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(DIR) Post #AlWeVlnzZk4x1DDSV6 by futurebird@sauropods.win
2024-08-31T12:16:09Z
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If you have a name that is less common in your area or maybe you had to correct the person so they could get it right, how do you feel when someone learning your name says "That's a beautiful name." ?
(DIR) Post #AlWesD4Ot2iBwuahhA by epicdemiologist@wandering.shop
2024-08-31T12:20:10Z
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@futurebird I have a slightly unusual (old-fashioned) name that is not perceived as "ethnic". Gets mispronounced a lot. I might have heard "that's a pretty name" a few times, but in a low-key way.
(DIR) Post #AlWf210sZJ9rS3cTcO by EMR@mastodon.sdf.org
2024-08-31T12:21:53Z
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@futurebird most common reaction: tries to spell it unsuccessfully.
(DIR) Post #AlWfGqkN1KbHxGyHc8 by Soniop@eldritch.cafe
2024-08-31T12:24:38Z
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@futurebird i don't think i've heard a random person manage to pronounce my name correctly first try, much less spell it :') i think they get frustrated with it so i never got complimented on it randomly
(DIR) Post #AlWfuB7jC5twRieMV6 by robotistry@sciencemastodon.com
2024-08-31T12:31:44Z
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@futurebird I like my name, and I especially like that it's unusual, but I don't think it's particularly pretty or nice to say or hear or see.It's scandinavian, with a hard "g" in the middle, so it's not mellifluous or melodic and it doesn't roll off the tongue smoothly. It doesn't evoke dance, or colorful design, or softness, or music.It feels strong to me, but not beautiful.When someone calls it beautiful, it makes me uncomfortable, and it makes me wonder about them.
(DIR) Post #AlWfvlQZhbCtKYDnU0 by carrideen@c18.masto.host
2024-08-31T12:31:54Z
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@futurebird I keep thinking of when I went to Iceland and on the bus from the airport, a guide introduced herself in English as Elva and offered to give directions. She asked if there were any questions, and an American woman raised her hand to say "I don't care what anyone says; I just think Elva is a LOVELY name."
(DIR) Post #AlWgADrUmV81ZVhwq8 by WearsHats@realsocial.life
2024-08-31T12:34:38Z
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@futurebird I'm annoyed about having a hyphenated first name. It causes all sorts of trouble with online forms and stuff. Plus I have built-up resentment over how much Mom loves French language and culture (and therefore tried to force it upon me).I've had strangers remark on how cool they think the name is. They mean well, but they're praising me for something I find annoying. But I'm white and so are most of the French, so it's never made me feel othered. Besides, I LIKE being an oddball.
(DIR) Post #AlWgmjl0dwqdUv2UGe by electric_gumball@mastodon.social
2024-08-31T12:41:35Z
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@futurebird Not pronounce, but to spellI shortened it, but I still curse my parents every time I have to deliver an alphabet & a half any time anyone requires my legal name!
(DIR) Post #AlWgvcDk28dCjIiCPY by JonnyT@mastodon.me.uk
2024-08-31T12:43:10Z
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@futurebird Slightly weirdly I have had someone tell me how much they like my perfectly bog-standard first name that I share with millions but never my extremely atypical (there's probably fewer than ca. 2,000 of us globally) surname.
(DIR) Post #AlWiqEE21ITulnPGr2 by UncivilServant@med-mastodon.com
2024-08-31T13:03:55Z
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@futurebird More bemused than offended, but imagine if a bunch of people appropriated your culture's history and your ancestor's names, and then mangled all of them to fit their language, sometimes in mystifying ways.And fortunately they kept the correct pronunciation of your name...but only the feminine form (נח Noach vs נא Noa).
(DIR) Post #AlWj9s7lttBk15qTCK by thunderfree@mstdn.social
2024-08-31T13:06:50Z
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@WearsHats @futurebird I know someone with a single-letter first name because their parents wanted to give them a family initial, but wanted them to go by a different, middle name. Forms and databases hate it
(DIR) Post #AlWj9sv2wgbUTutp0C by futurebird@sauropods.win
2024-08-31T13:08:11Z
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@thunderfree @WearsHats I had a friend in college whose name is A B. We called them "ay-bee"First name A, last name B.
