Post AZZDldAzdZ1IPfTCsq by oxonian1096@noagendasocial.com
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(DIR) Post #AZZ90vg4dGykMnU1XU by CrimeaRiver@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-08T18:42:12Z
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Just found out a good friend of mine and his wife haven't had sex in 5 years. I was stunned. Turns out, she caught him looking at porn and used that as an excuse to "not trust him" and therefore not have sex with him. He swears he hasn't cheated on her, but I'm like, dude--I was born at night but it wasn't last night. He's a pretty honest dude though, so I'm guessing it's true that he isn't cheating. But how messed up is that? He and his wife get along pretty well from what I can see.
(DIR) Post #AZZAOjQPwFVRGp4djk by HiroProtagonist@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-08T18:57:43Z
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@CrimeaRiver It is messed up
(DIR) Post #AZZARJi00YdgNgWwM4 by chonky@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-08T18:58:11Z
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@CrimeaRiver wow, just wow. Very sad.
(DIR) Post #AZZBCvNrkYYqq5oXoW by CapitalB@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-08T19:06:47Z
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@CrimeaRiver weird huhMore common than you expect. Esp. after 30-40.
(DIR) Post #AZZDldAzdZ1IPfTCsq by oxonian1096@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-08T19:35:28Z
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@CrimeaRiver The wife doesn't love him or doesn't find him attractive. All men have looked at porn at some point. I gave it up years ago but it did happen. Women should give the guys a break for past sins as long as they are not actively using it.
(DIR) Post #AZZF9LNpXgm48KLUf2 by BlueDouche@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-08T19:50:58Z
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@HiroProtagonist @CrimeaRiver @chonky @CapitalB That marriage is already OVER.If they don't fix that and if she doesn't get a clue about the fact that she's not doing anything but ENDING IT ALL, then they're only together right now to pretend for the kids.Just sayin.Sex as a weapon = MARRIAGE OVER.
(DIR) Post #AZZFCT5nKvcQuZOpU0 by BlueDouche@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-08T19:51:31Z
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@HiroProtagonist @CrimeaRiver @chonky @CapitalB @oxonian1096 That marriage is already OVER.If they don't fix that and if she doesn't get a clue about the fact that she's not doing anything but ENDING IT ALL, then they're only together right now to pretend for the kids.Just sayin.Sex as a weapon = MARRIAGE OVER.
(DIR) Post #AZZFMIDecMlM5IlCme by neanderthalsnavel@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-08T19:53:18Z
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@BlueDouche @HiroProtagonist @CrimeaRiver @chonky @CapitalB @oxonian1096 cue it! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DD_d5mkZ52M
(DIR) Post #AZZFzHTrIWrd5Tvm6a by CrimeaRiver@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-08T20:00:21Z
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@BlueDouche @HiroProtagonist @chonky @CapitalB @oxonian1096 They *appear* to be good together. I guess she is using refusal of sex to get back him, but he's just resigned himself to never having sex again since a divorce would break him emotionally (his kids would split on which parent to go with) and financially. They signed a prenuptial, but that was nearly 20 years ago.
(DIR) Post #AZZGVSwCEhvRt5X4ka by chonky@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-08T20:06:10Z
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@CrimeaRiver @BlueDouche @HiroProtagonist @CapitalB @oxonian1096 There might be other solutions, but would take some courage and work. It sounds like he's given up on his own happiness, and whatever is going on, she may like the arrangement. Very rough.
(DIR) Post #AZZGXFhqOxOpQifgI4 by BlueDouche@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-08T20:06:29Z
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@CrimeaRiver @HiroProtagonist @chonky @CapitalB @oxonian1096 Then it IS what I said it was, just pretending for the kids...What they DON'T understand is that it's going to be just as messy, and perhaps even harder for some to accept what happens after they leave the household, because they'll feel like Mom & Dad lied to each other for years, so they must be lying to them, the kids...Just saying the things I've seen.Only delaying the inevitable.
(DIR) Post #AZZGgCLMH0BTbhQ3nM by CrimeaRiver@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-08T20:08:06Z
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@BlueDouche @HiroProtagonist @chonky @CapitalB @oxonian1096 Oh man, he's fucked. I should get the couch in my basement cleaned up.
