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 (DIR) Post #AimEf62Nd0Gx6bhe5o by MecchaMaccha@spinster.xyz
       2024-06-09T21:57:25.172864Z
       
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       One topic that isn't often discussed is the suffering of caregivers and the inequality between men and women. Although I don't regret becoming my mom's unpaid caregiver, I sometimes feel bitter when I think about the sacrifices I've had to make compared to my brother – I had to give up my studies, stop working outside, lose my social life, most of my hobbies, etc.I want to raise awareness about this issue, which affects more women than people realize worldwide. https://www.caregiver.org/resource/women-and-caregiving-facts-and-figures/https://scholars.direct/Articles/neurodegenerative-disorders/jnd-1-004.phphttps://associationjetaide.org/2023/03/06/comprendre-limpact-des-inegalites-de-genre-sur-laidance/
       
 (DIR) Post #AimEhxnIjTyWPO17Im by stephagain@spinster.xyz
       2024-06-10T05:53:24.266304Z
       
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       @MecchaMaccha that really is a feminist subject, but I feel media feminists forget about that kind of things
       
 (DIR) Post #AimRdDdNi9q3UXResK by eloise@spinster.xyz
       2024-06-10T09:00:24.305090Z
       
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       @MecchaMaccha Thank you for bringing up a topic that is rarely talked about. In my country, too, it is often women who take care of relatives. It is very hard work, both physically and psychologically.
       
 (DIR) Post #AimRgcCOpud0XxRac4 by Lady_Penelope@spinster.xyz
       2024-06-10T08:53:12.129261Z
       
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       @MecchaMaccha I'd describe myself as a generalist, in that I've done and believe myself capable of doing most things given the right instruction. We used to call this a Jack of All Trades, Master of None, but I think that underplays it a little. I'm only mentioning this because over the years I've tried my hand at so much but honestly feel that caring has been one of the most personally rewarding endeavours I've ever undertaken. Certainly there's been nothing quite like it in my life for teaching me self discipline as well as making me face a whole other range personal qualities and weakenesses that I didn't even know I had. But it is not valued, neither monetary or by society at large. People assume you're doing it because you have no other choice (sometimes that is the case, I get that) or you've pulled the short straw and you're desperate to get back to your "real life".  And because it's often a job taken on by or left to women, we've gone a whole other level in demeaning it and those that do it..people are being raised to think that caring is the grunt work, the miserable work and that its somehow unfeminist to even value such work or such a position. My own mum won't tolerate the idea that I will take care of her when the time comes. She's been totally brainwashed into thinking she's doing everyone a favour by being determined to go into a care home and not burden family, perhaps without realising that handing her care over to underpaid, undervalued and sadly, often unsuitable staff will be a far bigger burden to me.
       
 (DIR) Post #AimScTQbbWKA8kg5Fw by Fairylight@spinster.xyz
       2024-06-10T09:38:34.952917Z
       
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       @MecchaMaccha I think I understand what you going through 40 days ago my beloved grandma passed away after 2 years in coma condition But we are together with my momIt harder to be alone of course And it's a lot of mental pressure