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 (DIR) Post #AZ1tErsTwColIkyJc0 by michelemccarthy@c.im
       2023-08-23T16:58:47Z
       
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       Dr. Nicole LePera@Theholisticpsyc: As a couples therapist, I noticed 7 patterns within couples who "made it." 1. They were friends:They genuinely enjoyed spending time with each other. They were excited to come home to each other and catch up after a long day. They liked doing little things together. Friendship was the basis of their relationship.2. They had been through really dark times:They had all been through really difficult periods where they were at a crossroads and even had second thoughts. But, they choose to stay together and work through it. This established trust.3. They made light of each others quirksThey appreciated and acknowledged the quirks in each other. Even if they were at times annoying, they made light of them and were never hyper critical.4. They let each other be themselvesThere was a base level of respect and admiration for each other rather than a desire to change each other. This freedom brought out the best parts of each of them.5. They foughtThey got on each others nerves, they fought, and were frustrated with each other at times. But they knew how to navigate conflict, bounce back, and move forward.6. They had difficult conversationsThey communicated regularly and were open to each other's perspectives. They didn't cope by avoiding or denying. Emotional regulation was present so conversations rarely became explosions.7. They had boundaries with familyThey put the relationship first and had clear boundaries with family. They didn't vent to them about issues or make decisions based on what their families wanted. They did what was best for their partnership, together.
       
 (DIR) Post #AZ1tEwgy2RZuEUcgrI by Aviva_Gary@noc.social
       2023-08-23T17:39:56Z
       
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       @michelemccarthy good to know