(DIR) Post #AlWjMoJXNV8NxpWBsm by WearsHats@realsocial.life
2024-08-31T13:10:18Z
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@futurebird @thunderfree
(DIR) Post #AlWk7IYlG3kJ5co2jY by lan@lor.sh
2024-08-31T13:18:54Z
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@futurebird I have multiple birth names, but I only use them with family members. Depending on the language they speak, they use one or the other or, more commonly, a nickname (i.e. Auntie Lan). I never use my full name except on certain forms.For business, I mostly used my "student name". It is very international and easy to pronounce. If someone compliments that name, I appreciate it. I also have several nicknames given by friends and colleagues that I love and enjoy receiving compliments for.As for my birth names, it feels a little awkward. Compliments are usually a precursor to asking about my origins. I've also had people refuse to use my "student name", and instead insisting on using my full name, because it is such a "beautiful" name... in the wrong order and pronunciation.That being said, I once met a nurse with an equally long name. She noticed my name, and asked if she could address me by my first given name. She pronounced it perfectly and told me it had a beautiful meaning in one of her native languages. It turns out we shared a native language!
(DIR) Post #AlWmctHGzWprqzonJY by alec@perkins.pub
2024-08-31T13:46:51Z
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@futurebird I often do have to correct people, typically they hear “Alan” or “Alex” first. But my male self has never been told it’s a beautiful name. I wonder why. (I actually do sometimes go with Alex to make it easier.)
(DIR) Post #AlWn5EybuOTpGCbiIS by sanae@carfree.city
2024-08-31T13:52:06Z
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@futurebird I feel like it's a thing people say exclusively after they mispronounce it or otherwise mess it up, which makes it feel insincere. Or maybe like there was a different adjective they have in mindAs a side note I don't really care if people mispronounce it especially if we just met. Or misspell it. Most people do. The pronunciation I give people anyway, and the one I'm now most used to, is an anglicized version
(DIR) Post #AlWnWhYbkqZbiiXUhc by australopithecus@mastodon.social
2024-08-31T13:57:08Z
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@futurebird Other: it's nice but I'm also sick of it but I know they mean well and that's nice but I also just wanna finish this social interaction and go home, man. 🥲👍
(DIR) Post #AlWvLqAADYR4rHRC76 by brainwane@social.coop
2024-08-31T15:24:40Z
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@futurebird When I was doing customer service for Salon.com and someone said this to me (often with "what does it mean?"), I often replied by paying the same amount of attention to their name. Jennifer? James? What does it mean? So beautiful! I think most of them carried on oblivious.Also you reminded me of 2 interactions from that time, including the customer who had deleted my earlier email to him because my name had, to him, looked like a spammer's name:https://harihareswara.net/posts/2003/two-stories-of-customer-service/
(DIR) Post #AlWvcHIZ61czeQCnBI by unspeaker@mastodon.social
2024-08-31T15:27:47Z
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@futurebird most common reaction to my slavename in my area:- [annoying and offensive pun]2nd most common reaction:- ohh, like X! [where X = the only famous person with my name who they have heard of of, which is usually the one with the weirdest last name of like 2 or 3 people none of which I know or care about]#NomenEstOmen
(DIR) Post #AlWym6FVKe9K8l9HVI by not_gagarin@mastodon.world
2024-08-31T16:03:10Z
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@futurebirdMy first name is Yuri, a Russian name, while I've not got any Russian connections. Nobody has ever complimented me on my name, though they have made jokes about the Japanese meaning of the word.Sometimes I wish my parents had gone with their first choice of Christopher. Honestly always felt like an oddball outsider for other reasons, so my name has never been a real issue for me.
(DIR) Post #AlX12xNxjuuXTvGqdE by futurebird@sauropods.win
2024-08-31T16:28:27Z
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@samfromtheus @WearsHats That's really rude.
(DIR) Post #AlX3CbOUYejM53FGqG by yomimono@wandering.shop
2024-08-31T16:52:45Z
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@futurebird my given name is one letter off from a lot of more common names in my area, and was the name of a character in a popular sitcom when I was growing up. Whenever someone starts to comment on my name, I brace for a cool and topical reference to the sitcom and I’m on guard in the conversation for at least the next minute.this is obviously different from the gross microaggressions most people are probably responding about! but it does mean “let’s not talk about my name”
(DIR) Post #AlXCJjGUajIY6eycro by IngaLovinde@embracing.space
2024-08-31T18:34:53Z
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@futurebird "thanks, I picked it myself" /jk
(DIR) Post #AlXJGbff4KQFMeCvvk by stevegis_ssg@mas.to
2024-08-31T19:52:37Z
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@futurebird I have at MOST had a couple of people say that my name is "impressive." No one has ever called it "beautiful."