(DIR) Post #AZZGgZyUPg9Stiu8Tw by BlueDouche@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-08T20:08:11Z
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@CrimeaRiver @HiroProtagonist @chonky @CapitalB @oxonian1096 My Suggestion is that no matter how epic the fallout is; be honest with your children, especially from age 8-10 forward, and don't hide huge future land-mines from them... because it will come back to bite you in the ass.Just saying.My own parents literally loved and hated each other, and for us as kids, it probably would have been best if they'd have split.
(DIR) Post #AZZH6D8LxRCJaSjwxs by chonky@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-08T20:12:48Z
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@CrimeaRiver @BlueDouche @HiroProtagonist @CapitalB @oxonian1096 Even if he has given up on his happiness, I doubt she has. Maybe if he saw that some how, and the lack of fairness, he would have the energy to change things.
(DIR) Post #AZZHBA7wZ0Hfi5uSRs by CrimeaRiver@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-08T20:13:42Z
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@chonky @BlueDouche @HiroProtagonist @CapitalB @oxonian1096 So you're saying he should cheat on his wife?
(DIR) Post #AZZHlHakHuhJHnbZh2 by chonky@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-08T20:20:14Z
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@CrimeaRiver @BlueDouche @HiroProtagonist @CapitalB @oxonian1096 I'm not sure it would be cheating at this point, if she is already out and about...but I was more saying she might be just fine and even like the way things are. If he could see the how uneven their positions were, it might change his perspective. They both deserve happiness.
(DIR) Post #AZZHxO1GDRXmhDmL9E by CrimeaRiver@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-08T20:22:25Z
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@chonky @BlueDouche @HiroProtagonist @CapitalB @oxonian1096 I don't know, I kinda got the feeling he was resigned to paying the price of no sex for watching porn, while she never wanted sex with him to begin with. I don't think she's cheating on him -- she's no prize, but I suppose it isn't out of the realm of possibility.
(DIR) Post #AZZINvz2YnnBYzOoD2 by Viking@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-08T20:27:13Z
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@BlueDouche @CrimeaRiver @HiroProtagonist @chonky @CapitalB @oxonian1096 My guess is that the wife has had an affair for many years, and would consider having sex with the husband like cheating on her true love.The porn penalty is just a way of justifying her actions.
(DIR) Post #AZZIhFWm7V0tgFO9Tc by CrimeaRiver@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-08T20:30:42Z
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@Viking @BlueDouche @HiroProtagonist @chonky @CapitalB @oxonian1096 Interesting theory. Not sure she's cheating on him.
(DIR) Post #AZZJ97YzKBWz5ViJpg by BlueDouche@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-08T20:35:44Z
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@CrimeaRiver @Viking @HiroProtagonist @chonky @CapitalB @oxonian1096 I'd say she's probably not cheating.He just should have figured-out that her mom is a conniving bitch before marrying her.
(DIR) Post #AZZJUf5Psjhj8g9ZDs by BlueDouche@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-08T20:39:38Z
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@chonky @CrimeaRiver @HiroProtagonist @CapitalB @oxonian1096 "fairness"?NEVER use Sex as a weapon.Ask a Marital Therapist.
(DIR) Post #AZZJYXHmpGCe6XmppA by BlueDouche@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-08T20:40:20Z
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@CrimeaRiver @chonky @HiroProtagonist @CapitalB @oxonian1096 I'm not saying that. I am saying he should confront her about it, with a Marital Therapist, and either resolve it, or divorce her ASAP.
(DIR) Post #AZZJm0DOZxphaj9cPI by Viking@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-08T20:42:46Z
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@CrimeaRiver @BlueDouche @HiroProtagonist @chonky @CapitalB @oxonian1096 You have listened to it from ground zero, I am one level removed.My reasons for the suspicion is the fundamental difference between men and women, the majority of women are incapable of loving multiple men, unlikely men that can have feelings for multiple women.
(DIR) Post #AZZJs9upQRxVPlPBVA by BlueDouche@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-08T20:43:53Z
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@Viking @CrimeaRiver @HiroProtagonist @chonky @CapitalB @oxonian1096 You're only pointing-out that when women allow another man into their trust above their Spouse, they're ALREADY Cheating, even if no sex is involved.
(DIR) Post #AZZLIdo70mGtbaSHgG by progo@boop.city
2023-09-08T20:59:51Z
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@BlueDouche @HiroProtagonist @CrimeaRiver @chonky @CapitalB @oxonian1096 when contempt sets in (and it has, here), that's what really ends a relationship.If you feel a little contempt, get help right away. Therapists can help.
