mastodon.social
2024-09-18T15:47:24Z
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@ErikUden I identify as queer in the traditional sense. Nothing sexual, I'm just crazy and weird.
(DIR) Post #Am8Hekxx9PZS5BfVY0 by ErikUden@mastodon.de
2024-09-18T15:59:07Z
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@michaelvcooper1 Based.
(DIR) Post #Am8KUXhTuvOFuGmkXA by Uwe_M@rheinneckar.social
2024-09-18T16:30:53Z
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@ErikUden Ich bin zu doof (alt?) für das Konzept als solches ... ich verstehe es nicht. 🤷🏻♂️
(DIR) Post #Am8LUTmYaJ6vi0h1ZQ by DanyWho@troet.cafe
2024-09-18T16:42:04Z
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@ErikUden I identify as gay or lesbian. I think queer is term more fitted for people under 30.
(DIR) Post #Am8N3cUOIuLCnpW3xQ by danlyke@researchbuzz.masto.host
2024-09-18T16:59:38Z
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@ErikUden answered "Maybe", because I sometimes think I'm the most vanilla monogamous cis person on the planet, and yet I try to celebrate otherness.and I wear the gayest glasses on the planet, and programmer socks, and...
(DIR) Post #Am8R78lFArVHZrKiDQ by we_are_spc@dragonscave.space
2024-09-18T17:45:05Z
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@ErikUden I'm bisexual/demisexual. :)
(DIR) Post #Am8WBQnSYjW4RYEd0K by crocodisle@woof.tech
2024-09-18T18:41:53Z
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@ErikUden It's been very useful as an umbrella term to refer to my friends and I.It's very affirming in the sense of "we may not know what we have been, what we are now, or what we will be, but we find ourselves making connections in LGBTQ+ spaces understanding that we are not cis/het." I don't always remember how aquaintances identify, or if their understanding of themselves has changed recently, so to save myself the trouble of rattling off LGBTQ+, queer becomes a nice shorthand. Calling someone LGBTQ+ seems more prescriptive while queer seems more descriptive. Like, my impression is that if someone says "you're LGBTQ+" it could be construed as "oh you ARE this thing, in that it's your being wholly and fully" (which may not be true for people who don't feel represented by any part of the LGBTQ+ moniker, feel the acronym is bad practice, etc) vs queer which is like "this thing is part of what makes you who you are, and we don't really have to know what that for you to still find acceptance here."
(DIR) Post #Am8XulBdhEY2fQitV2 by vkfarfalle@zirk.us
2024-09-18T19:01:15Z
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@ErikUden I don't even know how to answer. I'm cis, I'm hetero, so a lot of kids these days say I'm not a part of "the community" and my feelings don't count.But all my life I've been mistaken for "some kinda queer" and I've paid for it, and all my life "the LGBT community" has been where the bullies put me and where my friends found me.Kids say they're "reclaiming" the slur, but it still tastes like blood to me. And I don't like how those kids treat other people who don't like the taste.
(DIR) Post #Am8fjeWgv1IQSSmhbU by textualdeviance@retro.pizza
2024-09-18T20:28:54Z
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@ErikUden Queer is a good umbrella term for the community as a whole, to avoid the alphabet soup. It's also the best thing to describe a lot of us, because it doesn't get into nor imply specifics, and doesn't require a lengthy explanation.I could say, "I'm enby and attracted to multiple genders and physical configurations, but I neither identify with nor am I attracted to stereotypical gender presentations or heterosexuality." Or I could say, "I'm queer." Easy peasy.