(DIR) Post #AlXJodj9vgwfaW4WK8 by sollat@masto.ai
2024-08-31T19:58:55Z
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@futurebird When I tell people my name, some will compliment it. I always find myself bemused. I feel like it’s certainly different but I don’t think of it as being beautiful. The spelling does not elicit the same response from strangers. :blobcatlaugh:
(DIR) Post #AlXKHm1MAoaxhwTYQK by faassen@fosstodon.org
2024-08-31T20:04:14Z
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@futurebirdI once got "how do you pronounce that? Okay I will call you Bob" and I was Bob for the rest of that US visit.English language speakers don't recognize "ij" as a vowel, and can't handle "jn" in 'tijn'. So I get "Martjin" fairly often, including on a hotel sign on my wedding day in Singapore.A famous Dutch computer scientist is called Dijkstra, and for a while I wondered whether his shortest path algorithm was really by "Djikstra" as people kept using that name.
(DIR) Post #AlXP2OK2VAsRdPhOV6 by seawall@mastodon.nz
2024-08-31T20:57:25Z
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@futurebird I'm still fascinated by the few times I've been asked to spell my first name. In America. By a fellow American.Maybe I mumbled? Buuuut, I've literally never lived anywhere it wasn't at least familiar. Heck, I grew up in small town New York surrounded by Roman Catholics. 😂
(DIR) Post #AlXVXlD03m9lJlkP9E by jrconlin@soc.jrconlin.com
2024-08-31T22:10:11Z
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@futurebird I've had to correct them, but then they look at me with more an expression of "Really? Ok, whatever."
(DIR) Post #AlXjBUDLxjOlbABa08 by pdkoenig@mstdn.social
2024-09-01T00:43:12Z
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@futurebird The most memorable part of my HS graduation was my classmates correcting the mispronunciation of my last name when called (all in a very bored voice). When I worked as a sub, I made clear they could either try and pronounce it correctly or call me Mr. K and also apologized in advance for any mispronunciations during attendance and asked for corrections. (Most often use of teacher voice was when a middle school kid tried to get me to mispronounce another kids name.)
(DIR) Post #AlXtVUWpVG8huETQK8 by mcc@mastodon.social
2024-09-01T02:38:52Z
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@futurebird Saw this this morning and couldn't decide whether you'd actually want to hear my answer. But.I have a slightly different take on this than I think you were looking for, because the only issues with my name particularly are trans ones…! If I have to correct someone on my name it's usually because they turned "Andi" into "Andy" and I had to set them straight.
(DIR) Post #AlXtfrfwIYUAaggHIG by futurebird@sauropods.win
2024-09-01T02:40:30Z
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@mcc Of course I want to know about how this works with trans people. I need to learn about 90 new names every fall and I try to do a better job every year.
(DIR) Post #AlXty4n4HA1ITjhPeK by GeePawHill@mastodon.social
2024-09-01T02:43:40Z
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@futurebird I work (remote) in South Africa. In the last two years I have met two women named "Princess", two more named "Precious", a male named "WonderBoy", and, my personal favorite, a male named "Gift".I love that Gift's parents loved him so much to name him that.
(DIR) Post #AlXu12xjWpsfg66Woq by mcc@mastodon.social
2024-09-01T02:44:33Z
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@futurebird Well the #1 thing I ask of you as a teacher is that if you ever somehow get a McClure in class, you don't write down their name as "McCoure"(… and I imagine somewhere, there's a McCoure with the opposite problem)
(DIR) Post #AlY1KHEfNvxD7u8pTE by Sharksonaplane@mastodon.sandwich.net
2024-09-01T04:06:27Z
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@futurebird oh I fucking HATE IT when people say that. And I'm expected to grin through it and choke out a "thank you." for it. It's infuriating and in my case (my offline name is not English) absolutely a microaggression. If I had to correct them, I would like them to simply say "thank you/sorry" for me taking the time. If I didn't have to correct them, most of the time I would rather they just say nothing. I love my name, I kept it for a reason and it IS beautiful, but that's never the point—