(DIR) Post #AZZMCJvE8D549IKi1o by CapitalB@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-08T21:09:56Z
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@BlueDouche @HiroProtagonist @CrimeaRiver @chonky @oxonian1096 Some just dont need to fuck around. But sex as a weapon is a declaration of war with no exit and annihilation.
(DIR) Post #AZZXGLA4Z2JueBOdjE by cake@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-08T23:13:55Z
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@CrimeaRiver unless she is pretty damn old, total lack of desire means something weird is happening. Trauma, medical issues, something is off with her. Seems like she was looking for an excuse to get out of banging. She needs help. Btw withholding sex isn’t a good way to get your man off porn, I would think that’s obvious.
(DIR) Post #AZZhXV8BkXOm22KwK0 by CrimeaRiver@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-09T01:09:04Z
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@cake they're in their early 50s -- he's 53, she's 50. I guess the concensus is that he's divorce court bound.
(DIR) Post #AZZn1rZ5PBLy4FDNwG by amerika@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-09T02:10:35Z
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@CrimeaRiver I think most people actually dislike having sex after a few years of casual sex, so as soon as they get married, they stop because they finally feel safe without whoring themselves in order to be popular.
(DIR) Post #AZZoHNKjflW0tTSmoK by Twisted666@dobbs.town
2023-09-09T02:24:35Z
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@CrimeaRiver The wonders of masturbation, my friend...there's the answer, DIY-practice..
(DIR) Post #AZZoNKAuKRuIpqheDo by 33magicnumber@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-09T02:25:40Z
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@CrimeaRiver Some women just have no sex drive and thus to desire. I've known couples like this she has sex because he wants its but it mechanical a best. She likely just sees it as something she didn't want to do anyways and now doesn't have to but doesn't she the harm it does to there relationship. I'm guessing there wasn't that much sex before the porn.
(DIR) Post #AZZoUw0y2YPUDhgNG4 by 33magicnumber@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-09T02:27:02Z
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@CrimeaRiver @cake I wouldn't go that far but they clearly have issues likely going back to before this porn thing happened they need to address.
(DIR) Post #AZaUqMACkR2dPWqmgK by chonky@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-09T04:03:38Z
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@progo @BlueDouche @HiroProtagonist @CrimeaRiver @CapitalB @oxonian1096Been thinking about this, and something didn't click until now.I'm guessing now, that over the last 5 years, he's not been trying very hard to get laid. Or else it would have been very likely to have happened. Which means they both don't very much like sex with each other enough to make an effort, for whatever reason. Not a happy state of things, but there they are, stuck.
(DIR) Post #AZaUqO9DN5RDZ2P1Ps by CrimeaRiver@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-09T10:21:30Z
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@chonky @progo @BlueDouche @HiroProtagonist @CapitalB @oxonian1096 The way I understand it, he has tried, but she isn't into it, and he's just given up. He has all the other needs met: he's financially stable, he eats well (she's a good cook -- I can vouch for that), and his kids seem like they're top notch people. But they just don't have sex. I'm so depressed thinking about it. I think I'd blow my brains out if I had that situation.
(DIR) Post #AZaZb26hXDxAdLixjU by El_Jefe@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-09T03:29:10Z
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@CrimeaRiver She should join him in a viewing. Make it a date night. Bring the popcorn and wine. There’s something for all tastes. No?😎
(DIR) Post #AZau3BKCTYGilPSHC4 by chonky@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-09T15:03:58Z
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@CrimeaRiver @progo @BlueDouche @HiroProtagonist @CapitalB @oxonian1096 Yeah, not good. And as far as his sexual needs, I've been thinking about this too (seems I'm obsessed about this. It's a timeless story).I'm now thinking that morally he can (if he wants) cheat, even if she has not. If he IS not getting such a primary need met, and a main purpose of marriage, and being disregarded so flippantly, he could do it and not feel bad at all. Strategically, I wouldn't tell her though ;)
(DIR) Post #AZbrGhO8TDYXGc0eqe by CrimeaRiver@noagendasocial.com
2023-09-10T02:07:30Z
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@chonky @progo @BlueDouche @HiroProtagonist @CapitalB @oxonian1096 I don't know, he doesn't seem like the kind of guy who would cheat. He seems like he loves his wife but she clearly doesn't respect him enough to be honest with him about why he's not getting his needs met.